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Okija_juju: Riddle solved..

A black man falls from the sky in the Uk..

Used the land borders to enter Angola and stowed away in the tyre bay of a 737... Fell out on arrival as the landing gear came down..

mavinc4u: At times we overdo things in the name of fun.which tribe is God rejected tribe? Comment is not by force,you must not comment to be noticed but for people to learn and not indirectly pouring curses on your generations in the name of comment.next time if you want to comment,ask a responsible,sensible and mannered person to cross check your comment before posting. No offence

kaffy4tope: Shut d bleep dia. Just because ure from a Godforsaken tribe, a tribe known as the origin of enormous crimes commiting in Nigeria 2day doesn't mean you should vest your uncontrollable anger and stupid frustrations on d well respected, peaceful and easygoing YORUBAS.
You should be in d corner of ur room by now, covering ur face, cos most of dese heinous crimes came frm no where but ur stupid and God rejected tribe. Even ur retardeen, dull, actionless, dindinrin president u hv can never underestimate Yorubas. No be Obasanjo put am dia? If not for Baba wey dey rule frm Ota Farm, ur olodo president would hv long gone.
Just dt lemme see u ever talk to Yorubas lyk dt in ur life "ti sonpanna o ba ti fe pa e"
Finally, wheneva u see a yoruba fellow, u knw hw to address them? say 'YESBOSS'

cyril83: can you please explain how it will extend to the middle class?...some pple dnt knw how to make use of their mouth,my frnd stop typing nonsenseee here

Kayusfity: Good for our greedy leaders. Boys are not smiling. Anyway, 1st to comment. Thank God

berem: onatisi you were right afterall! awon boiz binu o! omo 1billy no be beans.how many GMG that one be sef? too much money.

fresh_dude: I beg to differ. The problem is that in our culture, the first child is usually 'contained' if you will. For a child to develop into an intelligent, brilliant and active child they have to be given room to explore their environment and learn from stimuli and stuff. Unfortunately, in many/most cases the first child is deprived of these necessities in a bid to teach them self control and discipline. I'm no scientist but I believe my opinion is true.

Mannylex: This is for the ladies.... Guys can also comment, from experience...




Ladies, In your dreams you fantasise about the ‘nice guy’. The one, who rings on time, brings you thoughtful gifts, makes you scream out loud in the bedroom, but knows that those dishes in the kitchen won’t wash themselves. The nice guy makes himself available to you, makes you an integral part of his life and introduces you to his mother. Without you asking first.Except, I’m finding that it’s rarely the nice guy that gets any long-term air play!

Yeah, we all like be fawned over, idolised and unchallenged at the beginning of a relationship. It restores to our ego that which we lost when we last ventured into the relationship battle field. But after a while, sooner rather than later when talking about myself, the admiration starts to wear thin. You want to be challenged, intellectually, physically, maybe even emotionally.
The nice guy is almost TOO easy.

I cringe as I write this, as it means I haven’t evolved into the type of woman that thought I was. But I realise that my rebellion against what appears to be “common sense”, is derived from something bigger than my intellect.

My intuition

I’m drawn, physically, spiritually, emotionally, to the Alpha Male. He wets my taste buds and the thought of him makes me high. Yet this Alpha Male I hunger for, he lets me down, makes promises he doesn’t keep. And at any given time, I could be knowingly or otherwise, participating in some kind of Bleep triangle. Or whatever kind of sexual balance he’s seeking at that time.

The Alpha male hunts. It’s in his nature. Always on the move, his illusiveness is intoxicating to a female in season. The Alpha male keeps you guessing and feeds you just enough so you’re not hungry, but never entirely full. The same behaviours the alpha male finds attractive in the alpha female I find. There’s something alluring about a man/woman who’s not too available. I don’t mean distant, and selfish, but that illusiveness that keeps you asking questions, seeking, and learning.

Your intelligence and a quick trip down memory lane, tells you to go for a ‘nice guy’. The sure fire thing. Steady, reliable, transparent.

But does a man loose him power when he completely lets his guard down?

Is there a time scale in which we can show our vulnerabilities and neediness within a relationship? Male or female?

When does a declaration of love stop being erotic, and become a turn off?

And that’s the key difference between the ‘Alpha male’ and the ‘nice guy’.
Timing

The Alpha male knows what to say and when to say it. He has confidence in spades, but can be self-deprecating in the same breath. The Alpha male disarms you with his heady mix of intense charm and casual disinterest. His deal clincher is to appeal to your nurturing side. A second of vulnerability is all it takes. He knows you’re watching him so intently; you’d never miss it. The Alpha male makes you examine yourself.

Am I good enough?

Can I have this man, and if not, then why not?

He becomes something you want to conquer. And when he’s flipped the script on you, and got you thinking that way, well…

It’s game over.

With that whole mind Bleep to contend with, it begs the question why relatively intelligent, post-modern women, don’t lodge the game playing alpha male, in favour of something a little more stable, a little more likely to give us some of things that we honestly want. Are we dumb, blind, mentally unstable?
Why the nice guy never wins!

