₦airaland Forum

Beverlyjean:
Cheating is a choice and if any woman is doing it to spite her man, it's her own wahala...when the consequences of her actions comes calling, she should also get ready for it... again ,only dumb girls will c cheating as a competition ... just know that it's easier for a divorced man to remarry compared to a divorced woman ...besides I dont think any right thinking man will marry a woman that cheated on her husband

Hmmmm are you really living in the present.I guess you are wearing a plaited skirt with loops on tiny belt and long sleeve shirt button neck.please say me well to daddy kumuyi.

pocohantas:
It is not about equating, it is just simple Maths that it takes two to fck.

Except men are fcking themselves or goats. Nature has equated it. That is common sense which is actually not common. Men (which includes you), should face it and stop whining.

Thanks for taking time to break it down to the ancient cave woman.don't be surprise indisguise ,she is looking for a husband.we know them ass licker.

Beverlyjean:
Only dumb women will equate men cheating with women cheating... no one wants to hear that their moms are all over the place 4kn compared to dad... no one will pick the mom cheating over the dad ... lets b truthful to ourselves for once please...

It's not lady like... men can act goofy in public , get drunk and misbehave and even smoke weed in the open but it's not ladylike for women to act same way... there's a reason y we hardly c female bike or cab drivers...not like anyone is stopping us from doing that... no one really expects the woman to pay house rent or wedding Bill's...only a woman that's bitter or steal thinks like a child will equate men cheating to women...

Sad you are still in the cave world.embrace the truth .60% of married women are cheating on code.just because you are not into it , doesn't mean others aren't. Its only going to get worst.deal with it.

Beverlyjean:
That is actually their best striker... no wonder he stopped scoring...he actually dropped 4 against Valencia in the last round... some men will now avoid taking women seriously

Go and hug transformer,when men cheats everything is cool.but when it is a woman all hell is let loose.he either forgive her or he moves on shit happens.

lefulefu:
of course i know many white women cook for their husbands .even the ones who have jobs also take their time cooking for their men.there was this guy i subscribed to on youtube.the guy is a fitness entreprenuer and his wife is also into fitness as well and a nutritionist by profession.It is his wife who prepares his meals and anytime she is in the kitchen preparing his meals he always airs it to his fans on the type of food he eats and calories intake and blah blah.The kitchen is well stocked with home implements dat make cooking chorus easier.Its the wife that handles everything when it comes to cooking and they are both americans.even chimamanda adichie who says she is a hardcore feminist might even be preparing meals on code for her husband.u would even be shocked dat she would even be the traditional type of igbo lady who would kneel down to present food to her husband but outside she would be blowing hot .Any lady who listens to what these influencers say on social is just doing herself .lady ikeji said its bad for a lady to have sex outside marriage but she carry belle outside marriage abi?

What's all this rant about food,you must be a glutton. Go marry a female cheff and every one rest.

bettermike:
Exactly. Shamefully true.

Why are you so bittered.what he wrote is just what it is.deal with it.

ArchangeLucifer:
Useless olosho claiming 'feminist' & deceiving gullible women that she is "working" & "hustling".

You hate on men daily but you cannot eat, sleep or wear clothes without a man.

Your entire existence depends on a man yet you have the nerve to insult men.

Just like every other 'feminist' on nairaland who took afer this wh0re, they have nothing to offer us. Just their dried up, fish-scented and venereal disease-ridden cunts.

They are the ones that claim "bosslady", "miss independent"etc on social media but they are solely dependent on men for everything.

Bloody hypocrites. Hopeless, worthless, shiftless and hilariously ignorant creatures.

I support feminism 100% now. Gender Equality is a must!

All the domestic violence, murder & aggravated assault cases this month have been perpetrated by women.

These cheap sluts have hidden under "weaker sex" for so long & must no longer be pampered.

Let them realise first hand, that without men they are nothing.

You really sound pained,try and drink water.

myles16:
This should be Sifax port terminal Tincan, Plenty girls are learning mechanic in Lagos these days, saw one with overall and hijab the other day under a car and i was surprised.

Not all these mumu slay mamas and twitter feminists causing ruckus upandan

They need more scholarships.

Napolito:
The guy has actually had hectic life in d past 3years, so d issue of rape accusation made him make up his mind to just end it all.

What you wrote is just what it is.looking at his pictures you will see dude was unstable mentally.timid,reserve and weird.been in 9ja would have done him good. Sad

ethicallyright:
He should be cremated and his ashes sent on the next space shuttle outta earth. He is not a man.

He's a fool, alive and or dead. The biggest one I have seen.

