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mandybaby2007:
Na your way b that so folow it. Everybody loves d easy life but life is not easy with everybody.

Na God go save us jawe. Everyone gat their own way ,your way no be my way o

kpolli:
Life is good ooo....

No I don't stay in the South anymore.... I stay in the West now...

How is Houston?? That's one city I wish I was staying in, I miss Naija activities

Houston is fine o, i can't leave Houston o, I dey enjoy am. Have visited some other states and I just conclude say Houston is my small Lagos. Every weekend owambe and frequent amala and ewedu. I can't run out of status lailai

Kpolli, it just ain't easy my brother. I will give anything to be on status oo, I remember when I first arrived and was stranded chaiii, i didnt have anyone in texas and I wan cry Chaii but now I am adapting. Once your school don't reinstate you or sevis say NO , omo it's deportation list. Its hard to survive but I dey look up to baba God every morning, na hin bring me come America o, God has been good o. How's life ? You in louisana right ?

kpolli:
To whom it may concern,

I am not going to go back pages to read the Genesis to Revelation of this story but I will just give my small advise and experience.... I will not advise you to go out of status because your school reports such to SEVIS and that means you're to leave the country for that period... If you don't, that goes into your record.... To fall back into status, SEVIS has to give you the go ahead and from a friend who was out of status for less than a month.... That period is scary as hell because any small issue, you can be deported...

About finding a job after school, from my experience... I got one, lots of friends got... So there is hope as long as there is God... So don't say now your in the USA, you forget God.... Hold on to Him tight and put your fate in God not with one girl you don't know.... Especially NY babes, I have heard their gist and they can be frustrating when they know it's about the paper....

I always say if you can't afford this journey, do not embark on it.... But it's your cross to bear... Sha if you dey marry, make I know... I have not still attended a wedding in this country, still looking for my first...

Francis, i dont really have strenght to type much,you twisting this whole thing, regardless of whatever don't even give running out of status as an option, you have never been there. Walahi, go test people that are out of status Bp, it's gonna be freaking high, this people live in fear until the day they get their papers. You said international student are not sure of getting companies to file for them, why are you still in school , you shouldNt be wasting your money na. USA gave you visa with the believe that you will go back to your home country, that uncle is unfair I will still say it, until you answer the question why this uncle is sending a young guy to the cold of NY to hustle. nY of all places, people have been their for 15 years, no papers. This uncle probably came with a Visiting visa and doesn't know what it takes to run out of a student status. I prefer to suffer in school than roam about the street.

One shrt story, my roomie who graduated in december came for masters and life was so hard on her thinking she will get GA and all sort from UH, well she was unlucky. After one semester, her aunt( who never asked of how she came to USA offer her to come to dallas) she ran out of status amd went Dallas, things weren't rosy, this aunt even said she must pay some of the bills and always give her attitude. Getting a man to file for her prove abortive, she couldn't sleep again, she has lost her status and no papers. She had to look for way to reinstatement, it's a shitty process and if doesn't get through , mehn it's big shit. just pass a questionnaire to people that are out of status, regardless of how much they make from whatever jobs they do, they are not happy with their situation, I have met few. They want to be back in school. Trust me. This arrangie or real marriage thing is a wahala proces on it's own. A lot of people are strucked just the 2 years green card just because they found out their Mariage was not genuine. Finally , just because it works for jack doesn't mean it will work for bull.

bigfrancis21:
Zeezah, don't get me wrong. I was not supporting his uncle neither was I advising him to fall out of status. I detailed in entirety life in America and what it entails. A lot of people here were already quick to judge his uncle as 'bad belle' and wanting his downfall, many of whom don't know the least about life in America.

First of all, are you even aware that there are international students who came here to study and after graduation couldn't get a company to hire them? These students finally settled for finding someone they like after 'roaming the same streets for months' and getting married to someone - the very same permanent residency process his uncle told him about? Are you trying to tell me that every international student who graduates from school in the US gets a job on graduation? I don't mean to be pessimistic but let us be realistic here. Company filing is a competitive process and not everyboy who graduates gets a company to file for them. In fact, most international students get their papers through marriage.

