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Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by onyinye2(f): 12:15am On Sep 22, 2008 |
davidylan:Excuse me? Come again. . . . . . |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Nobody: 12:15am On Sep 22, 2008 |
onyinye2: Sorry, No. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by chika98: 12:17am On Sep 22, 2008 |
Gucci_Babe:That's all you understood from reading that?? |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Queenisha1: 12:17am On Sep 22, 2008 |
onyinye2: what type of decisions are you talking about? He doesn't choose my jobs,my clothes,how I spend my money or my friends. I know there are women who have to hand over their paychecks to their husbands or report to him on every tiny issue ,that's not my situation. If I wake up on Saturday morning and feel like not making and having breakfast at home,I simply let him know that I'm driving down to the neighborhood diner with the kids and ask if he wants to come along. But major things like the name for the kids,their schools,the home we buy, business ventures etc, we discuss it and thankfully most of the time, we have same opinions but when they differ,I go with his. His thoughts for our family are good thoughts and I have no problems with it. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by StephenP(m): 12:18am On Sep 22, 2008 |
onyinye2: Goodness, did you really ask that? _Queenisha: Please lecture Onyinye. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by GucciBabe(f): 12:20am On Sep 22, 2008 |
chika98: abuse is a serious issue, its a big part of it |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by onyinye2(f): 12:21am On Sep 22, 2008 |
davidylan:Well well well. . . . . I guess I'm going to have to do some changing with that statement. Because a marriage is GIVE na TAKE. Not the wife does ALL the GIVING and the so called loving husband does all the TAKING. _Queenisha:Maka gini? Why would you go with his? Why not your own? |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Nobody: 12:21am On Sep 22, 2008 |
Gucci_Babe: I would assume you'd be more interested in praying seriously for a mate who loves you and cherishes you so much as to know that physical abuse is as good as hurting himself. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by chika98: 12:21am On Sep 22, 2008 |
Gucci_Babe:When did i say abuse is ok? I just said it is hard to walk away!! Big difference!! |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Nobody: 12:22am On Sep 22, 2008 |
onyinye2: you have plenty of growing to do. *shakes head* |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by onyinye2(f): 12:22am On Sep 22, 2008 |
StephenP:Yeah. . . . I did. I was hoping for a different answer, but I got the same selfish answer as the rest. davidylan:And you my friend, have alot of EVOLVING to do. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by tRoOE(f): 12:22am On Sep 22, 2008 |
_Queenisha:[size=13pt]Only a fool will fall into that trap But we can't blame those ladies, they have this mentality that if the cook, clean and sleep with them, it might give them a ticket to the aisle @the last sentence True talk, lot of women have made that mistake [/size] |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Queenisha1: 12:23am On Sep 22, 2008 |
chika98: I understood you perfectly and any married woman would. Marriage is not eating dodo. There's no married woman who hasn't felt like carrying her bags and checking out. Perhaps at different times especially in the early years. I'm sure the men have felt the same way too. It is natural We all come in with this ideals in our heads and then quickly realise that[b] those ideals do not exist[/b] My former pastor says that "Good marriages don't just happen" They have to be consciously built |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Nobody: 12:25am On Sep 22, 2008 |
onyinye2: eyah. Sorry o. Queenisha, our resident counselor, will soon knock sense into your head. Pay attention . . . people pay good money for the kind of advice she is giving. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by chika98: 12:25am On Sep 22, 2008 |
Queenisha: Thank you very much. These people don't even understand what i am on about. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by StephenP(m): 12:26am On Sep 22, 2008 |
onyinye2: It not selfish but realistic. You can say all you want to say about it but in the end, we all know that many times, the woman does it the man's way, not because she's weaker but because she knows that is the best way for there to be peace. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by GucciBabe(f): 12:26am On Sep 22, 2008 |
tRoOE: i agree with that though. but then some people said its better to live with your man so you can know if you can tolerate him |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Nobody: 12:26am On Sep 22, 2008 |
_Queenisha: Onyinye2, you hear so? |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by GucciBabe(f): 12:28am On Sep 22, 2008 |
chika98: yes i do understand you, im just curious when you said when he hits you n all, I just needed to ask a question! |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by onyinye2(f): 12:29am On Sep 22, 2008 |
StephenP:na lie. It is selfish. You are just looking from a Man's point-of-view, so of course it won't sound selfish. You are in favor. davidylan:Well you must not knw, I follow the Gospel of Onyinye and she does what is best for her and her husband. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Queenisha1: 12:30am On Sep 22, 2008 |
Before my wedding,I had long midnight talks with my mom. The words she spoke many years ago are still fresh in my memory. and one of them was about mother in law @ gucci babe I know you asked a question on that issue. I know there are some MIL's that are straight up _itches. If your man is truly in love with you,he'll warn you about his mother from the get go so that you are prepared for her. that is where psycholgy and commonsense come together. You have to "kill her with love" I mena compliment her buy her gifts call her on the phone send her money at Christmas and mothers' day Before you know it she'll even be complaining t you about your husband. It may take years but it can be done. Every one responds to love even the toughest of MIL's |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by tRoOE(f): 12:31am On Sep 22, 2008 |
Gucci_Babe:[size=13pt]You can do that by visiting him over the wkends [/size] |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Queenisha1: 12:35am On Sep 22, 2008 |
davidylan: david leave Oninye alone. Wait till she finds her Okonkwo, her type will be kneeling and serving him his foo foo |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by GucciBabe(f): 12:36am On Sep 22, 2008 |
queenisha! thanks for the advice, seems like you have to learn to be an actress to enjoy marriage , it doesnt sound easy, |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by StephenP(m): 12:37am On Sep 22, 2008 |
onyinye2: *sigh* Onyinye, I got the prefect boyfriend for you https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-171263.0.html |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by chika98: 12:37am On Sep 22, 2008 |
Gucci_Babe:All I'm saying is that it isn't easy just walking away when a spouse resorts to physical violence. At lest not immediately. I'm in no way saying that physical abuse is acceptable. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by onyinye2(f): 12:38am On Sep 22, 2008 |
Seriously. . . all this marriage talk got me wondering. Cause you are lawfully stick with this one sole person for the REST of your natural born life. And like folk are over her talking about "Compromise" but it seems like the whole "compromise" thing is one sided. Like the wife has to compromise [/i]everything so that as stated [i]"there will be peace." I mean how does one keep their sanity with that. I mean Day in and Day out, you have to compromise so that your husband is happy, and your kids are happy. So what the hell am I? Cause I thought im going to be happy. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Queenisha1: 12:39am On Sep 22, 2008 |
Gucci_Babe: bad idea let him go and carry wine and pay the dowry and buy the things on that longs list (according to Igbo custom) before I begin to assume the role of a wife. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by chika98: 12:40am On Sep 22, 2008 |
Compromise isn't a one sided thing. Men do compromise as well |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Queenisha1: 12:41am On Sep 22, 2008 |
Gucci_Babe: ROFL. Genevieve has nothing on me LOL It's not acting because you know it's for the benefit of everyone. It's being selfless and he has to do same too because he knows that when Queenisha is unhappy Everyone is unhappy. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Nobody: 12:42am On Sep 22, 2008 |
onyinye2: I feel for you . . . next time come as a man. But seriously, men do compromise a lot too. If you find a man who loves you with all his heart, you can get him to worship the very ground you walk on if you are intelligent enough. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by GucciBabe(f): 12:43am On Sep 22, 2008 |
onyinye2: i feel you on that one, but i guess thats the way it is, this thread is such an eye opener, ***sigh**** |
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