Granted, the nice guy, turns up on time, answers his phone in front of you (he has nothing to hide), showers you with compliments, listens to you, lets you decide where to go and what to do, backs down first in an argument wanting to keep the peace. But for the nice guy, his blessing is also his curse.

He lacks that” take charge” quality which women seem to find irresistible.

He’s just too damn nice.

He’s got No game!

All his cards are on the table in the first innings. He’s letting it all hang out, and wearing his heart on his sleeve.

Question?

“Why is genuine, unfettered emotion, so often seen as neediness, and why is neediness such a big turn off”. After all , we all have needs?

As I ponder on this subject. I realise the ‘nice guy’ takes on many female traits. He relinquishes the stereotype of modern day masculinity, and speaks his whole heart, showing his vulnerability and insecurities early on. In his enthusiasm for you, he removes his ego, and becomes kind of fearless, subject to his emotions. Real.

I’m sure these outpourings of adoration, constant compliments, and ego strokes are meant to titillate. They definitely warm your heart, and for a while they cater to my insecurities. But rather quickly, they leave me cold. They de-sexualise the man for me. He’s like a lion with no teeth. And I need to hear my lion roar.

My common sense rebukes me for wanting the danger, the opportunity for high drama. Calls me foolish for not being content with being worshipped and adored. But my heart knows’ the 100% no challenge, yes mam, nice guy, will never be for me.

I hunger for balance .For him, and also for myself.

The alpha male, who knows how to take his place, yet in doing so, understands the intrinsic needs of my feminine energy, even the parts of me that resonate ‘Alpha female’. Supposedly his rival.

I guess that would be a nice guy for me.

This is a hotly debated topic with so many single ladies out there. Tell me what you think about The Nice Guy Vs The Alpha Male!!!

Which have you chosen in the past and how has that worked out for you? Come start a debate in the comments.



http://www.mylifestylemax.com/2011/03/the-alpha-male-vs-the-nice-guy/

Which kyn question be this? How many times will u keep repeating the same question? Oops! i just did the same thing now.
If u must know, ladies love guys that treat 'em like paper. U happy now?

Doyensky: na wao, so, its now a crime 2 be d first female 2 get married in a family.... som naija guyz dnt jst think straight, is it nt som1 dats gonna get married 2 dem or wen has position bcom a problem

Most of u ladies are killers, well i think i know where that comes from. U just have no mercy for men at all. The manner of responsibilities heaped on the man by in-laws is killing especially if he's the husband to the first daughter. We just need to wipe this mentality that every groom is the solution to his in-laws monetary and family wahala and has no responsibilities to his own family. NA WA O!

stillme: Mehn! To me it is not easy but with wisdom,knowledge and understanding there's always a way out. It never occurred to me until now. Not quite long that I got married,I never knew it's one of criterias to assess before getting married. My wife is third in the family of seven and the second to marry. It is not easy coping with her siblings expenses and carelessness attitude.
I heard one of my friends saying he can't marry first child of the family due to some reasons best known to him.
My question is, should one consider the position of his or her partner before getting married?

seriallink: Which of the Churches was Christ referring to in the passage below:

Matthew 16:17-19 And Jesus answered and said unto him, Blessed art thou, Simon Barjona: for flesh and blood hath not revealed it unto thee, but my Father which is in heaven.

18 And I say also unto thee, That thou art Peter, and upon this rock I will build my church; and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it.

19 And I will give unto thee the keys of the kingdom of heaven: and whatsoever thou shalt bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever thou shalt loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.

I have observed that most Catholics believe that Jesus was actually referring to them in the passages I quoted above.

I want to know your views on this because most Catholics believe they are the one true Church and other Churches are hell bound. I'm not a Church goer and personally do not believe that going to Church is necessary or compulsory for salvation, but I'd still like to know your views on this!

Thank you.

I had to UNLIKE u, because now i see u are here to forment trouble under the guise of seeking knowledge, especially with the bolded above. Get ur facts right and please stop hounding trouble it will do u no good.
Stop pretending to be what u aint.

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http://www.reuters.com/article/2012/12/09/us-ghana-election-results-facebook-idUSBRE8B80G920121209

omiobo: I smell good.

Tusky44: But my wife pleaded with me to do same and i refused. Even to bend like an idi0t to do it is really annoying for me sha. I mean how man go come bend like dog begin taste nonsense and ingredient? The one i prefer is to use hand gloves with plenty of lotion to fist the two holes. When i do this with my mistress, i ask her to taste her ar5e and she enjoys it like a fool

Tusky44: You still dey find one to eat? You no dey hear word abi? Go chop am now make your mouth bend

Na! its gat to be clean, i mean really clean before i eat it. I fear not! Besides, i eat only one, my wifes'

crisycent: For all my guys wen dey head, una don hear now....that place get bacteria.

Its called EATING PU*SS*Y, and the bacteria is good, so we are told.

ben4ever: i am weeping for my country