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op, live your life to the fullest now that he has not paid anything on your head, but be a bit secretive with your relationships for him not to know as I doubt if he'll marry you. Start looking at other possibilities if he finally leaves which I think he has.

Emotional beings (ladies ) are supposed to go on their knees when the proposal is done because they are the most favoured, and MARRIAGE seem to be the most important thing in their cycle of egoistic manipulative tendencies, while the man's freedom is hampered and only does her manipulative biddings at times to the detriment of his own extended family.

That money could have been used to pay gratuity of workers in the state which he claims there's no money. Just because of presidential ticket or vice, he's behaving like a slowpoke.

LagBlogger:
You are wrong. The terms of the agreement supercedes the tenancy law if there is a stated period for quit notice. The 6 months only applies where one is not stated.

From the write up, the op didn't state any written agreement with the Landlord, so verbal agreement does not hold water in the court of law. As a yearly tenant he is entitled to 6 months quit notice, after which he gets 7 days, then court summons. At the court he could still get 3 more months if he Insist before vacating. Av personally dealt with some ignorant landlords this way, even when they asked me to pay messon's profit for the period we spent in court, the magistrate asked them to get the property first before arguing for money. That's how I eloped.

iamcee:
Sex before marriage isn't a good thing..I just feel bad about the way pre-marital sex is now common.
If the guy loves you,he should wait..that would even be of great help in avoiding the problem of sexual diseases, abortions,etc.
Now,males and females are just in relationship for nothing else than sex and money.. that's bad...
Premarital sex isn't a good thing.. don't involve in it if you haven't
Once your partner understands you,you won't have problem.
One reason why getting a partner who understand you well is important

So after the marriage he won't contract the sexual disease assuming his partner had it. In my opinion abstenance should only come in if the would-be bride is a virgin. If not don't come and be preaching abstenance then be bleeping in secret, causing me to imagine what you are preserving under and be masturbating in secret, and pretend all is well.

Infoay:
Move on and just move on!
If you really love your new and she loves you in return and not the cheating type, then move on, just move on. If there are things to learn and she is willing to, then teach her and make your relationship heaven on earth except there are unreconcilable issues that could be red flags in marriage... So move on and just move on...

From your write up the new girl is better than the cheating girl. I disagree with you Sir.

MisterKennedy:
Good afternoon nairalanders...

I just got posted to serve in Delta State and my friend told me that I have a very high likelihood of finding a great paying job in the course of my service in Delta... How true is this? Is Delta really great for finding a well paying job? Please help me friends.

We are talking about a lady that will give you happiness and you are talking about jobs. There are no jobs better create one as a graduate

op, 4years relationship is not child's play. you are used to her and vice versa. Rushing into another woman's arm during break up was totally wrong at first. I would advise you as a married man that you marry your friend and not someone you rushed into cuz of heartbreak stuff. She must have cheated on you during dating but marriage is a different ball game. Sit her down and talk to her, at this point she will tell you the truth and why she did that, caution her and move to the next level. If you are always happy around her please go for her and put behind the mistakes. When I met my wife, she was dating a Senator and I knew about it on our first date,I placed my cards on the table and asked her to choose between myself and the man. She retraced her steps and started building our relationship till we got married. At the time my close friends were not in support, believing that she's seen a higher and better life than me who came from the streets, that she'll misbehave after marriage. One week to our marriage she suggested that we should go and invite the Senator officially for our marriage, and I objected. After consultations and several thought I decided to go with her to invite the big man and his wife. The man gave us 200k and 7 cartons of assorted wine while the wife supported with 20k and a bag of rice. For close to a decade today, I've never had anything to regret about marrying her, rather it's been from one success story to another. you would not have thrown her out just like that. The devil is so tricky and may manipulate you into a lifetime regret. Lastly, in this game follow whoever gives you happiness and satisfaction. Its not a game of revenge, 4years no be beans. I rest my case.

GEJ spent more than this feeding two animals in aso rock in 2015 budget. I'll not be surprised if the next president comes to follow that antecedent cuz all of them are the same. They'll assume power through blackmail as if there's anything new to offer, thereafter subjugate the pple.

Dididrumz:
There are so many things in life that should be left on-said even though they are true/facts.

But then you shouldn't be thinking about it or reacting to it.
It's not a serious issue.

This is why you should marry your friend. There's nothing I and my wife doesn't talk about except our past sex life as singles. ops wife is very smart and I like such women. If it was my wife I would have been first to ask what she learnt from the movie, and I wouldn't expect less than what ops wife said, at the end we'll laugh over it. Some men are always forming boss on simple issues cos of ego problem.

Minjim:
That's why the date between engage and marriage should be more than 6 months

Wrong, not a guarantee to Successfull marriage. I married after dating for 2 months, and we've been the best of friends for years now.

CalliDora1:
It's not right for her to make such a statement. It just goes to show how shallow some peoples' brains can be.

Does She think rape is pleasurable? For all she knows, the lady would have still died from being raped by those hefty men or worst still gotten infected with a deadly disease or ended with an unwanted pregnancy that will torment her for life.

