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Ujujoan:
ROTFLMCAO

u have to explain this laughter oh

_{rolling on the floor laughing her chinese ass off}

sistawoman:
To mourn as presented by Webster.com



Main Entry: mourn
Pronunciation: \ˈmȯrn\
Function: verb
Etymology: Middle English, from Old English murnan; akin to Old High German mornēn to mourn, Greek mermēra care — more at memory
Date: before 12th century
intransitive verb
1: to feel or express grief or sorrow
2: to show the customary signs of grief for a death ; especially : to wear mourning
3: to murmur mournfully —used especially of doves
transitive verb
1: to feel or express grief or sorrow for
2: to utter mournfully
— mourn·er noun
— mourn·ing·ly \ˈmȯr-niŋ-lē\ adverb


again mourning and grieving are both approaite when you deeply love a person and still love them when the r/s ends.
I dont mourn or grieve for every ex only happend once.

Yet again, i implore u, stop showing off your low level of reasoning here. Websters and oxford and all the dictionaries u quote will define the word "Grieve" in different contexts but absolutely none of these contexts suits what you're trying to use the word to represent. I have no problem with the definition, i however do have a problem with the context u have used these words in.

Allow me school u:

All the examples above go in line with what i've been saying to u, how can u express grief or sorrow when heartbroken? u express those when someone dies, but u r upset or hurt when heartbroken - irrespective of how deeply or emotional. Is it clearer now?

sistawoman:
here is what Webster says:

Main Entry: grieve
Pronunciation: \ˈgrēv\
Function: verb
Inflected Form(s): grieved; griev·ing
Etymology: Middle English greven, from Anglo-French grever, from Latin gravare to burden, from gravis heavy, grave; akin to Greek barys heavy, Sanskrit guru
Date: 13th century
transitive verb
1 : to cause to suffer : distress <it grieves me to see him this way>
2 : to feel or show grief over <grieving the death of her son>
3 : to submit a formal grievance concerning <grieve a dismissal>
intransitive verb
: to feel grief : sorrow
— griev·er noun


I believe I used the right word.

Just because you move heartlessly in and out of r/s does not mean that we all do.

Wrong, i dont move heartlessly in and out of relationships, i move on and try not to grieve or mourn like u do. . .  Surely u wont discriminate against that now, would u?

Just because u had to mourn the guys u dated does not mean we must all be that heartless!

And i still think u r wrong with the grammar, u dont mourn someone when they're still alive - except [like no.1 states] they're better off dead than in the state u find them. There is a difference between mourning and hurting or being upset, grieving or mourning are too powerful to be used in the context of a mere relationship gone sour. . .  Pls!

Gosh, i met loads already, now i'm hoping not to meet many more

luxoire:
was that a rhetorical question or did you expect an answer? - seriously!!!

I think it was more the former than latter

sistawoman:
Only if you are a pretender.

Nlanders can say all they wish, but i know i'm really a very very very em uniquely different individual Pretending is not in my nature

luxoire:
i thinki agree with @sistawoman - you mourn the person they presented themselves to be - not the real them you later discovered

and in my case sometimes what annoys me is how long i deceived myself and kept living that lie

Now I wonder if my exes mourn me too , frankly i hope they're celebrating me instead

Here's the lesson: Never try trapping a guy with a pregnancy - it wont happen.

_{Is he a sagittaurius by any chance}

@Sistawoman:

Point made.

You are upset when a relationship breaks down.

You grieve when someone dies.

There is absolutely no inter-relation between those 2 words. . . . Simples!

sistawoman:
Writing is my therphy.

I wrote and cried and wrote some more.

have you properly greaved or did you just give yourself the "I am too big to cry over him" speach.

If you have not properly greaved then now is not too late.

You know, i always thought u were over-emotional with your posts - whats with the grieving over someone who's not dead. . .  or do u wish him dead? Damn, thats malicious pls!

First of all, there will most likely be no 2nd chance to even know what i'll think. Once and u're out of the picture. . . I only gave a 2nd chance once, and look where it landed me - in even worse a situation!

Even if there was no infections or permanent dysfunction of any sort. . .  It would be a reference point. A point of malicious attacks when there's a disagreement or quarel as there will always be in a relationship. Imagine u as the guy in question, having to react when she says something like "It seems that gay session u had yrs ago has made u incapable of seeing reason". I still think, even if the woman stays, it will affect the relationship and eventually cause it to crash. Because most women as we know them, speak first then reason later.

A woman's place is by her husband side, what r u doing languishing in loneliness?

Honestly, i had strange difficulty reading that by myself too

After more than 20mins, no response.

What can i say? I thought as much.

Let's twist the question a bit. . . So this dude is really nice and seems to be the perfect one for u when suddenly, just before your marriage, some homosexual armed robbers broke in and gave it to him real rough from his behind - leaving him with a possible terminal infection and a permanent anal dysfunction which meant that he could no longer control how or when he made doodoo.
Would u, as a loving prospective wife, still go ahead with the marriage, or will u thank God the marriage has not yet happened?

whitelexi:
Seeing as it happened just before marriage, it must be a warning. . .  She might seem perfect but she's definitely bad news.

I no marry abeg.

