₦airaland Forum

Theunbothered:
When you go abroad and the host country doesn't want you they will deport you by any means, it is the duty of your home country to handle it regardless of the circumstances.

Unless Abike has revoked their citizenship and declared those individuals stateless she has a job to do.

I'm not going to engage people determined to respond like dumb children, go to your nearest primary school if that is the limit of your brain capacity.

I am not the type that expect any favour from another person or government. I will never come to your house and demand or food and drinks because I am hungry or thirsty, much less demand for transportation to leave your house, all as a right for visiting you.
I have learnt to live within my means and responsibility.

It's not the government responsibility to return all Nigerians stuck in foreign lands as a result of their breaking their laws. If it was a result of war like Ukraine, natural disaster or persecution by foreign countries, l would understand, but breaking other countries immigration laws, engaging in crime and cultist and other nefarious acts, and then demand governments must bail you out is ludicrous.

This is just once city - Dubai, in one country - UAE. If the government should bail out all Nigerians in one sort of self inflicted trouble or another in all the countries of the world, the Government will not have time or resources for anything else.

We need to start a moral revolution and start learning how to behave like human beings with values.

Jeezuzpick:
So you will wave the "vow" in her face like it's an employment contract.

Man, if this is your position and you're still single, do yourself a favour.

Don't get married.

So we should disregard the signed "vow" because its not an employment contract? You still are yet to answer why you agreed to sign the "vow" instead of just remaining girlfriend and boyfriend?
You want to pick and choose the portions of the "vow" that favours you and disregard the portions that favours the other party, abi?

I have been happily married for over a decade. And my wife or I has never broken our "vows".

Theunbothered:
She's pulling out every excuse possible from her anus to avoid doing her job.

That woman is known to be very lazy and deaf to the plight of Nigerians abroad.

As long as the people hold Nigerian passport it is her duty to bring them back, they will sort out who is a convict or not when they get here.

In effect we should all be buying one way ticket when travelling abroad, because Abike is duty bound to bring us back whenever we become stranded?

Jeezuzpick:
Whatever.

A man can force himself on a woman when she doesn't want sex o, even in marriage.

The physical and even emotional trauma can be there, whether less intense or more.

Why as a man would I force myself on my wife if I love her?

Substituting marital privilege and entitlement for love is evil and animalistic. Why not address the reason she doesn't want sex at that moment?

Instead, a man should woo his wife. Yes. Toast her for sex. Make her happy. Compliment her. Help her out with chores, sef, so she won't be too tired or stressed.

It's not simping. It's sense. She's happy in the marriage. You get to bust some nut.

It's a win-win!


Don't brutalise your wife in the name of conjugal privilege o. You might bring out a part of her you didn't know existed.

The technicality of the law won't help you as a man when you're in the morgue after consuming a compendium of toxins inside vegetable soup because your wife is fed up of being used like the kitchen sink.

You are still avoiding to acknowledge and answer the main question - why did she sign the marriage vow if she didn't intend to keep it in the first place?

Didn't she see the phrase - "to have and to hold" in the vow?

MrPADDY:
No, failed government

Which came first, the egg or the chicken?
Who spoil Nigerian first, the government or the citizens?

Are the citizens better than the government?

Psalmistproject:
Biafra agitation is a call for equity and freedom.
Even you can agree that the Nigerian State doesn't give this.

But most of the exconvicts in Dubai and other countries are Biafrans. It is because the Nigerian state doesn't give equity and freedom that makes some biafrans go abroad and start committing crimes? If you get biafra, will that stop them from committing crimes?

hazan041:
So because they are ex convict they should be allowed to suffer


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Allow to suffer, how? Didn't they travel to Dubai with return ticket? What were they doing in Dubai in the first place? How were they surviving?

You travel to another man's country, you commit crime, they jail and deport you, you come dey say you are stranded and na government make you dey stranded. How?

If indeed you are stranded, is that solely not your fault? You need to beg the government and Nigerians in general for help, and not demand as if na government send you on assignment.

MrPADDY:
Irresponsible leaders

And responsible citizens?

Sialiah:
Are they still Nigerians or not ?

If they are Nigerians nko? Are they the only foreigners in Dubai? They are not even the only West Africans, but they are the most unruly, criminal minded and alway playing the victim.

In a little while, no other country in the world would allow Nigerians into their soil.

Wittyglam:
it’s not about sexless. He wants it everyday and her body can’t carry it. They have spoken about it several times but no change.

Most people don’t speak out cause of society. Go through the comments here and you will see why some people choose to die in silence.

That's why I say sexual compatibility is vital in marriages. He wants it every day, she can give it only once in two weeks. So what will be the solution? Rape, second wife, olosho, marriage counselor?

I remember a friend of my brought this same problem to my office over a decade ago. He was very upset that he wants to have sex every two days, but the wife says she can cope with every two weeks. His solution was to get another wife. And he actually married another wife. You can imagine how the family was affected by the second marriage. He already had 5 children with his wife and the other wife also now have 4 children.

