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omotola90:
well, that's your ideology if you ask me... There are still virgins in there late Twenties anyways

It's not my ideology, this is a universal fact. You guys are fond of hiding your head in the sand, and then start living double or hypocritical lives to project a false holy appearance.

I don't engage in deceit and hypocrisy as most of you do. If a lady remains virgin into her late 20s, then there is some fundamental problems wrong with her psychologically or physically. It might be an hormonal imbalance.

Once a normal girl hits puberty and her late teens, her estrogen and progesterone along with oxytocin and vasopressin will start acting up. This is the most difficult periods for parents and they need to be prepared to be extra vigilant and tolerant. Most teens are very rebellious at this time and are usually "enemies" with their mothers. They become best friends again after this phase is over probaly in their mid to late 20s.

htdot:
Lol.... you liberal suppprters are not smart...

You that is very smart, why not educate us on the close to 4 million corona deaths recorded by over 220 countries of the world.

htdot:
Yes, it a planned game....

Planned to achieve what goal?

emmyw:
Well, Your Story Is Sweet And The Positive Energy Is Cool, But Which Part Of Enugu Are You From? Because If It's My Side... Hehehehe


I Am An Only Son Too But I Can't Do Such, Getting A Girl Pregnant Before Marrying Her! Dude Common, We Should Stop This Immoral Act!!!!

That's your own personal religious opinions. Some people would not marry a girl unless she gets pregnant first. That's their own personal opinion. You should not judge others by your own personal religious views, that the same think as Boko Haram or ISIS.

benji93:
The Bolded. How would you know this? Only someone with a negative mind would think another person must want something bad to happen to someone else. Stating that, 'pre-marital sex is immoral is a statement of fact according to Christianity. Isn't it? That was what my argument was. I ma using Christianity? The question is what does Christianity say about it? Very simple.

Exodus 22:16
"If a man seduces a virgin who is not pledged to be married and sleeps with her, he must pay the bride-price, and she shall be his wife

benji93:
Unfortunately for you, i believe in the importance of marriage and family. I am bringing in what-ifs, cos i have seen cases where the parents did not marry. We don't all criticize cos we wish others bad you know. Sorry if you have repeatedly met people who constantly do that. You are the one that has the negative mentality if you think i am pointing the immorality out to wish them bad. And please never bring up the "Judge of all mankind" stuff, cos as used by us, it's detrimental to constructive criticism. Judging others would mean i think i am better than them. But no, so the "Judge not others" does not apply here. Besides, honestly, this kind of matter shouldn't be posted here, and so if you do, all opinions should be considered.

I not only believe in the importance of marriage, I am happily married for over a decade.

This is not the place to bring what ifs. If you opened a tread to discuss the negative what-ifs of premarital sex believe me I would not have had a problem, but this is a post of someone happy to be marrying the love of his life.
We have seen many different scenarios. We have seen both positive scenario and negative ones. I have a colleague who slept with his wife the very first day he met her and they have remain married for over 20 years. There are also cases where men married virgins and the marriage did not last 5 years. We have seen the marriages of pastors or even G.Os fail.
My quarrel with you is why duel on negative what-ifs.

And tagging it as "sexual immorality" is not a message for him per say. He's already done it. It's for others to know it's not morally correct to do that. Pregnancy is a consequence you cannot reverse when marriage does not result without damaging yourself(on the part f the woman). Since the number of such occurrences is quite significant, it would be correct to avoid the consequences by avoiding the immoral activity itself. Well it depends on if the audience believes in Christian values anyway. If you don't then the message is not for you. You can move on to something else.

Now the question is, do you believe premarital sex is immoral? If you do then i don't see the purpose of your post. If don't then well, it's not meant for you, sorry.

I do not necessarily see pre marital sex in this modern society as immoral, and I have stated my reasons above. You don't expect a man over 40 or a lady in her late 20s to remain a virgin. In in the old days girls get married soon after puberty and boys marry in their late teens or early twenties, so remaining virgins until marriage was easy.
Trying to stop premarital sex with religious doctrines in modern times is like trying to stop a tsunami with a wall. It will always fail. Sex is controlled by powerful hormones and those hormones don't listen to Jesus or Mohammed. The best solution is either to get married early or practice safe sex.

Drwinz:
Bleep you and the economy...if these were the thought of your parents I bet you wouldn't be alive now

I beg helep me ask am, what was the economy of his parents when they got married. Was his father driving a benz and living in a 2 or 3 bedroom flat in a high brow area?

