₦airaland Forum

jumper524:
This one is a criminal, just that nnamdi kanu gave him a platform to look legal.

ipob is a criminal organisation and their leader Kanu is a criminal fraud.

Never once has this happened. NURTW...a body of mindless touts and pseudo-criminals concerning its illiterate self with the legitimate activities of a professional body like NLC.

I have never been a political writer but Tinubu will be 1000 times worse than Buhari.

A thug and drug pusher can never change.

TyroneP:
You know all those stories you read online and you say, ‘eiyahh, stories that touch.” Hmm, my sister, that is my story, o!

This man, yes, I will refer to him as this man. When I met him years back, I was already working and driving a small car, you know those Picantos that flooded Lagos in those days? Yes, I was one of those who owned one. I was lucky to have landed a good job but aside from that, na sharp Ibo babe I be na, I know how to do market well.
I started a shuttle bus business on the side; for a church. I got my younger brother to run it for me. After about two years, we got another one; at this time, my husband and I had begun to court, he was doing business in Dubai then.
Then Dubai was a very hot destination for Nigerians and I honestly thought his business was doing good.

What was he doing? Buying and selling na? What else? All kinds of stuff; computer parts, female wears…stuff, sha!
Ok, when the matter got to the point of Marriage, he went to know my people in the village. They met with his, you know the rest how these things are, we had our Igba kwu and church. A few years later the kids began to come, we have five children!
Along the line, his business just began to crumble and this happens when you are fraudulent; you cannot sustain good business on fraud, you just can’t!

To be honest, I began to suspect he wasn’t doing genuine business shortly after we got married. He was dodgy about certain things, certain monies coming in, you know, I would ask him for certain papers and he was quite dodgy about them. I decided to mind my own business, after all he had been doing his thing before we met, so which one be my own?
I also knew I had to separate my business from him. I continued to use my maiden name in all my transactions on my own business.

Then he ran into customs wahala in Dubai, his goods were seized and that marked the end of things for him. Naturally as his wife, I encouraged him to be positive, I told him he had to get the right papers, organize his business in such a way that he would not raise red flags every time he passes through customs.
At that time, my job and businesses were thriving, I had five buses in my fleet, I had two schools and the church as clients; also, I had already bought a land from doing cooperative in my office.

Now, that land was bought with the mind that at least, I would be able to give my sons something to inherit. Land is a surer investment; transport business is good but buses always run down, break down, need fixing with you spending money…you get?
So, I first got a piece of land which I bought in my maiden name. That one became wahala for oga at home. He hala me tire, we had long quarrels. He wanted me to put his name on the papers for the land, me kwa, I refused, instead I put the name of my first son; we have three boys and two girls.

I then purchased a second land, again I used my second son’s name….I was just doing business as per say, e dey my blood and this job may not last. I wanted something to retire to as well; I am not the type of woman who waits for a man to provide everything for her and in a way, yes, I wanted to support my husband’s hustle, if he was unable to provide for us, would I fold my arms but no bi say make I kuku carry the load of provision for my head.

But even before the wahala of his business, I was paying school fees, rent, fueling our gen, paying house helps, lesson teacher, driver…Nne, I was Mrs Man in the house o!
Things got bad and my husband just became a degenerate!
You know, he would faff around and go to the club in the evening and come back at past 3am! Biko which kind wahala be dis?
So, I decided to help out, na, isn’t that what a good wife should do?
I swear, I regret it to date!

What did I do? I asked my brother, who I run the businesses with, I mean the one who manages the fleet of buses and over sees the new business we began, to allow my husband to join him, so at least he would have a sense of responsibility, instead of him parading night clubs like a male prostitute!
Abi? As he goes to clubs, no bi my money e dey go spend there?

Husband joined my brother and after a few weeks, na so so complain e dey complain; my brother did this, my brother did that, wahala every day… ol Gehl, I had to ask my brother to leave!
Because the quarrels were everyday and for my peace of mind, I just begged my brother, biko move to the other things we are doing; I asked him to focus fully on the nylon business we had just begun because all I heard every day was my husband complaining and my brother calling to tell me to tell my husband to back off!