Wittyglam:
don’t sugarcoat it. When your spouse force is/her is rape.

You still don't get it. We are saying why not divorce your spouse before you get to the rape stage. Because you will be divorced the minute you charge him/her to court for rape. Then the divorce will be more complicated.

Wittyglam:
that still doesn’t mean I should force my husband into sex without is permission.

There are days our body can’t handle it.

Yes there are days our bodies can’t handle sex, but the two parties must discuss and come to an amicable understanding before or during marriage. both of your should have an understanding and be sensitive to each other's sexual needs. Once that is missing, the marriage should be dissolved to avoid unnecessary pains and frustrations.

Wittyglam:
I have a colleague that is dying in silence because of this, she can barely walk. Most times she can barely handle sex but her husband doesn’t care and force her into every time.

She is scare of speaking up.

Why is she dieing in silence? Is she being threatened or forced to stay in the marriage? Why not divorce peacefully and let the two parties go and take care of their sexual needs?

It just doesn't make sense to me to be in a sexless marriage.

[quote author=Temmylee01 post=116689087][/quote]That one na for obodo oyinbo land and not Nigeria, abi you no see the name Mark Giuliani.

In the US women are placed above men in terms of gender issues. So rape and sexual harassment is very wide and fluid. Here in Nigeria, you cannot rape your legally married wife.

Amayabor1:
Where una for dey come out sef? There is nothing like a man raping his wife according to Nigeria laws. No court in Nigeria can convict a man of raping his wife. Know this and Know peace.

Thank you my brother. You can't understand what women want, especially the feminist variety. Make man chop kpekus, dem go shout "no sex before marriage", you come spend time, money and energy to do marriage (court, Christian and traditional) in order to get kpekus, dem come dey now shout rape. Rape ko rap ni.

To make matters worse, if man come decide to get kpekus elsewhere, dem go dey shout adultery.

They just want to emasculate and tie men in bandage.

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jeromestarks:
You're a chicken.

Rape is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual penetration carried out against a person without that person's consent. - Wikipedia.

Consent is already implied the minute you signed the marriage contract. If you want to withdraw implied consent, dissolve the marriage (contract) first.

jeromestarks:
There can be rape even in marriage. Check the definition of rape before you come out here to spill nonsense.

The you check the definition of Marriage. Why marry if your body (and everything else) belongs to you and his to him.

Are you telling me that if your husband dies, his wife has no claim to his properties?

DeepSight:
This is also the definition of rape in Nigeria.
I think the only issue we may have is the interpretation of consent.
And its a tricky one.
Because if one were to take it to an extreme, then even while already in a consensual act of sexx, if she says "stop" and you thrust one more time - Is that rape?

The tricky issue is withdrawal of consent and not consent itself. Consent itself is encouraging and lack of resistance during penetration . If after initial consensual penetration, she then withdraws consent by saying no more thrust, and you go ahead and continue by force. That would be a legal grey area according to US law.
Here in Nigeria, it's a non question. Here even dressing inappropriately to a man's house in most cases is considered consent.

basilico:
Displaying ignorance. For Tyson it was rape.No witnesses to determine whether it was consensual or forced. For both Justices women crawled out of the woodwork claiming that they were talked to in a sexxual manner and they only came out when it came to supreme court nomination while both had been vetted before .

Tyson was a curious case because I dont see how a guy with a reputation hits on you, picks you up at 2 am and you go to his hotel room. Maybe she did not like it , some men are brutes And Tyson with his bad boy image was not exactly a darling of the jury.

Never tired of embarrassing yourself. You are comparing Nigerian standard of rape to the US.

In the US rape is defined as unconsented penetration. Even if she comes into your bedroom naked at 4AM, allowed you to kiss her and handle her breasts, the minutes she says no to penetration and you forcefully proceed. That would be termed rape in the US.

budaatum:
Funny that they are now running away from their abortion ban now that the Supreme Court has scraped RvW and left the decision to the State and thereby the voting people.

I tell you, I so love democracy!

After arguing vehemently that the federal government should not be the one ruling on abortion but should be left to the individual states. Hypocrisy and Republicans are synonyms.

Funflipper:
Damn!! What is it with black women and lesbianism? This sick practice is getting out of hand.

But it's not getting out of hand when black women insults Britain and her sovereign unprovoked. Remember she was the Head of state of 14 other countries including her adopted Trinidad (until 1976).

MedicH:
That's what a free world looks like. Not like in black Africa where wickedness reigns supreme. Your boss can fire u because he doesn't like your looks.

You want a free world where anyone can insult any leader - dead or alive, but you don't want a free world where gays, lesbians and trans can marry or or even have sex in the privacy of their bedrooms. Is that not an irony?

basilico:
I wont go into this but some guys are rough when it comes the act. It was her word against bad boy Tyson.

