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Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by y2o3m: 11:12am On Sep 03, 2014 |
beeevan: When a man lacks the necessary steam and drive for success, i will say he has no potential. These group of people usually hold on to bogus dreams that they make little or no effort to achieve. what does dis mean? |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by Onegai(f): 11:13am On Sep 03, 2014 |
Walai, this is tough. A friend of mine did the same and called off her engagement. But the pressure was from her parents, who felt the man didn't have what it took to encourage her drive and ambition (she's very ambitious). He was also very nice. I have a friend in the same situation, wonderful guy but we're not sure about his drive (he has a great job but his dad was the one who helped him get it and gave him a car when he came home from US after Masters). So we're not sure if he can stand on his own feet and build himself. My friend was from the same type of background, but she's never asked her parents to help her with a job, and she's doing okay (salary of N200k, and good networks hopefully). It really boils down to a woman knowing she can depend on the man to provide most of the time, not about the money. I've seen friends and classmates and co-workers whose parents, especially their fathers did nothing for them, they had to pay their way through school, some even had to buy the clothes their fathers wore for their weddings. It's tough to tell a woman whose dad decided he wouldn't pay even his half of her 2nd semester schoolfees until her mum (a govt teacher who they had seized her salary) brought out her share, her father allowed her to miss a semester, and was such a terrible selfish man.Of course her mum chased away any man she felt didn't have potential. |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by y2o3m: 11:13am On Sep 03, 2014 |
beeevan: When a man lacks the necessary steam and drive for success, i will say he has no potential. These group of people usually hold on to bogus dreams that they make little or no effort to achieve. what does dis mean? (steam and drive) |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by Nobody: 11:13am On Sep 03, 2014 |
WorldwarIII: Andwho is lady with potential?u dey mind them...they do nothing but sit to judge and select potential guys. Second wife or baby mama status never start. |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by dacoolvik: 11:36am On Sep 03, 2014 |
Before I read comments, let me share my own experience. The guy in question had graduated before me but was kinda reluctant to do any other thing since the job wasn't forthcoming. I even encouraged him to try his hands on teaching which is something he loves but he was just dulling. I know its hard to geta job but the guy was sounding like he was waiting for a job to land on his laps. Do this, no. Do that, another excuse. In no time, we went our different ways. A friend of mine will say, Ginger na 10 marks... |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by taiwoliu(m): 11:37am On Sep 03, 2014 |
ihedinobi2: Potential is not the same as guarantee, it's merely resident possibility. And just about every man has it.you either grew up living with ur grandparents or u r a granny or close to one yourself... I must say I LOVE your response and doff my hat to ur wisdom nd intelligence. V learnt a lot from ds piece of epistle of yours but it ws really worth d time. I appreciate you. And I thank d OP for d topic, directly tackled one of d questions bothering me. Thumbs up peeps. And to every1 dt as contributed, I v learnt as well. 4 Likes |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by shizzleStar: 11:47am On Sep 03, 2014 |
cococandy: Some guys mistake potential to be plans or dreams. Hence a graduate young man hoping to get a job at Shell while doing some unfulfiling job will think he has potential because he's educated and has big dreams. 1 Like |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by shizzleStar: 11:48am On Sep 03, 2014 |
TV01: ...sup' Nash, |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by rebella(f): 12:03pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Potential is all about ambition and drive for success. It is also about taking actions on those plans. Nashville, I don't blame that woman at all. I witnessed a breakup between my cuz and her bf a few days ago and it was because of this same reason. My cuz earns 5 times what her ex earns,what ticked her off was when he asked her over the phone what she was doing and she mentioned applying for a job. Oga was shocked that a chic with such a good pay would still be looking for a way to increase her earnings. She went on to ask him if he wasn't looking for a job, Bros goes on to say, not really that its only when she send him job links. This same man wanted to join my cuz and a couple of our friends on a weekend getaway that will cost him 2 months salary. Smh Her ex is an example of a man without potential, he'll practically wait for the opportunity to fall into his lap instead of going after the opportunity. |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by pickabeau1: 12:09pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Nothing wrong in this or that Ladies should come out and speak plainly rather mouthing gibberish like potential when all they mean is comfort and money Thats the point bukatyne: |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by ihedinobi2: 12:22pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
kaboninc:If you both want the same thing out of life, that is, you're fighting for similar goals, you can team up. It's always tough to find underdeveloped economies and make them self-sufficient/net-producing with someone who wants only to be able to hang out on Friday nights at the coolest spots, for instance. They are not likely to understand what you say when you get home or why you think y'all should move house and go live somewhere else for a few months or years or why you just lack appetite and have to stay holed up in your den studying news reports and stuff for a whole night. For Christians, the Bible says that two cannot walk together unless they are in agreement or they are synchronized. 