Hummn. My sister like I told you, I still had my job and I had five children to raise, so my mind was most times not on the bus business or nylon business.
Then under my husband, who claimed he was helping me save cost that my brother was squandering, the buses would develop fault more often than before; yes, during my brother’s time, the buses too had problems, so it wasn’t a new thing for me.

The difference was that the cost of maintenance skyrocketed! My husband fired the old drivers and hired new ones then he would bring mechanics and his new drivers to me and they would complain about this and that and ask me to bring huge sums of money. At first, I would just sign the cheques for payment of these parts but after like six months, I began to document the things being repaired.
It was just on a hunch; I discovered I was being fleeced by the drivers and mechanics…they were fixing the same things they claimed had been fixed earlier.

Na every six months dem dey repair fuel pump? Gear box? Shocks?
I vexed, one day, I accused one of them of being a thief and cursed him and told him because of this thing he did to me God would punish him. Do you know what the man told me? He said, ‘Madam, na your husband dey do am, na hin tell us to increase price then he will pocket it!’
Nne, I shock but to be sincere, I no too shock because my brother had said the same thing months back.
The driver dropped the bus key and stopped working for us.
So, I had to call my brother, I told him and he told me some of the drivers had called him to tell him the same thing but that he didn’t want to ruin my marriage so he kept quiet after the first time he told me.

Chineke! I said which marriage? Marriage that I had been the one managing since the day we got married. I paid the rents, paid the hospital bills for delivery of all five children, paid the maids, the drivers, bought the land and…and yet he squanders what he gets on ashis at clubs! Abi you think I don’t know that he meets with ashis? Or is he meeting his aunties at the club?
Biko shift o!

I told my brother, enough is enough!
So, I am telling you the same, I no do again… to your tent o Israel!

Nigeria Series written and edited by Peju Akande and based on true stories

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2023/07/chai-my-husband-has-been-doing-me-yahoo-yahoo/

you dey buy land in your maiden name even when you're married. Igbo woman. Why can't you just tell us that you were just looking for a legalised sperm donor?

At least your husband didn't cheat on you before you decided to buy family land in your name.

Be very prayerful your own people don't disinherit your sons from your property when you die.

anu3:
Found and it's unwilling to go.... Neighbors said nothing doing.

It looks like a mixed breed or pure rot... We gave it some food and lured it out shortly...

Attention comes in different forms. But it is attention all the same.

Stephen2324:
Relationships are now more difficult than ever. Everyone is being wary and careful of the other person. Men don't trust ladies and ladies don't trust men. Everyone is on the edge, suspicious of the words and actions of other person. Distrust everywhere.

Voluntary unions are now built on falsehood and distrust. No one wants to be the fool. No one wants to be the "mugu". Everyone wants to be the smart one.

The winner of this unfortunate battlefield is he who has the least emotions and who cares less. It is more sad when one realises that these are two species that are meant to work together in a physical and spiritual upbuilding but this is where we are today.

More sad is that, it will get worse as time passes because even these wrong values are being passed on to the younger generation who cling to it more firmly and build on it. Building on the wrong values with so much energy and talent, directed in the wrong direction. And when one seeks to find the root cause of this pain and scar we all bear, we end up going round in circles and plunging ourselves into the very entities that birthed these false attitudes. A vicious cycle.

We are like a legion of lost souls in a dark enclosed tunnel, getting in eachother's way just to find a way out but without a genuine desire to change from within.

social media has a lot of blame here

LoveUdie:
Pastor Bisi Adewale

Lots of Men are making mistakes in their Marriages, this is making life difficult for their wives and Children. We need to examine this and tutor all Men to behave better.

Here, I will be exposing 8 Mistakes of Many Men in Marriage:

1) SLAVE-WIFE MENTALITY: It’s not funny to know that lots of Men see women as slave, servants or something close to that. They believe women are good for nothing but sex, baby making, house chores and cooking. They operate with that kind of mentality with their wives. Many believe a wife should only be seen not heard, it’s really funny the way some men treats heir wives.

