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PrideofLincoln2:
I believe so much in the market having been on it for 20+ years. Anyone that stay put and for the long run will become rich. The Stock market is not for 5 or 10 years but for longevity and when you hang up the boots and see how much your 401K has grown, you will be dancing to Prince music like I often do. They can keep their crypto coins or whatever they call it. I ain't gambling with my sweats with some kinks that can be devalued by Tesla or Mark Cuban.

The future is Crypto. Believe with the advent of 5 G technology, quantum computing, Artificial Intelligence and better energy generation and storage capacities, crypto currencies would thump traditional central bank controlled currencies.
You see many governments today fighting a losing battle against crypto. In the long run they jus can't win.

So I advice people to invest in cryptos for the long run.

pedrilo:
You made a huge mistake.
You should have discussed abt finances Bd how to manage financial responsibility in your marriage b4 getting married.
You shud have gotten enuf money to set her up immediately after wedding b4 venturing.
This is d way u have laid ur bed sir. Now lay on it cos d fault is urs

It's difficult to discuss finances before marriage because the Nigerian economy is highly unstable and unpredictable. The OP is lucky the covid19 did not affect his job. I know many that lost their jobs or businesses last year.

The problem I see is that the OP did not use his head when deciding to get married to the wife but the lower part of his body. If he had used his head he would have seen the entitlement mentality and gold digging tendency of his then girlfriend. If she didn't spend a kobo on him during courtship, what makes him think she will give him N1k during marriage.

You mean he should have set her up immediately after spending over N1million on wedding ceremonies. Maybe you did not read his post well and assumed he is a yahoo boy. A man just recently married a wife, he has to pay house rent, pay living expenses for himself and wife and you expect him to set up the wife immediately.

queenfav:
Say whatA successful business woman should be able to pay her shop rent herself.My husband has never paid my shop rent.Even fixtures and electronics i buy for my showroom,the business funds pays for it.It's her business,if she's doing things right,the rent should not be an issue.

You need to advice your fellow over entitled women to stop seeing marriage and relationships as a charity case or Internally displaced persons refugee camp. Woman should feel they have value other than their toto and womb.

Someone7:
Remove your eye from your wife's money

Then the wife should also remove eye from my money.

igwebest23:
My brother I know my wife is my responsibility. But d issue now is that she is making money. She has like 250k saving In her account. Her shop rent is just 90k. And she wants me to pay it. D money she is making, is it ordinary paper. The issue is that ladies of this generation is different from our mum. I live in well furnished two bedroom apartment, paid by me. People are passing my wife shop seeing d level of customer going in and out, d think she is contributing to d family. Is better I marry a girl that is not doing anything that will be submissive to me. I noticed d little money she is making is entering her head.

If your wife is your responsibility, what about you? Are you not also your wife's responsibility?
Marriage is a give and take from both partners and not one person always giving and the other always taking. You both must have married out of desperation and not out of love.
I also opened a shop for my wife and sometimes she does not wait for me to buy food for the house. Last term she paid the final balance of the children's school fees without even telling me. She told me after I told her i will give her the balance.

You guys don't have children yet, and she feels so entitled. What happens when the kids starts coming? You will be required to work yourself to death to solely take care of the family.

You wife giving money to male friend without your knowledge is a blood red flag.

You need to reassess the marriage and determine if you are gaining anything from it. You are lucky it's very early and no children involved. You might have to take your loss and move on.

SlayQueenSlayer:
All these have their root in government failure.

Who is government?

jimter44:
Oga, there is no law in the country that says parents Should be punished for the offences committed by their children. The Bible expressedly abolished punishing parents for what their children do.

Oga you are wrong. Parents are always punished for the actions of their children everywhere. If you children destroys someone else's property. You are required to pay for all damages. Yes a parents is not usually held liable for their children's criminal activities in most countries, but they are held liable in civil law. In the west if the government feels you cannot raise a child appropriately, the child would be taken away from you.

baseb:
Politicians would say things that are lower then them.
What has being a cultist's parent got to do with his/her children's involment in cultism?

