Politics › Re: N10M Ransom Paid For Okonjo-Iweala’s Mother - Vanguard by vanstanzy(m): 8:32am On Dec 15, 2012 |
repogirl: Our police too dey lielie. Who we con belief naw naa? Police talk sey dem raid and shoot, dis one talk sey dem drop am off.okay! Maybe dem drop am off, police nab the guy den dem go raid d hideout? Anywhich way, we thank God sey she come back safe. My friend uncle wey dem carry for Owerri ova 2 months naw, we nefa hear anytin even after 10 million dem pay dem *sobs* I no wan belief say den don off the man. God dey! The police shot and arrested innocent by-standers' and not the real criminals. Poor innocent fellas. |
Politics › Re: N10M Ransom Paid For Okonjo-Iweala’s Mother - Vanguard by vanstanzy(m): 8:30am On Dec 15, 2012 |
My opinion: The police are in on it in this kidnap thing. They know who did what and how the information was sold. I also suspect Onyema, the grannys' son. |
Politics › Re: N10M Ransom Paid For Okonjo-Iweala’s Mother - Vanguard by vanstanzy(m): 8:22am On Dec 15, 2012 |
bigtt76: Wished they could have bugged the sack of money with a GPS tracker and monitored as they move along with the bags and finally nabbed by the a crack team of security agents .....  The NPF no get that kind brain, so dont expect much from them. |
Politics › Re: How Okonjo-Iweala's Mother Escaped From Kidnappers - Police by vanstanzy(m): 8:19am On Dec 15, 2012 |
I'll shout it to high heavens, "THE NIGERIAN POLICE IS SO, VERY, TRULY INCOMPETENT. ". Just imagine the conflicting stories, this tells us they are all lies. |
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Crime › Re: Robbers Invade Peace Mass Transit Park In Nsukka by vanstanzy(m): 4:34pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
ehie: People just dey hungry for Naija,may God save us Now there goes a sane person, with a sane prayer. Don't mind all these Kobojunkies so-called looplat and libkid. |
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Crime › Re: Robbers Invade Peace Mass Transit Park In Nsukka by vanstanzy(m): 4:23pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
Oh, my Nsukka. But all the same its an inside job. Those armed robbers did not gate-crash, they were invited. It takes just the rat inside to tell the rat outside that there's fish in the house. Police ur man is inside, a staff of PMT. |
Christianity Etc › Re: Man Kicked-Out Of Competition For Resembling Jesus by vanstanzy(m): 4:21pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
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Christianity Etc › Re: Man Kicked-Out Of Competition For Resembling Jesus by vanstanzy(m): 3:47pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
obadiah777: LMAO @ THAT DEMON THINKING HE LOOKS LIKE CHRIST. He in no way looks like my Christ, maybe urs. |
Christianity Etc › Re: Man Kicked-Out Of Competition For Resembling Jesus by vanstanzy(m): 3:45pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
Do this of Mohammed now, and the Muslims will turn planet earth upside down. |
Politics › Re: Pictures of demolition of buildings at Sagamu due to road construction by vanstanzy(m): 3:33pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
[b]I don't see road construction going-on just yet. How are we sure the buildings are being pulled down for road construction anyway. Cos our gov'nors are not upto it, and individuals won't build roads for ya, not in Naija. All the same good pics but just tweek ur camera phone a bit.[b] |
Celebrities › Re: Tonto Dike And Mikel Obi Weds Secretly. Photo by vanstanzy(m): 3:20pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
Sick joke! |
Romance › Re: Why Do Men Change After Marriage? by vanstanzy(m): 3:16pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
Because they are human and not perfect.  |
Islam › Re: Things Your Muslim Wife Wont Tell You by vanstanzy(m): 2:43pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
tbaba1234: 7 Things your Muslim wife won’t tell you
Most men have a hard time understanding women. Even a woman they’ve been married to for years. One minute she’s perfectly fine, the next, she’s crying like a baby. She complains about something but when we offer advice on how to fix it, she still isn’t satisfied. After several years of marriage (and counseling) I’ve learned to not worry so much about what my wife says. Instead, I should worry about what she doesn’t say.
1. Above all, She Wants Your love
When a wife shows her husband less respect, he in turn shows her less love.
And when a husband shows his wife less love, she in turn shows him less respect.
And the vicious cycle repeats itself.
Stop this prophecy before it becomes self-fulfilling. Show love to your wife.
That’s what she wants. Love her despite her flaws and quirks.
And Inshallah, she’ll respect you despite your flaws and quirks.
2. She’s Bored
It’s the same thing every day.
Week in and week out.
Not only is she bored but she’s also tired.
She has to care for the kids and run the household and then pamper you.
Just thinking about doing that every day makes me want to crawl under my covers and hide. I can imagine how the average Muslim housewife must feel.
And let’s not forget about working woman. Many Muslim women have to work a full time job as well as hold a house down.
So brothers, I implore you, make your wife feel special. Give her a break.
Take her out sometimes. Surprise her with a surprise meal. Bring her favorite desert home.
Just do something every now and then to break the monotony.
3. She Wants to be Complimented
Appreciation. Everybody wants it. No one wants to feel as if the hard work they do goes unnoticed or even worse, it taken for granted.
Your wife does not have to clean your dirty clothes. And she does not have to cook your meals. But she does. And she does that on top of all the other things in her life:
Caring for the kids. Working or going to school. Striving to be a better Muslimah. Show your Muslim wife that you appreciate and are thankful for the things she does to maintain you and your family. A simple “thank you” is a good start.
4. She’s Insanely Jealous
There’s a reason most women don’t care for polygamy. Be very careful how you talk about other women around your wife. Don’t ever compare your wife to another woman.
