₦airaland Forum

HarunaWest:
Oya come over nah, whether you self wont collect slap,see your careless talk...Na una type dem dey beat like talking drum for house...nansense
You want to form feminist(broke feminists) but you ladies cant work harder.
Una dey find man as breadwinner.
Lemme advice you aunty, never insult or rub shoulders with a man due to ineffiencies beyond him,you go collect straught up.

Dont argue with broke dudes talk less of an aboki.you look me in the face and slap me,for what ? Who born you.is that what you inherited from your dad.6feet awaits you.for sure I guarantee you.low life only silly and damage sick sychos support domestic violence. ladies beware na them be this.

chinchonglee:
You are very useless for this comment!!!
The wife deserve unending beating!

You only beat because you feel you are stronger,but be careful many are not alive to tell stories.watch your ego you are warned.

HarunaWest:
Sorry to say but if I were in your shoes, that slap will land on her cheeks.
I hate when people don't appreciate someone's efforts.
If she want to live flamboyantly, then she should learn to make her own money. I won't take an insult on my person from someone that isnt contributing to my development.
Don't apologize for slapping her, just lock up. You are the man of the house not the other way round.
However, if she doesn't deem it fit to apologize to you, just dey look am.
If you dare apologize, you will kuku loose the remaining small respect that she has for you cos from look of things that woman has been brainwashed by material stuff. Cheers

You are warp in reasoning, you slap an adult all because she is a wife.count your self lucky she is meek,se bi you go lie down sleep abi,walahi you go wake up for yonder.se na man you be.nonsense

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pocohantas:
Maybe you missed this, “it is okay if they don’t want him, but no need to embarrass him”. I am an unrepentant gold-digger, my man knows. I wouldn’t date OP, but I sure wouldn't call him a beggar because he works as a security man. That is not me being “our” own enemy, it is just common sense and basic courtesy.

Anything else?

Nne, pardon my outburst biko.is just that, i just dont get it the way some guys reason,you can't barely feed well ,not even a decent apartment ,worst of all a nice take home pay,but what is upper most is secureing a relationship with the opposite sex.you wan dieee.85% of the time is doesn't work.you going to be cheated on .who wants to flash a mai-guard as a date Or boyfriend.relationship needs funding take it or leave it.and mind you he has a mother and siblings that is not his concern but a woman.geez he should stay focus save up is paltry income,build up himself ,add other skills to get his A game straight.then when he start seeing his income breath ,he can then pick up a bue.how had is this to comprehend

ericsmith:
please make us understand, whats wrong or inappropriate about a low income earner seeking r/ship.
Recently my landlord lost is wife to cancer n in bitterness d man was tellin us how he married the woman into a one room, just bed & fan, his mom paid the brideprice buh today they have over six houses in my area alone minus other states cars naa even small thing ...
E money was a broke ass wen he met his wife,according to OBj 1st wife she couldnt believe she wuld settle for OBJ considering the poverty written all over him when they met.... its even best to meet ur spouse when struggling & trying to build a better life

And I presume you know the frustration that comes with struggling. Which kind of love exist were poverty exist. And all the names you mention were mai-guards,you should have women in your space,why not introduce one of them to op.take this piece of advice intimate relationship is not meant for struggling guys,if not frustration will kill you and not the Job.in your struggle I presume you will also expect loyalty from your girl right.hmmm with 25k take home is well.please allow the op focus on his mai-guard hustle.one day jungle go mature

pocohantas:
Sad one. There is really no much hope for the Nigerian graduate/youth.

You are not the problem, OP. The people who look down on you are the problem. It is okay if a man is not your choice, but it is very low to put down a man’s hustle. Especially in this generation where delayed gratification is going extinct.

OP, people who understand the concept of hardwork and time, wouldn’t act the way those girls do. Nigerians are very vile creatures on the average. They look down on people doing those jobs you do, cleaners, drivers, security men...etc. Ironically these are the people that make your work easier. They are same people that can mess you up badly.

That is why I always say, the true test of a person’s character isn’t how they treat those above them, it is how they treat those below them. Those people they feel they owe nothing. People they think can amount to nothing.

Try finding something to augment your resources. There are various skills to learn, selfpity won’t get you anywhere.

I guess you are still single why not accept a relationship with him ,then help him rise.should op be talking relationship in this his situation,or working and saving had to rise.we are our own enemy.

[quote author=scoundrel post=89742961]My brother is wondering who this old woman is. Her mates have around five kids now.[/quote

And are queuing up for palatives.5children ko 7children ni,live and let others live,we can not all be the same.

Cammo:
You have a marital problem this serious and decided to bring it to Nairaland infested with
guttersnipes, deranged lesbians, expired feminists, heartbroken ex housewives, oloshos living in a single room, angry single ladies and dirty, jobless single girls.
Good for you, bro.

You are the psychopath here,cause if you read through all post ,you will notice that guys have been against him most and not the females,but chauvinism has blinded your sight.if you have nothing to contribute,look for water and drink ,then continue reading. Mitchew

gregyboy:
Guy marriage is not a do or die affair

Send her parking to her fathers house to learn how to be a good wife....