2) PUTTING FAMILY OVER WIVES:
Lots of African Men are fond of this, they put their extended family first, they even make their wives to slave for their extended family members. Some beat or even divorce their wives because of their siblings. This is totally wrong. It’s madness to allow your family Members who are in their own Marriage to destroy yours, it’s high level of foolishness to allow your siblings to take over your marriage.

3) SPERM DONOR MENTALITY: Lots of men are more-or-less sperm donors in their marriages, apart from getting tingling their wives pregnant they have no other roles in Child bearing and rearing. Whenever babies cries, It’s very common to hear Nigerian men saying, come and carry your baby, don’t you hear your baby is crying?,most of the time only women attends Children parties in School,only mothers attend PTA meetings and many other events in School, Men thinks they are too busy to do that what a mistake?

4) CLASS TEACHER ATTITUDE: Lots of Men believes their wives have nothing to offer, they believe they are wiser, stronger and better than their wives. So they develop Class teacher mentality, whereby they are only ready to teach, lecture and tutor their wives. To them their wives should not advise them. This is very wrong, God planted your wife into your life to complete you, if you don’t listen to her you are missing a lot.

5) LIVE AND EAT ATTITUDE: This is another bad attitude of many men. They believe their duty at home is to eat, watch Television and sleep. Anything in the management of the house does not concern them. They believe only women should cook, boil, clean the house watch the plates, fetch water bath the Children and dress them up, this is another very funny lifestyle of many men, they should please note that this is 21st century and improve.

6) WIFE BATTERING: In some part of Nigeria wife battering is seen as a norm, so many men are in this habit, some women where maim or even killed in the process. I wonder what kind of Man will beat a woman he promised to love, care and cherished if not an animal-like man, wife battering is barbaric and should be condemned by all.

7) MEN-SEX MENTALITY: Lots of men also believe sex is for men, women should not enjoy it, so they approach their wives with horse rider mindset, they have no plan to make their wives enjoy sex but to do their thing, enjoy themselves and go their way, this is very unwise and unkind to women.

CAT MOUSE SEX ATTITUDE: With Men-sex mentality most Men develop what is known as Cat-Mouse attitude towards sex. They grab their Wives the way Cat does grab mouse and begin to sleep with them, no romance, no pre-intimacy, no good or kind words, no mind for the ladies they are sleeping with, it is very unfair.

Men should wake up to the reality of modern life and improve their relational ability at home, loving and be loving and caring thereby becoming better husbands and fathers.

You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name

your life most be very long and boring. Pity.

Having to be an emotional thinker rephrasing this recycled rubbish

iwaeda:
https://dailytrust.com/breaking-dss-detains-ogun-lg-chairman-who-accused-abiodun-of-fund-diversion/

DSS and institution that is meant to be Nigeria's CIA is reduced to witch-hunt and employed as a tool to settle personal vendetta.

What a big shame to my country.

The rich can approach the DSS to do their abiding just to "teach" someone a lesson.

nairalandkachy1:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2023/09/drop-the-name-nigeria-its-hypocritical-demeaning-wole-olanipekun-urges-fg/

unfortunately we can change our name without rewriting the constitution.

dre11:
https://guardian.ng/life/sex-therapist-says-shes-saved-marriages-by-sleeping-with-her-clients/

the shameful tricks and ways this gender employ just to be noticed for publicity is no longer shocking.

Shamelessness, desperation and foolishness are female

itsme01:




Trump is now a problem to both Democrats and republican

Democrats are doing everything to stop him from getting Republican ticket

Republicans want a fresh Candidate with new ideas that can challenge Biden

Trump is Rich, he can buy anyone, his lobby group are spending millions



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4 out of the 6 Republican presidential candidates said they will still support Trump if he were found guilty!

Where do you get your news from?

