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Any desperate lady can walk up to him and claim that anyone including the pastor asked her to keep him company

faceless04:
I read a story here where an angry guy shot a couple at their wedding reception because the bride left him for another man and this kept me wondering if my boyfriend can actually do same...........here is my story.

I've been in a relationship with this guy for 10years nw (yes, 10years). It all started in 2005 when we met, fell in love. He was and is still my first and only love. I was enjoying the relationship until 2years ago(though we've had our share of misunderstanding, I wldnt want to go into that) when I started thinking of settling down. I indirectly asked him if he had any plan of marrying me and I was shocked by the response I got. He said he doesn't believe in marriage, that everything is about understanding. I can move in,start producing babies for him but he can never carryout any [/b]marriage rites.

I thought he wasn't serious until last year when I asked him thesame question, [b]he gave me thesame answer. But this time, I told him that I don't Share thesame view with him and that we need to go our separate ways. Since then he has been warning me that he will kill any man I get married to, that he cannt stand seeing me with another man........


Infact, I can't write down how the past year has been. I still love him and there is no doubt that he loves me too. But the big problem is that we are[b] so so different[/b], our views and vision are wide apart. I knw I can just forget about him and move on with my life but he wldnt let me be. He is always there at my door step, my office, giving 20 missed calls. Sometimes, I just wish I can relocate and start a new life, but I can't leave my job,not with this high rate of unemployment.

I forgot to mention that[b] he is not the faithful type[/b], though he doent flaunt it to my face but I just get to know about it one way or the other.
I really need advice on what to do,because even though I still have a soft spot for him, I don't want to continue with the relationship.

You are a big time IDIAT!. With 10 years and all the highlighted.

If a guy intends to marry you in future I don't think it takes more than 1-2 years into the relationship to know. 10 years?!?!?!? Were you under spell?

First and foremost, i think this guy is a big IDIAT.

Most men are attracted to large BRE.ASTE.D women so it's not strange that your eyes went after one.

What makes us all different as men is WHAT we DO with what OUR EYES gets FED. Even if you marry a woman that's extremely endowed, one day you will meet another woman with a BETTER shape, BETTER lift and even BETTER looking "MANCHESTER" than your wife's

You're not committed in marriage because your spouse is the BEST, your commitment is based on the fact that you have made a promise before MAN and God to be faithful no matter what.

Way forward:
Personally I believe mama wants to leave because she is very uncomfortable by the fact that your wife's friend is still in the house despite what she witnessed. You ought to have sent the lady away from the first day and then call your wife aside and tell her that you have difficulty controlling your desires with her friend around and you want to genuinely make your marriage work without any temptation lurking around (this is not the whole truth but a version of the truth). Your wife will definitely see reasons with you.

I have been in your shoes before. A CHEAT will ALWAYS CHEAT (ALWAYS ALWAYS ). It is in their DNA. A Leopard can't wash away its spots even in a flood.

Bamideletobi:

Stop pitying yourself

Go back and reRead my post. I don't wait for things to happen before I "pray" about things. Your bible said "Pray without Ceasing "

ladunsky:
Maam, its one thing to date and court for years...its another thingy for him to choose you to to spend the rest of his life with.... No chick will be happy to know that after doing the needful he decides to go ask someone else! !!!!

That's his exact point! What's the WOW and OMG when you are fully expecting that this will lead to marriage.

Bamideletobi:
iAm dating a guy since last 2yrs bt i dnt av rest of mind coz i dnt pray abt d relatnshp,he show me he truly love me altough d distance is far.I ask him 1 day dt is he eva prayd 2 God concerning d relatnshp b4 we go 2 far,he replied me by saying 'do u want me to tel u lies'coz he dnt see any sign than dt he notice dt d love he had 4 me is different frm d love he had 4 his ex-gf...pls is t true to be in right relatnshp without pray abt t

Stereotypes sha... do you pray about your lunch before you know this is going to make one HELL of a GOOD lunch ?!

If you have been praying about every decision in your life there's no biggie when it comes to relationship that is marriage bound.

Good luck with that.

My sister sleeps VERY QUIETLY before she got married.

4 years later, my sister SNORES HEAVILY. Picture that

There are several ways you can help someone that snores to work on it and reduce it completely.

berem: you call it silly metal? A symbol of union blessed by an ordained man of God is what you call a silly metal?

Smh

Thank God you said "symbol". It's not different from wearing a crucifix pendant to identify with salvation. Adam and Eve never wore rings.

majekdom2: I can't answer that for you .... its no theories bro . do you read ? if yes , do you read through biographies of successful people ? if yes , you will always find the zeal right from childhood... I know you might say travelling abroad is some zeal too .... yea , but not blaming it on a failed government you understand now ?

