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simplemach: thank God, she was my girlfriend in kaduna before she left. i am happy for my babe

Chrisbenogor: Chai oga debo this one wey you shook mouth for this matter so e don hard oh. How far na

My grouse is very simple, we do not live in a perfect world. While it would be nice for both parties to be secure, nobody cheats, nobody lies, families of the couple are all nice and very well behaved, mother in law is loving, father in law loves peace etc. It just does not exist at least in this world that we live in.
Here in naija there are many marriages where men control what they want to see their wives wear, what sort of company their wives should keep and so on. Is this ideal? No, but we do not live in a perfect world, while these men are "controlling" sometimes they cannot be faulted for how they have taken care of their families.
As for that it would be bloody if she cheats on him, haba debo common so many people would readily admit that they would "die" if their spouses broke up with them, people use the word bloody everyday to express how difficult or interesting a particular event was. Don't get me wrong I have not said that it is not possible that he would fly off the handle, heck even normal people lose it when they have emotional issues, they slit wrists, stalk their ex's the list is endless. Why has half the people here labelled this guy as a psychiatric case just based on the accounts of the lady? He has been cheated on before, did he kill his ex? Did he beat her up? His reaction was to cheat on her back, so I have decided to tow the line of caution and try to scrutinize what this lady has said before hanging this guy, he is not here to defend himself and it is grossly unfair for everyone to label him a potential violent case before hearing his side of the story. I remember one time here some lady complained about her man and when the guy got wind of it came here said his side of the story the crowd that had run to the woman's side started swinging back to his side (where that story dey self make I go dig am)

There is a popular proverb that says when one man sees a snake on the way to the farm he would call it a python, is there a potential problem about this guy's insecurity yes there is, and I have said if she was my sister I would push the wedding further down at least 6 months to sort it out. But to say run run run just like that IMO smacks of amateurish counseling.

In the end it doesn't matter what I or you or the rest of Nairaland thinks, she would do what she wants. People come with different thresholds for different things.

I hail you oga!

acidtalk: Sure we all know that. But assuming you find a "secret book of life" where you founf out if you fast for a whole year you would be that rich, will you take the risk?
Let's be factual here.


Also don't forget, not everyone that works hard has money. Take a look at the scavengers, shoe cobblers, bricklayers and the rest.

xterra2: The exception ? Go to google type in the name of the exception and click am feeling lucky,it would take you to oracle's website
But straightforward check your arrays it has to do with the size


Oh okay
The project was about what if you don't mind me asking, and was it iOS or mac ?


Sure what's the project about ? Which language
Let me know first

to+by:
i love this, just keep ur taste out of this. And i tink the reason dis has lingered this long is because there's something extra bout it. Also i think the brother's action's simply because he's not matured enough in some areas. In ma church u can't just walk up to d sister, you'll have to go see d pastor first. And i think that's where he got it wrong. And besides you'll have saved ursef loads of trouble by telling your pastor immediately. One mistake i learn from older folks is that they wait till marriageable age b4 seeking God's face. I'm far from marriage tins but i already put everything in check cos i started praying at the age of 19 even as a guy. So am not likely to be confused by the time am ready. Peace to u dear

to+by:
I had a similar experience, wen God showe me a lady, i was not even tinkin of relationship not even marriage. But i pray alot bout ma wife n kids. But wen i told d gal she even hated me d more. Dat was wen i learnt a lesson dat, God's will wil always com to pass, but the player can change if disobedient, and might even attract punishment.
What if God had told you b4 hand but because of ur insensitivity not discern it?
And ma other word's dat are u sure you'r a child of God?

preshuzpearl: he's actually well off. Studyin on a first class scholarship abroad.
he mentioned to me one day that he was ready to forget me and move on considering how stubborn i was sayin no all d time. But that he didnt have the peace to just walk away. he is so sure God wants him to do this

JallowBah: If the woman and the husband works, they should BOTH combine it with taking care of the home and kids.

If my husband expected me to do all the cooking, cleaning and raising of the kids after working 8hours, then he could sit his a*s down after 8hours and just watch me work until bedtime, AND expect me to give him a little some-some..I would kick him out, no doubt.

blogger2tooker: PS I DO KNOW ABOUT THE CAPSLOCK BUTTON BUT CHOOSE THE BOLD LETTERS INSTEAD. ON THE CONTRARY FOLKS LIKE YOU ARE A MOCKERY OF CHRISTIANITY. IF MY LIFE IS STRANGE TO YOU BECAUSE YOU CANNOT COMPREHEND IT LET ME LIVE THE LIFE I HAVE DELIBERATELY CHOSEN.

YOU WANT TO TELL ME THAT AS A CHILD OF GOD IF I AM STUCK IN A DESERT AND THE ONLY WATER AVAILABLE TO DRINK IS POISONED THAT I SHOULD NOT BELIEVE THE WORD OF GOD THAT SAYS THAT IF I DRINK ANY DEADLY THING IT SHALL NOT HURT ME AND DIE OF THIRST? BE IT AIDS OR CANCER OR WHATEVER ELSE IS DEADLY, THESE PEOPLE ARE LOVED BY GOD SAME WAY YOU ARE. YOU CALL IT A BAD PATH BUT I CALL IT A FAITH PATH. IT IS A DELIBERATE PATH FOR ME BECAUSE I HAVE DELIBERATELY CHOSEN TO TRUST GOD. YOU SHOULD TRY IT SOMETIME.

blogger2tooker: CALL ME BONEHEADED I DON'T REALLY CARE AS LONG AS I AM A BONEHEAD FOR GOD. IF I FELL IN LOVE WITH AN AIDS PATIENT WHO IS ALSO A 99% CANCER PATIENT AND IT GOT TO MARRIAGE I WOULD DEFINITELY GO AHEAD AND GET MARRIED TO HER. SOME OF MY FRIENDS CALL ME AN EXTREMIST WHEN IT COMES TO WALKING WITH GOD BUT HEY WHAT CAN I SAY, SOME MOTHERS DO HAVE THEM.