Rough or gentle, it's still boils down to evidence presented. What's actually happened in the room is between only the two of them and God. But the evidences presented in court was enough to convince a jury of 12 beyond all reasonable doubt.

There was zero evidence presented in court by Trump's lawyers to support the rigging allegations. They did not accuse any one (in court that is) of participating in the rigging. It it possible to bring a rigging allegations without charging and convicting those that did the rigging? Instead of Trump's lawyers to sue Dominion for rigging elections, its Dominion instead that is suing Trump's lawyers for defamation.

basilico:
Very lazy people . Mike Tyson was convicted of rape . He went with a pageant to his hotel room at 3 am in the morning. Two days later she ran to the hospital claiming Tyson raped her. whether she was a gold digger or not no one knows. It was just her word against Tyson which got him 10 yeas sentence.

Lies mixed with false narrative. The proof of evidence for rape is as stringent that of murder.
First you have to proof that there was sex in the first place, before you are required to prove whether its consensual or rape. You need medical, forensic and physical evidence to prove rape before a jury of 12. Finally you need witnesses to collaborate your evidences. Witnesses without any medical, forensic and physical evidence would be thrown out by the judge.
Watch his video to understand the perspectives of the Mike Tyson case.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qlRawW--T24

Now where are the evidences of election rigging you guys are so obsessed with. Which evidences were presented before any courts before calling on witnesses to support?

basilico:
Did not know that you are that dumb. I always thought you are one of those never do well critics who sit in their momma's basement and troll people.

The testimony of a witness that he saw the accused commit or participate in the commission of the crime for which the accused is being tried shall be admissible in evidence in a criminal prosecution in any trial court ordained and established under article III of the Constitution of the United States.

(Added Pub. L. 90–351, title II, § 701(a), June 19, 1968, 82 Stat. 211.)

The testimony of a witness or witnesses alone cannot be used to prosecute a criminal case.
First you need there to be an actual murder. Meaning there has to be a body certified dead by a qualified medical doctor. You cannot assume a missing person even after 20 years as murder.

Secondly, in most cases you gave to present murder weapon or means of murder, and also a medical report that the murder weapon was the cause of death of the deceased.

Thirdly, you have to prove motive and premeditation to differentiate the case from manslaughter or even self defense.

Finally, you have to prove these beyond "all reasonable doubts".

If all you have in a murder case is a bunch of affidavits or witnesses, the judge will throw you out for wasting his or her time.

Replying your stupids assertions can be quite annoying. I do not expect to be explaining basic issues to a supposedly educated person.

Jamesbiodun:
My boss Tecno normal phone not android explode in his pocket... God saved him that he quickly remove it... I was really surprised coz the phone is not android

Once again the phone did not technically explode. It burst into flames. If the phone actually exploded in his pocket he would not have had time to quickly remove it from his pocket. His hip and groin area including his long john would have been damaged before he could act.

delishpot:
She was moved. You can see droplets of blood on the floor too. They lifted her up from obe side and replaced her to the other side.

It's still does not explain why there is blood everywhere. How can you explain the quantity of blood on the chair and on the floor under the chair. The phone itself was not that damaged as it did not show signs of explosion, it shows a burn out. The battery itself which should be the cause of the explosion was still intact. The phone was still intact. If the explosion was powerful enough to shatter a hunan skull, the phone itself would me in pieces.

Gentlesoul2021:
On two occasions, my small phone has heated up, I was lucky enough on those occasions to detect the heating and unplugged from charging. May we not experience phone explosion oo

It's very unlikely that phones will explode, burst into flames yes, but actual explosion, no. This is because the Lithium battery used for phone is the Lifepo4, 3.2v pouch cell type that does not explode. The one that can actually explode is the lithium ion, 3.7v type used in laptops that are encased in cylindrical metal casings.

Shyboyk:
Similar thing killed one guy in my area he was using an iPhone and when the transformer was misbehaving the iPhone shocked him and he died that’s why I don’t like using phone when it’s connected to light

It's not the phone but the charger. The charger probably was a cheap Chinese one without an isolation transformer. If it had a transformer, there was no way full 220v would enter the phone.

SmithRussell:
Lithium batteries don’t overcharge, I don’t know where you got that joke from. And yes, there’s a circuit that controls charging in every consumer device.

What do you mean by Lithium batteries don’t overcharge. Charging any lithium battery above 4.2v is overcharge. After that it starts to become hot and unstable.

Lightorder:
every phone should have overcharge circuit built into it. It beats me hollow each time I hear that a phone exploded. Years back , a certain model of SAMSUNG phones were blowing up like knockouts that even some certain joke sites had US soldiers throwing them across to their enemies when they ran out of grenades

Gbam you hit the nail on the head. The problem is either lack of overcharge protection as in cheap China phones, or the overcharge protection circuit is faulty.