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bestdudes:
My male friends do not see anything wrong with me... so why should I bother about a gender that makes poor judgment?

There is a saying that if every one you meet seems mad, it's time to start examining your sanity. You might be the one making poor judgement.

I am one of the kindest people you will ever come across, a flaw if not properly managed.

Kindness does not necessarily give you the girl of your requirements. What can get you any girl of your dreams I to find the needs of the woman and fill them or at least promise or attempt to fill them.

Also, the summary of my thread is about basic human decency... They lack it. WE ARE NOT EVEN TALKING about relationship or dating now because I discarded these girls in the "lets get to know each other" phase. I have not asked them out.

If you don't ask them out then, what do you actually want from them. After a certain age girls don't like guys who just come to waste their time.

ArcFresky:
OP doesnt have a car or use an Iphone with 3 cameras .

My ugly friend dey yansh lecturer, bankers, anything with skirt since he bought his range rover.

We met a random girl in the bank hall the day before, met her in his house the next day.


It is true, good girls require patience and to gently nurture a relationship to grow. Op had his requirements which were not met, he has a right to leave.

Although not all girls are to blame for getting to 30 single, majority are. I remember a girl telling me she wanted to enjoy life, and will be ready at 27. If shes lucky she will see, if shes not 30 go catch am.

Of course gold diggers come at a dime a dozens, but OP was talking about a serious relation with a decent girl. You don't expect a decent 9ja girl from a decent family to come cheap and agree to date you without any stress, even if you drive a Lamboginni.

What are the requirements of the OP? He never stated them.

Dailyparrot:
Whether you want sex from a woman or not, she will definitely play some hard to get tricks immediately you start showing interest in her which is normal. So, backing out from a lady simply because of the flimsy attitudes you described above is extreme.

I guess you are not a player. Real players don't back out easily. Have you wondered why those street urchins tend to get the most beautiful girls? They are patient!

You need some level of patience and tolerance to deal with women. It's those that will differentiate you from the other guys.

In whatever you do with a woman, always define what you want in your mind. That will determine your approach, tolerance level, and quit time.

Gbam!
Guy is no player. Players don't give up on flimsy excuses. So he expect the babe (a Nigerian babe for that matter) to agree just like that? That may be how other babes roll, but not 9ja babes. Nigerian babes that's not a runs babe expect you to work hard before agreeing to date you (even if she has a crush on you)

In the write up, the OP did not state what exactly he wanted - sex, love, friendship, social media friend? He expects the girls to read his mind.

Jokerman:
Where is the video where Tinubu was shouting .... Buhari, Buhari, Buhati, Buhari..... Weed though...

Watch the video from the beginning.

hassanmuhammadd:
Even tinubu he know atiku is the deserve better than him

Let Atiku give a speech or an interview so we can compare. Atiku too seems to be shying away for from open interviews.

Nayture147:
I doubt you even know what a campaign or rally entails.. and you con see the father of all campaigns in Nigerian politics de yarn, you say e no de inspiring..

Lmao.. these people, una problems just de worse every day.

His campaign rallies are are worst in recent memory. Even Buhari who is not even an orator fared much better. Same with Jonathan.

If you listened to the campaign rallies of politicians of the first Republic - Awolowo, Zik and Tafa Balewa, you will cry for how candidate quality had retrogressed over the decades.

Ordinary umbrella Tinubu could not pronounce properly.

Nayture147:
Hey Mr Emeka or Chinozor, delete this crappy thread of yours before e touch you. Saying to you, ASIWAJUs speech was uninspiring. Dem tell you the truth de inspire? You must have gotten so so used to your candidate’s lifestyle of lies and deceits that you would find Jagaban’s speech uninspiring.

We don talk ham before and go talk ham again, come 2023, many of una whey de SW de go back where una come from.

Why is tribalism the only tool you can use to defend Tinubu? Instead of you to counter valid arguments you resort to Mr Emeka or Chibuzor.
You decieve yourself that all Yorubas support Tinubus and only igbos are against Tinubu. Is Afenifere that had never supported an igbo organization. I can conveniently say that at least 50% of yorubas don't like Tinubu or his brand of politics. Only his paid hacks (including traditional and religious leaders), agberos and cultists, his political benefactors and tribalists are is support base.