So you mean parents don't have any responsibility towards the raising of their children?

MadamExcellency:
The summary of the whole damn thing is that the law is unconstitutional.

It can't be applied in our court. Maybe, Sharia Court.

Depend on how the law is applied. If the parents are aware of the criminal activities of their children, and did not report them, they can be held criminally liable.

SlayQueenSlayer:
Cultism is more of a government failure than a parental failure.

I disagree. Cultism is more of a parental and societal failure than a governmental failure. In my days cultism was restricted to higher institutions. It was an offshoot of fraternity. Now cultism has seeped into the secondary schools and the streets. In ikorodu here almost every youth whether in school or not is a member of one cult group or the other. And what's the aims and objectives of these cult gangs?

Simplythebest:
What kind of stupid law is this. How many children have spend in a 4 years course. Some spend 5 years in school for a 2 years course who are we going to punish for it. They should leave what they are supposed to do and be doing nonsense. They Aboro guys are the once supporting them and using them still our leaders. During election time will those guys just go to pulling unit and scatter and distory election or carrying the ballot box without anyone sending them. Who are they people sending them is it their parents and how many of those sending them have police or government arrested and punish. This people should just focus on their stealing and leave innocent parents alone.

I think what the law is trying to achieve is to discourage parents from being accessories to the crimes of their children. If the child is above 18 and the parents had no knowledge at all of the criminal activities of their children, then they can be excused. But if your child brings home a N6 million car without any explanation and parks it in your compound, and you as a parent did not report to police. Then you are an accessory to the crime

Bahamas95:
I don't think this is a good idea. Some children behave like animals no matter how hard you make them act like humans.....Parents should also buckle up, some of them ain't doing their homework very well. "Abeg leave am jare, na small pikin" is the cause of many problems we are facing in the society today.

If children are well disciplined from childhood it is kinda rare for them to go astray when they become adults. Charity begins at home ......The polithiefcians looting today started from somewhere, probably by stealing meat/fish from their mum's pot. Mama go serve food give them with one meat, dem go pass back go collect extra meat(s) That's the spirit of OJUKOKORORISM.



Imagine what the guy on the left would become if he becomes a leader tomorrow.

That's what most people don't understand yet. Children get their values from the home. The problem nowadays is that most parents fail to train and instill good moral values in their children. My children would never take what does not belong to them or what I did not give them permission for. If my 12 year old boy sees N50 on the floor while sweeping, he will bring it to me. None of my chiodren had ever been accused by anyone of stealing anything. If something is missing in their school, they don't even bother asking my children not to talk of searching them. If the parents displays integrity, the children too will project integrity where ever they go.

Kings999:
This man dey mad...
So if a child na cultist you will also punish the parents, Because na the parents tell the pikin to join cult abi.. have you punish the soldiers that killed the innocent people in lekki tolegate...

Parents cannot be exonerated from the crimes of their children. Most times they support or actively participate in the crimes of their children. I have seen numerous examples of where yahoo boys buys assets such as cars and houses from the proceeds of their criminal activities with their fathers or mother's name.
A student you sent to school will bring home a. Toyota Venza or an iPhone X and you as a parent will pray and bless the child, is than no being an accessory to a crime?

I can confidently say up to 90% of cultists, yahoo boys, kidnappers, armed robbers are encouraged by their parents.

In the past the crimes of just one family member were visited on the whole family. If just one child is a thief. The community will brand the whole family as thieves and avoid that family. If the father is a known drunkard, no one will marry into that family no matter how rich they are. But now our societal values are inverted, society celebrate criminals, cultists and ritualized.

opamoses1:
Unprecedented: No former President of the United States has ever been subjected to criminal charges, up until now. Trump keeps breaking records.

Breaking News - New York prosecutors have convened a grand jury in their criminal investigation of the Trump organization.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VqQ73XolxUs

The final cool aid event would be more dramatic than Jim Jones of Jonestown.

obixcel:
Your woke politicians can go ahead and conduct their wild fishing expedition, nothing new. What about investigations on Biden and Hunter's ties and their multi-million dollar dealings with China? Nothing to see, right?