WHILE SHE IS AWAY FLIRT AROUND AND LET IT BE OBVIOUS, WHEN I SAY FLIRT NO GO FALL INLOVE WITH ANOTHER WOMAN OOH

while she is at her father's house let her know you can do without her, and you only come to visit her because of your child

When she finally get back to the house, her brain go don reset.....


If you didnt offend her she has no right to keep sex from you, only on the case you wronged her, and if you force sex on her by this it is considered pure rape,

Hahahaha cave man rant.how many ladies do you see getting married from their father's house,go check 80% are living free and nice in their own creep.so which papa house are you sending her to.except na secondary school girl. While you will are flirting in her absent ,she will equally be doing same, abi you Don forget say Facebook, badoo ,exotiicnigeria and the likes full ground.ogbeni sitt down and communicate with your wife ,this is not the 90s but the melinium ,women are different

eazzzy1:
Most working class girls are like this. There are many men who are also like this. They feel threatened with the goodness of their partners they would prefer it didn’t happen.

OP you are normal, as long as you don’t physically/intentionally do anything to sabotage his progress, it’s jealousy/fear which are basic emotions.

You really are only looking out for yourself, but by doing so wishing someone else bad, it’s good you have acknowledged these emotions, whenever it comes to mind again prays for him and wish him blessings.

Nice and mature write up ,tells a lot about your up bringing. Kudos

Well if ur an icon, u have to wear clothes that matches everything..but as she said she will juz go to church & not in the red carpet..I will let her pass..

But TBH, her style is a mess..having a green locks doesn't need to paired with red tops...it wud look like a walking X'mas tree..plus that Retro trousers is a no no...And not to mention the bag she was using..

Are you a female or male ?

BigJoe19:
I don't think your quote is meant for me, maybe the OP. In Nigeria we have many 25years old that still stay with their parents.
It's not easy to be a man

Even 30+

This is naija nothing will happen,domestic violence is our birth right.now watch how goons like him will spit on this thread eg,she was running her mouth,she provoked him .she wasn't respectful and bla bla.and I ask if Anthony Joshua should abuse you will you attack him,guess not,but you know what ? You only hitt who you know you are stronger than.sad

AFONJACOW:
Nothing new here, every husband and wife fight once in their lifetime , at times openly or behind the scene what matters most is spirit of reconciliation... My dad is an old soilders and he has taste good side of abroad as well, let's say he's well exposed in life, he always want everything to go his way even till date , despite me his last child is in his late 30s married with kids ,when ever I'm around on a visit, he still see us a kids which at times doesn't go down with me, my mom use to tell us many fight they faught as couples which we never knw, she use to tell us that married is not that ever greeny, sweetier or happy ever after, once in a while couples put up a fight, as a child I saw them at times having serious querrelling but they do settle their difference between themselves without involving anyone, it didn't influenced me in my married, way of life is a choice... Lol at times I intentionally love to provoke madam so we can argue small but we settle our quarrel in the other room

Thank god your mum is still alive,most made it 6feet below.since there is nothing new,try and throw madam some slaps add up kicks then punches,after all na you be the man,and truelly is nothing new. a Nigerian man and domestic violence is 5&6. nothing new

Sirvingeo:
The woman is toxic and very ungrateful .She insulted the man like a kid

And the man that repeatedly told her to get out and stupid is what? Why can't you guys be just and not bias,you look at a grown woman at the face and call her stupid let alone the mother of your kids and in front of your kids,the man is the stupid one here(slow at thinking) am not surprise cause an Igbo man has no regard or respect for a woman ,she is lucky is happening in the USA,if it was naija she would lost a tooth,the jungle were domestic violence is celebrated, even on this forum read some post and you will see simp so he no fit slap her,abi no be belt him hold for hand so,if na me eee and so forth .really sad

Naija246:
nah issues like this dey make me fear to marry
Modern women are nothing to write home about.
They are always very loud, rude and generally unpleasant.
I pity men rushing into marriage with these women;you will regret the day you were born by the time she starts dealing with you after marriage.

By the way guys, don't be fooled by her pre marriage calmness;it's all a ploy to hook you and get that ring!

How much are you worth that a woman will be struggling to marry you.mitchew

meobizy:
She’s still a child to me. She looks about sixteen or seventeen years of age. Well, this is Naija where adult men chase fifteen year old females on the regular. It’s good to know he has a child as big as she is. Now, let me continue with my day.

You mean phidos.

rrrer3:
How you can easily be making atleast N3,000 ON DAILY BASIS LEGITIMATELY.
All payments goes directly into your local bank account. This is not a SCAM please.

For more details, check my signature.

Are you the owner of the netcom your site is not properly structure. Get a better template and it will become a spinner.

soluwole100:
Am a private secondary school teacher in Lagos with wife and two kids. My school is a no work no pay and have finished all my savings in feeding my family due to this lockdown.
My kids have been crying for food since morning, please assist me with any amount to buy foodstuffs for my family. Mods don't delete this I plead
GTB
0504216047

Was your wife not working or has savings ,or you married down

This is what 85% of our police force should look like.congrat man nice chistle body cut.

beautyhd:
Life is all about taking risks

Calculated risk not blind risk

WUdec:
It is distasteful to apologize for expressing your opinion. A forum is meant for that.