Here is the video of Tinubu's speech at the flag off of the APC presidential campaign in Jos, Plateau State.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=upSjNX1Vf80

To me the speech was uninspiring with no substance outside normal Nigerian political rhetorics. In the beginning one would think Tinubu was campaigning for a third term for President Buhari, as he spent considerable time eulogising Buhari. He often veered off-point and had to be brought back to script by interruptions by the D.J. Abike Dabiri often had to correct correct his gaffes particularly when he couldn't read and pronounce umbrella.

It will be difficult for Tinubu to have a one on one with a reporter or have an open debate.

feedthenation:
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frenchman:
The website quoted as showing Tish negron as an employee of delloitte is a fake website.

How is https://www.zoominfo.com a fake website?
A who.is check on the domain shows the address and contact details of the registrant and it was registered in 2003.
So how do you conclude that it is fake?

femisplash:
I have seen this and i have addressed it. Tinubu worked in the US notTaiwan. Find a senior executive in Deloitte, USA and put in your request.

You guys are adept at changing the goal post as soon as your opponent scores a point.
At first it was Tish Negron does not exist because he is not on LinkedIn, then it was there is not Tish Negron working at Deloitte, now that its proven that there is indeed a Tish Negron at the legal department of Deloitte, its now "its the legal department at Taiwan and not USA".

Me and you don't understand the organisational structure at Deloitte, so why not write them like David Hundeyn did to ask for clarification before making wild assumptions.

femisplash:
Until you can proof that Tish Negron is an authentic staff of Deloitte, otherwise there's nothing to counter.

Here

27Pushing30:
So he should attend Arise, Channels, AIT, TVC, Africa magic presidential primaries debates/interviews

You guys know how to make silly excuses.

Yes he should Arise, Channels, AIT, TVC, Africa magic, SaharaReporters and even Nairaland interviews/debates, because he is seeking to be a servant to the owners and viewers/readers of Arise, Channels, AIT, TVC, Africa magic, SaharaReporters, Nairaland, vanguard newspapers, sun newspapers, etc.

Why hasn't Atiku attended one? Tinubu don talk him own... he cannot attend one and ignore the other

Atiku was actually prepared to come to the Arise debate until he learnt that his main challenger would not come. Besides, Atiku had granted personal interviews to other private media organisations.

In the USA even CNN and FOX wey no like themselves dey host presidential debates.

CNN go do 1, Fox go do 1, others go come together do 1... go and check US presidential debates ... As big as USA be e no dey pass 3 debates and its held by a commission.

Even if he shy away from presidential debates organised by private media organisations, should he avoid interviews by them also? In the US the major media organisations attach a reporter to each of the main presidential candidates and often get interviewed by them. Why as Tinubu avoided all media interview by all media organisations - both foreign and local. How does he hope to win elections without directly communicating with Nigerians? Even Buhari was granting interviews up and down before the 2015 elections.

You cannot bring Tinubu to a disorganized setting.

Is Tinubu God? Nigerian is a disorganized setting on its own. Tinubu background itself was very disorganized setting, so what do you mean by you cannot bring Tinubu to a disorganized setting?

Nelbless:
UPDATE :


I had taken my time to read divers comments here and must say a very big thank you to everyone here that had contributed 'CONSTRUCTIVELY' may none of you experience this episode, sure some may turn judgemental of this, but I pray no one experience this, cos we may be accused of spoiling her, neglecting her, over protecting her, not knowing the personality or full pictures....etc

SURE IT MAY APPEAR WEIRED PLACING A RESTRICTION ON A 24 YEAR OLD, BUT WHAT IS FAMILY FOR? SHE HAD BEEN RAPED, SHE HAD FALLEN INTO THE DEN OF KIDNAPPERS ON FOUR OCCASIONS ONLY FOR GOD TO INTERVANE...ON EACH OCCASSION AS THOUGH SHE IS MARKED FOR ....