Hunter Biden is a private citizen with no immunity whatsoever. I wonder what stopped Trump's justice department from investigating and prosecuting him as a private citizen. Now if you have any proof of Joe Biden's illegal dealings with China or any other country, then let's even see a logical allegation before we even start asking of proof.

I had thought you guys would have commited suicide by now as Trump lost the election and Biden was sworn in. I wonder how you will survive the next 4 year's without a psychological melt down. I am beginning to see symptoms of melt down here now. It will progressively become worse.

I eagerly wait the rabid meltdown when Trump is finally docked for criminal charges stemming from his corporate fraud and executive crimes as president. It will be hilarious.

benalvino2:
Whites are not allowed to use the N word or say it except you are Joe Biden.

Joe Biden? Who mentioned Joe Biden in this argument? Ok post the link where Joe Biden called a black man nigger so I can see context.

It seems your obsession with Trump is beyond comprehension. Every topic must be reduced to Joe Biden vs Donald Trump in your mind to have any meaning. Even followers of Mohammed are not this obsessed.

Emotional debt, jews overcome there's. They are doing better. And this is me acting like I agree with what you just said.

And how did the Jews overcome their emotional debts. What structures were put in place for Jews to help them do better? Can the same be said for blacks?

IF THESE HISTORY LESSONS HAS NOTHING BUT NEGATIVE EFFECT ON AFRICAN AMERICANS WHY STILL GIVE IT TO THEM? SO THAT THEY DON'T SUCCEED IN LIFE? DOES THIS MAKE SENSE?

It's not only about history lessons, it's about experiences and shared consciousness. The civil rights law - the rights of citizens to political and social freedom and equality, was passed less than 60 years ago. Almost all black superstars - musicians, sportsmen and even academics still complain of systemic racism.

Please bring data. I have posted evidence that shows Nigerians are very well educated and degree earners which is why they do better.

I don't know who is disputing this point with you. Look for him and argue with him.

Tell us which trauma or emotional dept that is causing white people to employ more Asians than whites. Since qualification and education don't matter. This argument tire me.

This is another irrelevant argument. No one is arguing qualification and education don't matter in employment. What we are saying is that the system is historically rigged ( apology to trumpists) against blacks. Getting quality education, getting quality jobs, getting quality medical care, getting deserved promotion, getting justice, and so on, us rigged against black skinned people.

benalvino2:
I remember someone said Nigerian come to the US with clean slate and black Americans are in debt etc.

That one no make sense too. There are a lot of white people in debt for college and some of them it will take them eternity to pay their debt because the latest trend on TV is making them take gender studies instead of actual profession that will make them big earners in the future. They have the advantage to taking loans to fund their education which is why some of them are not serious in the first place. A Nigerian has to pay the complete fees which is usually 2times what indigenous Americans will pay. No loan to support them, hence part of their motivation to do well. They also look for jobs to subsidize their education giving them entry level skills to add in their resume

He was not really referring to physical debt, but psychological and emotional debt. Most of the things that would trigger off an average African American would not affect an average Black African coming from Africa. You call me nigger, so what? As long as you pay me the Benjamins, you can call me anything you like. Being called nigger does not evoke the same emotional response as a black American. An average Black American has been conditioned to think he has limitations due to historical racial conditioning. A newly arrived African has no such baggage.

It's a similar situation is South Africa. The indigenous blacks just having come out of apartheid still carry lots of the psychological baggage from the apartheid era and so presents its own series of limitations and problems, eg crime, sex, drugs,etc. These psychological limitations are absent in other black Africans and so tend to excel better.

So you are saying prideoflincoln2 and over 90% of African that say they have experienced racism are delusional and that you are more informed than them?

