Sierra Leone and Nigeria. Spiritually Sierra-leonian and linguistically Nigerian. I am more of one than the other, the beauty is I have both as family and love them just as much.

@ POSTER
Me, I am cool and having a lotta fun. I have seen people destroyed nay the word is deformed because of the compulsion to marry. In desperation they make huge mistakes. Mistakes that last a life time but phew! are they glad they got rid of the bugger.

Marriage will happen if you want it to. You have got to put in a lot of effort especially if you are female. I hate that I just said that but its true. Sometimes you have to quit being yourself if you want it bad. As for me I don't, though the loneliness does hit hard sometimes. I do believe that if I would I will. So no sweat. Besides there is cable, the Internet, the occasional phone call in my cell, food, money and the Bible. Being a single parent is a huge bonus.

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I think it is a terrible mistake most women make to wait for an already made man or to have very unrealistic standards.
Also many of these women get carried away with career and are not able to reconcile that with marriage.
I see many women with ideas of equality but unfortunately it does not work out that way in real life.
Getting married is no easy task
While women are striving towards equality most men are still searching for the good old fashioned qualities in a wife, like respect, submission, faithfulness etc.
I personally have the greatest respect, not for married women or single parents but for single parents. Raising a child alone and doing it well, is real hard job.

I do totally agree with these points. Men want the works, faithfulness et al. They want to be the focus and in charge and lets face it there is nothing like equality between the sexes. Modern women dream on! As for Mr. Right , y'all better settle for the bird in hand and make him right.

Buy at Park and shop VI and in amigos in Abuja. Pls learn to eat brown rice, we learn everything. Also looking to lose weight then add lentils and chickpeas. Yes they are expensive but what I do is make them side dishes. vegetables complement. You will hate it at first but it grows on you. You will see the fat melt as these are more healthy options

otokx:

Oats has to go along with something.

ginger and honey. legumes cos oats have an excess of methioninebut relatively poor in lysine. legumes are rich in lysine so both are complete protein. Oats lowers cholesterol, helps eliminate fat from the stem, has lecithin, avenasterol, linoleic acid, fiber and much more. Oats is it. It is also a feel good food. Give to a child on the morning of exams as it is calming.

Oat water can be used as beverage all day

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A yam pounder. I have one I never use. Its old though since 82. I could not pound yam so my father bought it.

@ POSTER
I have a big fat story about the first bottle I owned. Big fat juicy story.

iice:

[color=#9900ff]Yeah usually. I started with Cacherel's Anais Anais and i was like 11 or so

I used this perfume for a very very long time in my late teens.

one more thing, the riotous lifestyle. My darling has assured me she wont go wayward but "duh"

Teens are going crazy for modelling, the razzmatazz the glamour not really considering that it is really hard work . And I tell my daughter, one's body is sold to the designer to do whatever he/she so pleases. I deduce if my body does not belong to me for the duration of my contract then whats his name, dolce or gabbanna or Oshodi could jolly well do what they please with my body. would I always like this or would I sometime feel like the woman who sold out her body for a period of time when its time to bare my bosom and what else.

But never mind me I am just an old fuddle diddle from la di la land!

tpiah, hi. how are doing today.

you see, I wanted to be an engineer. My father was.

I love my kids. Nostalgia smiled a most beguiling smile at me. I remember when Richard was born. It was a difficult birth but when the doctor put him in my arms it was all I could do not to start the tears again but this time they were tears of joy. I had a ceasarian so I had to be careful and take things easy. His father had been golden then, he truly was in love back in those days. Richard was a bundle of joy and as he grew my joy knew no ends, probably the reason why I did not immediately notice Mike's philandering,. Richard was the one who would always wait up for mommy to come back from work sleeping on the sitter's laps instead of going to his room. Richard remembered all our birthdays including Chris'. Richard, sensitive Richard was the one who wanted to be a cook when he grew up so as to cook very good meals for mommy. Yes I loved my kids and tried so hard not to have a favorite especially as I have become part-time father to them

Richard's behaviour to Chris bordered on rudeness. I have pretended not to notice but truth is my son was rude to my man. This put me in a quandary. Richard was usually a well behaved boy

As I was musing back and forth I remember the nagging feeling at the back of my mind, one I had been denying. Just then, my cell phone rang. I knew that ringtone which was assigned to a particular person, Immediately I knew there was trouble.

violent:

duh!. . the poster isn't talking about just the skin color!

funny thing is how folks on around here keep screaming "Hell yes, i'd come back as black". . .while they lived the rest of their lives trying to fit into a white's man's world!

bloody hypocrites if you ask me!

these same sets of people will form and force the annoying accent thingy every opportunity they've got, they live their lives everyday wishing they were full blooded british or american citizens.

and guess what?. . .just to save face on a faceless forum, they scream "I'm black and proud". . . .yer right!

you got me there cos I was going to carry on about how I loved my colour et al.  But you know what I will be a black woman, a second time. If not apriori, I will be feisty.