I don't understand Nigerian again. They will insist you must have good economy before you can marry, but at the same time you must never engage in sex before you marry. Mind you most men cannot acquire good economy legitimately before their 40s. So a man should remain a virgin into his 40s. By that time konji and probably prostrate issues would have killed the guy.

adeniyi65:
In the name of all of my family and the entire inhabitants of abule_ojo village.i will gladly welcome his invitation too if it's to be done in Lagos.

Thank you my brother. Tell OP not to forget to invite the nairaland family o.

benji93:
The first bolded. I definitely made an assumption that I shouldn't have. That the guy was Christian or something. So if he's not and he confronts me I will apologize.

Why should you assume everybody is a Christian? Even if he is a Christian why should you assume he follows your own church doctrine? That makes you not different from northern Muslims that forces people not to drink alcohol or eat pig. Many Christian denominations don't criticize marriages between pregnant brides and their grooms.

my main question is, what if the guy doesn't marry the lady? Which is a possibility. Would that happy story have a happy ending?
I am talking about the institution of marriage here. If that love is any useful it must lead to it. You don't claim to love someone, impregnate them and not marry them. Not good. I hope the guy marries the lady though, wouldn't that be quite the happy ending? Now I am speaking about Christian values here. If he isn't, then it's void.

Maybe you did not read the post well before hitting the reply and submit button. Re read the post to see that the negative serenio you painted above is completely different from what the OP wrote. He is very happy that his parent accepted the love of this life despite her being a different tribe and also accepted the pregnancy. Is it that difficult to be happy for him?

Second bolded:I am sorry, we don't all dream of the bolded. Speak for yourself. Some would rather be married to their fellow tribe member.

You too need to speak for yourself. Some people even prefer to marry from their fellow family member like Abraham and Isaac. That does not mean everyone must follow suit.

benji93:
That would be wicked. We accept the consequences of mistakes too, don't we? The act was bad. What if after a while the man decides not to marry the lady? Now that's the problem. Turning the poor woman into a baby mama. Families build societies, we would be avoiding that by not engaging in premarital sex.I mean that eliminates the Baby mama. Although of course some would say you could use condoms. . The sons and daughters of men will always find a way to circumvent principles and values. We have been doing it from the beginning of time. thing. But well if a woman keeps doing that, as in sleeping with all the men she claims to love, these women become unsatisfied in their marriages. I am not here to judge the act, even though it's immoral(if you are a Christian), but i know the decisions that follow it could be devastating. So avoiding them is key. We should endeavour to lead a moral life. I am partly saying this cos it's becoming incredibly hard to find virgins these days, more like finding a needle in a haystack. . May God mend our crooked ways.

Please learn to be happy for other peoples joy than wish them bad outcomes. The guy never told you he made a mistake. He was so happy and excited and that's why he came to nairaland to share his excitement. Don't dampen his spirit with your negativity.

I wonder why you are wishing that after a while the man would decide not to marry the lady. I know you wish that so you can say " toor" to the lady and feel elated berating her for "sexual immorality" because you are the judge of all mankind. But, it will never happen in God's name. I wish the guy a happy married life and many more happy and healthy children.

Believe me I have not read so much negative vibes to a good happy story before. You are just usinv Christianity to project your negative thoughts and energy. I really hope you find true love someday.

Idiko1:
Ironsi abolished regionalism yet appointed regional military governors. Yoruba peeps have bent of using this crap to justify their lining Fulani, Hausa and Kanuri to prosecute a war against Ndigbo and Biafrans. Decree #34 was for the unification of civil servants in Nigeria. The Emirs taught it took away the power of native authority from them and organized unrest in northern region.

You are now becoming annoying with this your stupid senseless mantra "Ironsi abolished regionalism yet appointed regional military governors" . Appointing regional governors itself is abolishion of regionalism. Who gave Ironsi powers to appoint regional governors? It means the regions were no longer autonomous or part of a federation but a unitary state under the rule of one man.

Is it that you truly don't understand or just trying to be a troll?

htdot:
The virus was a political hoax.... if not there would have been death body littering around the street of naija..

Political hoax in over 200 countries of the world?

benji93:
Although I believe she was too harsh, she wasn' far from the truth, even though she may be engaged in it herself. It's ok to rejoice with them and criticize the action.

Why criticize them for which action. What you guys fail to realize is different strokes for different folks. You don't expect or impose your views on others. That's called religious fundamentalism.