The lady died a hero. And her death didn't go unavenged. so why is your wife saying she died for nothing?? She's narrow minded and cheap. You're not overreacting. In fact, if you can, show her my comment, let her learn how to reason and talk in matters like this.

You are myopic in your reasoning. You live to fight another day. A lady in my neighborhood was hacked to death for refusing to let go her iPhone in a robbery situation. She died and the phone was still taken, now how do you justify this.

Insert the finger into a pussy overnight, then thank me later. It's an antidote people don't know.

Serene123:
I have gone as far as secretly getting access to her WhatsApp. I didn't see any single chat with her and the guy nor another person. But the calls just keep pisisng me off.

I realised I shouldn't have gone that far. I should have just be calmed and let her do her wish

Guy, follow your heart. Relationship is built on trust, stop the discreet investigation and go for what you want. From your write up, she helps out in certain areas and you love her. The guy in question might be her financier not necessarily a bedmate. To the best of my knowledge a woman has the ability to say no to a man to the extent of the man helping her out financially not minding he's actually getting anything in return. I have supported one of my exes with 50k during her Tm, but had never slept with her in our 1yr of dating. She turned down all my advances for sex, yet I loved her more than my main babe cos of certain xteristics I saw. At a point we became very good friends that my main babe knew her and we all became like a family. There's no girl you'll meet that never had a relationship before meeting you except the ones you deflowered. Act wisely in order not to lost a gold fish. Keep sending messages to her, break that gap between you and her immediately, the devil fights what is good. The Biblical Sampson killed the lion while on his way to Marry, so every marriage has a lion to be killed.So better kill yours now.

Mercisharelove:
You don't know SATAN young minds.

Never follow his method, concept or his ideology, he will misrule you and corrupt your good manners.

e.g, your wife is tired and hungry, and you are preparing stuff in the kitchen, and she is asking, can we share, or can I add this to what you are cooking, you flame up, as if it is her exclusively requirements to prepare food for the husband and since there's no food, she should be held responsible.

You husband can also prepare food for your tired wife.

But because of your devilish mindset, upside down traditional customatic sensual earthy young minds, he wouldn't help, he will trade his family for his ego.


Humble yourself in the mighty hand of God Almighty and he will exalt you in due course.


Follow the Holy Ghost, you'd be shining brighter and brighter unto a perfect day of harvest, our rapture. Hallelujah



The man or the woman should be singing like


You gave me love that cause my heart to overflow.
You gave me love much deeper than I‘ve ever known.

You‘ve set my feet where I belong, put within my heart a brand new song.

You gave me love offered my life a brand new start.
You gave me love sent straight from heaven to my heart,
Futher than the east is from the west, taken all my sins and brokenness.

You gave me love! You gave me love!

I can see a better days ahead. Our land will dance again because of you.

Voices will be heard with shouts of joy.

You‘ve done mighty things, let the nations sing you gave me love.

You gave me love!!!

Your reason is weird, so I should cook while she sits there to press phone. Except she's the breadwinner if not, she must cook while I bring the money ok!

DrFunmisticGlow:
BUT THEIR BRIDE PRICE IS EXPENSIVE NA!!

You forgot to include that

I don't think so, my friend married from there in 2011 and spent less than 300k for the TM, bride price was N100,but other traditional items summed up to 100k. He gave the family 130k for cooking entertainment food, then sunk 70k into drinks. Though friends assisted in buying more drinks that my was drunk before being introduced as the groom, but 300k was all he spent for the Tm.

Kingosytex:
It seems your mum is fed up with the marriage. There are many reasons that can make a woman detest her husband and children so much, the chief of them being that she is already into a relationship with another man...I just hope it is not true.

Bro, no matter what do not fight your mum, I repeat do not fight her...i repeat do not even touch her for any reason.

I suggest you approach her calmly, tell her your mind, ask her certain questions pertaining her attitude and sort out things amicably...If you believe in God, then take your matters to HIM in prayer.

Prayers do more magic than magicians.

You said my mind and that's the bitter truth. An elderly man once told me that 3 things keep a woman happy in matrimony. First is MONEY, second is PREEK and third is AVAILABILITY. Atimes they might overlook the third, but not the first and second. Most of them started well when the guy was young and had strength stones using aphrodisiacs to satisfy their Urge,but after some time it won't be that way again as Stress for school fees,feeding and house rent takes over a greater part of his thoughts, he begins to dysfunction gradually while the woman seeks for satisfaction outside. This doesn't apply to all women as there are good ones. But the fact is that women cheat with their emotions and can even kill the husband and children for it if occasion demands. Will advise the op to take things easy and pray to God,work harder to be liberated from her shackles of curses and get more closer to the father For pieces of advice and help the poor man stay longer. This Life, thought have seen all.

Evii:
My dear, how do you keep a bird that doesn't want to stay? It's either you imprison it or you break his wings but in either ways the bird would die. The best thing is to let the bird go if he comes back to you he'll be yours forever and if he doesn't the bird has made his choice. Babe, let it go.
Learn not to force yourself into once life, don't call people who doesn't call or care for you. Thanks

You said my mind, kindly move on as there's no victory in standing still. Don't try to bend him against his will as it may affect you 2moro, you'll definitely find someone better if he doesn't show up, and don't act desperate cuz you may end up as baby mama 4 him without any financial assistance from him, be smart.

