zayhal: Maclatunji, I told you before not all questions are polar. Answering a 'yes' or a 'no' may not represent what one intends to say at all. So leave that angle.

Now, a couple who has a good relationship going for them and have always communicated well, I doubt will have the kind of problematic scenario you painted above. MIT or Havard. They'll both take a pncil and paper and list the advantages and disadvantages in the child attending either. The child too should be brought in to have a say. At the end of the day, a suitable choice is most likely to be made based on the pros and cons they've highlighted.

But if husband commander-in-chief has the rigid mindset that whatever happens, it has to be his way or the highway then that marriage has got a big big problem. Wisdom is very important in applying rules and laws.

Stop appearing impossible.

zayhal: I feel it "out of place" if a husband just hands down orders to his wife and this is my understanding of the "command" here.

"Get me my food"
"You must not go out today!"
"My friend will be passing the night with us today, go on and tidy the guest room quickly beefore he arrives!"
"What's this you're wearing? Go and put on something better, my friend!"

And on and on. Yes, I find these out of place in a marital relationship.

mikeyhernadez: Na to give am better phuck win am o....nor b dis long talk

ifyalways: why should my husband command me ? (

Freiburger:
lol, what's wrong with it if he commands you in the right direction?
I think these kind of command is not that military type as it sounds.

Okija_juju:

And you are supposed to be a Muslim Woman!!

I had no idea you were supposed to even speak without permission, let alone speak to a man in that manner.

You should go and ask Allah for forgiveness.

niyivasaz:


For ur kind info I'm a man like you and u shd just shut ur filty mouth!

why u guys always talk ill about other pple's belief?

seunajia: The beautiful thread is ruined.

Typical of today women, they immediately pick on the word "command" and make the worst of it.

Command
Definition: directive, instruction
Synonyms: act, adjuration, ban, behest, bidding, call, canon, caveat, charge, citation, commandment, decree, demand, devoir, dictate, dictation, dictum, direction, duty, edict, enactment, exaction, fiat, imperative, imposition, injunction, interdiction, law, mandate, notification, obligation, order, ordinance, precept, prescript, proclamation, prohibition, proscription, regulation, request, requirement, requisition, responsibility, rule, subpoena, summons, ultimatum, warrant, will, word, writ.

Do your husband's "directive". Chikena!

seunajia: The beautiful thread is ruined.

Typical of today women, they immediately pick on the word "command" and make the worst of it.

Command
Definition: directive, instruction
Synonyms: act, adjuration, ban, behest, bidding, call, canon, caveat, charge, citation, commandment, decree, demand, devoir, dictate, dictation, dictum, direction, duty, edict, enactment, exaction, fiat, imperative, imposition, injunction, interdiction, law, mandate, notification, obligation, order, ordinance, precept, prescript, proclamation, prohibition, proscription, regulation, request, requirement, requisition, responsibility, rule, subpoena, summons, ultimatum, warrant, will, word, writ.

Do your husband's "directive". Chikena!

Rukemi291: Thanks OP. this came at the right time. I'm getting married in 18 days......

zayhal: I feel it "out of place" if a husband just hands down orders to his wife and this is my understanding of the "command" here.

"Get me my food"
"You must not go out today!"
"My friend will be passing the night with us today, go on and tidy the guest room quickly beefore he arrives!"
"What's this you're wearing? Go and put on something better, my friend!"

And on and on. Yes, I find these out of place in a marital relationship.

Okija_juju:

And you are supposed to be a Muslim Woman!!

I had no idea you were supposed to even speak without permission, let alone speak to a man in that manner.

You should go and ask Allah for forgiveness.

maclatunji:

Humongous congratulations to you. May Allah bless your union with all that makes marriage sweet. (Ameen)

mdsocks: Mac...i wouldnt say you are wrong about this but your use of the verse and the analogy given is quite skewed...When the Quran says command your wives it didnt mean such issues as decision making but on Issues that Islam deems obligatory like salat.

ifyalways: Everything is wrong with it.
I'm not a sheep that needs to be commanded no matter what and the good news here is that i got a great man that would never dream of commanding me.He leads and guides in love,i follow.Anything more than than would be met with fierce rebellion and opposition. QED

However,if anyone is OK with giving/receiving commands,good for them.My ship has sailed lonnnnng time ago.