This is a happy story on so many levels. It is a celebration of love and not of hatred that is common in our country today. It a celebration of a detribalize Nigeria we all dream of and not of tribal hatred.

I really respect the parents and wish more Nigerian parent are like that.

Boomboost:
OP got a girl pregnant, his parents are happy for him.

Boom got a girl pregnant, his parents will be embarrassed for him.

You that is reading, will they be happy for you?

Children unlocked before wedlock is a no for me. Maybe we have too many children to bring in another considering the economy.

Children born before, during or after wedlock, it doesn't matter, as long as the parents and families involve are happy and happy to love the child.

You expect the parents to start crying and reject both baby and mother? To many negative people with wicked hearts that hate to see others happy in this country.

kestolove95:
See bad parents, encouraging immoral acts

Bad belle instead of your to rejoice with him you are forming holy Mary. Pray you too find happiness.

obixcel:
That was so weak and pathetic. Who gives or reveals to his enemies secrets and then tells him like, "well this should be off limits, don't attack". And talking about "list" Biden even admitted his handlers gave him a list of reporters who would ask him question The entire stuff was just as creepy and bizarre than one can ever imagine

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B2XeGjddVZY

The answer to the redded question is former president Trump. He reveals all US secrets directly to Putin. So much so that intelligence officials warned their Israeli counterparts to exert caution in sharing top secret information with Donald Trump's administration for fear of it being passed to Russia - https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.newsweek.com/us-officials-warned-israel-not-share-sensitive-intel-trump-609782%3famp=1

Trump's last meeting with Putin was held without any state department official or any other officer in the administration. It was only held with interpreters and they were not allowed to take notes. Trump might as well have given Putin the nuclear codes.

basilico:
BREAKING: Nigerian Citizen Was Dominion ‘County Technician’ For Fulton County In 2020 Election…Nigeria Was Involved With Cambridge Analytica In Election Manipulation



https://creativedestructionmedia.com/investigations/2021/03/05/breaking-nigerian-citizen-was-dominion-county-technician-for-fulton-county-in-2020-election-nigeria-was-involved-with-cambridge-analytica-in-election-manipulation/

You are obviously addicted to right winged media conspiracy theories and need at least a fix a day to function. Do you even read the conspiracy theories to see if it makes sense before rushing to post it on nairaland?
So because a Nigerian citizen was one of the technicians for Dominion voting machines is enough evidence of fraud. You must have very low opinion of Nigerian citizens.
Cambridge Analytica in 2020, a company that was closed down in 2017? How was Nigeria as a country involved with Cambridge Analytica in election manipulation? PDP hired Cambridge Cambridge Analytica to help it manipulate the 2015 presidential election for Jonathan, and it failed - Buhari won. The same Cambridge Analytica was hired by Steve Bannon to manipulate the elections in favour of Trump, and it succeeded. You are now accusing Nigeria of being involved with election manipulation and indicting all Nigerians as criminals. Are you sane at all?

obixcel:
My personal Lord and Saviour is Jesus Christ, a natural man can't take his place, u are just spinning and spewing junks to deflect from d issue. Can u just read ur statement again and see d trash? It doesn't even make any sense. You will say and write anything to deflect. Good job.

You person Lord and savior is Donald J Trump. A perfect man that can never sin or do wrong, a man that was wrongly accused and was cheated out of the the white house ( according to you). He will soon return to the white house in glory to save his beloved from the liberals and Democrats.

obixcel:
And why couldn't Biden stand shoulder to shoulder with Putin in order to dispel whatever propaganda Putin decides to spew. He chose to be a coward instead.

When has Trump ever countered Putin publicly in his life. Trump was Putin's bîtch throughout his 4 year reign.

obixcel:
And why couldn't Biden stand shoulder to shoulder with Putin in order to dispel whatever propaganda Putin decides to spew. He chose to be a coward instead.

Could your personal Lord and savior stand shoulder to shoulder with Putin on any issue? Trump could not stand shoulder to shoulder with Kim Jung Un not to talk of Putin.

obixcel:
So Putin organized a Press Conference which have him d opportunity to spew his propaganda before the world media, Whereas Biden couldn't do a single thing, Only yelling at a Female reporter

At least it was Putin spewing his propaganda before world media. In Helsinki, Putin did not need to spew his propaganda before the world media, Trump did it for him.

MalcoImX:
That has always been a problem, but ain't there better ways to manage it than ban.