ANYWAYS I HAD INVITED THE GIRL TO OUR FAMILY HOME, SHE CAME (COS MY LITTLE SISTER HAD BLACK LISTED THE NUMBERS OF EVERY MEMBER OF OUR FAMILY), AND SO RIGHT BEFORE US, HER FRIEND CALLED HER, ONLY FOR HER TO TELL HER THAT SHE HAD RAN LAST NIGHT, ITS A VERY LONG TALE, AND A VERY DIRTY ONE TO GO INTO...BUT I DO HAVE ONE ADVICE TO GIVE EVERYONE HERE, PARENTS OR SIBLINGS ....COS THE ROOT CAUSE OF THE PROBLEM HERE IS HER ADDICTION TO SOCIAL MEDIA, WHERE SHE MEETS FOLKS WHO SWEETS TALKS HER INTO LOVING THEM, THEN DEMAND FOR HER NUDE, WHICH SHE OBLIGES TO.

AND THEN FOR SOME REASONS THE PARTY CRASHES, AND SHE GOES EXTREMELY DEPRESSED AND EVEN MAKES SUICIDAL REMARKS, AND THE CIRCLE CONTINUES...

ANYONE CAN BLAME THE FAMILY, BUT MAY YOU NOT HAVE A PROBLEM CHILD AND HAVE A FAIR EXPERIENCE OF WHAT WE ARE GOING THROUGH.


INDEED ITS NO EASY TASK RAISING 'MOST GIRL CHILD'.

The fault is from your parents. They raised her wrong. They spoilt her silly so much so she has to much idle time on her hands. As they say the idle mind is the devils workshop. At 24 what is she doing? She should be rounding up school, learning a skill/trade or hustling to make a life for herself, but instead she is sleeping in her father's house, wasting away on social media 24/7 looking for love, adventure and excitement. I just hope she is not on drugs also.

ejimatic:
Amen my brother.I had pity for those participants at the Arise TV debate especially Obi.The environment was that of a beer parlour or pepper soup joint. A poorly organized debate!

Beer parlour or peppersoup joint, debates are direct or physical engagements with the electorates. Other forms of direct engagements are door to door campaign, town hall meetings, open air campaigns, media rounds etc. Campaigns should not be restricted to traditional rulers, religious leaders, party faithfuls, local tribal groups and political big wigs.

This shows that the electorates are not considered important in winning elections in Nigeria.

Parachoko:
You just start to dey follow presidential election.

Jonathan and Buhari didn't attend any presidential debate, but they won

Yardua didn't perform well during the presidential debate, but he still won.

Tinubu won't be force into attending an unorganise debate

This goes on to reinforce the fact that your votes are not required to win presidential elections in Nigeria. Right from our universities days, we see that debates were critical to convincing the electorate on their suitability particularly for students Union elections. In all advanced countries in the world where peoples votes actually count, debates are critical to electoral victory. Even in previous republics debates or at worst door to door campaigns were critical to election victory. But now, the participants are so brazen in the rigging that they feel they don't need to convince the electorate in a debate or door to door campaign. They just need to pay political big wigs, thugs, traditional rulers, religious leaders Election officials and judges, and they win elections.

Mercury12:
Police invitation for interrogation into any matter is NOT UNLAWFUL but LAWFUL Thank you. If she is found wanting in any way the police can then arrest her.

Found wanting for what exactly? What are you accusing her of - kidnapping? Did you not read the original post or you have a comprehension deficit disorder. According to the post, the lady friend had helped the family as best as she could by providing information she has about the girl's whereabout to them.

Read this portion once again and comprehend;

Just on Saturday which is two days ago, she told us her girl friend ,(someone about 7 years older than she is, a single mother) is siçk, she seek visiting her, we okayed that, only to find out she had played us in other to visit someone she had met on Facebook far far away, she did came back same Saturday very late though.

Before then my mom had confronted the supposed sick lady only to find out all was a ....(lie)

Upon her return she was scolded......only for her to pick few of her stuffs and run away on Sunday, then we discovered , that somehow her girl friend to give us the phone number of the boy she had visited, she tipped us into believing she must have encouraged her to run away or maybe away of the stranger my sister might have ran to.

