Mom007: Even before looking at your gender, I knew a man wrote this comment. My dear Sir, the rules are different with women o. What a man will settle with just a word a woman has to shout and fight to get heard. Our gender is sadly marginalized. If you tell a man no, I'm not interested, he thinks you are telling him to try harder. If you tell a man, sorry, I'm married,(as if you even need to, e no get eyes to see ni?) , he thinks you are telling him to give you gifts and try to outdo your husband in order to get you. They keep pushing until you get firm by either insulting them or giving them a brain resetting slap. Why must it degenerate to all that when the man can simply set boundaries and keep his brother away from his family?
The situation has put the wife's loyalty, respect and love for her husband to test. The husband did not orchestrate it, it just happened that the half brother seems to want his wife.
It is important for him to see his wife's reaction to the advances especially because she will get advances from other men while in marriage.
If a woman is not interested, there are ways they make it clear.
Mom007: Op, if you know you have liver, show your wife this post. Each time I reason this your story, find something wrong with it. All the instances you quoted against your wife are instances that should be used against you. Instead of you to address your brother's mess up, you are there expecting her to fight for herself. When she has you. Are you not ashamed of yourself? So she should disrespect your brother today and then you all your family will turn against her that she is the one bringing discord amongst you. You and your mother are aware of his erratic behavior now, but you are keeping it under wraps and looking for how to set the poor lady up. You sef, is there nothing sacred to you? Another man asks you to forward your children to him for whatever reason, you not only do it but you send your wife. So that you can turn around tomorrow and suspect her of doing shii. I don't even know where to start with you abi is your brother the one feeding you and your family? Better turn all this aggression you are feeling towards the right person. I mean internalize it because the only person guilty of any wrong here is You.
She doesn't have to fight the brother in-law, she only has to reject the advances or inappropriate behavior, even if she has to do that in the presence of her husband. Even if the family think she was disrespectful to them, the husband would never conclude so and the opinion of the husband is paramount.
Before the husband starts a fight in his family for her, he needs to be assured that she loves, respect and honors him.
Mom007: No body is bleeping his wife joor he is just weak, doing my brother my brother with someone who is trying to take over his world. Pstcheew. Maybe He should go and watch the oddeysey and see how odeysius handled those men who were trying to marry his wife and kill his son... Maybe then he will man up.
Let him conduct his investigation before he concludes that no body else is sleeping with his wife.
We are not in oOdeysius time, you will be charged for murder if you do that in our time. He has to deal with his wife, if she truly loves, respect him and is loyal to their marriage, she will not tolerate such inappropriate relationship from the half brother of her husband and she would have reported to her husband if the half brother made sexual advances to her.
There are a number of red flags on the part of the wife that I will not let slide in the story.
Please help me out(advice) on this , I am writing at this odd hour because I have lost my peace and I can't close my eyes and sleep .
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Please help me push it to the front page , she is a nairalander too, she sees nothing wrong in the wrong things she does . Let the world hear my story and correct me if am wrong on taking the decision
My conclusion is that you are mad already and you need to first address your mental health.
A woman you are dating told you she can't be submissive to you and she can't respect you.
She is even still acting the disrespect by accepting an offer to keep fu.c.king a boss she has f.uc.ked countlessly, in the name of a job. Wait, what job do you think the man offered her other than to be his f.uc.kmate.
You caught her severally cheating on you and you kept letting it slide. Do you think she will ever stop? Did she jazz you ni?
May God punish you if you remain in that relationship, idiot! Na that lady go kill you, infact, you are already a walking corpse.
Something happened 9 months ago, I decided to keep mute or probably just wait for the right time to commence my investigation to actually know what is going on between my step brother and my wife. So im 9 years already into my marriage, and we have 3 kids. My step brother who is the 2nd of my mum has temperamental problem. He's ..............
Since then, I have let it slide, but what actually made me bring up this issue again, was when I went to my bros house to pick some stuffs my sister sent from the USA, madam was off to the market, I called her to ask if she would like the only size 10 of the shoe I saw cos she wears 9, she didnt pick after calling like 4 times, immediately my brother called her with his own phone, she picked and was like sorry when you called I try to pick but it was nt connecting, I just weak at that moment sey wetin dey sup. Guys, ladies, from deep experiences u guys must have gone through, what do u think could be wrong and what do yall think I should do, something could be happening that if I dont unravel early, it might be the cause of ones demise or destruction.
I am gonna put myself in your shoes to respond to your request for advice.
I will stop sending my children to his house. I will conduct a DNA test on all my children. I will sound my wife out on the affair that I suspect she has with my half brother. I will let her know that the day I confirm the affair, the marriage to her will end. I will set boundaries for my half brother and my family (wife and children). He is only welcome in my house when I am at home and if my wife welcomes him in my absence, the marriage is over.
I will make the issue a matter between my wife and i. If I can't instruct her, even to avoid a family member with good reason, then she has lost respect for me. Then I can't trust her and my love for her will diminish drastically; the basis of the marriage has been destroyed.
Your wife is strongly into him and may have graduated to sleeping with him.
This is just wishful thought or speaking by faith, the activities on the government of Nigeria, precarious economy, activities of the residents of Nigeria and debt profile of Nigeria does not support this pastor's opinion.
Dsalvo: Yoruba this and Yoruba that. You envious dingbats should give it a rest. While you're still rolling around in the mud of ethnocentric hate Yorubas have made it clear they have seen the future.
Go and worry about the lack of direction and hopelessness of your respective States and region that makes you all keep flocking to the SW incessantly.
Proposal for return to regional structure does not translate to demand to be separated from Nigeria.
