₦airaland Forum

victooman:
go and sit down abeg,, so getting a master degree means she is more intelligent and focus but expanding her business is not,, go and get that masters let me continue with this business in 3yrs let us meet and compare,, this is how you people keep deceiving young people and after school they are mostly tied down with 50k jobs and can't think for themselves,, education is not only aquired on the four wall of the universities ,, when you get your own girl teach her to read and get her phd, she can come back and become a liability to you, my own woman after her first degree must learn how to make money, get basic skills and grow a business,it is my choice and you can't do anything about it, besides we have settled and she have seen reasons to put that school on hold for now.

Same philosophy here. After my wife finished her first degree, I sent her to a culinary school to study baking. Today she makes nothing less than 50k profit every week running a snack shop. We are thing of establishing more branches and a baking school in the near future.

While doing business, you can encourage your wife to acquire a skill according to her passion or interests.

backnbeta:
They chaperoned the children for a purpose...they were not in Dubai to teach them academics, they were there to keep them safe during their stay

And were they not kept safe during their stay?

So because they chaperoned the children for a purpose, teachers should not sleep again. They should be awake throughout the whole night watching over sleeping children?

adabaraabdul:
quite true...but this thing should have never happened. no excuse whatsoever. The teachers don't have to mann the places or areas where the children are but serious logistics arrangements should have been put in place to avoid this kind of fiasco from happenning. my own opinion, there is no excuse from the side of the teachers put in charge of the students.

What logistics arrangements can you put in place to avoid 13 year old sneaking off to have sex? Even in very tightly secured schools, teens jump fences to sneak off to attend parties and do all sorts of things.

Nigerians love blaming or attacking vulnerable groups or people. Our laws are made to punish only the powerless. In this case, the teachers have no faults whatsoever. They monitored the children until they were all settled safely in their rooms. They cannot stand guard of all the rooms the children were lodged in. They too have their own lives to live. They also need to sleep and rest after monitoring children for the whole day. The Nigerian students were not the only one for the sporting event in Dubai. These 4 or 5 students were not the only students from Nigeria. All other schools did not do anything differently from how Chrisland handled their logistics. The teachers can do little about Students that are already rotten from home.

sisisioge:
I think they should have allowed teachers to sleep in the same rooms with the students. But too much money wont let them. They should have specially made the arrangement with the hotel for several beds in a room. I just dislike wahala

Are you serious? Teachers sleep in the same room as students? You really think teachers as slaves who don't deserve a life of their own. Maybe the teachers should follow the students home to monitor them in their bedrooms.

victooman:
so going for masters and coming back home to remain jobless is better,, l made 5k a day so l will continue making 5k till eternity, l wont invest and l wont do other businesses? l am been realistic here you are here yabbing what l dont know, did u even read were l emphasize on her expanding her business and source of income before going back to school,, how many people with masters are actually making that chicken 5k a day as u tag, this is my woman someone l want to spend the rest of my life with, l dont want her to live in this illusion of pilling up certificate without an iota knowledge on how to make money,,,

Gbam. I feel you my nigga. Nigerians are so obsessed with piling up useless certificates just to earn titles like Dr. or Prof. As you said, if she was interested in acquiring in-demand skills you would have been happy, but spending hundreds of thousands acquiring masters or phd in business administration or public administration is a luxury that would not add anything to your value.

They are facing charges of alleged conspiracy and conduct likely to cause a breach of public peace preferred against them by the Police.

Conspiracy kwa?
conduct likely to cause a breach of public peace, in Dubai.

You go fear charge.

This is simply a waste of judicial time.

backnbeta:
It's actually their responsibility to watch them even if it's not 247

It's not a teachers responsibility to watch students 24/7. They are responsible for the learning of the children in their respective classroom during class hours. They are not trained to be bodyguards to protect students 24/7

PrinceMajestic:
Yes he is correct, but it's only in the event of war or serious security threat. The Constitution made it clear and it can't be extended more than once 6 months. That's how I've been feeling that it could happen because of the security problems Nigeria is facing currently

So what about all other elections? You are suggesting that Nigeria is put into a political coma whereby all elections are suspended for 6 months. Meaning governors, senators, house members and state house members will remain in office. What then happens if after 6 months the situation does not change?

