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Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Nobody: 1:16am On Sep 22, 2008 |
Gucci_Babe: No kidding . . . i dont need a woman who is a replica of my mom but i'd be lying if i didnt say i was looking out for certain traits i thot my mum has that makes her marriage as strong as it is today. Men arent just looking at your chest and face you know. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by KarmaMod(f): 1:17am On Sep 22, 2008 |
when I talk about my papa David will be the first to yell that a person should marry their parents. Yet he keeps looking for his Mama's twin Oniranu. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by joshjosh(m): 1:17am On Sep 22, 2008 |
you will notice i said many not all. you would be shocked that most of the women you called stay at home generations were actually working more than the men. i grew up in my grand ma's house bought and built by her trading. she was happily married till the day she saw God. my mum traded lagos, benin onitsha ran stores and didn't do 9-5 like this so called generation of independent people. i think this generation bought into a lie that is hurting them. check to see how many dating sites and chat rooms there are today. lonely independent people. how independent? news papers all over the world are busy raking in money from independent misguided singletons. life is easier than most of think if you can use your brain and answer to being a human being first and foremost Gucci_Babe: |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Nobody: 1:18am On Sep 22, 2008 |
KarmaMod: dont mind me abeg. Its not bad to look out for someone like your dad but bear in mind its harder for you to do since you're basically only considering those who approach you. (i'm assuming women dont literarily approach men here). |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by chika98: 1:20am On Sep 22, 2008 |
One can never fully understand marriage until you get into it. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by onyinye2(f): 1:20am On Sep 22, 2008 |
Gucci_Babe:Hold Up! There is ALWAYS a choice to be made. Marriage is hard work mayne. I mean serious work. With the Grace of God, I will marry a guy with the Ego of a Dove. Cause i know otherwise, there is going to be some serious collision. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by GucciBabe(f): 1:23am On Sep 22, 2008 |
chika98: LOL!! I want to as much as i can, before getting married, cause after marriage as you said it hard to bail out, Hannibal: to me there is no difference btw living together and getting married I guess, i mean same logic apart from the ceremony etc |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Queenisha1: 1:23am On Sep 22, 2008 |
davidylan: LOL I have my moments too. I can be ajakaja woman sometimes and he knows when to drive off or keep quiet. But fundamentally my goal and his is to be happy and to have happy, well balanced children. Like you I had an independent mother who worked hard ,had own money,spent it like she wanted but also a very loving and submissive wife. From her I learnt that I could balance the two and they have been happily married now for over 35 years. I never saw my dad lay a hand on her and I know she would cut him with a knife if he dared My dad is a business man and his greatest confidant and advisor is mom and as fierce as he was ,we all knew my mom was the backbone of virtually all his decisions. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Hannibal: 1:25am On Sep 22, 2008 |
Gucci_Babe: There's a huge difference. Someone living with me is NOT YET ma wifey. She's just warming up or undergoing a test drive. onyinye2: That mentality would change in 3-4 years time. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by joshjosh(m): 1:26am On Sep 22, 2008 |
Thanks Kiss Like i always said about her she is one seriously happy lady. most people took her too seriously and didnt know she was a bendel woman first and foremost. i could always read between the line and fell in love with her. i like women with brilliant minds. people who dont fall easily under presure are my favourites. God blessings be on you all that are great examples to us all |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by GucciBabe(f): 1:27am On Sep 22, 2008 |
Another question how is sex during marriage? do you husband still look at you like he did before having a kid ( i mean when your body is tight n aall) how often do you lay down together. is it different after marriage. when you ask for sex does he turn you down, cause maybe he knows he can get it when he wants |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by chika98: 1:28am On Sep 22, 2008 |
onyinye2:Sounds like a push over to me. I don't think you'd like that very much. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Queenisha1: 1:28am On Sep 22, 2008 |
davidylan: and it's so common that girls end up marrying men that are like their fathers and men end up with women that have some traits as their mothers. That's life. and we all model the home we grew up in. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by onyinye2(f): 1:30am On Sep 22, 2008 |
Hannibal:Let's hope. Gucci_Babe:Ahhh. . . . . marriage is so difficult. chika98:Naw. . . . takes out all the fun of it all. I mean where is the challenge. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Queenisha1: 1:31am On Sep 22, 2008 |
Onyinye say God forbid! 3 times to that prayer. Tufiakwa You want a man that has the ego of a dove? don't you know that's the same ego he'll carry to the outside even at the workplace and have everyone walk all over him? You need at tiger LOL You need a man that is fearless. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Nobody: 1:33am On Sep 22, 2008 |