The spoilt 24 year old girl lied to her family using the girlfriend as excuse. She later came back to pack her load to run away to live with her new lover, the girlfriend provided the phone number of the guy she suspected the 24 year old ran away with, and you are talking about police arresting the girl. For what exactly?

Secondly OP sister is 24 years old adult and doesn't takes away the moral right of the family also know her whereabouts.Families look out for each other.
Well in the eyes of the law,she is currently a missing person.

Police is not hisbah with mandate to enforce moral rights. The family should get in touch with their daughter and her new lover to establish her whereabouts before involving the police.

Pls desist from supporting evil. If your sister or any of your love ones happen to be in same situation i bet you won't suggest they be left alone not knowing their whereabouts or if they safe just because they adults.
Pathetic

It's you that is supporting evil, the intimidation and harassment of a poor single mother probably due to hatred.

Mercury12:
Look for her no matter what it takes...
Fight dirty. That her girl friend needs to provide more clues! Secondly your sister is more likely to contact her on phone first for anything.
So let the police come in and do their interrogations and locating her whereabouts.
No where is safe in Nigeria. Just pray she is in good hands wherever she is or whomever she is with.

Provide more clues to what? Don't the family of the girl (24 year old kid sister) have her phone numbers? She has the right to live any where she wishes and doesn't need anyone's permission or content.

If they arrest the girl friend unjustly, she should sue the family and police for unlawful arrest.

ono:
Research has shown that 73% of the time when election results take this long to count verify and results released to the general public, it favours the evil demonrats.

It's not research but common sense. In the last election cycle, Republicans were demonising mail in voting while vigorous promoting in person voting, while Democrats promoted mail in voting as against in person. This was due to different philosophies regarding the Covid pandemic. Mail in voting takes days and weeks to go through the post, sort, verify and count. So common sense dictate that the election results that come in after voting day heavily favours democrats.

In the past two years, efforts by state legislators in battleground states to bring speed, transparency and efficiency to election process were shot down by demonrats governors in these states. Arizona being one for them.

Before the 2019 elections most of the battleground states won by democrats had Republican legislatures enacting electoral kaws, Republican secretary of state organising the elections and some even had Republican governors . So you cannot blame the democrats for the laws and conduct of the elections.

Katie Hobbs, running for governor in that state is also the one overseeing the electoral process in that state. If you don’t see anything wrong with such an arrangement, then I’m left with nothing to say to you anymore.

This is not a unique case. In the 2019 elections, Brian Kemp was the secretary of state organising an election in which he was a candidate. I did not hear you guys complain then.

ono:
So, pray tell, how did Florida (and many other states) wrap up voting in just 24 - 48 hours after election day? Or there are not people in Military and diplomats assignments of Florida origins?

I am surprised I have to educate you on US electoral system.

US being a federation has different electoral laws for different states. The electoral laws are enacted by each state house legislature. Different states have different ways of handling mail-in and absentee voting. Some states process them on election day, others dont start processing them until in person voting has been counted. Others allow for the ballots to come in up to a month after voting day, as long as they were posted before election day.

If MAGATs suspect fraud and foul play, why don't they present evidence before the appropriate authorities and finally the courts. Are you guys never tied of elevating speculations to the level of facts?

zendi:
In Anambra, Brazil or Italy, vote counting is concluded in two days.
In a Woketopia, vote counting continues until the woke wins.

Anambra, Brazil or Italy don't do mail-in or absentee voting. The mail-in ballot which must be posted by election day, must first get to the Election Office, sorted, signature verified before being counted.

This is not new but had been the system for decades. Republicans had won many elections with this system. Trump himself had voted with mail-in in the past. Military, diplomats and overseas officers vote by absentee, unless you suggest that these categories of Americans should not exercise their civic rights.

You guys are behaving as if these issues are novel or new.

PrimeWatermark:
Hehehehehehehe
Is that all?

Don't worry, you'll soon jam a wolf in sheep's clothing. Then you'll know how far.