This is a recipe for a military coup and a disaster.

Jsaviour:
Well, this isn't about blackmail. Nobody will force him to marry the woman. The point is that cohabitation doesn't give you marriage right. If their custom says that a child born by their unmarried daughter belongs to them, then the child is theirs.

No one is arguing that cohabitation gives you marriage rights. What we are talking here is parental rights and not marriage rights. Except in igbo and some Eastern culture, marriage rights do not give parental rights.

If their custom says that a child born by their unmarried daughter belongs to them and my cultureans the English common law says that a child born by an unmarried man belongs to him, which law do you think is superior in a court of iaw? Igbo laws and culture is not superior to those of other tribes.

However, like you said, he can go to court.

Yes it can the settled in the magistrates court of where the couple lived.

I heard davido went to chioma's parents to pay something like bride price (I am not sure though) so he can be seen as the rightful owner of ifeanyi their son. He knows why he did that of he did actually

You heard wrong. Davido never paid the bride price of chioma or any of his other baby mamas.

What is something like bride price? Do igbos now have something like pride price now? What is it?

You are very funny. You speculated wrongly that Davido paid something like bride price and then affirmed that he is the rightful owner of their son.
Let Chioma's parents go to Davido's Banana Island home and kidnap Ifeanyi and see if their culture will save them from going to jail. The best chioma herself can get in a Lagos court is joint custody.

It's not about strong head, it's either you follow their way which you heard before you still went ahead to do away match or go to court like you said.

You can't force others to adhere to igbo culture, that's extremism.

I heard the guy later agreed to go ahead with the marriage which I never supported from my initial comment. I don't support marriage with the dead. He wanted to enjoy free woman and child, now he has seen the consequences of trying to outsmart the system.

If he did, then he succumbed to threats and blackmail. The girls shameless family will continue to threaten and blackmail him for a long time.

He saw all the Yoruba girls but left them to go to south south/south East (whichever one the lady is from) even when he knew that was their custom.

What of the shameless girl that left igbo or south Eastern men and packed her load to live with a western man for over 5 years without marriage. What of her family that allowed such her 5 years without raising eye brows when they all knew that other tribes have their own different culture. Why do igbos use threats and blackmail to impose their culture in other people's lands?

Sheh me and you dey here while hisbah destroy drinks? Why didn't the owners go to court? When people tell you about their culture abi whatever in Nigeria, simply avoid them. Court may not be able to help you when it comes to some useless Nigerian culture

Hisbah impose their religion in their own lands. Husbah will not come to Umuahia to impose sharia on igbos.

Jsaviour:
In life, you can't eat you cake and have it back. We are too emotional when it comes to real issues. He either marries the lady to claim the child or leave the child for the parents of a lady who gave birth outside wedlock. It's simple maths

You can not blackmail a man to marry a woman. It just does not happen with many tribes in the South. You cannot use pregnancy or baby to tie a man.

The courts will settle paternity if in doubt.

The biggest lesson from this war is that the days of tanks being a decisive weapon in a real war is over. Tanks which were the main weapon of the German Blitzkrieg tactics of WW2 is now useless. Thanks to the javelin

This is her quote that got me curious;

I'll release a comprehensive video of everything that happened and the answers to questions."

Meaning she has more damaging photos or videos.

Sagefromtheeast:
She needs mental examination.
She's disturbed.
And she will soon commit suicide.

Then what does Apostle Suleiman need? Mental and spiritual commendation?

Omoluabi16:
well she's done her worst. Dented his image, released his nudes. So I don't think she has any trumpcard left.Shes shameless, crazy. The Apostle fumbled Sha, but who am I to judge him?

So you cannot judge Apostle, but you can judge Stephanie Otobo. She is alleging blackmail intimidation and threats to her life - she is crazy. Apostle that is accused of adultery, threatening and intimidation - do not judge him.

You guys are super misogynistic. I wonder if you guys have mothers and sisters.

Subsaharan:
You'll have to come to the continent. You're choosing a life partner, not a boyfriend.

There are a lot of good men and bad men as it is everywhere in the world.

