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Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Nobody: 11:35pm On Sep 21, 2008 |
see the kinds of threads tRooe loves. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by onyinye2(f): 11:35pm On Sep 21, 2008 |
_Queenisha:You see right there is my BIGGEST PROBLEM. I love to be in control. I know, yal know it, my family knows it, heck the whole world knows it. So when I lose that "control" I feel like I have no say in anything. That I am nothing but a puppet to your every move. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Queenisha1: 11:37pm On Sep 21, 2008 |
Ruby_Pearl: take him to Mountain of fire let them cast out demons from him kidding. If he starts being distant or picks up bad habits,he could be depressed. and most men get to feel worthless when they're not performing optimally financially and it's worse when the wife nags. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Nobody: 11:39pm On Sep 21, 2008 |
_Queenisha:The nagging part is inevitable. Other than that, how to I prevent his depression? |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Queenisha1: 11:39pm On Sep 21, 2008 |
lol, too late to start thinking that way. True that. My mom had moi around 20-22, which I think was a bit too early. Communication,communication and all that before marriage. get to know the man. One person must have to compromise. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by tRoOE(f): 11:41pm On Sep 21, 2008 |
onyinye2:[size=13pt]same here, i guess that's y am getting cold feet[/size] Ruby_Pearl:[size=13pt]yea i guess, but there should be a limit in compromising Yes oh men are babies, wonder how long is going to take them to grow up [/size] |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Nobody: 11:41pm On Sep 21, 2008 |
@ topic Good thread here I wish all this small small girls go come take lessons |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Queenisha1: 11:42pm On Sep 21, 2008 |
Queenisha: Tell us about married life. What you do to make it work. a lot of hard work and seflessness realising that I'm in this thing till death do us part. no plan B |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by onyinye2(f): 11:44pm On Sep 21, 2008 |
Osisi, how did you get to the part where you give more and take less? Cause knowing me, that is something i truly don't grasp. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Queenisha1: 11:46pm On Sep 21, 2008 |
@ Professor Queenisha, hannibal,you too ROFL Marriage is not an entrapment at all if you are in love with your wife. There are many women out there but there are few few that'll be good for you. I know you specialize in the beauty department but there's more to a good woman than physical beauty. I'm not saying you should go and marry Missy Elliot . But if you pick up a pretty girl that wants you to buy her a gucci purse on the first date or orders the most expensive thing on the menu. That may not be your wife |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by tRoOE(f): 11:46pm On Sep 21, 2008 |
_Queenisha:[size=13pt]hmmmmmmm i see So would you move back to Naija if husband want you Haba you didn't answer my other question , i go fight you oh[/size] davidylan:[size=13pt]Don't blame me jare, am just trying to learn from other people experiences. [/size] |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Nobody: 11:47pm On Sep 21, 2008 |
Before marriage - the woman is the boss and the man acquiesces. After marriage - the woman is to submit and the man is to put his feet up on the couch. Chikena. If you dont like it dont marry. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Queenisha1: 11:48pm On Sep 21, 2008 |
tRoOE:no family details I would want us to discuss that and if he insists,I will have no choice but to move back. That's not a tough decision but he'll have to promise to get me the basic comforts I need like constant light and water. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by onyinye2(f): 11:49pm On Sep 21, 2008 |
davidylan:Osisi. . . . i don't think i want to get married. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Nobody: 11:50pm On Sep 21, 2008 |
onyinye2: minus one . . . who's chickening out next? |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by onyinye2(f): 11:53pm On Sep 21, 2008 |
davidylan:Sharrup dia, nonsense boy. Who said I was chickening out? |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Hannibal: 11:54pm On Sep 21, 2008 |
_Queenisha: Few?? Why? I have over 21 women on ma list. Picking the right one is becoming a huge conundrum.