To us in the south a ban is the best way to stop the destruction of farmers livelihood and protection of their lives.

I bet with more Fulanis in the North, haven't they seen it as a feasible solution.

It not our business how Fulanis in the north feels. After all most southerners in the south were not happy with the alcohol ban in the north. A governor job is to secure the safety and wellbeing of his people who elected them into office.

Regarding cows not having a right graze on your land without your permission, whose permission do you require to set up your spare parts business in Lagos or Kano?

You are required by law to obtain permission before setting up spare parts shop or any other business in Lagos or Kano. If government is run properly and lazy governors don't depend solely on Niger Delta oil, they should have been taxing spare part businesses.

Besides spare parts business rent shops and confine themselves to those shops. They don't insist on displaying their wares in your compounds or homes, and then kill you for refusing. If the north bans street trading, they have my full support. But you cannot ban people from doing business in the shops they rent.

MalcoImX:
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That's because his promulgations were evil, just as denial of grasses to cows were wickedness. It was malicious and nothing else.

You are being insincere. The problem people have with Fulani herdsmen is not grasses. It's trespassing on other people's lands and properties and destroying their crops and sometimes harvested foods. It's now taken a more dangerous dimension of killing farmers themselves and attacking their villages.

Cows don't have the rights to eat grasses on my land without my permission.

MalcoImX:
In what way is beer selling a cultural heritage for the Igbo?

And pig farming is in no way a problem in the North. It's only that the Muslims don't engage in it.

So correct your submission

As a Niger Delta man, gin has a cultural heritage in ceremonies and religious obligations.

MalcoImX:
But it's constitutional for an Igboman to graze (sell his spare parts, okrika and expired drugs) anywhere in Nigeria?

Damn men.

I am waiting for the day iPoBians would talk without cursing.

False equivalence. Selling expired drugs is illegal all over Nigeria. If the north bans the sale of fake drugs, every right thinking person will support it.

Also a ban on the sale of okrika can be justified for health and economic reasons. Although I am not sure such powers reside with state governments. But the federal government can ban the importation and selling of okrika, and they would be a justified.

Same with spare parts. the importation and sale of fake spare parts can be banned for economic reasons. This is because people are being scammed of their hard earned money.

Open grazing is another thing altogether. The nigerian constitution vests power over lands on the state governments. The federal government only has powers over lands in the federal capital territory and some coastal limits and water ways. A state government is the one that allocates state lands. If a governments says they don't want animals roaming their lands, whether cows, chickens, dogs or cats, it's within their jurisdiction.

If state northern governments place a ban on spare parts, what then happens to all the cars in the north when they need repairs. Do car owners travel to southern Nigeria just to buy brake pads?

Note that sale of cow and meat was not banned. It was cows and Herdsmen disturbing the peace all over southern Nigeria that necessitated the ban.

Now answer this question - WHY ALWAYS FULANI?
Fulani have had decade long problem in southern kaduna, Jos, Benue and now all over the south.
You guys needs to do some soul searching.

Even Major Okar wanted to excise you guys from Nigeria, but then he did not receive the support of other Nigerians.

GalaticHorde:
I wonder why some democrats and even Biden to an extent pander to republicoons that weren't elected to lead in this dispensation all in the name of bipartisanship! If democrats fail to achieve more goodwill from the American public this time, they'd only have themselves to blame.

Remember democrats did not win with a clear majority. The Senate is 50 - 50 and hold only a slight majority in the house. Also remember Trump gathered 73 million votes. So the democrats cannot disregard Republican voters and concerns.

Buzx:
Well, it seems you've not heard of "flash loan attack" that has been used to steal millions of dollars from decentralized exchanges. BurgerSwap, which is a decentralized exchange on Binance smart chain network was rekted of millions of dollars last month through flash loan attack. Their liquidity pool was drained of the millions. This is just one of the many Dexs that have lost money through flash loan.

I must admit I am new to crypto, as I had avoided it since the failure of earlier digital currencies more than 10 years ago - ie e-gold, liberty reserve, etc. But recently I realized that cryptos are here to stay, and so I just started getting involved.

Having said that, the only way I see to hack a crypto currency driven by block chain technology is by obtaining the password and keys through a phishing attack or getting it directly from the wallet owner by force. I don't think the servers holding the transaction ledgers can be broken into as the information is stored in multiple servers and computers, and a brute force hacker would have to hack all the computers.
I might be wrong and I would appreciate some education.

