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That's why it's necessary to set boundaries from the start. Family, friends, acquaintances and superiors know not to use certain words with me, when boundaries are set from the start, it'll help avoid some things.
It's up to you to stay with her and help her change, she can take anger management classes to help her, you have to be stern with her when she starts using cuss words with you. You can also give her space for a while, if you know you can't put up with her if she isn't ready to change then end it, e no pass that one.

dangoteinlaw:
and you actually believe a full grown man will call a girl for sex without having money with him? You and i know what's happening there and seeing how u are defending, i am even suspecting you are one lol

Suspect for all I care, I don't owe you an explanation in any way. There are people who do that, they might have money and not pay just like the way you can run legit business, someone will patronise you and either pay a bit or not pay at all.

Bodmum:
it's not easy to satisfy a lady not talking of 2. This guy is a hero. Hitting two useless hoes at same time, jumping from one to another. Respects!!!

He is the useless one here!!! Stop turning blind eyes towards people who are wrong. That's their job and he has to pay! Can he go to a restaurant and eat without paying? If prostitutes are useless then people who patronise them are also useless!

advanceDNA:
im not sure you followed britney's case..
this madam was a train-wreck at some point..
a fvcking time bomb waiting to go off...

yeah...it looks like the family went over-board in controlling her life
but it was a necessary evil that kept her alive...if "money miss road" was a person...its Britney

the media is just trying to paint the family wicked and greedy....

I actually did, I've been a fan of hers since 2006/2007. She has her issues but like you said, the family went overboard.
Also, we aren't in their homes or know them personally so it might be difficult to know what goes on within the family other than what we're shown.
You also have a point. Lol at the *money-miss road*.

Have a great weekend ahead.

At last! She's been through a lot and deserves this. Some parents/people are just too mean.

This is pure deceit, the marriage is over before it has even begun.

Ajala travel the world.
Just check my signature, me set wan travel.

I just pray untimely death isn't your portion. Na wetin my spirit dey tell me be that sha. Regardless of your religious belief please pray about this very issue.

Leaders of tomorrow. . Wondering what he'd do should he come president of this country, we fit no hear word again.

Oriyomin25:
If there is anything I don't líke about the poster, is the fact that he argues a lot especially on a thread that says a difference between Nigeria and SA. Well, i cannot blame him much since he is only protecting the image of his country from bad mouth people on this forum

But the fact that he posts some sensitive things and doesn't hide it even when things are going wrong in his Country. You earned my respect.

Nigerians, learn to Respect your own!

I also like that he stands up for his country.
If things were going on well in this country then there'd be no need for back and forth shades. This country mata dey tire person honestly.

delzbaba:
Damn make dem pity this man end everything, he is clearly suffering.

Isn't euthanasia a crime in Nigeria?

BeeBeeOoh:



This is no longer news nah, it has been happening for years. Back then in my sec. sch, our intro-tech master samples both students and teachers in his lab because the lab is in an isolated area. We were like 3 students who knew this and we dare not talk even if we talk, we can't prove it.

I've sometime ago eavesdrop girls between the age of 15-16years sometime ago talking about abortion and I couldn't believe my ears I swear to God, I was just looking at them and in couldn't help but ask God to help me as a young man becausebi cannot pray not to have a girl child. MAY GOD HELP THIS GENERATION.

Pertaining the two people in the video, they did not start doing it today, they've been doing it for a very long time and they will not stop it today. You don't know how these you young girls crave for matured AmstelRock.

It has been happening years and I don't think it will ever stop.

The people who have sex with them are guys so one should just hope to have kids who'll turn out well regardless of gender. If men fit get belle many of them for don over abort. There's been a sporadic decadence in moral standards and it can be attributed to the behaviour of individuals in the environment, lackadaisical attitudes, entertainment industry, poverty etc.
Just do your best to raise your kids well and pray they don't go astray.

Bignuell, treat as urgent, you know what to do!!!

They aren't even responding to comments! This is terrible of them.

It is true that the vagina has a smell. The smell of each vagina differs from others (vaginas don't have same smell).
Contrary to what you've got here, perfumes, soaps etc aren't good for the vagina, they change the pH level of the vagina have negative effects. Healthy living is beneficial and simple things such as rinsing the vagina with water, drinking enough water, eating healthy, eating fruits or drinking fruit especially the likes of pineapple, taking supplements, wearing clean pants, not wearing too much of tight things and allowing the vagina to 'rest' will help keep it healthy! Yogurt also helps!

tunjidare2:
She for try reduce the lips too...