Ejioforrr:
https://ikejabird.com/lagos-police-apprehend-suspects-counterfeiting-engine-oil/

if they didn't disclose the names and the location then they are not going to prosecute them.

afroedo:
what is wronge with dat, is he not a human being,what make this lawyers more human down Portable.

what is wrong with that is exactly what's wrong with your horrible sentence construction and writing skills.

waynetee:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2023/08/isese-kwara-police-nabs-islamic-cleric-declared-wanted-as-terrorist/amp/

so many things wrong with Nigeria and Nigerians. From the citizens to law enforcement.

The fool that was disturbing traditional worshipers to the commissioner of police who ordered the family to produce the suspect.

When a people without political clout dabble into politics they beg in public without tact too.

uche87:
Nigerian Marriages always appear solid and formidable until the union gets a visa. The moment it passes through the UK Point of Entry, it starts to develop cracks until it takes more falls than the Naira under the current Tinubu administration. In this piece, I will be taking a dive into the common reasons why Nigerian marriages struggle on UK soil.

(1). Personal Vendetta:
Marriage as an institution in Nigeria is modeled around patriarchy - a system of male dominance. In this case, the man is the king while the woman is the queen. As you know, the king dominates the queen, and nothing he does is wrong in most cases (especially for the wealthy men). The woman could be forced to endure physical, verbal, psychological, financial abuse, and lots more. She stands to get mocked if her marriage crashes. This creates age-long bitterness and a cold war in the union. Women have a long memory and they hardly forgive. The moment the marriage transits to a society that gives women an upper hand against men, they come for their pound of flesh like Shylock. This destroys the foundation and subsequently brings it to an end.

(2). Level Playing field:
Marriage in Nigeria is a bit lopsided in terms of the professional profiles of the couples. In some cases, the husband might be a doctor while the wife might be selling beauty products or other petty items that cannot sustain her financially. The man steps in, and this gives him an undue edge in the marriage. In the UK where a hard-working bartender can match a nurse financially, and there is a level playing ground, power changes hands. The man who might be an alpha male loses that edge. This kind of equality - an unfamiliar territory for the man, if not well-managed might be the collapse of the marriage.

(3). Cultural Issues:
In the UK, the difference between a man and a woman might be that one menstruates and the other doesn't. In fact, people switch genders according to their moods. In simple terms, there is no duty/responsibility that is totally exclusive to a man or woman. Over here, men go to the market, clean, wash, cook, babysit, run errands, and also fund the home. Local champions who are used to being served like emperors by their wives might struggle to cope with the new environment and could feel short-changed.

(4). Busy Schedules:
It is no longer news that the cost of living in the UK is as high as a COVID-19 patient's temperature. In my previous articles, I have overemphasized how people inevitably work for long hours in order to cope with rising living expenses and financial demands from their families back home. This might affect bonding between young couples and reduce intimacy. Most times, when one party is ready for a "mid-section parley", the other might be unavailable due to conflicting shift patterns, not being in the mood due to mental or physical stress. This gradually takes a negative toll on the marriage.

(5). Women Are Powerful Abroad:
In the West, there are checks to prevent the domination of women by men. This has made women so powerful. In the event of a conflict, the odds are always against the men. The Spanish FA chief, Luis Rubiales learned the hard way for controversially kissing midfielder, Jennifer Hermoso at the recently concluded 2023 Women's World Cup. Also in February 2021, Yoshiro Mori - head of the Tokyo 2020 Olympic Games Organising Committee, was coerced into resigning after saying 'women talk too much in meetings'. Former Manchester United player, Mason Greenwood apparently ruined his career due to struggles with his partner. In marriage, some women mischievously abuse their powers. A colleague lost his marriage of 5 years after his wife reportedly abused him physically multiple times. A behaviour that was never evident in Nigeria according to him.

(6). Cheating:
A randy man who is obsessed with beautiful women would easily make mistakes in the UK. The UK exposes you to numerous women of different shapes, forms, and beauty. If you think you have seen it all, you need to see the Jamaican, Somalian, Pakistani, Iranian, curvy Kenyans, and some pretty Indian women. It is not just how they look alone but what they are wearing. Some of them might fancy you and might be willing to hand you the cookie on a platter of gold. There are also several single mothers who have nothing to lose. They are ready to 'share it' graciously like the Federal Government palliatives across their community. One person's husband might be hooked to the detriment of his marriage.