I know a simp who would do same. Her name is
Sanpipita .

Fathers should question their boys when they are 12 , before teenage , and ask them if they find meaning to life. If their answer is in the negative, euthanasia should be administered accordingly.

The European suit the dude is wearing is not less than a 100,000 Naira. His upbringing , everything , I mean.

Don't waste your scarce resources on a simp who isn't ready to live. The only place a man should commit suicide is at the battle field and he must not do so without 3-5 casualties on the enemies' side .

Video coverage suicide , sniper dinner and what have you are for pussies.

Bleep all subhumans who bleed once a month. All the bitches that come for crumbs in my crib will suffer for this.

You mean the cheap grannut sellers girls right.

Saao:
Make the man divorce her fast fast. Before that man slapped her, she was running her mouth any how. All those that supported her, I guess u will take care of her when she finally move out of the man's house. Yes the man slap her which is extreme but breaking bottle on his end can kill him faster than slap. Assuming he died? A woman must learn to be humble, any home with humble woman, peace reign in such home. Feminist please don't quote me.

And a man should learn to be tolerant. Any home with a patient and tolerant home the marriage always last.

babaolofin:
Was that his first time of driving that motor? None of them does not know how to drive. When they drive at ABU and other places, they don't kill people, it is at barracks where those on sentry duties ensure vehicles slow down or stop before entering that they reverse not to injure but to kill why reversing.

Why has it never happened in University campuses where you have a lot of youths driving their parents vehicles? Have you gotten report of Students driving in the campuses killing their girlfriends while reversing within the campuses? They do have accidents on the main roads or minor in the campuses.

In barracks that I know very well, inside out, nobody around, no vehicle or person around just the victim and the three person in the car and none of them look back while the driver is reversing. The reverse takeoff speed is lower than forward takeoff speed. While in motion, the law of dynamics, you have to come to state of rest (stop) before you can reverse. Between stop, reverse and hitting her the first time, none of them shouted or called her name (remember, the boys or guys are so excited to see a LADY, a big girl, an ex classmate and none of them looked back or shouted her name, no vehicle or persons around at that time only the lady was passing and the three guys in the vehicle). Those are three stages in the event. There are other stages, the call she received before her sister brought her to base. The calls after she was dropped and died less than one hour (30 minutes) after she was dropped by her elder sister. There are other stages. The release of information bit by bit is to enable the killers gather enough information from public opinion and reactions. Based on my submission, they can now arrange some people as key witnesses.

Our Intelligence Units are very poor, they are just after money, after security budget or vote, MOSSAD will burst that report effortlessly.

Naval Commander, Oluwayemisi Ogundana was killed at Jaji last year by a PTA member of the school she was the officer in charge. The naval authority also handed over the case to police. End of the matter.

Good analyses.

sinceraconcept:
because you are a real slut before marriage and that's why guys should never marry a woman they met on social media without knowing their past. Most married women I know are sticking to their husband's sugarcane alone

Swallow the bitter truth dear,it is what it is.sad

Coder2Client:
Kudos to Beyonce. She knows how manage her family, I guess.

Kim looks like a great porn star.

Hmmmm don't be deceive her day of reckoning has not yet come.is not easy staying married and not get distracted, especially high flyers like them.

Baiser:
Its not easy, to be taking only one type of sugarcane

Glad as a man you no this sad truth

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RTSC:
Yes.

Chinese and Indians are as patriarchal as Nigerians.

The only difference is that their wives did not forget where they are coming from.

What is wrong with a 50 year old man?
He is still strong and capable.


Why did would a lady marry him and allow him to bring them over if they don't like his age?

Your last paragraph MONEY

hammer8:
MY BEST ADVICE TO MEN IS UNDERSTAND THAT WHICHEVER WOMAN U MARRY IS YOUR BOSS.


NA SO SHE TAKE UNDERSTAND IT, ESPECIALLY AS THEY GETTING OLDER IN THE MARRIAGE.


YOUR BEST BET IS TO MARRY YOUNG, HIT THE GYM AND MAKE SURE SHE UNDERSTAND U ARE A STRONG MAN ESPECIALLLY IN THE BEDROOM.


WEN SHE DONE TIRE, EVEN IF YOU ARE TIRED, TELL HER E REMAIN SMALL, DIG DEEP AND LASH HER AGAIN.


THEN ON ROAD, BE VERY TEMPERMENTAL WITH ALL THE MEN THAT GET IN YOUR WAY.

THEN TAKE HER TO THE GYM AND FOR A RUN AND TRAIN HER TO BE FIT.

