₦airaland Forum

madridguy:
Good morning Vicky and hope you're fine.

First, let me start by the Urhobo man, i must commend the man and he's indeed a role model for every man.

As for the case of your late brother, i pray God comfort you and the entire family he left behind. Amen. Mind you, i will still say you shouldn't have give up easily on him. Since you know the girl in question is a destiny destroyer, you should have go extra miles to separate them. Imagine after 3 days at the hospital, she waka leave him and left him to his fate and you people.

Fountainofyouth:
Plenty stupid people dey for this nairaland sha, very hypocritical irritants always talking from both sides of the mouth, these are the same weird creatures saying they can never marry a woman who isn't working, that she'll be a leech, bla bla bla.....now they are advocating for Op to continue to be a house wife smh, if the yeye husband was giving her enough money for upkeep and for herself, do you think she will bother about working? Confused lots.

Damilolacoker:
Hello everyone I'm 24 years old and I have been married for three years. last year we had our first baby . Prior to our wedding, I and my husband decided I'll be allowed to work once our baby is old enough to attend day Care. Now our daughter is almost 2 years and he has refused to let me work. We've had countless arguments about this and it always ends with him saying women who work are not always submissive. I cannot be a full house wife , I am educated and cannot sit at home all say.

He recently told my parents I was being rude to him and they're all saying I should do whatever my husband wants. I love him but on this issue, I refuse to agree with him.

The other part here is he doesn't like me correcting our daughter. She's almost 2 and it irritates him whenever I try to potty train her or scold her. He insists I go to check up on Her at school during break hours. I understand that she's quite young but as her mother, I want the best for her.

Now he's changed towards me, he doesn't care or pamper me like he used to , sometimes he refuses to eat at home and when I try to speak with him, he's always very cold. Please help me, I don't know what to do anymore.

KanuSE:
Are you sure this truly coming from ya heart?

Ogegod87:
Oh my God! Your mum (may God bless her soul) tried.
Recently, i read a post on here, where a guy needed advice on whether or not to marry his girlfriend even though the lady nags, insults him and isn't submissive. He said his mum met the lady and told him not to marry her but he claims to love the girl and wants to marry her.

I commented and shared a bit of my late brothers story and advised him to take his mothers advice because women are detailed and intuitive in nature. Women can smell trouble 5 miles afar.

My mum was also against my brothers marriage to his wife, but he insisted and ended up dying instead.

What a world!

Thanks @ bolded

Fountainofyouth:
You want them to waste money on IVF knowing they could have prevented it by not being involved or getting married in the first place, do you think at all?

bukatyne:
What is your definition of love?

The question is do you love yourself?

madridguy:
First, sorry to hear about the death of your brother. I'm not trying to refresh your memory but how come you didn't help your brother in sending away the dragon? I'm sure the nagging GF is alive now probably settled with another man enjoying life.
You should have act as a mother and send the beasts away. Once again, sorry for the loss.

Ogegod87:
Now i understand where you are coming from. I lost a brother to death too cause of a bad wife.

I'm sorry about your brother. Hmmm!

midnighter:
Lol thank you ooo...we can all keep quoting laws and fairytales but at the end we will still face the guys we are married to so better be realistic and recognise your boundary

A 28 year old woman doesn't understand what the words " Leave me alone " mean and still called her family to come and shout at the guy in his house yet she is somehow totally innocent because of moderate beating that she provoked.

If you agree to work in any Nigerian election, you may come back unscathed, you may be seriously injured or you may die there.

If you harangue somebody who just came in you may be ignored, be left in the house alone, be slapped or beaten.

That's not to say that anybody has the right to kill an INEC official but why did you go there!

That's not to say that anybody has the right to beat their wife but why didn't you close your mouth!

There is no point in being sentimental about it, both of them were wrong

Cocao:
My God. How exactly can you justify what you typed up there. There is a place for mind games. This situation is not one of it.

She was slapped so hard that she bled. I mean, what could have possibly been so annoying that the man had to do that?

Stop trying to follow nairaland men to spew trash. Most of them hide under the cloak of anonymity to say what they can't go through with. Stop and think with your brain

midnighter:
You just summarised it. Act like a lady and think like a man! This is like military warfare.

The lady was even at an advantage because he overreacted to her own overreacting and nagging by slapping her. So she had the upper hand because he committed the bigger crime by becoming violent. He knew it and that's why he started apologising, kneeling and begging.

She would have kept crying, dramatising and keeping malice until he would be forced to agree not to stay out late again . Then the next time he tries that 2AM will be a different story

She was even winning and still went and called her mother for what I don't even know. Did your mother tell you to finish your husband with mouth Your mother who will even insult you join and ask you when you're going back to your house.

This guy is even sorry, what of those ones who will slap your mouth like soured red stew without any conscience? Very ridiculous something o

madridguy:
Only brain dead family will follow their son to this kind yeye waka. He paid her pride price, and never will a reasonable man goes to his wife house for any marital settlement.

midnighter:
They will now ask you if you can really be a woman or if you're just a man using female photo

Somebody chased a grown man around and around his house, got what she was looking for and then went crying to her parents, does it make sense?