When it comes to "Hacking" it doesn't have to be when you use brute force or something like that. They're lot of ways hacking can take place and they're different types of hacks.

Should I tell you about Metamask, the popular wallet and chrome extension people use, where their website was cloned and people lost money by visiting the cloned website and inputting their seed phrase.

Still sounds like a phishing attack.

The thing is, the whole world of crypto, blockchain and decentralized finance is relatively new and still needs a lot of improvement. Those who are into it now are regarded as the early adopters and need to tread with caution. Crypto is not hack-proof. Blockchain is just a word, and they're a lot of Blockchains out there. Some are very secured, while some have security issues.
[quote]You are probably right as regards shit coins or meme coins, but for established cryptos like Bitcoins (which is the crypto under discussion) and Etherum, I am sure they are virtually hack proof.
[quote]Now, do Nigerian government have the skills to hack or block a crypto wallet and retrieve funds? Nah, I don't think so. They must have beaten seed phrases and passwords out of those guys to retrieve funds. Cheers!

Even the US government don't have the skills or tools to hack Bitcoins, else they would have caught the criminals that blackmailed colonial pipelines and rendered the US without petrol for almost a week. Colonial pipelines had to pay over $4 million in bitcoins and the money was never recovered.

Yes, EFCC would have tortured the guys to get access to their bitcoin accounts.

Have a nice day.

GalaticHorde:
I hope he evacuates them and the republicoons don't make a big issue out of it. The abandonment of the Kurds to Turkey by trump is still fresh in mind

The Republicans would certainly make it a huge issue. In fact that might be the only talking point going into the mid term elections. Tucker Carlson and Fox news would not talk about anything else.
If the Republicans can support Trump to hand over the kurds who actually helped them to defeat ISIS to Erdogan, you think it's ordinary translators that the Republicans would care about.

EnlightenedUFO:
Well the sad part of US politics is that Biden will never be the 100% antithesis of trump, coz even some of the career bureaucrats in his cabinets are going to slow things down for him, and the trump left overs might do immense damage. The hope is that there's some republicans and democrats in congress that supports the removal of these translators from afghanistan, and these members are former soldiers who served in iraq and afghanistan. If Biden really wants to change the US drastically away from how criminal trump left it, he has to be very bold and cut all these office tapes.

He simply cannot. He needs to not only keep his Democratic base, but also need to make some inroads into the Republican base and most importantly independents, as he most certainly will be seeking re election. Right now immigration is a very risky topic.

EnlightenedUFO:
I don't understand why Biden don't want to remove the translators from Afghanistan and that Blinken is sounding like a slowpoke to me. If Biden causes this to be another big issue, he will get a thumbs down from me.

It's because of the current anti immigration mood in the US. Republicans have so demonized immigrants and immigration so much that it has become a political weapon. Even genuine refugees are disliked by the US public.
Biden and the democrats are being very cautious of issues that has to do with immigration.

NarcoPolo:
Now we know why Malami had a crypto wallet running on his phone Also, we can be fairly certain that the national treasury won't see much of that haul,

Much ke? The national treasury will not see any of the seized cryptos. First cryptos are virtually banned from the Nigerian banking system and CBN does not have a crypto wallet.

basilico:
Fulton County Georgia.

Fulton county admits it did not have chain of custody of 24% of its ballots.
These votes should not have been counted but were.
Georgia SoS says he will investigate. He is a scumbag.He certified Georgia results knowing there were 300k questionable votes.
Trump called him, asking him reject at least 11/k invalid votes for Biden He recorded the call , then leaked it to WAPO. He deleted the recording but it was retrieved from the trash bin.

Next audit might be Georgia.PA audit might also be coming up.
If a thief stole money and gets caught should he keep the loot?

It's a pity you are ignorant of how democracy works and stubbornly refuse to get some education.

In a proper democracy not one vote can be invalidated without going going through the legal process, except the error or fraud is from the voter himself/herself.

After the voter votes and the votes tallied and certified, no other excuse is allowed to invalidate the vote. That's why agents of all parties are present at all election venues and all parties sign off on the results.
If there is any error on the side of the officials, the voter cannot be punished for the incompetence of all others up the line. That's how elections are organized, even in shit hole Nigeria.
Do you expecting cyber ninja or the Republican Senate to invalidate elections in whole counties is a fantasy or better hallucination.

If there is any error in chain of custody or any other administrative error after the results had been declared, it can only be corrected for the next election, it can never flip the results of the last elections in favour of Trump.