A classmate of mine graduated this last fall semester with no job, after intensely job hunting and having a couple of interviews and calls. Guess what? He's currently looking to date someone so he can legalize his stay in the US. Don't make it sound like getting married to someone you like is a bad idea when more than 60% of the time, international students take that route. It's all left to you as an international student. You either choose to go to school now and fight for your papers later or get your papers now and go to school later. The only difference being that one route is easier for some people than the other.

bigfrancis21:
@exxy and profojah: This is the issue with Nigerians back home who think that the US is all bed and roses. Do you know how his uncle is managing to survive? Do you know how many jobs he works just to be able to come up with his rent + feeding + bills + loan paybacks every month? Do you know that millions of Americans live on paycheck to paycheck with very little to even save in the bank? You should not be quick to judge the uncle as 'wicked and an enemy of progress' when you have not the slightest idea of how he is managing to survive in the US. Until you walk a mile in his uncle's shoes, save your judgment for another day.

Bigfrancis, I can't quote all your posts so I won't take all the space, so all what you are saying is that it's not a crime for his uncle to advise him to go to new York alone and struggle, this uncle doesn't even live in NY. I am not judging the uncle, that's all he can offer. He tried. People advise you to run outof status but do not help you with any kind of help to survival.

Francis, frankly speaking,I didn't expect this kind of response from you, supporting someone to run out of status, a lot of people ran out of status and till date they haven't even found a way out. The have been working under the table. What works for A might not work for B. The guy still has good means to pay his tuition at least its cheap. It's better to suffer through school and have a certificate than roam about the street looking for who to marry. The marriage of a thing is even a risk and it takes a lot. We all ain't rich but we are struggling, you personally, did you run out of status when you broke? Dont tell me you dont have bad times when you were broke but you Never ran out of staus, Don't give advise that you didn't pass through. I have met people that are out of status, regardless of whatever, they do not have peace of mind. All they think about is how to get reinstated or how to be a residence. Do you have them as friends ? Try ask them. They don't sleep peacefully.

Come to think of it, he runs out of status and working under the table for 4 years without getting anyone to marry and he has somekinda issues with the law( God forbid) , he is gonna be sent back home. No certificate but no matter how hard it is to get a company to file for you after 4 years, at least you have a certificate to show for it. This guy came to study, no everyone want to roam about the street looking for papers. Your advise should go to people that only came to USA to struggle regardless of whatever visa. Even when things ain't going fine for some people in this thread, let's give them wonderful advise to keep moving, strong spirit and have endurance. We shouldn't be advising anyone to take the option of running out of status when we ourselves are still in school. it ain't rosy for me as well

Nice one, this serves as an eye opener but some people won't still listen. Congrats OP

exxy:
House i need advice ooo, my uncle in the state called me yesterday and told me to leave school(fall out of status) so that i can go work in newyork. before now, this same uncle didn't support my coming to the state, financially and otherwise. but now he wants me to leave school to a state where his not even in. He was saying who is going to pay my tuition, who will do this, who will do that, i said sir, i have gotting 2 jobs on campus, my department has schorship, and more over i have paid half of my tuition(1500) my tuition is about $3k, i dont stay on campus, and my feeding is garanted, accomdation is ok, feeding is ok, but my uncle said i should forget that one, and see to what his telling me. House i need ur advice oo, my uncle wan kill me.

Zeezahbee, imperiouxx, bigfrancis21, walspring, MsNas and others make una look into the matter oo

Who's that uncle of yours? He needs to be wiped. Thats why I don't involve my extended family in my life. This same uncle could not help you come to the states, am sure he couldn't even help pay app fee or sevis fee. Just shut that uncle down. Do you know how hard it is to run out of status, mehn it's a trauma. It means you are undocumented immigrant. Don't even involve him in your life. New York is even the last place I will advice anyone to go and hustle, some people sleep on the basement in NY. It's all man for himself. If you have any problem in NY,this same uncle won't show up.