_Queenisha: True that. Even though i try so hard not to make comparisons, i still end up doing. At some point when i was younger i even wanted an igbo speaking chic! There is always room for compromise here and there though but the fundamental traits that i expect wont go away. I dont have much patience for 21st century "i'm an independent lady" sort of women. I'm traditional to the bones . . . Gucci_Babe: I'm not sure but i think the novelty wears off with time unless you both actively work at spicing things up under the sheets. Maybe Queenisha has a better idea on this. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Queenisha1: 1:33am On Sep 22, 2008 |
joshjosh: That was my mistake. Her raw expletives especially were shocking to me but it was all talk I came to know |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Hannibal: 1:33am On Sep 22, 2008 |
_Queenisha: Please tell Onyinye. . . . . .Her comments are so outlandish. She wants a mumu husband. Who prays for such? |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by GucciBabe(f): 1:34am On Sep 22, 2008 |
_Queenisha: This is even harder then i thought a tiger?? what if he bullies everyone around and no one likes him esp family and friends. so its better to have a tiger man that is really strict then a gentle easy going guy? |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by joshjosh(m): 1:34am On Sep 22, 2008 |
onyinye2: you will be marrying a dangerous man. marraige is not that difficult. it is a beautifull institution. God meant it for good |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by KarmaMod(f): 1:36am On Sep 22, 2008 |
I no go lie I did with my husband Definitely agree with you on this. Lol I think the girls who do this, do it as a way to DETER their men from cheating around. after all the dude cant bring someone else if he has his girl living there. Little do they know, if a legally married man can still cheat with his legal wife and kids under his roof, nothing is stopping one who isnt legal yet secondly there has been business ventures he wanted to go it but I didn't feel good about them and advised him and he went with my opinion and later thanked me for the advice. See, examples of how you really do have a good husband and not an egomaniac. Alot of husband esp Naija men would be like "After all Im the husband, I will take on any decision I wnat and after the fact I will tell the wife about it" and when shit hits the fan and the money is gone, frustration is then taken out on the wife. anyway good job with the thread osisi. Emmy Time! |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by onyinye2(f): 1:39am On Sep 22, 2008 |
_Queenisha:Not necessarily a guy who has and Ego of a Dove, but a guy who knows how to turn off that stupid ego. I don't want a guy who is weak, cause knowing me well. . . . . never mind. Anyways, hey he can be fearless. But I don't want no man who feels he gotta be fearless all the time. That is just utter stupidity to me. Because they be the ones who are weak as hell. I don't want someone who has a huge ego and feels that just because he is among the male species he has some of authority over me. joshjosh:The only thing about marriage that sounds remotely beautiful is the wedding ceremony. The rest is uhhhhhh. . . . . |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Queenisha1: 1:39am On Sep 22, 2008 |
Gucci_Babe: Excellent! Never a dull moment actually It's better now than when I first got married. Personally,it took me a while to get comfortable being with a man due to my CU campus roots I was not an "experienced" lady going into marriage and he was a patient man. Our sex life is a million times better today than then. I hardly even have to ask for it. all I need to do is send him a text message thanking him for his tigerly activities that morning and he knows he has to out do himself that night |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by chika98: 1:40am On Sep 22, 2008 |
onyinye2:Singing cassie's " you got a long way to go" |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Hannibal: 1:41am On Sep 22, 2008 |
_Queenisha: This is a shocker to me. Few married men i spoke to told me pre-marital sex is a tad better. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Queenisha1: 1:42am On Sep 22, 2008 |
Onyinye na wa for you o perhaps if we had this conversation some years back,I'll be sounding like you too. I had a mother who told me some hard truths and modelled it too and I'm grateful for that. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Nobody: 1:43am On Sep 22, 2008 |
_Queenisha: na wa o. you shld teach us some tricks. I used to think it was the other way round. Better at first . . . |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by joshjosh(m): 1:43am On Sep 22, 2008 |
_Queenisha: all is forgiven now. i remember someone attacking me for saying she was not as bad as she comes across. she made sense most of the time but being in a forum where people can easily hate from thread to thread didnt help. most of my sisters are her cabon copy. you will never read them right listening to them. we name some idiag , adafi and those wicked names. surprise surprise they are all married and having peaceful homes. i always loved her and wish her well. we should learn to argue without getting too personal |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by GucciBabe(f): 1:46am On Sep 22, 2008 |
_Queenisha: whoa thats impressive! |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Queenisha1: 1:46am On Sep 22, 2008 |
Hannibal: In what way ? maybe the risky things like sex in cars and on mountain tops. I don't know. Remember I'm speaking for myself from my perspective I don't know if he'll say the same . but from how crazy he still is about me,I think I'm right. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by Nobody: 1:46am On Sep 22, 2008 |
_Queenisha: Have you ever said No, I'm not in the mood. |
Re: What Effect Does Marriage Have On You? by GucciBabe(f): 1:49am On Sep 22, 2008 |
stillwater: good question, ! |
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