You were very close to making sense

majekdom2: bro , its as simple as that ...... you should give me convictions as to being successful abroad , when nothing good has been attributed to you here in nigeria.

What is your point exactly?

claremont: People would always migrate from one place to the other for various reasons. In the EU, citizens of any of the countries migrate from one country to another in search of a better life. Some Americans have been known to migrate to Australia and even as far as the EU all in a bid to eke out a better existence. My point is that migration is a universal characteristic of the human species; and hence, its manifestation among the Nigerian populace is not abnormal, it is a universal norm.

The notion that ''If you cannot make it in Nigeria, you can't make it anywhere else'' is not only ill-informed, but it reeks of ignorance. The first thing that strikes anyone who reads such a statement is ''make it'', everyone's definition of that phrase is different. Some people are quite happy to eke out a miserable existence in a country with appalling public infrastructure, abysmal public services, blatant corruption, and a healthcare system that is a joke. To these people, getting paid peanuts whilst working in the aforementioned country is what they define as having ''made it''.

Thankfully, not everyone believes in sacrificing their destiny on the altar of blindfolded patriotism. This is why people would always migrate. The lure to live a life better than the one currently been lived is far greater than the pull of a below-average abysmal existence they call ''making it in Nigeria''.

100%

Bryan12: Look dude I drive within that axis at least two times every single day.Believe me if I say that I've never seen a single person making use of that brigde.

They use it before and/or after you drive by

lertee: This isn't about being modest,it is about the dress sense. Boooobs packed to one side with a falling shoulder(not smart at all), You surely won't know fashion more than I'd know,don't argue this one,it isn't like I want to argue .


Sure she is comfortable in it and that's what is important,her husband cannot complain cos she has the gown on ready and they wouldn't return it. Moreover you can't be too sure her hubby likes it that way,she may have forced it on him.

Abi oh, everyone will keep saying "he didn't complain" not knowing how heady most ladies can be about showing off what was supposed to be covered. I am always excited to see my girlfriend take extra care to cover her bossom despite how endowed she is. She says it like this "The women in my life didn't raise me that way". There's NOTHING decent about showing a bosom.

I absolutely adore the wedding gown except for the "blessings" poking out. I can't even imagine people staring at my babe's chest because she exposed something. Very irritating.

Once a woman cheats on you once, she will do it AGAIN and AGAIN. Take it from me, I have seen it all. She even fought me for getting angry that she cheated.

Elantracey: That's why I didn't say every , I said 80% and moreover there are ways one can cause some kind of problems for themselves without even knowing.

It's funny how people come up with statistics
You can't judge anyone until you live the life they lived exactly with them. Wait for your own time

numericalguy: OP,
whatever gave you the impression you are the only "IT guy" in Nigeria that is "fast with phone keypad". You might be the village champion in your street, but have you compared you speed with other millions of Nigerians.

You are just a learner when compared to this



You might also want to have a look at what some people are saying about being an IT guy..

Abi oh. A lot of nonsense people suddenly attach IT proficiency to

contactwale: ONTV recently introduced a promotional idea where they display supposed free recharge numbers at interval for their viewers to load into their phones.

I have however noticed with regret that this gesture may not be real afterall. I am of the belief that many, if not all, of those numbers being displayed, might have previously being loaded by someone privy to them in the television house.

My conclusion is premised on my experience with this gesture. Each time I tried to load any of these numbers, the response has always being "This voucher has previously being used by another user"

It will interest anyone who cares to listen that as an IT guy, I am very fast with mobile phones and I possess requisite knowledge and skill to work around them.

I have placed a bet with some of my friends to see if they will succeed in this venture and they have always returned with the same story.

Now, over to you house.What is your experience with ONTV Quick Fingers? Have you ever succeeded in loading any?

IT guy fast with mobile phones . Abeg spare me that nonsense. If you know enough about IT you will understand that loading credit has nothing to do with you being fast with the keys. Go and read up on how mobile connections are made.

MOBILE PHONE->BASE STATION(BS)-> SERVICE CONTROL CENTER and back again.

If you and another person dials a number, the nearest person to a Base station that's nearest to the Service Centre as the connection hops around gains the first access.

Zekkmixes: Kokoroko by Kefee? Is that it?

Yes thanks !!!!

I am
Sorry to crash in on this thread. I need someone to help me remember a nigerian song

A part of it that I remember says
"I'm in love with you for real"
A lady Sang it

Breakfast in bed?!? Are you bedridden ni

This OP is utterly ridiculous. She doesn't know who you are and you kept your own identify secret and you expect her to dole out honest information about herself to you? Are you listening to yourself? That weed you took must be very potent

Orikinla: Give her as much as you can afford if you love her and she also deserves it.
I gave mine more than N250k for 12 months whilst she was still an undergraduate at a university and only stopped when she messed up.
But don't waste your money on any girlfriend who does not deserve your loyalty and respect.