If one gets irked by your post, it would be ok to reply to your opinion with respect and maturity and not animosity, hate and utter stupidity.

Khia has a long history of abuse on Nairaland and she feels its ok because on here she could never get banned. I would not blame her because this is a Nigerian site. She would never try it in any American website and not get banned.

If you listen to her words, you'd notice a lot of immaturity, anger, bitterness and senseless talk. The attitude of a lonely, frustrated and confused being. Half the time she spends on every post that has something to say about African-Americans is spent bashing Nigerian men.

One's upbringing can be noticed by the way one represents his family outside the home. Be it a forum, the streets, Barbershop or wherever.

To apologize to someone that acts like a hood rat despite the absence of the physical appearance is demeaning to your personality. You never attacked no one. You simply stated your opinion. And i could never be the type to be easily swayed to accept someone else's ideas simply because she says or feels she is right. It would say a lot about my personality.

If you are gonna air your opinion next time, stand firm on it. Never give in to a weak, vulnerable and unstable woman just because her emotions have been affected by what you feel is just

I despise females like Khia and would eat them for lunch if they ever came my way.

So lady, save that bitterness for an AA forum where they would treat you like the vile person you are and stop disturbing people with baseless gibberish all the time.

No tengo tiempo para tonteria

You are a very silly fellow not to notice or read all the attacks she has been getting here,even the op knows how to manage words around.won't be surprise if you are a mysogist.I respect a woman of her person standing for what she knows is the truth,so let her be.won't be surprise if you are an Igbo guy, where women are silent when a man is talking. Warp brain

izubext007:
amateur getting married just to create a scene

This is what men get when they marry down.the girl in question is still a kid.she acted out of reflex which is very common with kids.rip to the phedophile.

jaxxy:
Lefulefu on the beat. I think ive learnt how to pronounce ur moniker now. Making sense all day.

Men shud learn how to detect gals prone to easily changing with environment and circumstances. They are not worth investing in bt then a wife shudnt be made to be a financial investment either, working for u like sm bondage or modern day slavery. It shud be a free will thing of appreciation as with any other humanbeing.

When a person has always been broke u can't easily know their real character, it takes a special skill and experience to know, even the broke person smtimes doesn't know his or her own real character either bt it usually swings the wrong way.

When u see sm1 with a good level of exposure and still well mannered. Those kind of people are Gold. Solid Gold!

That is called social class, let men stop marrying down. But marry ladies in their social class and threads like this on nairaland will seize to exist.I can't just get it when enlighten,expose,educated working class brothers end up with broke ladies all in the name of am are hero,so that she can see you as a demi god,it always end in tears.go for your social class.

Eniolakiite:
No one should ever be ashamed of putting their happiness first.

Women in Africa sacrifice their life goals and dreams every time in the name of marriage and child bearing and sometimes the marriage leaves them in hot tears.

So African women nowadays don’t want that and are changing to being okay with baby mama and solo living.

Loud it.

[quote author=RamessesIV post=89306416]Yeah that's one thing I love Latin women,they are family oriented more than African American and they take good care of themselves[/quotes
How many Latinos have you seen in 9ja,in case you decide to come back home,corona virus is an eye opener.guys just woke on your person and you be alright.leave the African man mentality behind.

oshaosha2014:
You are stupid for telling a man to go and marry his mother. I see nothing wrong with the way Nigerian men were brought to be the man and be in control of their relationships. Real men don’t do that 50/50 shit. It is better for a man to just be on his own than deal with any useless lady who thinks she can’t serve a man. Your place as a woman is to serve your man.

Your eye go neat wen you enter Yankee.continue to they splash saliver

Eniolakiite:
My view is many Africans don’t have a good cultural identity.

We move to Germany, we behave like them. We move to UK, we behave like them immediately. We move to US, France...and so on and we keep behaving like them. It’s unfortunate.
I see Indian men and women who immigrated here who still act their values and culture irrespective of how much dollars they earn or where they work.

But Africans, immediately they cross that Atlantic ocean like this, we change everything and no originality again. It’s unfortunate.

Stop changing your real self because of change of location.

Are you implying the Nigerian men should act their egotistical nature there known for their persona.girl there is america not 9ja it won't work.talking down and treating a woman less works here not there.

lefulefu:
those yankee based naija guys who go back to naija to get younger wives such marriages always end in a sad note.Once she steps her foot in the US she grows wings instanta .after the guy trains her in school in most cases in medical school she will divorce him collect his house,car and other properties..prevent him from seeing his kids and get a younger lover for herself that will be smashing her in the house bought by her ex husband

Hmmmm I always laugh my heart out in sympathy when I see older guys going for younger women.the sad truth is the younger woman also wants a younger man,but because they are broke they relax and settle for older men,and when fix they move to their heart desire and those that refuse to move because of financial security,cheat with some one of their age bracket.but it is difficult for an African man,most especially Nigerian men to accept this home truth,you always hear them say men marry down.pray this marrying down does not lead to early 6feet.