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Well, despite everyone saying ALL women want a ready made man,  I (at my age) would rather prefer a MAN who I can grow with, I know I'm not financially stable either, so I wouldn't demand too much (unless I'm looking into marrying a man much older than myself).

A guy is ready to marry when he's become a MAN (a lot of boys get married and so we get divorce (not saying girls don't have a part either))

A good man is honest, trustworthy, hard working, loyal (and many more, ) and what people must realise is that a man does not slip into the idea of marriage, it is usually a conscious decision, something happens,  an event such as seeing a friend of theirs getting married, or all their peers happy with kids, or pressure from family maybe a family discussion about him getting older, maybe he had a near death experience and then decided to stop living the bachelor life that he may never get to achieve his goal of settling down if he keeps messing around.

The most common reasons though is seeing friends getting married, siblings or parents putting pressure on you, with the latter being the scariest situation as you should watch out, the MAN may not be ready.

Also, once a man has reached or is reaching his career goals, holes in other areas of life begin to appear, it's like a check list, 

Money +
Car +
Apartment +
Wife  +
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Happiness in future
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Those are just my ideas though

Hmmmm. I really can't say anything else to this post. I try to be as nice as possible is that a feasible reply?

Women,

I think you don't need to understand everything about us exactly, I love the mystery in men.

I think you just have to learn how to deal with us, understand that you cannot handle us like your buddies or mothers, understand that you have to treat us the way you would like to be treated. Now don't take that too literally and think , 'I don't ask you women to hold my bags for hours when I go shopping.' think of it not so literally, so basically you would know to help out with carrying things by just applying the simple rule of 'if I look like I need help, I would like you to help me' another example is when we argue, and a lot of men think women always have to have the last word. This is a myth, both my grandmother and mother both handle their husbands by keeping quiet. A lot of men are confused by us because they listen to the myths and read the magazines instead of listening to and reading us.
Mind you a lot of it is common sense, if you turned to us and asked us 'do I need to lose weight/go to the gym/do I have a beer gut.' would you really feel good about yourself if 'your woman' is the first to jump up and shout a yes, 'and I'll sign you up for a gym first thing tomorrow', that wouldn't really help boost the esteem would it, but something like 'maybe we can both go to the gym together' or 'no more than I need to lose my bingo wings' might be a better response
With the 'do I look fat in this' first of all, that is a stupid question, if you think your woman is fat but love her anyway then I'm actually confused on how to respond to this one, as usually love is blind and blinds . To you sh's perfect just the way she is, but if she's put on some weight since you started your relationship and you're thinking this is a great chance to get her on that treadmill, still think about your words, though she may have asked the question, when you answer yes or maybe, it sounds like you've just told her out of the blue 'you look fat in that' ,

Aaaah I'm tired with the tips that nobody asked me to post

In some cases it's really hard to tell when you're not wanted BUT in this case even if he genuinely cared for her, she didn't mean much to him, he treated her appaulingly and she just had too much forgiveness in her heart. You should never let too much love overpower your logic I believe, though I have been on the receiving end I always believe that use your brain, walk away if he/she is hurting you in the process.

Nah, I can't respect anyone who doesn't have the guts to tell me straight that they don't wanna be with me anymore. You see if everytime a guy distanced themselves from a girl and the girl leaves him then there would be more breakups. You need to talk about what is going on, it's not fair on the other person, you guys are speaking from the point of view of the person who is walking away, how about if your boyfriend or girlfriend just stopped answering your calls, first of all you may think they're hurt or dead or missing, then you get the hint, and when something like that has been handled so badly, you probably wouldn't want to give them the time of day. That happened to my friend and the guy is begging to get her back, cos he thought he could come back and collect what he needed if he wanted to, and by that time she had closed what they had and packed it off to alaska.

LOL just because you choose to wait until marriage to have sex, doesn't mean you are ignorant. If the guy being circumcized or not bothered me that much I wouldn't just hope he was/wasn't, I'd ask, because you're not engaging in sex doesn't mean you must stay away from all things sexual. I personally will choose to ask questions and explore my 'future husband' in other ways so that I know what I'm in for, I'll ask how many partners beforehand, and you can always tell if someone's going to be terrible in bed, there are very few people who are terrible in bed, and in most cases it can be corrected with just time and practice. It's not as black and white as people are making it out to seem.

Thank you, thank you, thank you. I would be less frustrated if he wasn't ignoring me right now.