I thought you were schooled in a tertiary institution or secondary school, at least. Can't you comprehend simple english.
ThrownBack: Baba, patriitism is doing anything we can to stop those who are wishing the country to fail. We cannot find our hands and allow you destroy Nigeria with a vote to a senile old criminal.
You can cry me a river, I don't care. INEC indicated that it is my vote not yours; everyone is entitled to their vote.
Get your votes together and we will get ours together the aggregates determines who the leaders will be.
You are destroying the whole of your South East with IPOB, unknown gunmen, Kidnapping and killing your fellow Igbo people and non-igbos and claiming someone is trying to destroy Nigeria. You are the ones exhibiting destructive tendencies in Nigeria.
gidgiddy: And thats why we should be talking about disintegration. If Nigeria has failed and there is no hope, why are we still together?
Nigeria will remain but we are willing to let Biafra go. Nobody wants to keep you in Nigeria against your will. Infact, you are fast becoming problematic and toxic to the existence of the Nigerian nation.
We want to be progressive and successful as a nation not with divisive, arrogant, overbearing and toxic people.
Thinkam: Pain me keh, I just want each political section to be realistic and not bank on the belief that everyone sees things as they do...
Competence and common sense don't win elections
That is better, let everyone vote wisely. I don't like seeing some tribal bigots, arrogant and prideful minded igbos/Obi supporters come on this space to attack Yorubas.
Abdu81: The south west christians, knows why Osinbajo was denied, they remembered the words of Murics, they are aware of the Lagos hajib tussle,they are still mourning the Owo mascre. The Muslim Muslim ticket favor them,didn't it?
They are fools aren't they?
February is not far oga chill.
Don't speak for the South West people. They will speak with their votes during Election in 2023.
Mstick: @Wallade you see how daft you're? I don't give a damn if you guys want to vote a chicken or a drug Baron to rule your region but you see this Nigeria? E no go HAPPEN!
Your Asiwaju sold Nigeria in 2015, but you see this 2023? It will not HAPPEN!
Call me IPOB because I know in your closeted mind everybody against the presidency of your shaky shaky daddy is and I accept that tag wholeheartedly but you see Rivers State like we did in 2015/2019 we will not reinforce your failure.
Vote whoever you want to vote and we would vote who we want to vote. You are just an idiot and that is why you have always failed politically.
All your South East vote plus the Rivers State vote that you are claiming, add it together. It will not get you victory. That is a guarantee!
You guys are so daft when it comes to politics. A common uneducated dustbin man from the North has more political sense than you guys.
Keep beating your chest there; you no pass where you dey. Idiot! You will die of hating the South West tribe.
You no get sense at all. Whoever employed you to do these e-campaign and internet attack and harassment on the South West has failed and you are going to further destroy their chances.
What is wrong with you? Castigating and antagonizing the South West will only get you failure. Ode!
Mstick: They feel supporting Tinubu will make their region better, after all Shettima said that's their plan. Food will be grown in the north and sent to Lagos for processing. We SS and SE can drink our oil.
I saw a thread where Tinubu supporters were happy saying Wike will work for Tinubu and I can't stop laughing.
Rivers State got one of the highest PVC registration this cycle and it wasn't because of Tinubu or Wike, I am part of the people that mobilized INEC to different locations, called, joined groups most of us even went to riverine areas on boats for this reason, why do you think we did that?
Is it for Atiku? Wike? Or Tinubu?
Even PDP members in Rivers State don't like wike for imposing a governorship candidate, and this clowns are happy that he will "work for Tinubu".
Rivers State Obidients will be hitting the streets soon, what you saw in Nassarawa is small.
We DON'T reinforce failure over here.
A man sold over 200 million people for his own personal ambition and you want us to support him.
Can you people just shut and stop this counterproductive approach. What is wrong with igbos and Obi supporters?
What are your fears? Leave the Yoruba tribe alone to vote their conscience.
Na you wan cast the vote for them. Wetin concern you if they vote a goat or ram or hen.
It is every man to his vote, sell your party or person if you wish but leave tribal bigotry and stereotypical views out. It will only affect you negatively.
Richy4: Good but they should check the clause very well.. The idea of someone accusing a player of sexual offences leading the player being suspended even when charges has not been made should not be entertained...
Just imagine our dear Salah being suspended of sexual harrassment by a mischief maker when we have crucial meeting with Man city... After City sends Liverpool to the cleaners, she returned with a little crocodile tears and say.. Oh!!sorry I mistook him for someone else... And we have lost 3 points
I can't support this push to punish an accused player for sex offence especially when the player hasn't been convicted.
What if the accusation turned out false or unprovable? The player would have been punished unjustly and mentally traumatized.
The ladies would take advantage of this clause and the ladies will become a weapon or tool used for political wars in the football world.
Mason Greenwood would have solved the challenge with Man Utd attack. He is a good right-winger and he is still being paid 100,000 pounds per week but he has been blacklisted and suspended by Man Utd since January 2022 yet his case has not been charged to court, maybe still under investigation.
Is Man Utd not suffering on the football pitch and world? The player is also stigmatized and traumatized.
Now we can imagine how corrupt this deceptive Mohammodu Buhari can be. If this PMB - APC government is investigated, we will discover that it is probably the most corrupt in our history.
The day you elect me, you have defeated poverty by 50%. Nigerian current situation, is like a person pouring water into a basket expecting it to get full. Nigeria is loosing 75% of the income it’s supposed to have.
If you defeat corruption, you have defeated extreme poverty in Nigeria. Because at every point in time, Nigeria has always had enough resources to end poverty in the country. @Pres_Adebayo