The cultures are very different of course. There are a lot of things AAs do that would shock an average African and vice versa.

But you have to come to the continent to make that choice when you're ready, this are things of the heart it is imperative you do it with absolute caution and an open mind.
I wish you all the best.

PS: There is also a large African community in America, the easiest place to meet African men is the churches.
So you can explore your options there.

That's the only chance of marrying an African that is predicated on genuine love. If you just get a partner online or through recommendations from friends or colleagues, then you are in for a huge heart break and scam. You are viewed as one big human green card. So you will receive thousands of offers of love. But once they get the green card, you will be dumped faster that a potato sack.

If you can physically come to Africa through one programme, ether education or work related. You will be able to mingle and understand the African culture or mentality. The chances of finding someone who won't just marry you for a green card is higher.

As a caveat, don't start relationship with someone without a genuine and verifiable source of income. Make sure the person is educated, has a regular job or veritable business.

Buckeyemedia1:
Bravery without common sense is stupidity that leads to genocide, Mumu I am not a senseless ipobian, make Russia bomb me the way Federal Government bombard Biafra 1967-70, wey make Odumegwu Ojukwu flee, abandon your Ancestors for Eastern Nigeria?

But IPOBians say igbos are the bravest people in the world. They claim they can take a bullet with their chest. Their motto is "biafra or death" even if the death means shooting themselves in the chest.

Believe me if Ukraine can just allow 100 IPOBian mercenaries into Mariupol, Russians would take to their heels.

Buckeyemedia1:
Cowards that cannot even cross the River Niger bridges.

That one I agree.
Why should I cross the River Niger Bridges when others are running away from the other side of the River Niger Bridges?
You wey dey brave I dare you to cross over to Mariupol in Ukraine right now.

od501:
Oha where you see that statistics biko?

Statistics of what?

Also provide your own statistics so we can compare.

Kwestionair:
Leave them they think Igbos don’t know the game the FG and their terrorist miyetti blood suckers are playing.
ESN, IPOB and MNK are their nightmare

How is ESN, IPOB and MNK their nightmare? Do ESN, IPOB and MNK go beyond the core igbo states? ESN, IPOB and MNK are not even in Delta or Rivers.
The only way ESN, IPOB and MNK can be their nightmare is the excessive migrations into their cities and states, from people running from ESN, IPOB and MNK

InoGetJoy:
IPOB has been asking for a referendum, why is it so hard for your government to grant?

IPOB has no right or authority to ask for any referendum. IPOB is not a political party. It is not even registered in Nigeria, and it is banned in Nigeria.
Besides, there is no referendum in our constitution, so you can't pluck referendum from the air. The nigerian constitution has an indivisibility clause, of which the military must fight to preserve. First we need to either formulate a new constitution or change the indivisibility clause and then insert divisibility via a referendum or other methods into the constitution.
Anything other than that is war.

Every crime committed in Igbo land is now attributed to IPOB, do you even know how foolish you lots sound?

The Same way you attribute every crime commited in the north to Boko Haram or Bandits. The same way to attribute any kidnapping in the South to Fulani Hersmen.
IPOB had been threatening violence for years, they had been threatening to kill people who don't agree with their philosophy of sit at home. So when violence actually starts, who should we hold responsible?

Your people are running away to Benin Republic to live as refugees but you're more interested in what's happening in Igbo hand

Which people are running to Benin Republic and why?
It's you people that are trooping into Asaba, Lagos and other cities in the South running from IPOB induced violence in the east.

ponishah:
Here you go again...
Southeast is always too lousy, making noise that attracts distrust from other tribes.

I know that Asari has outlived his regional and ethnic cum national relevance, he is now a professional rabble rousers. But you are also derailing like him, out of reality.
Because you have refused to listen to your brother's outside southeast region and your neighbors, including your brother's and sisters in the southeast, you will keep on rotating and ending up on same spot forever.

As much as I think Asari is just a business man, using the Niger Delta problems to fill his bank accounts, he is making a lot of sense here. Why will an igbo elder support the carnage going on in the east? A so called elded will sit in the safety of Abuja or Lagos and support IPOB leaders sitting in Finland or other European countries, to destroys lives, properties and the economy in igboland. It just does not make sense.