GalaticHorde:
then it is you who is definitely getting it wrong, let me make an anology here, let's pretend that you're of an igbo extraction and your grandfather tells you of his thriving business in kano before the civil war that his Hausa friend conived with neighbourhood thugs under the pretence of riot to seize from him killing his brother and your granduncle in the process then your father tells you that despite all that he set up a business in kaduna in his youth succeeding and owning properties in kaduna but lost it all during a religious riot in which he sustained the scar across his face while fending the mob of to save your lives and across your community in nnewi you hear similar stories then going for youth service you're posted into a predominantly Hausa community with a few non hausas cordoned of in a section, naturally you avoid the predominantly Hausa section as the first hand experiences you've heard tells you little good can come from associating with them never mind the fact that your family's survival was because a Hausa neighbour sheltered you all from the mob, your Hausa boss naturally favours the Yoruba corper who views him with less suspicion and is less guarded and cagey around him, now juxtapose this analogy with what buhdda had been trying to tell you about the historical racist baggage black Americans have to carry in remembrance that you as a Nigerian are apparently ignorant of, does that make you more hardworking than the African American because for reasons unknown to you you are more favoured? I think not

This is my grouse with benalvino2. He feels he knows more than the actual people experiencing systemic racism in the US. Black Americas has been complaining and fighting against systemic racism till this day. BLM movement is a response to that issue ( just like IPOB is a response to systemic discrimination in Nigeria) instead of him to sympathise with his fellow blacks, he takes the racist's talking point (espoused mainly by white supremacists right wing media) and attacks blacks instead.

I can understand prideoflincoln2 anger. He experienced and is still experiencing racism is the US. It's annoying for someone thousands of miles away to be telling him that experiences are not real and just a product of his imagination.

It's comical to be comparing the holocaust to black slavery. The Jews have been compensated, I would even say over-compensated. They were given their own homeland, they are compensated with billions of cash by the US and Gemany. Germany had apologized, paid and are still paying reparations.
Did anyone apologize for black enslavement, have any compensation been paid to enslaved families or nations, has systemic racism stopped in the US and South America as a whole?

I am not even exonorating ourselves from the whole problem, but we must acknowledge the damage that 4 centuries of slavery had done to the black African/African American psyche and society. The fact that we hate each other and even our own selves is a product of that damage.

Maybe benalvino2 can grasp what we are trying to say by reading this report.

In McConnell’s boyhood town where his family owned slaves, the reparations debate thrives

ATHENS, Ala. — Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell was born about 40 miles from his great-great-grandfathers’ Alabama cotton farms, worked by slaves a 100 years before.

Like so many long-standing Southern white families, McConnell's forebearers built their wealth with free slave labor and cheap land. Two of his great-great-grandfathers owned more than a dozen slaves, census records reviewed by the USA TODAY Network show.

Records about the McConnell family shed light on the history of the region that residents say is still shaped by the legacy of slavery.

The senator’s family history could be a case study in the way many whites built lasting wealth in part by exploiting the labor of enslaved African Americans.

"I know it would be almost impossible to pay everybody related to slaves," Malone said. "When you think of how many people’s lives were lost working for nothing for 400 years, I would agree it should be done. But how it should be done I don’t know."
https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.courier-journal.com/amp/1709330001

benalvino2:
Wirinet and Basilico this is directly from their handle addressing the media lies.

You guy are still clutching hot air. You guys just take sniper of clips or screen shot and magnify it out out of proportion and create a whole universe of of it.

Here is the complete story;

Arizona Audit: Audit Contractor Says He "Recovered" Deleted Files
A contractor said he was able to recover data that the Senate’s election audit team previously accused Maricopa County of deleting, undermining a serious allegation the audit publicly lodged against county election officials.

During a hearing in the Senate on Tuesday afternoon, Ben Cotton, founder of the digital forensics company CyFIR, a subcontractor on Senate President Karen Fann’s audit team, said he recovered the files after properly configuring the hard drive where the data was stored.

“I’ve been able to recover all of those deleted files, and I have access to that data,” Cotton said.

Cotton’s explanation indicates that county officials were correct when they said no files had been deleted.