(7). Finances:
Another area of challenge in a UK home is money. In an informal survey I personally conducted, I realized it is the most common problem around. It is extremely difficult for a man to singlehandedly foot the household bills in the UK. Paying for everything is easily obtainable in Nigeria where the cost of living is lower. A woman who is used to the Nigerian system might be hoarding cash, and under-declaring her finances. This is done to force the man to fill the vacuum. This creates discontentment, and over time, frustration starts to hit the man. He might be tempted to seek solace outside the marriage to boost his mental health.

Osahon George Osayimwen is a Journalist and a Developmental Psychologist. He writes from the South Yorkshire region of England.

Bini men would see nothing wrong in this. No challenges at all. They are used to women slaving for them.

By the way, watch your own mental health over there. I see you crumbling like an ovulating pussy soon by your write-up.

Culpable homicide and unlawful exercise of power.

That's very evil and a lot more police are guilty of this crime. They should be charged to court to face their crimes.

Also, the useless senators and lawmakers in Abuja should pass law for all police officers on the beat to have body camera or mandate citizens to record police during operations.

A lot of innocent people have died with the police lying and no evidence to the contrary.

EyeCumInPiss:
Mandate thief has spoken.

Coup d'Ballot far worse than Coup d'Etat.

the worst civilian rule is better than the best military rule.

You don't believe the presidential election tribunal anymore?

Even the military dey do press coup d'état.

One word for the military coup plotters, you will always go down in history as the bad guys and then your country and international community will never forgive or forget

chisomkachy:
As NDLEA intercepts 1,343.8kg skunk, ketamine going to UK, Indonesia, others; seizes 514,420 pills of opioids in Gombe, Adamawa, Ogun raids



https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=pfbid03dmzXsfzXnL36jvfJcn6bRtnXx6pCXBkMkkhBtqLdxsecFkf3jpzbfycWJdmWct5l&id=100069123281551&mibextid=Nif5oz

I Knew it will never be a black south African.

Those lazy mofos never venture out of their food stamp comfort zone

That Yoruba own nollywood is pure academic. Igbos own Nollywood and Nigeria movie industry and have even taken it to Ghana.

It's like Africa claiming jazz in America today. Stupid, inferior idiots everywhere.

Nigerian movies suck. They should lift their standards and get away from lazy storylines and cheap plots

Winner90:
Using pidgin alone which is an inferior version of a language means that whatever crap you sing won't have a universal appeal.

are you talking about Fela?

ATEAMS:
I just want to disappear
into this universe.
Be the sun and the sand, 
the wind and the water 
moving aimlessly.
I want to be the dance 
between the earth, the sky
and the waves.
Be the energy that holds 
everything in its place.
And then I just want to appear
as a tiny human being
and open my eyes
and open my heart
to see myself.

fool

izonborn098:
If u are doing well and well behaved... All type of women are dying to have you.... Whether married, single, poor or rich....
I can say na everday them dey tempt me....

is that how married women in your lineage go after men?

TMKsouth:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.vanguardngr.com/2023/08/shettima-departs-abuja-for-15th-brics-summit-in-safrica/amp/

south Africa's qualification to Brics was hinged on her being the largest economy in Africa.

Ever since she has been overtaken by Nigeria since 2014 and Egypt a few years after, her membership as Brics member in Africa has been overtaken and rendered redundant by facts.

MrUgo4christ111:
It is with joy in my heart and a gladdened spirit,I wish to inform esteemed family section members that I am now a father of a bouncing boy given birth to buy my wife in the early hours of this morning

We had tried for so long to have a baby,there were doubts creeping in from friends and family alike but our faith in God never wavered.It wasn't easy.My wife was having birth complications as the doctor said her pelvic region wasn't opening up enough to birth a child and that the baby was rightly positioned.Fear gripped me but I had to be a man and offer encouragement to my wife because she was already asking me if she dies while giving birth,will I marry another wife? Those complications took a lot of strength from her and finance from me and she spent some days in the hospital before she finally gave birth in the wee hours of this morning to the glory of God.Mother and baby in good health.