If you don't enter keke can keke driver carry you

Nobody should beat anybody but then nobody should go looking for beating if they don't want it. This is not a perfect world or romance movie where people do exactly what you want or expect

If she just asked him where he had been and he snapped and started raining slaps on her then I could understand but these beans get serious weevil. How can you claim right after provoking somebody

madridguy:
She went into our room and locked the door , she was in there for a long time and the next morning , her mother and older brother was at the house and she came out of the room with her and our baby stuff and she said she was leaving me for good. I told her how sorry I was but her mother told me to get out of their faces and they left the house.

Bros, this may sound somehow but you never get wife.

Jewessgratitude:
Why would she go about telling guys about her past? Are they pure themselves?
Let her not divulge it to any man again. It happened in the past, let it remain in the past. Its not any body's business!

She should simply go on her kneels to God in prayers and ask for forgiveness. Repent genuinely and never do it again.

As for whether it will haunt her in future, she has nothing to fear as Long as she's genuinely repented nothing will haunt her but she has to marry a genuine born again brother for such not to occur cos with a non born again, I can't vouch or say he won't cheat as that is the order of the day for non born again men.

Shalom

GrossPrice:
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you and victorian ... gist steady.

funmisticqueen:
you that cannot afford 2k date. Girls have suffered

Kindheartedd:
I opened a thread sometime ago about my husband's attitude.

I won't just go into details but all I need now is leave, leave him for good.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.

I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.

My advice to young ones especially God fearing ones, don't marry a man who is just a casual Christian, who answers on paper 'Christianity' when asked which religion.

He never believed I can move forward, I struggled to raise my status by hard work n prayer, I went to a private uni, he even insulted my dad to my face that he waisted money on my for sending me to private uni, Haa, my ears twingled when he said it all because I was earning about 100k, he was earning way more than me and he'd never give me peace because he earns more. Named me all sorts of names. I saved little n resigned since there was no hope of earning more money where I worked.

When I asked to open a joint account his response was my income was meant for eating not saving. And ridiculously told me to hide my face for trying to measure him to my standard. That we don't earn the same amount and we can't jointly run an account. For days, he shamed me with that.

I boldly took a decision to resign and I almost end it all but I was putting things in place to get the best in life no matter what. Alas, God helped me and now, I'm doing well and my monthly income is daily getting more than his. I painfully went for a training and have decided to get an office and employ more hands because I can no longer handle tasks alone due to work load and he is killing the dream.

I know him, he wants to frustrate me, he knows the sky is not my limit again even, but I want to teach him a lesson that in his next life he will never talk any human being down.

He is getting worst daily by being abusive, I won't know peace if so stay with him. Now he wants to do what I do, so jealous and unsecured.

I live in a recluse due to my work and I have an abusive man, if not for my belief on God maybe I would have taken my life since.

I was abused as a child, I think the best for me now is live alone. Human beings are not worth it, I hate relationships and marriage now, like it's all a scam. I just want to be alone with my innocent kids.

Am just weak, it's going to be a shame, my friendd n family won't like my decision but I want to send a message to this man. He must learn to respect me, called my brain fish brain,? My own father waisted money on me? I will surely break grounds to send him a message.

Am just in pain, am soo so so sad. Once I leave him I will be a celibate for life. I will never allow any man to make me experience abuse again. Never!!!

SarkinYarki:
Babangida remains a national hero for removing useless Buhari in the 80s

iLegendd:
Notice and Connection

There are 7 ways to make it in the music industry

1. Controversy + Talent
2. Juju + Talent
3. Connection + Talent
4. Wealth + Talent
5. Praising God + Storytelling + Talent
6. Physical Appeal + Talent
7. Consistency + Talent

Someone like Naira Marley used number 1 to blow.

Someone like (name_removed) used number 2. Maybe, Sky B? I didn't mention any name.

Someone like 2Face and Wizkid used number 3.

Someone like Davido and Kcee used number 4.

Someone like Timaya and Duncan Mighty used number 5.

Someone like Naeto C, Kiss Daniel, and Trey Songz used number 6.

Someone like Asa and Burna Boy used number 7. Some people may think Burna used number 2, but I doubt. Most Rivers state people hardly give up until they succeed.

If a Rivers man wants to kill you, he'll not give up until he gets you killed. If a Rivers man wants to succeed in music, he will not give up until he succeeds.

You must use one of the 7 ways above with a danceable beat or at least, a melodious (catchy) instrumental to blow.

Yes, you must promote your craft even after using one of the 7 methods above, else you no go blow.

The one person that can blow without promotion is number 1 — which is controversy + talent.

Oh, do you know controversy itself is promo? So, in summary, you must choose one of the 7 options and promote till you blow. No retreat, no surrender — packaging.

There is only one person who possesses all the 7 above and that is: Davido.

You must know the method you want to use in whatever you do and stay focused. When I started selling books here on Nairaland, I chose number 1 — which is Controversy + Talent and it worked and still works and will continue to work.

TALENT ALONE IS NOT ENOUGH.

Victoronah1:
thank you so much. I've always been scared of virgins, they lack sexual experience

Goodnigga:
Yeah baby, it is true, but why always seek monetary from men u dont love and won't help if he is the in need

nedekid:
HA.