The audit’s official Twitter account explicitly claimed the county “deleted a directory full of election databases from the 2020 election cycle” shortly before turning over its ballot tabulation machines to the audit. To back up its claim, it posted a screenshot purporting to show a list of deleted files, all of which were shown as being modified on April 12, about a week and a half before the county delivered the machines to Veterans Memorial Coliseum, where the audit is being conducted.

In a response letter to Fann on Monday, the county Board of Supervisors said the elections department shut down the servers on that date, and that the “modified” date only indicates changes the software made to the files’ metadata, which it said was a routine occurrence. Cotton said the audit team didn’t turn on the machines after receiving them.

Rather than examine the machines themselves, the audit team made digital copies of the equipment. The third-party software CyFIR used to analyze those digital copies gave the appearance that files were missing or deleted because the files were not in their original place, the county speculated.

Nonetheless, Cotton repeatedly used the word “deleted,” as did Senate Judiciary Committee Chairman Warren Petersen, who questioned audit team members with Fann at the hearing. After the hearing, Fann stood by Cotton’s assertion that the files had been deleted but he was able to recover them, though she said she wouldn’t refer the issue to the Attorney General’s Office or other law enforcement because “ we never said there was any wrongdoing. ”
https://www.google.com/amp/s/patch.com/arizona/across-az/amp/29527124/arizona-audit-audit-contractor-says-he-recovered-deleted-files

If the auditors had simply asked the Maricopa County officials where the files were in the first place instead of going to press with "deleted files"conspiracy. All these distractions would have been avoided. But then Trump's cult members love conspiracy theories, it's the air that keeps them alive.

basilico:
Can you say that nothing fraudulent is
Now going on
Has been going on
Went on in the Nov elections

For you to claim something fraudulent, you need proof. Just shouting fraud fraud everyday does not make it true.

If truly someone deleted the files as alleged, that would be a criminal offense that would send all those involved to jail. Why has the Senate committee carrying out the audits not recommend criminal prosecution if truly the data was deleted. That would shame the election officials and give some credence to Republican allegations that something fraudulent was going on. You guys are just clutching hot air.

benalvino2:
The image below shows all the contradiction you failed to see. Read the headline with the arrow you see below pointing out contradiction.

He clearly said he recovered the data and no where did he say the files were not deleted

Hiw did the auditor not know where the data was on the hard drive and how did he recover the files. I forgot, he already told you but you refused to listen - he was told by Maricopa County officials.

You think if the auditors have to use specialized software and specialists to recover data from a hard drive, they would not say so. And besides, I have recovered data from a crashed hard drive before, it's an expensive and elaborated process, and you can never recover 100% of the data. You will be lucky if you recover 60%.

benalvino2:
That is the propaganda and you are not aware of what they are doing. You cannot recover what was not deleted. He said he recovered he did not say he found. Has the auditor said the database was not deleted or it is the media spin to what he said during the senate hearing?

It's now been reduced to semantics. Because he used the word recovered now means the files were deleted? You guys are completely and hopelessly lost.

Re-read the coloured part of the link I posted to understand the sequence of events.

Maricopa County officials wrote a letter saying the auditors could not find the data because they don't know where to look. The very next day the auditor said they now have the information they need to recover the data, but Trump's worshippers are still shouting fraud and deleted data. Na wa o! This obsession is becoming a psychological trauma. Even me most times can't find my own files on my own computer.

benalvino2:
Where is your proof disproving what the auditors said? They stated they recovered the files, the other side said they did not delete it and me I am being neutral saying maybe they deleted it maybe they did not delete it and you are still not okay.

Please give us a video of the auditors admitting the files were not deleted or a written statement from them.

Arizona auditors backtrack, say no election data destroyed

PHOENIX -- Firms hired to run a partisan audit of the 2020 election for Senate Republicans in Arizona said Tuesday that data was not destroyed, reversing earlier allegations that election officials in the state's most populated county eliminated evidence.

The claim of deleted databases was amplified by former President Donald Trump and his supporters, who believe conspiracy theories about election irregularities.

Ben Cotton, founder of a computer forensics firm working on the audit, told key senators that he had recovered all data. The revelation came a day after Maricopa County officials released a scathing letter saying the auditors couldn't find the data because they didn't know where to look.