1 Like |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by Odunharry(m): 12:22pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Entchidodo: Birthday wishes from a NL legend and a staunch rival football club fan is a huge thing....I must say thank you and i will never hate Manu again..................for the next 24 hours.for the rest of the season....BTW,where is the cake n wine |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by cococandy(f): 12:25pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Wrong. Comfort and money isn't the word. If it is, Meaning a crook with stolen money is a fair match? Or a thief and swindler(AKa yahoo boy) can be regarded as a guy with potential? Oh please. Note that I haven't said some ladies won't marry such men. Some sure will. But when talk like that,you're saying as long as it is money,the quality of the person is irrelevant. If it is plainly about the money for every woman,why do some run away when they discover that the man is into shady deals? It's not so much about the money as it is about the qualities which makes him a go-getter in the first place. That's like 50percent of the attraction. Even before you begin to touch the physical cash,the fact that he's man enough to succeed in the face of set backs and barriers is a turn on. pickabeau1: Nothing wrong in this or that 1 Like |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by kaboninc(m): 12:27pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
adconline: Potentiality is that dream, vision and idea without action. Actuality is that dream, vision and idea set in motion by your hustle and determination. There is no actuality without potentiality. To put things in context, Nigeria is potentiality without actuality while Malaysia is potentiality on wheels racing towards actuality. I strongly disagree. Potentiaity is not the dream nor vision but an innate gift. You use your potentials to make your dreams and visions a reality. Please lets understand the meaning of these terms. Nigeria is a country with great potentials (gifts - enormous human capital resources) problem is the zeal, drive, passion and determination. |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by ihedinobi2: 12:27pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
taiwoliu: you either grew up living with ur grandparents or u r a granny or close to one yourself... I must say I LOVE your response and doff my hat to ur wisdom nd intelligence. V learnt a lot from ds piece of epistle of yours but it ws really worth d time. I appreciate you. And I thank d OP for d topic, directly tackled one of d questions bothering me. Thumbs up peeps. And to every1 dt as contributed, I v learnt as well.I am honored. Thank you for reading. |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by kaboninc(m): 12:31pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
cococandy: They do not run away because they 'recently' discovered that he's shaddy, but because they do not want to be implicated. Everyone (especially a woman) desires comfort and money; its one very important factor (if not the most) she desires when choosing for a partner. I do not have a problem with that though. 1 Like |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by glorydike: 12:35pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
scobaba: A whole lot of guys have lost their relationships cos the chicks don't see the potentials.honestly am motivated and disturbed at the same time my fiance is a graduate was teachin den resigned because he felt it wasn't paying enough and resorted to full time satlite installation he says he earns more from d satelite wrk dan the job my parent rejected him because he doesn't have a stable job but he is vry hardwrking no one treats ad cares for me d way he does he always pays my bills alwz provides for me am confused he bought a canter truck to b a goods transport vehicle he was recievin dividend b4 it brokedwn he is looking for land to build and vry serus wt my education he is still applyin in telecomunication companys to wrk as dia installer he plans and does it though he doesn't struggle to get anytin by all means he only prays ad do d right tin he is not d over ambitous typ but my parent says he has no future is it that I can't see what they r seeing or shud I go ahead and marry him I love him so mch he has changed me a lot he brought me to christ his a disiplined and trustworthy pasin dat wud starve to see me happy and he is serusly helping me pursue my dreams what should I do |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by kaboninc(m): 12:48pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
ihedinobi2: I pray I find someone who has a broad view about life. I built my life around team work. I get depressed when a team member is failing in her duties. Its very funny the same relationship we keep with non-intimate partners is same with an intimate partner. If my partner is not a team-member oriented, am in serious sh1t. If a guy has potentials and its supposedly in a relationship, it's the duty and responsibility of his team mate (lady) to bring out the best in him and not bailing out; unless if the guy is just not serious. 1 Like |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by ngmart(m): 12:48pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
They don't insult and antagonize other people. – Generally speaking, the people who love to gossip, who speak negatively of others, do so because they hope, by comparison, to make themselves look better. Of course, that’s not how it works. Because when you have no respect or consideration for others, it's impossible to have any true confidence in yourself. The only comparison a truly confident person makes is to the person she was yesterday – and to the person she hopes to someday become. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by OracleHex(m): 12:48pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
cococandy: Some guys mistake potential to be plans or dreams. Hence a graduate young man hoping to get a job at Shell while doing some unfulfiling job will think he has potential because he's educated and has big dreams.You are truly wise I will keep this advice in my heart 1 Like |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by TV01(m): 12:53pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