Don’t compare her to some female movie star. Don’t compare her to your mother. Never, ever compare her to your ex-wife (or other wife!) She’s wants to know and believe that she is the center of your universe. So make her feel that way.
Even the Prophet’s (pbuh) wives got jealous. Aisha (RA) even got jealous of Khadijah (RA) who was dead.
Expect, and respect, the same type of jealousy from your wife.
5. She Wants You to Help Her become A Better Muslimah
I can’t stress enough the importance of men taking the role of leader within their families.
And that’s the problem with a lot of Muslim men these days.
Not only are they not being good leaders, they’re being led by their wives (or mothers, or other women in their lives).
Your wife desires and wants you to be her leader. And what better way to lead her than to be show her how to be a better Muslimah?
But you can’t show her how to become better if you’re not that great either. Therefore, you have to upgrade your Iman. You have to improve yourself and then pass it on to her in a gentle, respectful way.
6. She Doesn’t Like to Nag, But Sometimes You Make It Hard
It’s a common myth that women like to nag their husbands. That’s not entirely true.
Yes, there are some people (men and women) whom you can never please. No matter what you do, they’ll always find fault in something. Let’s be reminded of the following hadith:
Narrated Ibn ‘Abbas: The Prophet said: “I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful.” It was asked, “Do they disbelieve in Allah?” (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, “They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, ‘I have never received any good from you.” – Sahih Bukhari.
So, yes sisters should be careful about denegrating the things your husband does for you.
But very often, you brother, make it hard for her to hold your tongue.
Perhaps you’re always finding fault with her and she looks for things in your character to get even.
Perhaps you’re not working (or not working hard enough) and she has to work to take up some slack.
Perhaps you’re just not that great of a guy.
Once again, upgrade yourself and give her less reasons to complain and nag.
7. More Than Anything, She Wants a Stable, Happy Relationship With You
Women don’t get married just because they think it’s gonna be fun.
They get married because they want a happy family life and they believe you’re gonna give it to them.
Outside of her religious duties, that’s the most important thing in a Muslim woman’s life. Raising a happy, stable, Muslim family.
The funny thing is, it’s very easy for you to give that to her.
Stop acting like a jerk. Be a good husband to her. Be kind. Show her you love her. Don’t threaten her with divorce or taking a second wife. Yes, you have the right to do both. But using them as threats is inappropriate and detrimental to your marriage. Trust in Allah, watch out for the tricks of Shaytan, and be patient with her. There’s nothing Shaytan would love more than to destroy your marriage. See? That isn’t all that hard, now is it?
http://muslimvillage.com/2012/12/11/32804/7-things-your-muslim-wife-wont-tell-you/ Am confused. I tot it was supposed to be what the topic stated. This is totally different. |
Romance › Re: Why Do Men Change After Marriage? by vanstanzy(m): 2:39pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
Its like asking, "why are men ordinary mortals and imperfect?". Did God create us to be perfect like Him? Some questions sef! |
Romance › Re: Why Do Men Change After Marriage? by vanstanzy(m): 2:39pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
Its like asking, "why are men ordinary mortals and inperfect?". Did God create us to be perfect like Him? Some questions sef! |
Celebrities › Re: Actor Victor Osuagwu Weds In A Truck by vanstanzy(m): 2:24pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
Lordave: if you want treat yourz like a slave, I gats treat mine more like a queen bro I've got one word for u..."CASSANOVA!" and plz don't bother answering this post, i no dey for CAT-FIGHT.  |
Celebrities › Re: Actor Victor Osuagwu Weds In A Truck by vanstanzy(m): 2:22pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
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Family › Re: Must There Be A Fight/misunderstanding In A Marriage? by vanstanzy(m): 1:27pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
We simply have to disagree, to finally agree. |
Celebrities › Re: Actor Victor Osuagwu Weds In A Truck by vanstanzy(m): 1:26pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
greatgod2012: Unique and funny! Now that's what we are talking about. Correct lady. Geeme 5ive!  |
Celebrities › Re: Actor Victor Osuagwu Weds In A Truck by vanstanzy(m): 1:18pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
Chanchit: Abeg correct ur english, the man never die nau..! Thats correct English right there, spiced with a lil' shorthand But if u must...the man is always good for a laugh!!! |
Celebrities › Re: Actor Victor Osuagwu Weds In A Truck by vanstanzy(m): 1:14pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
Rapmoney: My guy, i tire for them o! Every time, romantic, romantic. Romantic my foot!!! How romantic are they? I tire o. Selfish in their feelings. Wanting u to treat them like a queen always. Na every day be Christmas?  |
Celebrities › Re: Actor Victor Osuagwu Weds In A Truck by vanstanzy(m): 12:48pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
nikkyshyne: So unromantic!  Women and BLOODY ROMANCE. Na wetin we dey talk here? We are focusing on the comic side of it, instead. |
Celebrities › Re: Actor Victor Osuagwu Weds In A Truck by vanstanzy(m): 12:46pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
This man was always good for a laff!!!  |
Romance › Re: Should A Married Woman Wear A Short & Revealing Dress? by vanstanzy(m): 12:41pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
vivian chinaza: A married woman should dress sexily, not sluttily. In this case, her dressing is slutty and it is wrong! That's my opinion. I share the same opinion as u. 1000000 likes. |
Romance › Re: Should A Married Woman Wear A Short & Revealing Dress? by vanstanzy(m): 12:33pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
star*: Ouch! The people criticising her legs. Harsh. Isn't there more important things to judge a character by??
Beyonce is married with a child I can't ever remember anyone dissing some of her outfits  COS BEYONCE IS AMERICAN AND AMERICANS HAVE ALL GONE NUTS. DON'T COMPARE AMERICA TO AFRICA, IN TERMS OF CULTURE. |