“I have the information I need from the recovery efforts of the data,” said Cotton, founder of CyFIR LLC.

I am sure you will not believe even the auditors that confirmed that the files were never deleted. Until your cult leader permits you to believe that no files were deleted before you believe.

benalvino2:
As far as I know he said he recovered the file. Not finding the files in the correct(default) directory and not complying about the files till they say files were deleted is what we should be looking on.

Like I said in my previous post to basilico. From all the stuff I have seen about this issue. It could be the files were no deleted and also it could be the files were deleted. At this point it is not really clear which one is the case. Hence I said we should move on from this and look forward to the result.

But the leftwing media are just reporting their usual lies about this issue.

That's why people refer to Trump supporters as cultists. You guys make many ridiculous allegations, you twist and turn logic on it's head when these allegations are debunk. When there is no longer room to twist and turn, you then turn to the maybe (It could be the files were no deleted and also it could be the files were deleted) argument.

This is not a maybe argument. The facts are no files were deleted as first alleged by cyberninja.

I know any one that reports the truth to you is labelled left wing media. So I won't be surprised if you label Reuters left wing media.

Fact Check-Maricopa County database was not deleted
Posts sharing information that the entire database of Maricopa County in Arizona was deleted amid an audit of the 2020 presidential election results are false.
The claim appears to stem from the fact that the auditing company struggled to access some files within the database.

The posts being shared with the claim appear to copy a statement released by former President Donald J. Trump on May 15, 2021 on his website here which says: “The entire Database of Maricopa County in Arizona has been DELETED!”

Trump’s tweet came after the official Twitter account of the Senate liaison for the audit said in a May 12, 2021 tweet here : “Breaking Update: Maricopa County deleted a directory full of election databases from the 2020 election cycle days before the election equipment was delivered to the audit. This is spoliation of evidence!”

Read the full report here - https://www.google.com/amp/s/mobile.reuters.com/article/amp/idUSL2N2N8266

benalvino2:
This video you posted did nothing but prove basilico's point about deleted files. In the video he said they have recovered it then when on to add caveats. Maybe the files were not in the right directory at first, maybe the files were hidden but the auditors did not initially find the files when they looked at the database. They can make legitimate claim the files were deleted

Concluding files were deleted means something sinister or fraudulent is going on. Saying you can find the files just means you have not found them. They do not mean the same thing.

If the auditors did not initially find the files, why not ask the election officials for it before going to press and accusing them of deleting it? The cyberninja people are just desperate to prove election rigging.

Teaveapoet:
Thank you. I'm married but this isn't about me okay! A responsible man doesn't raise his hand on his wife not even in public. What's wrong in washing plates?

Me too I am married (for over a decade). Even though I don't support domestic violence, I believe that some women need factory reset slap once a while to keep the relationship going. During my "still searching" days, girls I have dated have left me because I was too gentle to take them.

Washing plates might be nothing to you, but it might be something for other guys. I for one don't like washing plates or clothes. I can sweep, clean and cook. I repair all the things at home like electricals, plumbings, doors, toys, etc., but washing, no. Even when I was in school, I gave my cloths to people who did it or my girlfriend came weekends to wash my clothes. What I am saying different strokes for different folks. My wife would never tell me to go wash the plates at home, not to talk of in public.

You said he opened restaurant for her oh Glory be to God! So now he lost his job he is feeling his wife is superior than him and you call him husband. Lolz

This is not about feeling superior, it's more about disrespect. If the man did not feel disrespected or unappreciated, he would not have left his home. Believe me the man can survive on his own without the burden of a family.
Washing plates was never part of their arrangement. If the lady was not being disrespectful, she should have asked the husband for help before they left home, or discuss the whole situation before now. The restaurant in front of customers is not the place for such discussions.

basilico:
Liar. AZ audit is raising hell.
Georgia is calling for an audit.
New Hampshire know there was some monkeying around.
Next will be Pennsylvania, Wisconsin and who knows what other State

And the audits would flip the elections in favour of Trump. Trump will be sworn in when again?

