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iTroll:
I'm a young man of 21. Currently studying to become a medical doctor at a private uni
I'm young and I'm broke. I don't know what to do. Girls aren't looking my way. And 99.9999% of the time when they actually ask me for something, it's usually to solve problems for them. I'm tired of solving problems.
When they get their solutions, they forget all about me till next time they need problem solver.
I am a virgin too.
I'm also a nofap person. But I broke my 3 month streak on Friday. The urges was too much.

And I've been back to nofap mode since.
Please what is the way out. What do I do with these urges.
Fasting and prayer no help. I don try am.

This is a genuine question. Not cruise or anything

https://www.nairaland.com/7460393/quick-advise-sexually-active-20


Revert to my thread all the answers you need they there.

Shalom

Everybody go dey cap you go an marry like its the best thing after coke in the Saharan desert. Go terisi na that time you go hear whein.

Guys stay way from poor women

Women who don't have any enterprenual spirit in them

Women who their eyes too chook for bling bling things without knowing the effort, patience and skill to wield it.

All hail to the senior men.

Jlow2:
Average jos girl will still want to leave in his house with him as his girlfriend, even if he confesseshe isthe devil himself, as long he can drive her in flashy car, buy her hairs and iphone she does not care.

Is it that bad with jos girls?

Brendaniel:
I want to believe Nigerian SME's are the most taxed in the world, this one even has receipt, the unofficial taxation is even more than the official one, I've seen where agebros are counting the number of customers coming to buy from a trader to collect their own settlement for the day (this was an apple seller) no receipt for the payment, funny thing was there was police just beside them, the trader said he equally settled the police before he started selling.

The bad part is the tax payers don't see the benefits - please vote wisely in 2023

Back in 2018 ish i once tackled some tax collectors who went to a fruit seller shop to go collect tax dues i suppose they were from revenue office. I said "If you don't know how much this woman earns, they you taxing her is illegal. They were shocked as to how some young folk could challenge them.

The best type of taxation still remains that of Eastern Europe, it is not enough for regulators to come and second guess how much they feel they can tax you without you having a consensus agreement if it is inline with what your business can afford to stay afloat. When i was in my final year in Uni while studying economics, we examined some eastern European companies in the USSR bloc where taxation was done in a roundtable agreement between the business person/entity vs regulators on how much they can conveniently pay, in doing that tax evasion not suffice.

They have started pointing fingers at each other.

Like Rochas said in his last FEC council, after Buhari leaves his seat there may be no APC.

Franzinni:
Bros if Dem go carry ashy, nah the road to thier doom be that ... Make God come punish them ... Dem begin simp for olosho ... You know any young man in his 20s who lack experience with what women really are, mean say something dey worry am and thus even of olosho play am small cassette ( format am how she suffer before Dem come force her to do olosho against her will and she is praying a good man come and take her away from this dirty life that she only has to survive :') then she come give am Betta doggy! He go find money go buy engageMENT ring.

Me I will say if you are in your 20s ... Focus on you becasue the type of girl you want, you can't afford but trust me once you become relevant, then you should have a girl at every place you chill at, you have earned the right to be that guy ... And then anyone who can't share you can find a job as girlfriend else where...

Focus on becoming an object of desire for women which in plain English mean ... Have money.

Who told you 20 something year old who start having platonic sex devoid of any kind of loving up with a babe shows that they are misguided or have no focus?


I am giving average 20 something year old golden advice who just want to bust a nut a clear cut path to knowing how game works.

Hello Fora,
As a sexually active 20 something year old out there in this modern day Nigeria, you would be better off if your nascent sexual experience can start off with a hooker, ashewo, runs girl side b you can kick it with long term for sexual satisfaction and gain some experience devoid of any kind of emotion while staying protected obviously, than going the long hassle of trying to chyke and woo some young love and trying to gain some experience with because that in itself would waste your times resources and mess with you mentally. If and when you finally get a girl who you think is worth yet, they you can return to the status quo.
If you allow TV soap opera love mess with brain and you go loose guard Alaye, you are own because that stuff isn't real, it is simply theatrics. And lastly don't forget you fit simp trying to make your significant other happy and it still may not be enough or largely insignificant so always do what is best for you and give her the benefit of doubt say she can do the worst and that should not move you.


Enjoy

More like the reverse this year i sold over 80 airpods and airtags and the guy who helped me sell them in computer village told me sales has been rather slow and a lot of folks who buy gadgets in droves are now opting for midrange devices and even refurbished.

In his words he told me that a lot of these supposed yahoo boys who come and buy gadgets in drooves sapa hold dem no be small.

This in itself breeds entitlement, social media was abuzz when girls who got gifted cash by their significant other would often ask is this for bread or Akara. Truth is money is not easy to come by nowadays and anyone who isn't doing their bit to help you be financially responsible should be let go.

Lucrativress:
See generalisation...
"Good girls are snubbish"
Better be calming down..
"Stay beclouded in their delusional thinking"

Hunku which of them do you strong thing like this?
Don't mind her you hear, they're not all like that.

I think you should recheck the meaning of your "good Girl"

I stand by what i said Lucrativress, if you are in doubt go ask your male friends for their undiluted opinion and you would see that it resonates with what i said above. Ever heard about how girls who were once loose and out there marry early and successuful husband's compared to their pairs? It is because they are approachable compared to your so called "Good girls", try and walk up to a good girl and strike up a conversation with her as a guy and she would most likely turn you down. Bad girls would be quick to exchange pleasantries and humor with you.

