₦airaland Forum

gensteejay:
Though I am a theist, I am inclined to agree with your submission.

Atheist, theist or agnostic, if we are ready to use our minds we can see things clearer. The techniques of confusing people used by churches are as old as man. From ancient cults and religions to the CIA, KGB, police and governments in modern times it has been used and it's still being used.

Amelian:
What an excuse. I notice most people getting married, either the groom is. Not. IN love with his bride.. He's marrying her for. Other reasons or the bride is not. In love with the groom, she's marrying for. Other reasons. The communication gap is as wide and long as river Niger. People will say just marry the guy or the lady, with time. U will fall in love.. All na lie.. If u don't love your spouse, forget it.. Divorce is just by the corner.. Especially to people who believe in love.. No two ways about it.
With love when the ups and downs come, one will be able to manage his or her husband shortcomings and listen to each other.
I rather remain single than. Marry a man I. Don't love. cos I know max. 2years am thinking of getting out.

What is love?

Seun:
I was blessed by the music too. It was touching. Music is powerful.


I actually thought it was staged, because the timing was so convenient. Is it normal to get HIV test results on the same day?

Many Pentecostal churchgoers don't realize it's is all just music. They use music more than every other christian movement. The pastor is preaching and he is saying nothing remarkable but you are being induced by the music in the background of his empty sermon to feel "depth". They sing and dance 80% of the whole program and they say they were moved by God; they feel God's spirit in the building. Everybody would be moved by good music. It's all just feeling, feeling, feeling and nothing else. Every good movie is nothing without soundtrack. If you watch a horror flick without the music in the background you are not scared. There is nothing scary about a beautiful girl going to open a door until they play music in the background to make you feel fear. I have attended a lot of sermons and I look around and wonder why people can't see the obvious. It is a physiological thing you are experiencing when you feel heightened emotion because of the intense screaming by the pastor with solemn soundtrack by the church keyboardist- it is not spiritual. Is it a coincidence that a christian movement that emphasizes extraordinary things such as speaking in tongues’, prophecy, healing, and exorcism would need good soundtrack? Wouldn't a movie with such strange things employ the use of music a great deal?

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oglalasioux:
Very educative post. Thanks, OP.

I'm particularly interested in the diversity of dialects in all languages. In Ebonyi State, for instance, there are more Igbo dialects than in all the Igbo speaking states.

I have come to the conclusion (speculative) that dialects suggest that other tribes joined the original tribes back in time and developed the dialects based on their original mother tongues.

The Ngbo people of Ebonyi State, in my opinion, are originally Idomas. Their dialect of the Igbo language is a pure intonation of the Idoma language. This is also true of the Nsukka people of Enugu state who speak Igbo with Igala intonation.

Most people don't know that the English language and German are 90% identical. Languages and dialects are pointers that the world is shaped by evolution.

Another factor responsible for the development of dialects apart from the mixing of tribes are the natural barriers that isolate identical groups from one another. Because of the minimal interaction this causes they overtime begin to develop separate identities from their relatives. The regions of Nigeria with the most natural barriers such as dense forests, high hills and mountains such as the plateau region, adamawa hills taraba, cross river basins have the highest diversity. What is the nature of ebonyi compared to other parts of Igbo land with respect to the aforementioned?

safarigirl:
lol...of a woman has kids, she don't even give a shiit about men. You people do not realise how irrelevant you are to women in the long run.

Men need to feel that someone depends on them, you need someone to cling to you like a baby, it's what makes you feel like shiiit. Hence, the mere idea that you're not so important, is befuddling to your senses. That's why you needlessly attack women who have proven that they can survive without a man.

Your importance in society hinges upon the fact that women have to need you....so, women give you what you want.

I've been around widowers, they sound pathetic more often than not. Whining about how their longevity is based on having a woman beside them...pathetic

So women need children to feel the same thing men need women to feel?

thankgodeboh:
Ambode is offerring 50,000 NGN salaries to Graduates who would work as bus conductors.

LUCID.

PaperLace:
My husband can't do No1(knot a tie).
I've tried so hard to teach him, instead of him to cool down and learn_ he is more interested in knowing who/which guy taught me...lol.