On the contrary, there are few gold diggers these days. Women just wanna settle down cos the competition is so fierce out there. Gucci purse on the first date?? Not likely. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Queenisha1: 11:55pm On Sep 21, 2008 |
tRoOE: Omo eko, no one is perfect. we are just mere humans with our strong and weak attributes. Not talking about you (don't know the situation) but that's why cohabiting is very bad. why would a woman move into a house with a man cook ,clean and sleep with him without marriage? That's why people get their hearts broken all the time because they play wife before they're called one. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Nobody: 11:56pm On Sep 21, 2008 |
onyinye2: yab me from now till tomorrow . . . women bear the brunt of marital responsibilities especially on the home front. Its not something you can wish away by crying loudly. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by GucciBabe(f): 11:59pm On Sep 21, 2008 |
hello everyone! thanks queenisha for your lessons. I don't know how im going to do it yet! it seems like you have to become a total different person, and i think its going to be hard on me. I am used to having my way most times. you said you must love your mother in law. what if you try so hard to make her love you but she still finds fault in you, what do you do? what kind of issues should you look over? what if he does something terrible like cheating etc, and some man no dey show face until marriage how do u deal with a stranger you married then, |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by onyinye2(f): 12:01am On Sep 22, 2008 |
I'm going to be one heck of a wife. Submission ko, guidelines ni. I will do what I feel is right for me and him. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by chika98: 12:02am On Sep 22, 2008 |
_Queenisha:You what I'm right there with you. Marriage is WORK. It can only work when people love each other, have and share the same values, have a GREAT deal of respect for one another and willing to be totally SELFLESS. It isn't going to work if you feel like you always have to control everything or you get upset all the time something doesn't happen they way you would like (trust me I know). You have to be humble and understanding. That man has to see his home as his serene abode. . where he can come and feel safe and happy. You have to resolve your issues but don't believe in that not going to bed angry thing because it doesn't work sometimes BUT always find ways to work it out. Leaving will cross your mind. Yes it will but you have to know that it is till do you part so you can't just walk away. You can't change a man and having a wedding isn't going to change a thing!! So if there's something he does now that pisses you off better believe that it isn't going to change after you say IDO. Marriage is more of mental commitment than physical. You just have to get a legal document to prove it. How many of us will say " oh if he hits me I'm leaving"? Do you really think it is that easy?? You just have to pray that God gives you a husband that will not resort to physical violence that's why respect is very important. In the end, Only God keeps a marriage!! Only him!!! Men can be difficult to deal with and understanding them can be hard sometimes but once you find that one person for you, then it makes things a lot easier! Don't settle or else you will frustrate yourself and end up an angry married woman. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Queenisha1: 12:02am On Sep 22, 2008 |
onyinye2: My sister for an opinionated person like myself, I still see my strong self rising up every once in a while but I hate the aftermath so I have learnt over the years that some things are just not worth it. I know deep down in me that my husband loves me and is not out to make me miserable. When we disagree in issue,I let him know my opinion but I don't push it if it differs wih his. Men love to be respected even when they are talking rubbish [b]make your point,calmy and with explanations and leave it there[/b]and I can assure you, he'll pick the better option when he lays down to think it through. That is my secret weapon. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by tRoOE(f): 12:04am On Sep 22, 2008 |
_Queenisha:[size=13pt]Don't mind jare i was just pulling your legs Constant light 4 Naija u wish [/size] |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Hannibal: 12:06am On Sep 22, 2008 |
onyinye2: May God help Onyinye's hubby. He might have to carry a gun with him always. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by onyinye2(f): 12:06am On Sep 22, 2008 |
_Queenisha:But why does he have to make the decision? That is what baffles me. We say that we are in the 21st century, yet I feel that we live like does of the Medieval Ages. If he makes all the decisions, what is the point of me then? Just to sit back and accept it? |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Queenisha1: 12:08am On Sep 22, 2008 |
Gucci_Babe: I have quite a few divorced friends and we talk. Let me say this for all the young girls. There is absolutely nothing your husband will do at marriage that he didn't show signs of when you were dating If he cheats,he probably cheated or showed signs of that and gave you explanations that made no sense but you accepted it, blinded by love. If he's a selfish and wicked person,he definitely dispalyed those behavious and we overlooked them. Every girl has to decide what she can orcannot deal with in marriage and have the courage to call it quits at courtship. I did it! I broke an engagement after 2 years of courtship and I'll do it again! |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Nobody: 12:08am On Sep 22, 2008 |
onyinye2: when Bush talked about someone doing "one heck of a job" we all know what followed. Onyinye2, sorry but get set to face painful facts . . . when you get married your desires and wishes become subordinate to that of your husband. Even the most domesticated, gentlest of all men. Such is life . . . the best wives know how to deal with such situations. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by GucciBabe(f): 12:09am On Sep 22, 2008 |
chika98: so its not even to leave him even when he abuse you? my Gawd , all you have to do is pack your bags and serve him divorce papers, I mean so you should stay in marriage even though your husband beat you? |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by onyinye2(f): 12:10am On Sep 22, 2008 |
Hannibal:Sharrup Dia. May Gawd be with the woman that you marry. She is going to be one heck of a woman. It aint easy being a puppet to someone. davidylan:So what of her husband? Does his wishes and so called desires become subordinate to that of his wife? |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Nobody: 12:12am On Sep 22, 2008 |
onyinye2: Sorry, no. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by GucciBabe(f): 12:14am On Sep 22, 2008 |
_Queenisha: Good one! so you have to watch every step as soon as you know that person you want to be with. what if a guy proposes unexpectedly and you said yes. and you really never watched him like that i dunno how to put it, but this is a tough one, |
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