I initially did not address the question of “potential”. Why? Because it’s a ruse. Like Ihedinobi2 pointed out, everyone has potential. It’s the combination of drive, opportunity, support and to a degree chance (I won’t spiritualise this by talking about grace blessings etc.) that helps translate that potential into tangible success that we are really on about here. And when it comes to female relationships with men, there are but a statistically insignificant number of women who give a toss about your potential. Like someone else mentioned, potential is no guarantee. Possibility! Yes. I’ve heard testimonies of women who stuck by their poor, broke-butt, but brilliant & British born medical student boyfriends . Anyone can see the possibility there – and the minimal long-term risk. Purchase! Yes. Already having wealth &/or power and the wherewithal to translate that into further “purchase”. Potential! No. Because pretty much no women is going to say to herself “let me take this man and work with and on him too seek out his potential”, nurture his talent and polish his gifts. Let me encourage and support him to be the best man he can be. I’ll take on the risk and any reward, I’ll commit my future and the future of my unborn children to this work” It may sound harsh, but the female imperative typically takes a short-term view. After all, she could be dropping a sprog in 9 months . And whilst hypergamy typically has pejorative connotations, it’s only right that a woman seriously considers the “viability” of her long-term partner. It’s doing so in a greedy, gold-diggerish or black-widowish way, or being manipulative and deceitful about it that I consider wrong. Why commit to an introduction if you are not committed. But I lay responsibility at the guys feet. He should know what he is about and clearly articulate this to her prior to any commitment. Doubtless the situation traumatised him somewhat, but it’s better than having your wife taken off you by a “bigger boy”. In the long-term relationship game, a man’ possibilities and/or your purchase are more determinants of his outcomes than his potential. Simply because, where they have the choice, most women will opt for the former two over the latter. TV And there are lots of men – as Naija glaringly reveals – that had little gifts or talents – that have lots of possibilities and purchase |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by Nobody: 12:59pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
cococandy: well maybe because the Op specifically asked about guys with potential that is why we are centering the topic on guys. It could lead some to believe that potential isn't a quality women should possess too. I hope the brazilian chick is the one with potential. Who wants to struggle 24hrs for peanut when I can make my Brazilian weaves, stay at home , apply online and get called to write test for my LNG or Total job. If you must suffer, choose wisely |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by tojahh(m): 1:04pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
A guy with potential is a Man who is ready to give up his girlfriend just to actually his dreams. A friend of mine was opportune to travel abroad for pasture green, but his girlfriend wouldn't buy that claiming she don't want to lose him, that's how he remained in Nigeria after 6months the girl got married to a guy who just came back from 'Abroad'. 2 Likes |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by cococandy(f): 1:05pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
kaboninc: |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by OmoEziokwu: 1:05pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
ihedinobi2: GENERAL KNOWLEGDE 1. Hypergamy does not care if you think you’re a “good” guy or about how convincing your argument is for your sense of honour. 2. Hypergamy does not care how sweet, funny or intellectual you are. 3. Hypergamy does not care about all those chick flicks you sat through with her and claimed to like. 4. Hypergamy does not care about the sincerity of your religious convictions or aspirations of high purpose. Of course every reasonable enough man should know that he should work hard to achieve self sustenance and fulfilment. Any man that does not realize that certainly does not even deserve the good things that life offers (and I'm not talking about female companionship here). Nonetheless, the hypergamous beast cannot be tamed by the womenfolk. It is instinctive. How can hypergamy allow them feel that they are being rescued from the dating jungle? Men should stop trying to make women reason like men, they are not men. Onegai: That is why girls from poor backgrounds are a no-no for me. 1 Like |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by OmoEziokwu: 1:15pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Well I hope these same women will not take it to heart when the men make demands for elegance and persona as they deem befitting? |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by adconline(m): 1:23pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
kaboninc:I disagree, innate gift is your talent. Micheal Jordan, 6.6ft, is a talented athlete while Nate Robinson, 5.9ft, 3x NBA Slam Dunk Champion, elevated his potentials to actuality through hardwork. |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by JuanDeDios: 1:26pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
ihedinobi2: Potential is not the same as guarantee, it's merely resident possibility. And just about every man has it. . . .I want to buy you a beer and be your friend. |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by ngmart(m): 1:30pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Is it Foolish to Date a Guy Based on His Potential? Question my younger sister ask! |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by Nobody: 1:42pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
ihedinobi2: Boy! this is wayyyyyyyyy deep. |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by pickabeau1: 1:50pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
You make me laugh So is it everyone destined to sell akara with 200k Do you know the percentage of businesses which fail within the first year.. am not sure u do You lot come here, saying the same spiel.. I hope you have seen the young wives of the 70 year old king.. the guy really has potential Women are hypergamous.. accept it and move on... if i ask most of the married women here, they married people in telecooms, oil n gas..yet u say potential Potential indeed... I like posters like ThoniasLIM who r real.. you are trying to whitewash and bamboozle.. say it as it is Where is DailyNews for some epistles.. www.nairaland.com/attachments/1673341_10678849_574127662693226_1774560929959361581_n_jpegbf66557ef47abae1f8c122cf1f0033bb cococandy: Wrong. 1 Like |
Re: Who Is A Guy With Potential? by Nobody: 1:50pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
pickabeau1: Nothing wrong in this or that Simple, dis potential talk is real bull crap... women want a man with money, potential means jack to them... If you no get money, u no get potential.... girls marry men with money not Potential... Abi dem dey write potential for forehead? |
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