People pay to have lips like hers, there are people who wish to have lips bigger than hers and they pay heavily for it. If she's comfortable with her lips then why should anyone have issues with them? I particularly have really small lips and wouldn't want them bigger but I still admire people with fuller lips. Her body, her business as long as no harm is being done.

Bros na you know where your shoes dey pain you. Things are getting more expensive and life is becoming more difficult in Nigeria so it's necessary to ignore 'shame' if you want to become successful in life. If you wish to remain poor then think of what people will say and how they'll look at you but if you know you're tired of your present condition and you do not want to lose your sanity through poverty and depression then you can add noodles and egg, fried yam/sweet potato and sauce to it. you'll expand from there.
Look for a very busy location like a park, market etc and it'll thrive.
I wish you the very best.

Realday:
I think it shouldn't be now because if you tell her now, she'll later come to nairaland or somewhere else for advice. Let her sensitivity triggers you to tell her the truth.

Let's switch role, the lady has mental health issue and hides it from him, what would you call her when he finds out himself? Many of the 'advise me' threads I see are created by guys, he might even come here to open a thread to tell us how he found out his 'gf' has got mental issues /hid it from him.

OP, tell your gf and do it in person when you both are alone. The earlier the better as it'll save you some stress and relieve you of the burden you have keeping it from her. If she decides to stay, fine, if she decides to leave then so be it. She has the right to stay or leave and for you, do whatever you can to get better.

I don't know beauty standards for people but there's absolutely nothing wrong with this guy. He's handsome has a nice skin colour and has a beautiful smile. No one should have to fit in 'everyone's' beauty standards before they can be considered 'good-looking'.

ChiefSosa:
3.....same digit as your IQ

ChiefSosa:
Lol, true!
But, each venom droplet costs about $130, which is around #70,000 I believe. At least, person fit use the 70k take hold body lol

I'm sure you know what I'm thinking.

Who or where is it written that ladies who wear waist beads are hoes? I love waist beads and think a lot of ladies wear it as a fashion statement or to watch their weight. Ladies have been wearing waist, neck and leg beads from time immemorial.

Pacesetter123:
Eat,but don't ask questions so it won't disturb you.

Ahhhhhh, I go ask oooo but stylishly.
There was a time I visited some people, they had a big pot of soup filled with nice looking meat and chicken, thank goodness I asked them what soup they cooked to which they responded 'chicken and rabbit', I love rabbits a whole lot and would never wish to eat them but keep one or more as pet. I told them I'd prefer noodles or garri. It was s long time ago but I think I lived on junks, noodles and garri till I left (I was with them for a week or more).
If you add what I don't eat to what I eat (say snake meat which I don't eat to chicken which I eat), I won't eat that soup o. Or you use snake stock to cook what I don't eat, I won't eat it unless I didn't ask.
I've visited people and requested for garri when they insisted I ate. I get paranoid when it comes to eating out o.

TheSourcerer:
Hanging Goats of Morroco

Nope , nothing to see here , just regular goats climbing trees in morroco as they have been doing for thousand of years.

Strange I never got to see them though? I doubt they're everywhere in Morocco or maybe... NVM.


Nature is indeed beautiful and full of surprises!

Nothing really, I'll read and sleep more. I'm not much of a SM person so I won't be greatly affected. If it's possible to call then I know I'll call people I am cool with more. E no pass dat one, ooooooo, it'll afford me the time to work on tyre furniture.

toujurs:
This is the type of insult a lady gets when she has a long throat, this one is small, more is yet to come. It seem you don't have class that is why your boyfriend sister doesn't regard you, you entered a relationship with the guy because he had a comfortable life.

Tu penses qu'elle est avec lui à cause de l'argent ? It might not be the reason though.

Very possible. I do not remember the date I got born-again but I'm sure what's important is that I am and that I have a real relationship with Him.
I strongly doubt the date is important to Him.

One of the reason I hardly eat for people's homes, make dem no go give me wetin I no de chop.

A necrophilic murder.

Iyaebe:
I'll pass,I don't like anything about this footballer,not even his money.Lookalike too hian

I like Pogba ehn, he and N'Golo Kanté.
I actually think both Pogba and his doppelganger are handsome. Na money the doppelganger never get, he's black and fine.

swiz123:
It's good you have felt a fraction of what your grandfather passed through at the hands of that entitled grandma of yours who believes her husband's money is theirs and her's is for her alone.

I wouldn't be surprised if your grandfather borrowed money from Isusu groups when his wife had such cash in her mini billion van

Such a disrespectful comment to make about her. Did his grandpa appear to you to complain about his grandma? I don't know why people talk carelessly. You call her entitled when you know absolutely nothing about her.
You owe it to him to apologise.