It's not even as if the man is a traditionalist, atheist or pagan.
Creating a problem where there is none. Let them be decieving you with 'Do not be unequally yoked'.

Religion shaa

I am an atheist, my wife is a pentecostal Christian and have been happily married for 15 years. So what's your problem?

There are many many atheists or non religious people happily married to Christians, likewise many Muslims happily married to Christians.
In the reverse, there are many Christians marriages from the same denomination that ended up in unhappy marriages - physical abuse, neglect and infidelity.

basilico:
Commies never reliquish power. They shall them isolate right wing, MAGA and brand them election deniers in the next two years.
What I have never understood is why they are so afraid of Trump that they hound him literally 24/7

Election denying seem to be a major part of the MAGA movement. Only MAGATS believe without presenting any fact that any election they lose is rigged, but any election they win is legitimate.

Normal Republicans don't think like that.

If Ron Desantis should run for presidency, it will divide the Republican Party into 2 down the line. MAGA vs Real Republican - Trump cult worshippers vs those with republican ideals.

ono:
How is it that a president with a very low job performance rating, going into the mid term elections is getting his goons voted in and putting up such a strong performance?

Rigged election people!!

Abortion and Trump's Maga Movement.

According to exit polls, abortion is almost at the same point with the economy in terms of importance in voting. Then more independents voted for Democrats because of they were against trump and his MAGA Movement.

LordReed:
LoLz. Any fool can luck into money. Having money is not a sign of genius. Musk was born into a wealthy white South African diamond mine owning family so don't have it at the back of your mind that he was some poor disenfranchised African immigrant. Musk undoubtedly has displayed some business acumen in accumulating wealth, that doesn't mean he is capable of handling every type of situation or business and his acquisition of Twitter is a glaring testimony to that. Not only did he buy it at almost 4x times more than what most analysts value it at he came in with no plan and starts firing people who had experience, the kind of people you cannot hire overnight. Musk may have business acumen but open your eyes for Andromeda's sake and see that this his handling of Twitter so far has been a royal fuckup.

Oh my fucking Andromeda. You're telling me with a straight face that you couldn't foresee that allowing what was essentially a security check to be purchased by any yahoo with $8 would be a problem? No wonder you think Musk is a genius. LMFAO! Everybody and their mother was screaming at how much of a bad idea this was, here you are telling me nobody could have foreseen it. What a joke.

Also you think they are going to bring back this $8 blue check mark? Oh please tell me you are willing to bet on this lemme take your money on a platter of gold. LMFAO! Also the folks liking your post should put their money where their mouth is.

As of a year ago, I used to consider Elon Musk as a genius, but with his stupid twitter debacle, I realize that he was just extremely lucky and not very smart. Definitely not in the mould of Steve Jobs, Bill Gates or even Richard Branson.

How can someone buy a company that had been making losses consistently for the last 10 years for $44 billion? He just dashed Jack Dawson free money. Unless Elon Musk gets a proper management with a brilliant CEO to clean up his mess, I see twitter dying in 2 years.

Even me that is an IT illiterate knew from the beginning that the $8 blue check verification was stupid. Many other IT experts said it will not work, but Elon Musk is behaving like a third world dictator, thinking he is omniscient.

christistruth01:
And In Your own Opinion Ataga was a Saint?

No one is saying Ataga was a Saint, he was not the devil either. He was simply a man doing what men do, and he did not deserve to be gruesome murdered for it.

It was greed that drove Ataga into Chidinma's hands in the first place

Greed ke? Did he expect any material things from Chidinma? It was his high libido that drove him into Chidinma's hands,and Chidinma exploited that opportunity to satisfy her greed. In other climes, a man of such high libido is allowed to marry multiple young wives.

Do you think any decent girls have time for Ataga's type?

Believe me many decent girls are ready to befriend and marry someone as rich and handsome as Ataga.

christistruth01:
Your ideology has sent Ataga to an early grave

It's not any ideology that sent Ataga to an early grave but a wicked, greedy and callous girl. Imagine killing him and the stealing his money and properties without conscience? What kind of ideology is that?

christistruth01:
How did Ataga's phone end up with Chidinma's sister if Chidinma had disowned her?