SHE GO FEAR ABI NA RESPECT U AUTOMATICALLY.

ALSO MAKE MONEY BEFORE U MARRY.

All this to a 50yr old man right

RTSC:
I don't understand this your argument.

Respect is the problem here.

A 28 year old that cannot respect her 50 year old husband will not respect a 33 year old one.

Men have been marrying below their social status since time immemorial.

That is how wealth flows.

Women don't even like marrying at their social status anyway.

They Marry up.

Dede wake up times have change.this is not our papa and mama generation but the milenia.a lot of ladies are woke even the nkemjis of isi alangwa.

RTSC:
Yes.

Chinese and Indians are as patriarchal as Nigerians.

The only difference is that their wives did not forget where they are coming from.

What is wrong with a 50 year old man?
He is still strong and capable.

Why did would a lady marry him and allow him to bring them over if they don't like his age?

Dear1, all shades of wrong with the age gap.never be deceive the girls that marry older men are greedy girls, take home this truth in case you get to 50 and you wanna try.22yrs gap is a whole lot almost a grapa status.how many accomplish ladies have you seen marrying older men.1 out of 20.please share this to the men folks look out for your social class. A lot of ladies detests father figure but partners.sad truth

RTSC:
Exploit like how?

The men brought these women to America.
It is even the men that will fund her academic and professional pursuits.

Why would they do that if they don't like her or don't want her progress as a strong woman.?

The problem is lack of common sense.

What you will swallow from your husband, you don't want swallow again because you are in America.

The land of the free and the home of the brave is entering their head.

The men deserve worst,why couldn't they marry women of their social class,are there no ready made Nigerian female nurses out there in American.no dear they wanted under age girls to control right.a 28yr old lady to a 50yr old man.tueh they deserve worst.marry your social class and rest.stop looking for who to train rather wait and train your off springs .

RTSC:
It's crazy.

I don't know what goes on in their minds.

It's like sense disappears the moment they land in America.

A highly paid nurse should be a blessing to her husband and her children.
The reverse is the case many of the time.


They should look at the Chinese and Indian communities and learn.

Are the Chinese and tribes you mentioned controlling and egoistic,sad this is a typical description of a Nigerian man.just look at the age a 28yr old lady to a 50yr man.tueh

gowonmaharajah:
Ladies if you know you can't be submissive to your husband's-to be,better don't marry.if not ehn you go hear am.
Men are egoistic and don't joke with their authority.

Authority without money.park well abeg

TonyeBarcanista:
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What do you expect him to do? As long as a man provides, protect, leads and defends his household, he has done enough.

Kiss the truth

No rather you kiss the truth ,a man providing only and not bonding with his children is nothing but a class A failure.

Onyi22:
Who be this new goat for Nairaland?

Actually an old goat.

What ever gives you peace and happiness,go for it.you only live once let no one tell you different.

iamsea:
Why would a sane human fill up her bum with silicon..
Bum she will use to sit on w.c to poo?
Bum that can be layed and still be abandoned for a bumless lady?
Bum that can scatter anytime?
Was she not later dumped by a guy she bleached for.. Nigga even married a chocolate skinned lady..
We africans need to start investing in our medular rather than on bum and bre*st...

See your hypocrisy when men go for dick enlargement,who complains,sex enhancement drugs ,muscular steroid enhancement et ell,what ever you do to your body should no one business,live and let other people live biko

lozanni:
I wish some single mothers will borrow some sense. The single mother had through her lack of intelligence driven away her husband or suitors who would have got married to her and now she transferred that foolishness to her daughter's home in order to destroy it, instead of her to advise the young couple to sit down and communicate with each other to solve their problems which are not too weighty to be resolved.
This single mother scenerio played out in the marriage of a friend of mine. The single mother came to stay with the friend and his wife, the single lady's daughter and turned out to be a thorn in the flesh of the guy who was having financial challenges then and was depending on his wife who had a good job. It got to the extent that if the guy drives out with the family car and comes back home, that the mean mother inlaw will resort to scolding him that he should not touch the car again as it was her daughter who owned it.
The above maltreatment of the friend was supported by his wife who was also treating the guy with disrespect based on her mother's advise.
As fate would have it, the guy's sister who lived in the US visited and witnessed the bad treatment been given her brother by his wife and mother inlaw and decided to file papers for the friend to relocate to the US.
Today, the friend is doing well in the States and has picked three of his kids to live with him in the US, while waiting for the last child to complete his primary education before he joins them over there.
The disrespectful wife now seeing her husband is doing very well over there in the States now calls him, speaking to him with utmost respect, but the friend still does not trust her motives as he has not said anything about her joining him over there.
The windmill of the gods are always turning round, a person might be down today, but tommorow becomes very wealthy and influential. Thats why we should treat everyone with respect.