LiegeMan:
hello Nairalanders, sorry for the long write-up, it's LiegeMan again.
my name is Mr Omale liegeman and I'm from Kogi State, I thank you all for your kind advice on the other thread regarding my wife's past life and I can assure you all that I decided to put to use some of the advice from here ( yes, I read all the 590+ comments from A-Z) and it's yielding positive result as I've been experiencing happiness as never before in my life, though majority of Nairalanders who contributed in the previous post failed to understand my point of view because I was trying to make the post as snappy as possible. Thank you all once more.

Now, while I was planning ways to work things out with my wife with some of the advice that I gathered here, my Aunty who's married to an Igbo man from Imo state called me that her daughter, who's a student of Imo State University (Imsu) came home during weekend, Saturday precisely, locked herself up in a room and has been crying ever since without food nor water, and has refused to see nor talk to anyone.
I advice them to keep an eye on her so as to prevent her from attempting something stupid, she assured me that they broke into her apartment where she locked up Herself and brought her out.

So on Sunday, being 31 day of October, 2021, I left everything that I was doing in Makurdi and rushed to their village in Imo State, on getting there, I observed that both her hands and legs were tied and when I inquired why, she told me that it was an attempt to prevent her from escaping. I asked them to untie her, she was still crying when I asked her to go dress up that I'll be taking her out, she quickly went inside and dressed up we left the village for Orlu.

When we reached Orlu, we entered into a restaurant, and I started asking her what the problem was, I inquired if it was her boyfriend that broke her heart, she said no, I later succeeded in making her to tell me what the problem was because she's my closest ally.

when she opened up, she told me that she decided to do a little gbaje gbaje, ie do a little runs, she booked an appointment with a man and when she reached the said hotel, she and the Man started romancing and kissing and after awhile, the man started hissing uncontrollably, she inquired from the man what the problem was, he told her that what he wanted to take from her has been taken by someone else, in her confused state, she asked the man what he meant by that, the man looked her into her eyeballs and told her that she's empty, that what he intended taking from her has been taken by another person, he counted the said amount they bargain and handed it over to her and ordered her to get out of the hotel premises. I tried to console her by telling her that the man didn't mean what he said, that maybe his manhood disappointed him, he said those to cover his shame and I also advice her to be very careful because Xmas it at hand, immediately I told her those, she became relieved and stopped crying but I know right inside of me, that what the man said wasn't a joke at all.

when we got home, the news didn't go down well with her mother as tears started rolling down her cheek, she is planning a way to take her daughter to different prayer houses.

Now what exactly is this man talking about, what exactly did he take from her, is it her womb, destiny or what?
please house, any advice for this kid cousin of mine?
or way to find out what has been taken from her and get her liberated.

If you're a Christian, I'll recommend taking her to MFM prayer city ( Lagos/Ibadan express way) for serious deliverance. Their deliverance runs from Sunday - Saturday every week but is decided into to (COVID precaution). You can choose to take her on for either the one that runs from Monday to wednesday or Thursday to Saturday, she'll go fasting (no water, no food, no fruits, nothing). They pray at least 2 times daily for a minimum of 1 hour 30 minutes. When it's time for prayer, they'll be summoned to the prayer hall (mandatory, no one stays behind and your things are secure).
It's a DIY thing, no one will lay hands on you, they call the prayers, instruct you on what to do and you carry it out. Make she no guarantee there go dey sleep or look who go fall or who dey possessed. You can decide to make her stay for one week or more, na your money to spend.
Accommodation: it's pretty cheap as you can pay for the 1k per day own but like I said, you'll be asked to to stay for a maximum of 3 days so you'll pay for 2 nights (you'll leave the 3rd day)
You can renew on the third day.
There are more expensive ones, but it starts from 1k sha. The 1k own is very decent, there's always water and I think a minimum of 18 hours power supply or so, the rooms are swept for you, the bathrooms are neat, ceiling fans, spacing (1 per bunk) .
Apart from tfare, maximum she'll spend for the 3 days if she lodges in the 1k per day room shouldn't exceed 3500 ( bottled water inclusive).
You can also approach any of the pastors, tell them what's wrong and that you need them to please pray for her. It will most likely be conducted in the hall so no need to be afraid.
Ephesians 6:12 "For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places."

Before she's taken there, she should rededicate her life to Christ, you can make her fast, devour the word of God, listen to sermons from MFM, apostle Joshua Selman, pastor Adeboye, Pastor Kumuyi and pray without ceasing (midnight prayers do a whole lot).

I'm confident she'll be fine with God's intervention.