When you read a story use discretion and don't just swallow everything anyone puts out there

Ataga was old enough to know it was a bad idea to be exploiting a girl young enough to be his own daughter

Both Chidinma's Uncle and Ataga exploited her and she lost it

Ataga get wife for house
He should have settled with his madam

He didn't need to sleep with her before giving her help he could have given her a descent job to maintain herself

It is a pity how he died sha
I expected Ataga to behave with more Wisdom
Ataga no be pikin

A 21 yr old girl was smoking pot and 50 year old Ataga too joined her,Ah Ah

I stead of him to snatch it from her and tell her he must never see her do that again

Your type is the main reason why I left Christianity about 30 years ago, and I never regretted it. You guys just like your Muslim counterpart are very cruel, inhuman and callous. You guys are too obsessed with other people's sex lives and wish them death if they don't conform to your sexual morality.

Ataga having sexual relations with Chidinma is not a crime worthy of gruesome murder. It was not a case of rape, but one of 2 consenting adults. Someone like Ned Nwoko have relations with younger girls and wife multiple of them. They don't go murdering him. Men had been sleeping with young women before christ and will continue sleeping with young women even after his second coming. It can only be a religious sin, it is never a civil crime before talking about punishment with death penalty.

At 21 Chidinma is a legal adult, she is responsible for her decisions and actions. Many ladies are already married at 21.

You have no right to question the sexual lives of Ataga, Chidinma or anyone else who is not a member of your religious sect.

christistruth01:
I am beginning to suspect you as a damage Control Contractor
Return the money and stop defending evil

What do you mean by damage control contractor? This is a public interest case and lots of Nigerians have been following the case since it happened. Most neutral Nigerians just want to see justice done and the murderer(s) should be duly punished.

Do you think it is a Coincidence that they have the same Surname?

Did you not read the screenshot I posted? The sister said she changed her name from Chidinma Echefu to Chidinma Ojukwu. The sister said their fathers name was not Ojukwu and they are from Imo State and not Abia.
I am sure these facts will come out during the trial.

Ojukwu is not a Common Igbo name like Okonkwo or Orji

The Uncle Chidinma was having an affair with is her father's Junior Brother

You refuse to provide the source where you got your information that Chidinma's fathers name is Ojukwu.

I followed the case diligently because inspite of what Chidinma did I don't want her to get Capital Punishment and I want her to Repent and be given another Chance because of her young age

What of Ataga? Does he not deserve another chance of living a full life?
What of Atagas young children, don't they deserve another chance with their father?
I shudder at your warped sense of justice. You want a murderer (suspected) to go scot free because she repented and is young.
I don't support capital punishment either, but a murderer must be punished appropriately for his/her crime.
That's against the universal law of karma.

christistruth01:
The man is her father's Junior Brother

That is why they have the same Surname


It is shame that may be making the family deny him now after it was revealed that he was sleeping with his niece but when the case started he was her father's Junior Brother and they all had the same Surname

And how do you know these? Are you related to Chidinma?
Chidinma's blood sister came out to debunk any relationship with Mr Ojukwu. If they were actually related, then why does she refer to him as Foster father instead of uncle?

christistruth01:
The uncle is her father's Junior Brother and they both have the same Surname

False! The man she is living with is her sugar daddy and not related to her in anyway.

greggng:
I am disappointed with this comment from the police . How is this relevant to this case ? The Foster father wasn't at the scene of the crime ..the sex issue BTW her and the Foster father is neither here nor there cos is not relevant to the case . Nigerians want to see evidence where the Foster father encouraged chidinma to kill the victim for there own benefit . That will amount to premeditated murder ...if the only evidence you have is that she is having sex with her Foster father ...then you.have lost the case. That evidence amount nothing as far as this case is concern. She is being tried for murder not for incest

Mr Ojukwu was not accused of murder.
The "foster father" prevented the police from arresting her when they came to his house. That's obstruction of justice. He might also be an accessory to helping chidinma hide evidence after the murder.

Let the police and the court do their job.