Cry me a river ,1. Your story has no bearing,in the op case is the wife rich and the bread winner. 2. You have only heard from the op have you heard from the wife.why take sides. You didn't cheat but admitted you cheated right who does such.I beg put your emotions in check biko.

alizma:
For people in this kind of your situation, I call a time like this an opportunity to get back what you ve lost but while expecting that, be ready for the unexpected. That is, is either you succeeded in restructuring your family appropriately or lost your partner.
First of all, you need to make it clear to your wife both in speech and in action that you were the one that married her irrespective of how little or big you paid for her dowry. For the fact that you officially requested for her hand in marriage and her family accepted, God and not man has crown you with the grace to be called her husband and should be respected as such.
Now on the issue at hand, I will advise that you make police report on her disappearance from your house with your kids and also for your safety as you can not fully explain what she meant by you will hear from her family.
Two, make sure the decision on when she will return to your house is taken by you if eventually your difference is resolved either by police or family elders. Don't accept a situation where by they just finish discussing and say you can now follow your husband. Make sure you chose a week or two from the day of settlement for her to return. Finally, as your wife, except she is facing certain challenge which she is expected to politely communicate to you, she has no right denying you sex. If she continue to deny you sex, my brother, respectfully divorce her. I am not a party to people who believe that you must stay in a particular marriage till the end. The decision to stay together till the end is a joint decision and should be protected by both parties and not one party. Success

Too many pervert walking around,is sex the only thing you can lay claim on from the op write up.then divorce your own wife if she denies you sex,kids on the loose.

dinachi:
Your wife is already a lesbian!

Warp brain lesbian and she is married with 2kids.is google really your friend,if it is then check out the word bisexual.

Justdogood:
Guy. @op.

You are just too weak for my liking.
1, let her have the children. If I am you hmmmmm. I can go all out out to defend myself once I know am innocent.
See. Time teaches all of us a lesson.
If am in your shoes, though I wouldn't wanna be. I will not call her again. As long as she is away.
I will change all the keys to that house.
I will stop sending her even if its 1kobo. Since she decided to move out and hide her location.
See, women are alwasy good at this they play card no 1, watch ur reactions and play card 2, 3, 4 and so on.
Bone her for now and dont even feel bothered. You can do it.

2. Shun her mothers words and actions. its your mistake from the first time. Which is letting her come live with you guys.

3. There has to be rules and guidelines for the house if she is going to come back.
See, when the going gets tough, the tough gets going. They say when the birds have decided to fly without perching. We the hunters will learn to shoot without aiming.
The rules should include.
-Her mother can come visiting, but will not stay more than 2weeks
-sex now has to be scheduled or timed or you should be the one to initiate divorce. The sex should be at least twice weekly
-no abusive words from mum inlaw or your wife again. As long as they are under your roof. Also you
-the next time she leaves the house without your notice and not disclosing her whereabouts, that day the marriage ends. As you will file for divorce.
Cos i have noticed. Women use that which you cherish the most to threaten you cos they know you are scared to lose it.
Thats why she is always using divorce or your children. Cos she feels you are scared.
Please add as much stringent rules as u can.

Some black women are like the devil. His name in igbo is "ekwensu" meaning "ikwe ya esu" translation "if you agree, it starts".
What ever a woman does, once you let that one slide, its has started. More will come. Am just soo pained watch or hearing this from my fellow man.
Nope. I wont take it.
Please emphasize on that sex part well for her. And let her know it just has to be by the rules above.
Infact stop being scared of divorce cos thats what her mum keeps telling her to use or maybe ur kids.
If she wants to go, let her go. Let her go.
Whats all this. You weren't physical or abusive and then the cheating issue is just on mere accusations jeez

Cos the way your marriage is going, if you dont get strong and tough, you will end up being turned into a simp or a sis, or a vegetable husband who has an alpha wife, or they will push you till you die or commit suicide.

Sit up father of the house,
Sit up my fellow man,
Sit up papa mmadu,
You are the man,
You are the head of that house lead that house. Dont let any mother inlaw or wife chnage this.

Finally if she decides to chnage. In all aspects
You can soft pedal on the above listed conditions.

Thanks

No wonder your own woman left,who gives condition for sex,rules and order in a marriage ,his marriage is not army Barack ,take your egoistic self far off,the op knows better.