They greatest strategy of Buhari against the igbo nation is the kidnap and capture of Kanu. He probably calculated that they will turn igboland to Somalia in protest for his release.

Advocator1:
foster father. noun. a man who looks after or brings up a child or children as a father, in place of the natural or adoptive father..

You are just overstretching the meaning of foster to fit into Toke's narrative. Foster does not apply in this case at all. Foster parenting occurs where there is a foster care system, in which the government places a child in the care in the care of someone else outsides it's biological patents.

Learn more about the Foster Care system here - https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Foster_care

Toke's case fits into the typical African Traditional system whereby a family member automatically takes up the care and upkeep of their nieces, nephews and cousins in the absence (and even sometimes presence) of their biological parents. It will be an insult to refer to Mrs Esther Akinyelure as a foster parent of her sister's daughter. Toke's younger brother that came with her at the same time had never referred to the Akinyelures as his foster parents. There is also another nephew that was raised by Mrs Esther Akinyelure and he is doing very well. He can never refer to Mrs Akinyelure as his foster mother. That would be an insult.

I know Toke is chasing clout. The Akinyelures are a very private family. They hate any form of publicity. Chief Pius Akinyelure is very introverted, he hates his name appearing in the media not to talk of social media. It's was his biological children and grandchildren that organized the closed family Dubai birthday for their father, as he was not ready for any sort of celebrations.

benalvino3:
Budaatum says she can sell her baby and there is nothing anyone can do. He also talk about killing and stealing and there is nothing anyone can do. I am just telling him no one has the freedom to commit a crime. You can till you get caught. So freedom to commit a crime means it is legal to do that particular thing.

Selling a human is illegal under international law.
Law are meant to control human behaviour to promote peace and harmony within a society. A law can render an illegal action today illegal tomorrow.

People who do abortion illegally don't have freedom to do it which is why the word illegal is used. If they are caught there will be some kind of accountability.

Laws that are made solely for religious sentiments are unenforceable and often ignored. They don't usually stand the test of time, ie, abortion laws, bootlegging laws, adultery laws, etc. Adultery is illegal in our statutes, but till today no one has been prosecuted for adultery.

I have addressed this selling of baby and abandoning of babies.

Like I said, my body my choice. Why is it that a woman cannot choice to not feed her baby? Why can't she abandon it?

If she abandoned the child and it dies, is that not murder or at best manslaughter?

Why are men forced to pay child support?

I support holding men accountable for getting a woman pregnant and absconding without supporting the birthing and care for the child. If this singular act is codified and made law, it would cut the need for abortions by half.

All these go against the bodily autonomy argument or show some kind of irony.

So when a woman says she does not want to nurse her child or feed it or care for it... She is arrested.

What happens to the woman if she is caught abandoning a baby in the Bush or dust bin?

benalvino3:
I asked you this
Do you know what freedom is? Freedom to kill, freedom to steal.


And you respond with the nonsense above in bold. This is why I said you don't use your head.

And the whole post seems like you have cognitive issue.

You said if someone wants to have abortion or sell their baby there is nothing anyone can do. I am saying only if they are not caught. I have already shown you example of a woman arrested who sells her baby.

You also talk about stealing and killing and nothing anyone can do. I am saying they don't have freedom to kill or still. They can do it... But when they are caught they will be punished. That means, there is no freedom to steal or kill.

But its her body. Freedom over what goes in and out of her body.

Selling a baby is different from aborting a baby, so also is donating a baby to an orphanage.
What of abandoning a baby? If a woman says she doesn't want to a baby to suck her breast, do you force her?

BasedUsername:
While this is true, there is still a case to be made that the foetus inside has a right to life. For that reason tbh, I'm still a bit iffy on late-term abortions. However, at the end of the day, women should be able to make that decision for themselves.

I am also a bit iffy on late term abortion but I know that you cannot force a woman to birth a baby much less breast feed and care for a baby she doesn't want. What convinced me to a hard pro-choice was when I actually say a new born floating on the lagos lagoon behind NPA bar beach about 25 years ago. It still traumatised me till today. Many babies will be surely murdered instead of simply aborted.

