₦airaland Forum

emillysmigael:
I do not support Kiki on this one... D'banj's brother died few years to his fame so he was not only referring to the pain of losing his son but spoke from the reference point of someone who had also once lost a brother

Nice! I don't know the people involved well enough but I like to read comments like this where the commenter disagrees gracefully without going all low like the comment below yours.

This a professional way of saying "na you get your mouth".

bukatyne:
And the world has evolved to stop double standards?

Ok.

The world has evolved to recognize and combat gender inequality a step at a time. Africa is very far behind in this regards and it can be seen onhere.

bukatyne:
Is sexual double standards an African thing?

We did not invent body count, key & padlock ideology, Madonna-LovePeddler complex.

On the average, most men would choose a chaste bride or close to it.

The saying:

Every man wants to his lady's first and every woman wants to be her man's last is not an African saying either.

Christianity was African too. Islam wasn't. The issue is not about where it started, it is about where it is now. The world is evolving and Africa has vehemently refused to tag along.

Biglittlelois:
So why do you type as if you're not a black man?

How is a black man supporting to type?

Biglittlelois:
You typed @bold twice, where are you from? If you don't mind me asking.

You mean where I live? My body is in North America, my spirit is in Nigeria.

ThisGuy2020:
All you said is true. But I'm saying that me walking up to someone and asking the person if they're queer isn't what makes them homophobic. And my action is no reason for them to be homophobic. In Nigeria or wherever.

I'm not making excuses for homophobic people myself. However, regardless of where, asking someone his sexuality is very invasive. I've been in North America almost all my life and not even once have I experienced that. Even simple a question like "did you go to church today?" is consider invasive here but when visited Nigeria, I was asked that almost every Sunday (very annoying, lol). This is not because being queer is wrong but because the question could be interpreted in more ways than one. There are so many ways to get that information without explicitly asking.

Lol. Everyone is showing support today so they'd be counted tomorrow. No one wants to wants to be on the wrong side.

Ignere TV still capturing inside church? Putting people's pics and videos online without their consent. Nowhere is safe. I might just wake up one morning and see myself on Nairaland. And why didn't the usher seize Igbere TV's phone? #EndUsher

Feminist coven. Lmao.

Dear Africans, until you're willing to be liberal and promote equality in all spheres, there'll always be suppression and oppression. This is because institutions created to allow the marginalization of a certain group cause they are the 'minority' can always be employed by the bad yokes when the need arises to marginalize another. Today, you fight for freedom, and thousands of closeted gay people are in the streets with you fighting along because they know what it means to be scarred for one's life every minute. But then you turn around to tell them that their own freedom isn't worth it. You suddenly remember the Nigerian law; the same law we push for its amendment turns out to be a tool for you to support your intolerance. And you think things will change soon? If we all keep clamoring for the change that favours us alone while blocking the liberation of others, then we'd forever be in a cycle cause there's always someone somewhere willing to challenge our own freedom. The only way forward is to put institutions in place that protect the fundamental human rights without exceptions. Anything short of this will be weak and easy to work around. This is the model that has worked for the western world. Gay people are not anyone's problem. Giving them their freedom will not hinder Nigerian progress so I don't know why we're on focusing so much on thier love lives. Live and let live.

Read: https://www.nairaland.com/5937870/hipocricy-black-activism-sorrows-voiceless

Durentt:
hints? Like in what way?

The simple action-feedback loop is enough. Examples: When you share the pic of a protester carrying a placard with the inscription 'queer lives matter', his reaction would give hints. When you lavishly praise a guy passing by, his reaction would give hints. When you compliment his dressing, his reaction would give hints. Etc. If he does not hint you at all despite your 'green light", I'd suggest you leave him cause even if he's gay, you definitely didn't catch his attention. Like I said earlier, a guy that wants you will also put in efforts to communicate his sexuality.

SweetCunt97:
ur status. You not this, you not that... So I ask, what are you?

Oh! Sorry. Lol

Well, I'm a human being and that's enough.

ThisGuy2020:
If you don't ask him, how will he know?
Plus, a homophobe has decided within him or herself to hate homosexuals. The only reason why homophobes are homophobes is because they choose to hate gay people.