Seriously, who teach you? lol. Some people learn things better by themselves. I learned the british and American styles as a teenager. My big cousin tried unsuccessfully to teach me but with his eyes staring down at me I just couldn't do it. One day when he was not around I just picked it up and knotted it. The first one I did looked different from the second. I was told later that one is British and the other American. And that's how I became a consultant in my neighborhood o. All the people that said we couldn't do it, now we are choking them all with our tie knotting skills. Twenty years after we're still killing them. Don't ever let no body tell you you cant make it, man! heheheheheheh

chidebem11:
Hello nairalanders,I have been dating this girl for about 5 yrs now. During our normal lovers make out, she suddenly stopped me and then said "don't waste it", i was surprised and asked what she meant, and that's when she told me that she's an EMERE, and that am supposed to be rich by now but i keep wasting what she gives me. I am still a student and i school outside the country, and even though i see her like once or twice every year, i love her very much and i know she loves me a lot too and the thought of leaving her seems really hard. i just want to know what it means and if i can live with it because she has refused to explain further and keeps down playing it anytime i bring it up

She is messing with your mind. She no be anything. It's just her way of increasing her relevance in your life. If you believe that stuff you won't want to ever leave her. Just act uninterested and treat her like she is a bush girl for saying it and see if she would not tell you she was joking. No allow anybody hold you for work with village sense o.

"Yes/No: Should you find out the how long it takes to get a loan approved?"
The above was one of the questions in the course Applying for a Business Loan. The correct Answer was "yes". But we don't know how long it takes BOI to approve loans. Shey we no be bad students like this?
Abi, does anyone have info?

Unimaginable123:
you are talking of middle belt. I'm talking of core North. Go to sokoto, kano, katsina, even daura, they speak hausa in every family. U will never hear fulfude (which is fulani language) spoken anywhere

There is no such thing as "core north". Abi, is there core south? If you want to talk about the north-west, which the states you mentioned are, talk about them. Not respecting people's identities is disrespectful.

yarimo:
Op ABDULLSALAM ABUBAKAR is not a hausa man as you claim, he is an indigene of CHANCHAGA local government of niger state . And they are GWARI by tribe

Reno Omokri is supposed to be an opinion shaper and he is this ignorant. Lazy opinion shapers.

VomeSchakleton:
God its mind boggling how a lot of im.beciles cant understand this simple concept. Thank you!

Ignorance is as ignorance does.

Unimaginable123:
boy, I live in the north. There's no difference between hausa fulani. All northerners speak hausa.

That's a lie. Not all Gbagis, Igbiras, Idomas Tivs, Igalas or the yorubas in the north and many more speak Hausa. STOP MISINFORMING PEOPLE. I live in the north too.

Afonjas:
Fulani people who migrated from Senegal just come hijacked our country

And your people have no migration story too? Some say you're from Egypt while others say you are from Saudi Arabia. As long as you came here before Nigeria was created by the white man, you are a Nigerian.

Mzbooty:
Good evening this is literarily my first ever post on Nairaland,
There is this guy that I am crazy about, how do I win him without him knowing that I wañt him?
Thanks for your expected positive opinions.

The first thing I'd like to know is how well do you know him? Are you close already? Is he a colleague? A friend of your friend's? Is he someone you see more from afar? These are the things that would inform the kind of advice I give you. Let's know this please.

gspace1960:
8th-12th NOV

Wow, it's here already! That's less than 10 days notice.

gspace1960:
juz reciev mi invite 2 d in class training .....all tanks 2 God almighty

what date does your class begin?

Jethrolite:
So Abuja and Lagos people are getting priority ahead of us. No wahala.

Na so o. I'm presently in Abj just to see if the city's air around me will make them invite me. Lol

Jethrolite:
Have you been invited?

No, I haven't.

Jethrolite:
Delta state.

Mine is Edo.

woodcook:
If the president's daughter with her level of education and exposures agrees to be the fourth wife this is an indication of her upbringing (which was influenced by her religion which she has every right to). The same guy that raised her with such world view is the same guy that over 170 million people are looking up to in this year and time.

Just thinking out loud!

But you conveniently leave out the fact that her father has only one wife himself. Everyone has a right to live their life the way they please.

Seun:
Secular morality is superior to religious morality. Secular morality condemns slavery while religious morality condones it. Secular morality is compassionate towards minorities (lesbians, transexuals, women impregnated by rapists, etc) while religious morality calls for their persecution.