I BELIEVE THAT GOD IS ABLE TO DO ANYTHING HE WANTS. WE ARE THE ONES FOOLISH ENOUGH TO LIMIT HIM. CANCER AND AIDS ARE NOT IMMUNE TO THE BLOOD OF JESUS CHRIST. MY FAITH CAN AND WILL HEAL MY WIFE IF SHE HAS SUCH ISSUES ALL I NEED TO DO IS BELIEVE GODS WORD. CAN IT BE ANY SIMPLER?

emmanuel71: WHY GETTING INTO A RELATIONSHIP WHEN YOU KNOW YOU NOT GETTING MARRIED............. Please remember there is no place for sinners in heaven. Its never too late now

Rhapsody!:
I guess it all depends on one's orientation which both parties should discuss and come to an agreement before marriage. My own orientaction might not be popular but let me share it nonetheless.
My parents are civil servants. I do not know how they did things when we were small but sometimes in 1999, my dad was unjustly retired. That was when I just got my admission. Even with his meager pension and some jobs here and there, money was very tight. Mum is a teacher. It was especially during those years my respect for her grew. You see, my dad is good to a fault, you can easily take advantage of him. But all through my uni years, he was still the one I went to for my school fees and all. We kids all knew the source was my mum, but she will give him the money and he will give us. He was still and is still the man of the house in spite of the way things were. Now they have a biz he manages, mum still teaches and does other mobile businesses. But I learnt a huge lesson from it all.
My hobby and I met in our first year. Infact, I finished before him cos his course has 2 years more than mine. I was already working with a bank while he was serving when our relationship started. With us, there is no 'my' or 'his' money. It is ours. We decide on how to use and what to save. I resigned early this year, (thank God) but all this while, my pay had always been higher than his. It did not make him less than a man to me, he is absolutely not lazy (that I cannot stand both for men or women). He has been carrying most of the financial obligations all these months while I work on my new biz which we know is our ticket to financial freedom. His support has been awesome. The savings I have is ours. Whatever we decide to do with money is a joint decision. I wanted a man I will grow in every way with, not an already made man. One who will not be threatened by my success, who will encourage me in all ways as well as do same for him. I have him. In todays world, I believe it should be a joint effort by both parties. Afterall, the home belongs to you. It also means that whatever we buy tomorrow is bought in both of our names. It is working for us that way. And funny enough, we never talked about it before we got married. Its just both of our orientation. We think alike, I guess. Today, I am not 'employed' per se, but any money hobby gets, we agree on what it will be used for, and the rest I safekeep. I never knew I will say this, but today, I look back and thank God about what happened to my dad. As far as I am concerned, he provided for us especially when he lost his job. Mum 'supported' very much. I learnt so much from it, namely think beyond salary and that the family purse is owned by both parties. The home should be planned and built by both parties irrespective of who makes more.

blogger2tooker: GOD HAS A REASON WHY HE MADE ONE AA, ANOTHER AS AND ANOTHER SS, GODS LANGUAGE IS FAITH AND HE WANTS US ALL TO WALK WITH HIM IN FAITH AND NOT BASED ON WHAT DOCTORS SAY OR HEAD KNOWLEDGE. WE ALL CAME FROM GOD HENCE THE NEED FOR US TO DEPEND ON HIM. BUT MAN HAS ALLOWED HIMSELF TO BE BROUGHT UNDER TORTURE BY FOLLOWING THEIR OWN WAY.

IF YOU LOVE A WOMAN AND YOU SAY GENOTYPE PREVENTED YOU FROM GETTING MARRIED TO HER THEN YOU NEVER REALLY LOVED HER IN THE FIRST PLACE. tHE BIBLE SAYS "HUSBANDS LOVE YOUR WIFE AS CHRIST LOVED THE CHURCH AND DIED FOR HER" THIS MEANS LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL. YOUR LOVE AND FAITH IN GOD PERFECTS ALL THAT YOU SEE AS WRONG. I KNOW A LADY WHOSE GENOTYPE WAS MIRACOULOSLY CHANGED FROM AS TO AA WHEN HER HUSBAND IS AS. EVERYBODY ADVICED HER AGAINST THE MARRIAGE BUT SHE WENT AHEAD. HER CHURCH HYPOCRITICALLY DEMANDED FOR THE GENOTYPE TEST AND THE RESULT AFTER MUCH PRAYER WAS AA. I KNOW THIS FOR A FACT BECAUSE THIS PERSON IS MY ELDER SISTER AND I KNEW HER GENOTYPE TO BE AS FORMALLY.

TRUST GOD AND LEAVE DOCTORS ALONE IN SOME MATTERS.

tobtap: it matter alot to know each other genotype,but from most AS-AS marriage dat i know of....the result is as follow
first child-AA
second child-AS
third child- AS
fourth child-SS
so judging by dis,it ok if u wont have more than two kids.....just my own opinion

kpolli: It is only God that can determine anything so you can either put your faith in Him or give up. . . .

Abujafood: A friend wants to end a relationship with a lady he's not 'feeling' right now! He wants to move on without her but doesn't want to hurt her. How can he break up without hurting her?

1. Send her a polite text message announcing your break up and avoid her till she forgets you? - COWARDS do this

2. Call her for face to face meeting and make the announcement - Best

3. Cheat on her and let her find out - Insanely mad COWARDS do this

Any other ideas?