Thank you lord for your mercies.

that's 9 years of ceaseless, endless fawking.

tundetech4:
https://www.pulsesports.ng/football/story/im-a-beautiful-woman-and-i-want-to-start-a-family-super-falcons-star-cries-out-2023082308464711589

women who play football have higher testosterone level and lose their feminity.

thesilentman:
yes,i just learnt the word,exactly two days after you were born.

stay off married women.

There's a rope around your thin neck already.

Searching a suspects house in his absence and discovering 10.5 kilo of loud? Dude could deny it.

Could also claim he thought they were kidnappers and robbers when he drove in and saw them.

Any Law Enforcement Agency run by a military personnel, active or retired always lacks wisdom and tact .

thesilentman:
She is married and a senior in my department. She never got tired complimenting my eloquence-always says she likes the way i speak.

Everyday,she'd wait for me so we can work together out of the plant and anyday i tell her i ain't ready for home yet,she gets clearly pissed.We chit-chat a lot.

Yesterday,she cosied up to my desk,as usual and said,in the presence of fellow colleagues,"Baby...oh,sorry,mr bla bla bla..."

Everyone was gobsmacked cos that's the same way she addresses her hubby who ocassionally drops her at work.

Now tongues have been wagging on account of that incidence-that both of us are probably...

I tried to dismiss the matter by saying that it was a freudian slip but my colleagues who were not having any of it,just told me to be careful.

Wahala dey o!

I no know whether you just learn the word "Freudian slip" newly and in a hurry to use it.

But I hate men who complain that a married woman is after them.

Bro, the degree of welcome she feels around you, you created it, nurtured it and encouraged it.

Don't come here pretending because you're probably the most disgusting, irritating piece of human skunk right now.

How did he get to spend 4 months in jail over defamation in awaiting trial?

Sounds very fishy to me.

FreeStuffsNG:
Nigerian artistes making Ghanaian counterparts look like feeding bottle musicians – Shatta Wale


https://dailypost.ng/2023/08/21/nigerian-artistes-making-ghanaian-counterparts-look-like-feeding-bottle-musicians-shatta-wale/

attention -seeking orc

Nobody is fooled Ghana is eternally envious of Nigeria including this haggard looking human vomit called Shatta Wale.

Funny thing is how a tiny , insignificant Ghana won't look for her mate to measure dick with.

Verokeena:
Good afternoon Nl family
Please pardon my epistle

My husband lost his job two years ago and ever since he has been so reluctant on getting another.. not to brag but I can say I have been the one keeping the family going ever since the job incidence (not like I ever complained) .

What I noticed about him is he now drinks and smokes and he is always hissing (obviously he is not happy and I try to always console him just to elate his Spirit)

Fast forward to last two months.. I got back from work and I was very tired.. I had to go pick the kids from school , bathe them, feed them and to make matters worst I wasn't feeling too alright .. (when I got home he (my husband) wasn't at home)

When I was done with the kids and fixing the house I was so tired I thought to myself to take a lil nap that was how I slept off (and this was around 9pm) ..

He got back around 10pm obviously drunk and smelling like a skunk.. he went straight to the kitchen. That was how the whole problem started.. first was insult.. then my phone, smashed it on the ground later my clothes he started tearing them .. saying all those things he was destroying was why I was feeling untouchable that he knows I have male friends sleeping with me..

I tried securing my items so he doesn't destroy more things that was how he pounced on me..

The next day I got him arrested he spent two days there.. but now I feel so guilty... He doesn't talk to me anymore.. I have apologized times without number

I don't just know what to do...


Nb: even while he was there I was still taking food to him

for you to disrespect, lock up your husband in a police cell, another man is fawking you