If true, then this is the best possible outcome of the law. Abortion should be safe, legal, rare—and if I may add—early.

I agree with all, but rare will be very difficult to determine. It should boil down to sex education and the dangers and consequences of indiscriminate sex.

EmperorHadrain:
IPOB is on autopilot and has more factions since your Rabbi Kanustein was arrested.

What makes you think this is not one of several splinter groups ?

IPOB has no discipline as it's die hard followers and members are drawn from the dredges of Igbo society. These are criminals using IPOB fake biafran agitation to commit the most artrocious killings.

If groups like Bakassi boys ended up going rogue what makes you think this is not possible with a factionalized , rudderless and highly indisciplined IPOB can not do same?

Think.

You denying and deflecting to state actors is exactly what the north did under GEJ with Boko Haram.

You still have a slim chance of redeeming the situation by coming to terms that IPOB is now a real terrorist threat to your region.

So many IPOB groups and subgroups and they all make contradictory claims. Each one setting it's own sit at home days. It will not be long before the different IPOB groups turn on each other.

Advocator1:
Even if you know Baba's life history.. the word Foster father is right in that context!

Abeg explain how the word foster father applies in this sense. Is your Aunty's husband your foster father?

AstraDroid:
You might want to go to the UN website and EU website to confirm global data and the policies about a declining birth rate and growing death rate, escalating aging as the threat for the Human civilization. I can not read for you. Just find time to read.

Why not post links UN and EU website that confirm global data about declining birth rate and growing death rate. If you take the time to post the links, I will find the time to read them or are the links secret?


Yes EU population is declining as well as affluent countries, where women refuse to procreate or they give birth late. But in the rest of the world, especially poor and illiterate countries, the population is exploding.

Allisgud:
People wey dey expect 3m u go give 700k

N3m sef too small. Officers of NNS pathfinder deal in dollars and not naira.

Giving a senior officer of Pathfinder N700 (about $1,200) is a grave insult. He needs to be flogged 25 koboko lashes before being handed over to the police.

AstraDroid:
The Spirit Being is absent in a child that has just been delivered. It takes 7 days for the Spirit Being to come in. The mind continues to be programmed based on environmental inputs until Soul is at a point that Spirit comes in, that is why some traditions hold naming ceremony on the 8th day, just when the Spirit has come in, and become 'named' Identity, ID Entity.

Christian doctrine is ignorant of these facts because Christianity and other Abrahamic Religions thrives in ignorance which is why your God refused Man/Woman wisdom in Eden, it took the courage of Satan for man to 'eat' the forbidden fruit and gain intelligence.

The world is facing apparent depopulation and needs more humans, it will make no sense to abort babies now, so Yes, though I do not support Abortion now due to population crisis in the near future, the laws should be flexible.

There was a time China promoted one child policy in Beijin, and now that law has been repealed cos of change, so USA must change its laws to accomodate more kids. It does not mean that Abortion is murder, it is NOT.

The world is not facing apparent depopulation. In reverse, the world is actually facing a population explosion. The earth with finite resources is finding it difficult to cope with the explosion in human population. So expect more wars and conflicts as people and countries fight to control increasingly diminishing resources.



It took human population (Homo Sapiens) over 2 million years to reach 1 billion. Now we are increasing by 1 billion every decade. In about 100 years, we will be increasing by 1 billion every year.
The average world population growth rate is 1% per annum.

In the past human population was kept in check by constant wars, diseases, epidemics, natural disasters and famine. But after the 1800s with the advancement of science, agriculture and medicine, deaths from diseases became reduced. After WW2 major conflicts resulting in deaths of millions became a thing of the past. So human populations began to balloon.

Watch this video to get an idea of human population explosion.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UJrQ8NQ9lLI

Agbebakun22:
Not a bad idea when there's law on aborting but people will tend to misuse it. you can abort when u are not ready to have kids tho. Abortion is an individual choice but shouldn't be illegal tho

Whether legal or illegal, a girls that doesn't want a baby would go to great lengths to abort.

Many strict Catholic countries had attempted to make abortion illegal, it always fails. Ireland, Venezuela and many Latin American countries had one time or the other banned abortion. After seeing the futility, they unbanned it after many decades