Kriss216:
You made your first million when Nigeria was still manageable. Can you make such amount if you venture into same business now? Be frank please.

Buhari economy is harsh on everyone. Any move to leave this country is a welcome development.

Not true, while you are complaining, pple are cashing out big time from legit businesses. I personally bought a land in 2016 and started building in the heat of burahis hard economy and today am living there. It's worth at least 5mil. Pple are still making it in this country OK!

sapphiere:
Congrats to the celebrants. God help me o. This year shouldn't pass me by.

Meanwhile, check out these twin sisters rocking their husband. (One man to two wives)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hngn5-JMP-s

God will surely be with you, just that you gat to help yourself by discarding all under-defined relationships, especially those that are upto 2years without any bold step by the guy. Most importantly pray and tell God the kind of man you want.

TransAtlanticEx:
Are you sure you really wanna do this?
Cos I'm ready when you are.
Feed me and my family( a whole my family ooo) for ages yet your mama dey want kill herself say your fiance no buy bread for am?.
Why not use that money weh you want use am feed me and my generation buy your mama provisions keep for house na
And somehow its from this miserly,miserable existence that you wanna feed my family(really rich ) from?
My eldest sister got married in 2004,in 2003 when the man came for introduction,he wore shorts and was empty handed.
You know why?There was nothing he could bring that we don't have and he knew it
What you could have done sef to even cover your bf is send some money to your thirsty mom and claim your bf sent it,but instead you fought with him over it,maybe because you and your mama don plan as una go share the stipends weh the guy suppose bring,
Yet a bottom feeder like you wants to feed my generation?

This your argument doesn't hold water. Truth be said, as Africans no matter how rich your Inlaws are, courtesy demands that you take something there when visiting. stop batching her afterall her mother was right
Marriage is for men not boys, if you are not ready, don't start.

Nawa o, as a billionaire, the underwear Suppose to be whiter than this nasty, abi na him colour be that. Anyway always setting good example cuz of 2023.

bluefilm:
Onye ala.

Dont mind him, very impolite. But the fact is that even if APC give Umahi the ticket to run, our Igbo brothers will still vote against the party because we seem to be blind folded politically. We must first of all break that covenant with PdP by asking them to be the first to give us that ticket because we have given them unflinching support and got nothing in return.

Am totally in support of Igbo presidency only if PdP will give us ticket because we have suffered for PdP and should reap from the fruit of our labor. We hate APC to the extent that even if APC zone the ticket to us, we the Igbos will vote for FeeDeeFee.

Wyry:
Nigerian girls are useless.

Bros he, wetin Concern Nigerian girls and this post. My daughters are not useless abeg

DanHaske:
The almajiris will be never support any candidate igbos support. Even if the candidate is their mother. You should know this

Well said, let him keep beating chest, rather than to go disturb PdP he loved so much for ticket

[quote author= post=97738251]Most of you in this country suffer from low memory
2019 Presidential election Osibanjo as Vice presidential candidate to ruling party lost his polling unit to PDP in VI Lagos, his home state APC got 251,762 while PDP got 194,655 votes in Ogun state , I guess Igbo spirits are the once that voted for PDP across Southwest states, APC lost in Ondo, and Oyo state, they managed to win in Lagos after all electoral frauds [/quote]This is the more reason you should Disturb PdP more for presidential ticket and not d APC

Igbochief001:
Fallacy.....yet APC won many election in south east

Even if it was true ... APC don't need south east to make and igbo man president

Obj is a case study

How many elections did APC win in the East let's count : 1. Senator Kali, who actually failed and bought with money as former governor 2.senator Rochas who used financial influence as sitting governor 3.Supreme court governor of Imo state, can't recall his name because Imolites address him so. Summon PdP to give Southeast presidential ticket and Not APC, pls

Babzrockman:
In all honesty, it would be unfair for either PDP or APC not fielding an Easterner as presidential candidates.

The marginalization is obvious.

We have good hands in the East too[left][/left]

No, it's only fair for PdP to give it to a Southeasterner and not APC, cos they've always been loyal to PdP. APC give it to the zone that supported them. That's politics

wittyt98:
regardless of the congestion, person wey get OT must survive. I can't travel from a whole naija to look uche face in the abroad . Even if Dem reach 10 billion, man wey get determination must survive

Thanks man, we'll survive it. Gat no where to go, Nigeria is my country, just understand the street and survive.

If you can feed yourself then do well to rent an apartment. As my child I'll only stop sending you on errands if you are feeding the entire household. Feeding only yourself in my house will attract more disgusting errands especially when your friends are around and you are forming one big boy paranoiyingly. Go rent house before feeding yourself else one day I'll send your sisters to capture the noodles you are making for your babe, na so fight go take start.

As a serving commissioner, you should have a management team that conducts interview and employ for you and not get directly involved. The girl's uncle, mayor and Mr Austin are accomplice to the crime and should be arrested immediately for questioning.