My advice struggle through school, try get good grades, on campus job, after one 2 semester you can't foot the bills, apply for economic hardship( you will get a work authorization that you can use to work off campus but only if youncan convince uscis that you truly need it, I know few people using that) . All in all, be careful of family. Good luck

The girl obviously still wants your brother , she has feelings for him and still hope something works out between them,. Dating you will spoil her chances with your brother. They might probably had intimacy in the past and your brother has warned you not to date her. So let her be

Only a jobless man will come and stay with me in my hostel. I don't roll with lazy ass. Highest he could spend is the weekend and it's gonna be once in a blue moon

aadeyi:
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IyawoToBe:
Hello all! I noticed that people don't really talk much about getting apartment on Craiglist. I was going through the site some days ago and saw some cheap apartments that can be shared between two/ three people thereby saving a lot of money.

Pleases is there any disadvantage of going through this route instead of the usuall intown suites et al.

Haaa craiglist ke, you are at the risk of losing your money because most of the list posted there are not real and sharing a room with a serial killer. Who goes to craiglist this days . Be careful. No one in America will ever advise you to get an apartment on craiglist. The only problem you have getting apartment is because you are not a residence. You don't have a ssn and credit history, therefore they are scared to lease an apartment to you, the only option is when they take 3 times the money. Life doesn't have a duplicate, Craiglist is dangerous.

juntod:
Madam d madam.. everything is fine here. I was even in Houston for about a week (Xmas and Newyear). Have you started classes for the Spring?

Classes start soon, you were in Houston and you didn't inform me. He dey your body

juntod:
Wassup house!!! Is there anyone whose visa was approved in Lagos this week (or Monday to be precise)? Have you been able to pick up your passport?

Juntod na so life be. How's morgan state ? Howe Maryland weather ?

jamesflaw:
University at buffalo New York.. Took TOEFL and SAT 96 and 1620 respectively. It's a four year course. (Undergraduate studies)

Have you checked their tuition. It's not about acceptance alone. New York is expensive to live in as an international student

There's nothing we won't hear in this world. Firstly, the guy is probably broke, only a broke guy will write that shit. Secondly, he has other options, it means the girl is not the only he's spending on, once you start writing out expenses, it means you are trying to compare or you have decided how much you wish to spend.

OP back to your question, I will run away from such guy because when we get married, he will probably be following me to market or write a list of what we need with prices.

walex57:
lol, in fact someone saw me at the gas station and I was talking to a fellow Nigerian, as in, in naija tongue, and she asked where we were from, and we answered proudly...for "Nigeria" and then she said we should not come near her because of ebola....and she's black! Lol...we just looked at her like maybe she was high on stone or something...and yet to Nigerians back home (and not least from some comments on this thread) we the Nigerians abroad are the ones painting our country bad....smh

She's probably akata, as if they are better. I am always so rude to them and don't allow their BS. The are the worst set of people have every met. I don't even give them chance to say any stuff around me. Really I wish I have something to cleanse nigeria, people say a lot of bad stuffs about us, it hurts

All this lists sef. Try space next time. It hurt my eyes

You have chased the wrong rat. Deal with it

VANYCUTIE:
I VE SO MANY SUITORS CUMING BUT I CANT ACCEPT DEM JUST COS HE IS TRAININ ME..AT DIS POINT IN MY LIF,AM JUST CONFUSED.HE KIPS POSTPONIN ALL D WEDDIN ARRANGMENTS.IT EITHER DIS EASTER OR NEXT DECEMBER.HE SAID HE WANTS A HIGH CLASS WEDDIN.DATS Y HE IS WAITIN FOR ENUF MONY.WATIF I FINISH REJECTIN ALL DIS MEN AND WE END UP NOT GETTIN MARRIED,WAT WIL B MY FATE? DATS Y AM WORRIED FRNDS.