You are not her father !

igbagbomi: Okay guys. I will spare you unnecessary details. Im above 27, Mum has always been complaining about me being single and all that. Was on a visit, when she introduced me to a 'close' friend of hers, who hails from a neigbouring town in Kaduna (They actually hate being referred to as Hausas). Next thing i heard was "we were just discussing about you and her daughter, you guys will make great couple!. Sounds like a typical scene in a nollywood movie right?. I bursted out in laughters and it was embarrasing. The poor girl is just 17 going 18!. I made them see reasons, they said you guys would like each other, sha meet her first. They even went further to show me her pictures. She's fair, young and tall (taller than me actually, about 5.9' sha). I kinda admire her but i consider three things, 1. The age gap (seems wide) 2. She's inexperienced (probably a V) 3. I detest arranged relationship (especially when moms are involved).
What do you guys think?

This sort of arrangement is good if both parties are of marriageable age. Once two people are introduced the obvious step is to build a "short" relationship towards marriage. This lady 17/18 is NOT ready. If you go ahead with this and she agrees to a relationship with you, one day she's going to wake up to realise that she didn't quite catch the fun she's supposed to have in the 17 - 21 years of age. Women start thinking of a stable marriage-bound relationship after 21 (Just generalizing here based on experience and what I have seen).

Getting back to the issues you have raised -
- You have an issue with the age gap - fair enough
- She's inexperienced - em, everyone's experience starts somewhere
- You detest arranged relationship - fair enough

Based on your own personal score... Your mind is in this with a probability less than 30%. My submission - BOLT and close this chapter

Czechrep: Guys what could i possibly do that would warrant such meanness? Its so petty and i wouldnt ever bother to mention it, he visits nairaland and would probably see this and write back, Fyi i ddint cheat or steal or even commit any offense.thanks y'all for your comments, Whatever will be will be, i didnt ask for any gifts or money, i just felt " Happy Birthday " would have meant alot, cheers guys

The offender always think what they did was "petty". The same way my ex thought that the fact that she kissed some guy was "petty"

Truth be told many women have directly or indirectly proposed marriage to their men
"Dele we have been together for this long when are we getting married or don't you see all my friends are getting hitched"

"Dele look are you gojng to propose this year or not..."

"Dele we should be thinking of settling down this year oh .. I don tire to de wait "

"Dele if you don't propose to me this month I am so leaving you .."

fijiano202: You know that awkward moment when u fell like a train just ran thru u,that was the exact feeling i had when she ask for a monthly pocket money of 20k..honestly i thought it was a joke until she stood her ground concerning her request...all i could murmur was WTF ur joking right? and she gave me the stink eye...till now i still feel like its a dream cos shes a kinda lady that doesnt demand for anything,i only buy her gifts and some ladies stuff at my own will and conviniece....pls help what should i do? cos i dont really know what to do cos its like my brain is malfunction at the moment and Love is not something u can turn off at will..i need mature advice?

Looool.. run.. blackmail. Why should I pay her monthly pocket money? What will she pay me in return? If it is sex then I am better off getting Ashewo!

Okay getting serious.. you are neither her employer or father. It is a relationship for crying out loud not a job opportunity!!!If she needs monthly stipends, those are the legal routes to go through. Period

Welrez: I am about to walk down the aisle with my love. We are both virgins. I would like to know if there is anything really special about marrying a virgin. It does not mean I would not have married her if she was not a virgin, but I just want to know as I'm a curious person. I have read so much about the need to marry a virgin and would love to know if it has more chance of success. I would like the opinions of those who are married to virgins. Thank you.

Like everything in life, there is no hard and fast rule or formular that guarantees success. Driving a new car or a tokunbo is no guarantee against road accident. It all boils down to the driver, the road and a few other factors. That being said, marrying a virgin gives you peace of mind for the following reasons:
1. You will both learn to develop and appreciate your sexual journey together.
2. There are no hang-overs from previous encounters against which you will be measuring each other.

Have a beautiful life.

englishmart: She's beautiful but single. Why isn't she married ghon self?

Why do people ask questions like this? It is as insensitive as saying "You are old, why are you not dead ?"

omonla10: My friend left for the UK last year and he earns 120 pounds($170)per those 2 hours Sunday service. And he knows Nigeria that earn even double. So get ur facts right bro

Hearsay lasan. Na this same uk we de. Nobody will waste £60 an hour on you for that kind of job unless very rarely where it is for short term owambes etc very very rarely... But we are referring to church services here

My church one of the largest in the East Midlands has at least 5 keyboard players of international standing all eagerly playing for free and I see the same thing happen in London so wherever your friend is making £120 in 2 hours is definitely not a church that runs steady services every week

Apatheist:
Wetin consain university fees with project and robbery?

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