Worse case of Grand delusion.

basilico:
I mentioned that an electoral database was deleted in Maricopa Arizona..
You said it was not.
I quoted the forensic auditor.
You did not believe.
I posted a video of his testimony.
You wanted to listen with a fixed mind that all issues had bern debunked.
You wanted me to post the transcript since you would not listen
I provided you with the credentials of the forensic auditor who confirmed he recovered deleted files.
You ran away claiming you cannot listen to an hour long vid.

You are not ble to handle the truth. You have been fed propaganda by media that you simply cannot break away from the harsh indoctrination you have received.
In other words the media filled you in with their lies. You are a zombie regurgitating what media like CNN disseminate.

Does not apply to your situation as such. Lyrics of Zombie.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_X2I9gs39d4

I have not seen such serious case of obsession in my whole life. You more more obsessed with Trump than even his wife or family. Try and let this sink into your mind and head - TRUMP LOST THE ELECTION, AND THERE IS ZERO EVIDENCE OF RIGGING.

The deleted database hoax has since been debunked even by the Republican auditors carrying out the audit. They said they have recovered the deleted files. What actually happened was that the election disc contained thousands of files and folders and the election auditors did not know where to look. Once the real election officials told them where to look, they found them. That you did not get the memo and still carrying propagating the "deleted file" lie is simply insane.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-71V-upQRfY

Coldie:
Where in the story does it state in quote;

"She told the husband to wash plates in public or infront of her customers"?

Abeg show me

Let's know who is being biased here

Read this quote from the OP once again.

so as soon as my husband walked in, I asked him to help me rush to wash a few plates while I serve, and he looked at me in some strange way, I repeated myself and he slapped me in public, and walked out.

The man just walked in and the woman without even greeting him asked her husband to rush to wash plates. Obviously, she wasn't whispering into his ears. And she had the audacity to repeat it.

I hope when you get married, you will not try such rubbish on your husband.

Coldie:
U don't know if she was rude or not but u have already branded her rude that she used wrong approach?

Tell him in public to wash the plates is rude. Shouting it a second time because the husband ignored her is the height of rudeness. That is the wrongest approach in dealing with a husband.

Do u think if she was rude, a woman providing for the family like that would allow the husband slap her like that in public and just keep quiet and act like nothing happened.

Una never jam troublesome women before o.

How many provide is she providing for the family. From the story, she barely feeds the family. I am sure the man still provides the basics like house rent, electric bill and school fees. She could not even hire one staff (that does not cost more than 15,000 per month.

What do you expect her to do? Retaliate by slapping him back? She for land for hospitality if she try am. The slap na love slap, else she no go get month to talk again.

I hate what that woman went tru it pains me so much

What do women pass through? Abeg tell me. We men carry the whole weight of the family on our backs. If just for a few months a man is unable to meet all the family needs, women starts misbehaving.

Coldie:
That's because that's a different scenario, so if the business was ab eating bar where she attends to customers while frying the donuts, if while customers are many she tells u look this donut while I sell for them, there are men who will still find it offensive.

To them they will say I no blame, u, u look me finish tell me to dae fry donut for u.

Even thing is about approach. Before my wife got help, whenever she needs my help, she would call (my office is not too far away) and say "babe, I have to go out, please come and help me look thd donuts or the meat pies) or even to attend to customers. I will tell her to give me 5 mins and I would be there. No if the shop is crowded and she screams " come fry the donuts", I will ignore her. If she screams louder, "I am talking to you, come and fry the donuts", all hell would break loose.

Washing plates in public is a no no for me. I could do that at home if situation demands, but never in public.

Teaveapoet:
You don't have a husband madam.
But as it is now. Just take care of your children. Do the little you can do. Don't overstress yourself.

She did not have a husband, but the man opened a restaurant for her and still goes there to assist or keep her company when he became unemployed. Abi, he became less than a husband because he lost his job?

When You marry shout out load twice that he should wash the plates in public and see if you will have a husband.