The OP is in Nigeria. Do you walk up to guys you crush on in Nigeria to ask if they are gay? You guys know the situation of things in Nigeria and you know there's a limit to your rights at this moment. I'm surprised when you come online play the "activist" and advice someone to do what could turn out to be a dangerous move. When a gay person likes you, he'll give you hints as much as you give him. This, and online meeting are the only feasible options for now. If he's not showing interest, the OP should back out so that it wouldn't turn into harassment. The OP's safety comes first.

Except if the stories I hear about Africa are exaggerated.

I heard so too

bewla:
That last pic is that what I think it is a wire I mean cable



so this na our country nija

Lol... I don't get. You didn't know other countries have 'wires' too?

Hope he's found and taught to stay away from kids.

This is what I keep telling Nairaland boys. You guys come here to promote sleeping around with small girls thinking it's nature's exclusive gift to men while you call girls all sorts of names. It never occurs to you that you're endangering your sisters, cousins, nices and daughters.

iLegendd:
I know. #Smile.

Kindly improve your spoken and written English by reading our book below.

There is no harm in improving yourself. Think about it.

Hi OP!

Nice book. I was just thinking, isn't it overreaching to demean the Nigerian youth just to promote your products? It's not everyone that writes that way, I believe. And whilst we know the origin of the expression 'lazy Nigerian youths', a foreigner might take that at face value.

Good luck.

motionarena:
clever thinking from apple in a move to reduce ewaste.

Most people buying the iPhone 12 are upgrading so they already have a charger in place.

They save themselves cost and make it look like it's for the consumers. I will only call it "clever" if the cost reduction reflects in their selling price even if it's a bit.

Donkelzy:
What are you saying , iPhone 11 has charger in its box or do you mean the unreleased iPhone 12?

iPhone 11 won't have any going forward.

KidDarkness:
Double Standards. So pathetic

Welcome to Africa.

kaykay27:
Dundas Square

Yeah, I later learned that. Thanks.

These are the people that come online to call women 'olosho'.

This is my line of thinking too. What does a group of people need to put in place to form a party in Nigeria? How can we promote this idea?

marwanafrica:
Hi good Morning Sir

Hello. Good Morning Sir.

Ripakurshon:
That was Yesterday, it was Dundas Downtown Toronto

Yeah, I later got to know. Thanks.

Didn't know there was a planned protest.

SweetCunt97:
So many things you not. What are you?

@bolded: I don't get. I think you've got a typographical error.

Kvdag:
Yesterday 17th..We started at Dundas square them walked all the way to City hall..

Oh... I see.

Is that Yonge street ? When was this?

HuntSon:
No be only signal na antenna

My own is that "giving homophobes more reason to hate" doesn't sit well with me

Sorry, you can do as you wish. I was only advising based on the stories I've heard about Africa. I can't possibly know more then those experiencing the life.

@OP, good luck!

HuntSon:
You think he's gonna tell him he's gay? [/b]If for instance he is, he will be thinking the same thing as the op!

[b]Erasing the largely homphobic nigerian society out of the picture, he has every right to approach him, if he's hetero he let's him know and that's where you'll tell him to leave him alone!

Afterall hetero men hit on lesbian ladies on the daily without even considering for once if she's not into men. I don't like double standards pls.

@bold1: If he wants to the OP as much as the OP wants him, he'll give him signs. They'd lead each other on one step at a time.

@bold2: I don't get, why erasing the main subject out of the picture? The OP created this thread and we're having this discussion in the first place because he is weary of the homophobia in Nigeria and doesn't want to misfire. So giving him an advice based on an ideal situation knowing fully well he is not in an ideal situation is somewhat overambitious to me.

@bold3: Please, dont be funny. Are you going to tell the OP to ask him out cause straight people do? Are you going to pretend you don't know he does not enjoy the same priviledge as straight people in Nigeria? We are talking about the OP's security here. Or do you want to use him to advocate for gay rights in Nigeria? Nobody likes the double standard. Nobody likes homophobia. But it exists in Nigeria and gay people must thread cautiously.

@OP, except you're not in Nigeria, don't go hitting on people whose sexuality you don't know. If he's gay and he likes you, he'll signal that to you just as much as you signal yours.