-Shalom

Be approachable, the difference between good girls and bad girls is that they are approachable and are more willing to give a random guy who chance who can turn out to be a good guy and they have everything on lockdown for this guy. Good girls on the other hand are snubbish, unapproachable would stay beclouded in their delusion thinking that they have to vet you 10times and over keep you around for a little longer before they can say yes, but the thing is guy's unlike previous generation don't seem to stay around any much longer and in doing that you may have missed your opportunity to build something with the right guy.

You get time fr, you wan they try morally correct young girls of nowadays. Awon boys e faajaa. Tell woman say make she self correct against the behaviour wey she dey do and from that day onwards you don turn enemy.

imagrg:
They feed their families and sponsor themselves in institutions of higher learning. Life is not easy man!

And what of the men don't they support their families too?

What i find irksome at the end of the day is that some of these girls won't do anything sensible with the money they got asides buying iphone, wig and use the money to oppress themselves.

Due to their level of entiltlement and the way society panders to women, so of them don't know how to show gratitude to the sacrifices society makes to them. Only women can call women out that is if they don't decide to look away.

damoobaba:
You're not likely to EASILY find in Lagos, Calabar, Port Harcourt, Abuja, Benin, Asaba , Warri etc, but believe me, you can try osogbo, Akure and some other TOWNS where standard of living is low or you can target NOBLE FAMILIES where ladies were PROPERLY brought up. You met a random lady in Lagos who's here to look for money and you happy say you don find wife, my laff dey laff you.

You do have a point sire

Heathrow44:
I would expect my marriage to crash, I expect partner to cheat, I expect divorce, I expect stabbing with knife, poisoning, I expect all this cos I married an unfeeling creature, I would rather die than give my all in my marriage, if the nonsense won crash make e crash, A huge lot of my assets would be hidden, and if she even gets to possess anything all will be liabilities, cars that av not been paid fully, houses on mortgage plans,

Have it at the back of your mind say your women fit dawg you it helps you take some descions with common sense as against using emotions.

Go and do magun.

So sad.

May her imperfect soul rest in peace.

2Radii:
Laslas na second class slavery e go be joo (my mind tells me that)

Person fit dey find it difficult to save 500$ per month sef

You may be shocked i know folks who are tradesmen doing 70 and 80k working as plumbers, welders, hvac on reddit who rake in 70 to 80k or more. Just to change toilets aside equipments can rake you 300-800 in Canada not to talk of water heater and filtration sys. And after a few years, you can get your journey man license as a full fledged proffesional. I am not saying everyone has to go into trades, it can also be an alt for folks who wanna japa because they are skills that would be in season and are transferrable to any country.

2Radii:
what do you mean by the traders stuff

Please am interested

Trades like Plumbing, welding as a career to japa. As an alt to Msc.

For pple who can do it sha as it isnt a thing for everyone.

I pride myself to be a staunch minimalist who majored in Economics and hails from Ijebu, that's how minimalist i am. The idea of minimalism stems from being shrewd with financial resources and utility thereby basking in elegance and doing more with less. Being a minimalist every Naira counts and you cannot afford to be selective about it, when you are on top of your finances it gives you a sense of responsibility in handling resources prudently and having a stock pile of dough you can sap from.

The idea of me being a minimalist was borne out of being financially responsible in saving long term for whatever i wanted to buy as a young adult, growing up, i didn't have a plethora of friends and family who handed out favours just so i could do just ever i wanted, if i wanted just about anything i would have to cut back on some excesses and have a lean budget so as to achieve my financial goal i set.
Being a minimalist doesn't go on well with everyone as some people would berate you for not living your best life and amongst friends and co-workers, you maybe looked down upon and may even be ostracized in some social circles. Your dating/relationship may also tank as most female counterpart may not be understanding on your decision on going financially monk since every young person out there is splurging.

The cost of living crisis that has swept across households and the working class in various continents is something a lot of mainstream economist are still yet to get an answer for. This has made a lot of the working class cut back on what they could afford on their disposable income a few years aback, this ordinarily has invoked people has made people to live responsibly and do more with less. There has also been discussions around how minimalism can influence our daily lives in all spheres, the daunting effects of climate change are a stark reality that stares us in the face and as cosmopolitan we may have become, we must be awoken to this reality. In states like California in the US, there has been some warnings the govt has issued out so county's to cut down on their water usage and even do away with watering their lawns.

Grandmeister:
If you can buy data for 5k or more a month then you can pay 900 for Apple Music or Spotify and stream and download high quality music as you wish.

And what makes you think i dont do that on my phone or make i show reciept of monthly data usage?

At 99 o'clock gtfoh DSS you aren't so intelligent afterall.

ibechris:
Note:

I am not against those who are travelling out...but stop selling your properties just to relocate.

It is very hard for many who crossed over but they might not tell u this.

Phrankleen talks about this a lot on his YouTube channel yet a lot of Nigerians want to come for his head.

Since 2017, my parents/friend have been subtly advising me to japa but i told them that i want to have an export based business here before i move. A lot of the immigration dream being sold to Nigerians is to enable them to come work for cheap labour as against what their western counterparts earn amongst others.

Lass Lass we hope and pray for a better Nigeria as there is no place like home.

Sometimes pple act as if you are disturbing them.

Nigeria judges woul burn in hell fire.

You guys left the party in 2015 and even betrayed Jonathan and you are to collect...

E go shock una!

ViVaMadrid:
Why would you own an iPhone and be downloading popular artists’ songs from Tooxclisive?

And why can't i do that on the phone i bought with my own money.


I never even talk about una ugly notch

The worst with Iphone is that if you use your Safari browser and got to a site like Tooxclusive and you try to dll a song from a popular artist, it would download but only be sandboxed to your safari browser, it would never appear on your /music folder. That is the main reason i hate that shit called Iphone.

Goalnaldo:
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