Seeing as it happened just before marriage, i reiterate: I no marry abeg!
That has absolutely nothing to do with her virginity, or the fact that she got raped. People get raped everyday - its no biggie. Some dont even remember they were raped when they wake up the next day after a drunken night - There was actually a court case in those lines recently.

Nobody is saying rape is a good thing, but personally, i dont see any big deal in it - some women actually like it rough.

What do women prefer? I dunno. . .

What do naija women prefer? I know that one

izeek:
@oyindamola,
leave him alone, ur friendship has no benefit!

Yes, and its not by force

oyinda.:
and why is that you can be friends with some but not others? 
and what's all these "just friends" why the quotation marks?? smh why does friendship have to come with something else?
weirdos

I can see u just want to get my attention, following me from thread to thread posting thrash talk right after i post. . .  OYINDAMOLA, Leave me alone oh!

oyinda.:
oh wow. I feel pity for the girl. not only for being a victim of rape but also for keeping an asshole as a boyfriend.

very sad ain't it

Funny i actually expected your stupendous response. Its a simple question, an open debate and answers are based on different issues, why must u cringe at any response that does not go in line with your's?

C2H5OH:
What's the best course of action when a girl tells you she only likes you as a friend, yet she keeps calling to say hi.

How should you start acting towards a girl that wants to be "Just Friends"?

This morning, i officially ended a very similar circumstance. There are people u just cannot be "just friends" with, she was one of them. Our communication henceforth shall strictly be on the basis of extremely important texts. She doesn't know it yet, but i will not be taking any calls from her anymore, but i shall respond to her texts if i deem them important.

Dont let anyone play silly games with u, it aint worth it. I should really be adding that to my book of principles.

I can marry a lady who's richer than me as long as she's not a nigerian.

@Poster:

People like u smother your partner with too much insecurity while you're dating, imagine feeling like that after a relationship then u imagine how that relationship must've been!

Seeing as it happened just before marriage, it must be a warning. . .  She might seem perfect but she's definitely bad news.

I no marry abeg.

I'm still trying to recover from the shock of your OP, u say and i quote:

She is begging for forgiveness. am just confused because i have deep feelings for her and i've always known her to be a good girl.

Forgive her but move on, all u will succeed in doing by dating her again is to bring shame and laughter to yourself, she should've known better!

It is natural for the female posters to ask u to forgive her, with words like, "to err is human and to forgive is divine". But the truth has to be said, if the tables were turned around right now, all u will hear from the same posters will be "Dump him like its hot".

A girl did your superior in the office and u want to continue with her? Are u ok at all. . .  Na wah oh, is she the only chic available for u? Things happen for a reason, or maybe God just wants to show u the way. . . Bros, no even think twice, vamoose now.

ElRazur:
Me and whitelexi must be brothers. I get "toasted" by ladies all the time! You know why? I am that cute and lovable. Aint that right whitelexi?

Oh, u say it like u dont know it!

_{Brother from another mother}

That kinda shit happens to me all the time

1ST EXPERIENCE: at a party, i was all shy and moved to a corner when i noticed a group of girls giggling and flashing at me, i got even more nervous when one of them approached me, sat next to me, and then whispered something about a bet before placing a smacker on my lips. . .  She turned out to be the girl who took my virginity!

shades:
What am about to illustrate here happened to me live! I have this colleague of mine that am dating, though we are not in the same branch. There's also this senior colleague of ours, whom i know has been wooing my girl for a long time.I had started considering settling down with her and was about telling her of my plans to take her to meet my parents when surprisingly she sent me a text message that she slept with our senior colleague! She told me that she couldn't keep it to herself any longer and that it all happened when i was away for about 6 weeks on official training. She is begging for forgiveness. am just confused because i have deep feelings for her and i've always known her to be a good girl. please i need advise because i cant stand the fact that the gist will eventually fly around the office that the other guy, who is a known play boy has slept with my woman!!

WTF??

There's a girl i dated yrs ago in the knowledge that she was a virgin, but now, yrs after we broke up, i realise it was all one huge puff of lies. I met this dude and it turns out he is a very close family friend of hers and knows her very well, and we've become really close as we work in very similar fields here. Everyday i'm learning new stuff about her and her lies and i wonder whether i was silly or plain dumb to have believed all that crap i was getting.

I am tightening my screws further on naija girls, every word will now be taken with some salt!

chinesedoll:
@OP
You are a pathetic case, you don't even sound like a graduate, more like my vulcanizer

Girls just love that word, pathetic.

For a naija guy, i think its possible, however there are very few naija women who wont insult u, especially when they see your friends doing well. The possibility of having your respect and dignity intact as a man with nothing in naija is very low. . . I remember the joke about the widows in church who were asked to come out to the pulpit, a woman whose husband was seated right beside her tried to follow suit, and when questioned by her husband, she said whe was worse than a widow - she questioned his validity as a man and insulted his person.

_{Whatever happened to "for richer for poorer"?}

Aprilmay:
My advise for you is to get a good job,becos out of sight is out of mind to some girls.Life abroad is a diff world entirely,forget about your good sex,enough fine sexy guys abroad

Why does my mind go to one Mr. Papa

@Poster, free the girl, look for a job, and face another chic