You are not even sure of this man. What do you mean by he's training you? You obviously feeling guilty because he saw you through school, there's no pity in marriage, it's a life time contract. You know and feel you deserve better. All you kept mentioning is what will be your fate. Have a rethink and decide what you want

walex57:
Some people accused Nigerians staying abroad of painting a bad image of Nigeria to foreigners? I think the opposite is the case. I defend Nigeria almost on a daily basis here, if you check the foreign media as what they paint Nigeria as, you will be sad. They paint a poverty ravaged nation, plagued with diseases and terrorism. Are the Nigerians abroad the cause of this? Anytime I got to the hospital for regular check up, the first question is " have you left the US within the last month" well you know why they ask....ebola!....Are Nigerians abroad the cause of this also? Not all Nigerians or Africans are enjoying life abroad, but many are very comfortable here but the sudden hatred is what I still try to envisage.

Same thing happened last week at cook county hospital in Chicago, I was feeling feverish and as my first time in that hospital, during registration , the lady in charge said whats my country of birth and I said Nigeria, she said have you been out of USA in 21days and I said no. Even after I met the doctor, still same question. I finally asked the last doctor I met and he said it was because of Ebola . Mtcheeew.i had to lecture him

moreeni:
I know for certain you guys are not Yorubas. We get shame for body no be small! In-law ejecting me ke

To the issue, get an estate agent to work with her and give some of your time to search for an apartment for her. Then, pay and help her move out.No one will accuse you of rendering her destitute. Viola...problem solved!

I am Yoruba , but don't you know the guy is frustrated that's why he came here. Assuming the lady is 21, I will tell the OP to take a chill pill but she's 36 years, getting close to menopause. The OP is doing her a favor by ejecting her. My uncle has ejected his sister in law when she was even just 30years. If we keep having this tradition and inlaw mentality, we won't get anywhere. Patapata, they will say your are wicked and get over it

Gratefulaheart:
lol. Was meaning to ask same question. Pls mamas and papas in the house, anyone who has info on hospitals in arkansas should assist me with it biko

Been calling and calling but I've not gotten anything tangible

Arkansas is just a normal place like Texas, Atlanta or wherever. If that's where you have your family or friends, try get info, it might even be cheaper than some other states.

mutter:
it is such a shame. When I moved to Europe I imagined I would meet loads of wonderful nigerians and africans. I came to discover that even the nigerians in the most interior part of Nigeria or in the wildest joints are more cultivated than many africans you meet here.
This never ceases to amaze me.

Chaii, I thought I was the only one thinking that way, the nigerians in diaspora are something else, the nigerians here are just nothing to write home about, backbiters , liars, they are full of shits, with the little time have spent in USA, I have learned a lot, I just stylishly segregate myself from them . If you are not careful, they will send you back to square one . Spits

36 years old. Emo!!! and she's been comfortable in your house
She needs help seriously, I mean real prayer oo, spiritual bath. Her parent are even pleading for a 36years old to stay in another woman house. Is she castrated ? I mean she no get private part ? Have they cut her clit? OP a beg does she have a man in her life?
OP this time around you need to disrespect your inlaws,she's becoming heat in that house , you guys need ventilation, if she ends up reaching menopause in your house, God might not forgive you. Give your wife a 2 weeks ultimatum to send her out or else you leave your marriage, just to scare her and start giving the sister attitude in that house, give her heat, show her red light

they should ask their daughter na wrong Question

cococandy:
I hope he sues the hell out of their miserable lives.


So pissed.

He can't sue anything , he should just take a chill pill and move on with life. It's only in USA that you can sue someone for not packing the snow from the walkway or just for any reason but in Nigeria , forget it.

cococandy:
Rich,healthy and happy. God is alive. Alleluia.
Why wish for less?

You said my mind lol. Being rich and happy is the surest thing.

Akposy, this amala tho

aadeyi:
I didn't get any yet oooo sister

check ooo, I replied twice ke

dechandel:
That accessories is so true!!
Changing gadgets like hell with no reasonable source of income o..

Snapping in an expensive environment? What if its my father's house nko?

Go to instagram and see locations na

I don't accept the location talk oo, on my instagram, I have like 5 different location, Colorado, Atlanta, southcarolina n Chicago and Houston ( where I live). It doesn't make me a runs girl

I can snap in an expensive environment , it's normal , pictures needs to be snapped in good places, that's why it's called picture.

justwise:
Really? You know what? You need to ask for school fees refund, they cheated you

; justy oo