You failed gallantly with that one. Not all religions are Abrahamic. There are ancient religious societies that had "minorities" free to live and express themselves. Some religions started yesterday and welcome people with alternative lifestyles. Religions spring up everyday with their unique beliefs. You must free yourself from your Abrahamic roots. It is coloring your view of the world.

safarigirl:
how about engaging the man to pound the yam?

In my family, it's the men that pound yam because it's strenuous activity and I'm skinny as a twig anyway, can barely wrap my hands around a pestle handle

Isn't it high time we did away with the whole yam pounding thing all together. Why do we just like stress?

SemuhleB:
unfortunately I can't help you on that. I have not been blessed with a big booty lol

But you were doing just fine with them pictures.

Thermodynamics:
wooo, i no sabi speak yet oh, i still de wait for my future wife Lola to come teach me but i de learn small small sha, at least i know say "Kileleyi" means "what is this " but for the other one "nso" i nor get idea, hope you no de stroke me sha.

I dey stroke you. I say "wetin this one dey talk".
You use one post abuse two tribes at the same time. Shey dat one good?

Thermodynamics:
You've really made us proud bro. May God grant you more success in your field.

I love Yoruba people, they Gat big brains for education, not all though, some behave totally like Hausa people. But i must marry a yoruba woman from Ibadan.

Kileleyi nso?

skylm:
sorry guys, here is what the text looks like:

Thanks very much. God bless you.

Mayflowa:
You don't know men. These are presumption. A man will go for any girl, just any girl whether poor or rich, beautiful or ugly if the lady show him interest. How many men can resist a woman? you know why? Getting woo by a woman doesn't happen to us everyday even compliment is hard to get from a lady. So we are beguiled anytime we hear such. Why do you think young girls fall quickly for scope? They are easy prey until they become use to boys' deception.

Another secret, many men develop cold finger whenever they are going into marriage. Some are even at the blink of calling it off while the bride goes on shopping spree oblivious of the fight going on on her fiance mind. Why? Men don't want to be taken. They keep assuming there is a better person out there. Men are chief crier over lost girlfriend and if given the chance, they soon realized the other girl is worse than who they with.

we are prisoner of our mind but time wear all of these and we soon grow to love our spouse. So this guy will come around if she knows how to neglect him but take care of his things and food.The guy nor get level. him wey never fit pay rent dey talk how he wan to marry anoda girl!

Because of you na im I log in. For real, that guy nor get level hahahahaha! He just needs to feel he has control of things, not being pushed by circumstances into where he is heading. Once he has that in his head he will come around fully, and her attitude towards him is what will make that happen. If she is not aborting the pregnancy I think she should work with what she has if he is willing irregardless of his present confusion and bewilderment. That guy actually needs her to get his life together; him and his scattered financial state. Soon he will realize what an asset she is to him and let her be the treasurer of the relationship; that guy wey no sabi manage money. He also needs friends who will let him see this as a positive rather than a negative.
All these people shouting upadan that she should raise the baby on her own, the world is not a kind place to a single mother. First you have to live your life with people judging you everywhere you go while looking for a man who can love you with your child. Then you have to think about loving his own children too because he will most likely also be a single father. The work ahead is no small work.

kathy22:
Na WA ooo, maamaa, you are just 23, and u are already sounding like a 38 year old desperate woman. From all I have read it shows this guy is not responsible financially at all towards you and when a lady starts taking care of a man at her young age and marries that same man, that is what she will do till the end of her life with him. Am talking from experiences around me.
He is even threatening you with marriag,he is 9 years older than you and still depends on you, he doesn't care about you now that you feed, accommodate and at the same time pregnant for you? Think twice u still have long years ahead af you

Most ladies who are pregnant out of wedlock are desperate. It has little to do with age. She is a giving person by nature, not a fool. And somehow despite all the pages of the thread you have gone through to this point you have chosen to believe she feeds and accommodates him despite her saying otherwise. That's how people who don't like giving always interpret things. You people should not change a loving person to a bitter unloving one.

Ishilove:
Hello, news flash. The guy is the one living with her, not the other way round!

If they are sharing the rent 50/50 they are both living with each other.