I simply love birthdays

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I remember the French bashing Kirsten Dunst in Maria Antoinette. I respect Pete, _{will always do after things fall apatr}. I absolutely adore Olu Jacobs and his wife. Pete has a point though, if Olu Jacobs were well informed he'd know no go areas. But there was a director and a scriptwriter, no? These are to blame for not making real time research. Me too, like Pete I go quite crazy when I see the supposedly super rich wear cheap clothes made from super cheap fabric or drinking champagne from the wrong glasses. Anyway not to worry, the big fat oppulent houses pacify me anytime without Ini Edo's trashy clothes

did I go off topic? oops!

I feel modelling will be a distraction. Lets face it, modelling is not really a proper job and it has a lifespan. Besides it would take up almost all her time. I know Tyra moved on but unto a talkshow. Medicine or engineering would demand total dedication. I'm seriously routing for engineering. she is an only child and I want job security for her, I cannot stand the finickiness of modelling, here today stale news tommorrow. And there is another most impt reason!

I decided to clean out Richard's room since he hardly ever does this. He shares with Eric and Eric's been complaining about the untidy state of the room. I felt it'd be an opportunity to sort out what they would need in Cape town. Fifteen minutes into the chore, I discovered what made my hair stand on end. Richard had used a red marked to scribble the words I HATE YOU all over the face of Chris in a photo I had taken of him the last time we were all at the mall. To say I was shocked was putting it mildly. Needless to say that chore was done haphazardly. when I managed to finish, I made some strong coffee to drink

I could not stop the questions from coming. Was this the reason Richard had been behaving oddly and his grades dropping? Another thing unnerved me something to dark for me to contemplate,

I hear or read somewhere that an addiction's never cured but managed. Wish someone had told me this earlier. I really really believed I had gone past my spendaholicism ( I hope thats a word)., I believed I was cured and was ready to take my world by storm. I promised my daughter all will be well and went ahead to make liquid my estates. This was in 07. I failed. Terribly

In 08 I sold more of my estates and repeated same mistake, Now I am quite in the dog house, in a way poor except for monies I loaned my friends who are paying back, I failed and could not look my daughter in the face.

I prayed and prayed and prayed not to be in the dog house but I have been there for more than a year now. I am not taking chances anymore. I own up to be unreliable about money. I tell everyone who cares to hear. My experience had been most unpleasant to say the least.

Shopping to make yourself happy is a symptom of a greater need and needs to be addressed asap. Do not let it linger. I had marital problems that sapped me of my confidence so I guess I made it my duty to buy pretty things that were very very expensive. Having expensive tastes did not help my matter.

looking at my teen, super model comes to mind. Goodness knows, she has all it takes. There is a twist here though, she wants to become an engineer but I will be guilty all my life if I dont give her permission to model. She's so it. You see I wonder how life would have turned out if I had gone for a paegent I was too qualified.

when in Lagos go to Christie's Pentagon House Ikeja. she is a make up artist and a wedding consultant.

bejewelled since 19

MHC hi

its official women are gaga over shoes. Much comfort! watched the YOU TUBE video and suddenly was healed of all the guilt toxins I had harboured thinking I was the cuckoo one,

my daughter's 5"8, has a body to die for, stunningly beautiful (_{takes after me, well  her papi's cool too, that why I married him)}. She is a natural, with an attitude but sorry she's only 15 with very conservative parents, old schoolish!

I cannot stand road trips. My fear is morbid, though no longer relevant but I would rather not. Flying ensures I arrive at my destination early, looking elegant . I am not cut out for spending hours on the road when I can travel by air.
Slowly but surely, over the years, I have grown to hate road travel, too tedious. However I take really long drives if the landscape's worth it. Surely there must be a difference between road travel and really long leisure drives.

@ POSTER.     Any pressure on you to lose weight will achieve just the opposite result, as you will be depressed and turn to food and more food. US size 12 is not  a taboo size for an African voluptuous lady. In my walk of life however, when a male partner, a Nigerian, starts harping on weight and level of education, male children, and whatever else takes his fancy, you'd be better off paying attention. Your friend means every thing he says including the ones his so called friends contributed. These friends are boardroom members of anything that concerns his life. When you marry him,  (if you are unlucky to do so without resolving this issue),  his friends will always be the invisible power-brokers in your home.

lose the weight for you and your self esteem. I deduced you do not have much of it, reason y  you apologised for being overweight at the beginning of your relationship. You gave him that opening and he is taking full advantage of it. Just as if on cue I saw MOnique on tv, thats one woman who wont be caught feeling sorry for herself!

One more thing, are you sure he loves you, really loves YOU because his request for the weight loss is purely aesthetic, he did not site health reasons, more into what your 'fat' appearance will do  to his 'dapper' self. A man who truly cares will hold on to what he's got!

Who knows, you may just clinch it with these

These are more me

My take is that women love shoes! all!. Some discover this affinity much later and oh bwoi, the 'Imeda' in them refuses to be placated.
@lice

The deep pink one, just without the ruffles and that color!

My sentiments exactly. I am not a ruffles admirer but since we are talking ruffles, can you imagine this construction! As much as I know I won't, I know exactly who will

I'm fired up

~Ah Ha! You made it Zenatta! Feel Right at home to confess or chit chat about your passion for shoes!

I have been ogling (shoes!) and wishing. Went to sleep a happy woman.