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Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by tpia1: 9:30pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
philantoxx: and all I weird right. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 9:30pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
WHEN I RAISED AN ISSUE LIKE DIS HERE SOME DAYS AGO, SOME PPL SED I WAS ATTACKING D LADIES. THANK GOD DIS IS COMING FROM A LADY. @ SAFARIGIRL, U BE BETA PIKIN JARE! |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by israelbenzion: 9:31pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
safarigirl: . OK, I'll hand it to you: you are intelligent. I may or may not agree with your views, but delivery of a point of view is sometimes more important than substance to me. respect to Ur grey matter! and funny enough, while u r fixated on tall men (forgive d derailing), some of us are fixated on a woman's intelligence. kudos! |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by safarigirl(f): 9:31pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
sauer:lol...se, my passion is writing. Being in a man's house can't stop people from writing. You can work at home and make your dough when you write. Omo, I no even wan marry rich man wey no go get my time cuz he's too busy making money. So all those #TeamRichMenOrNothing can carry go 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by GodMode: 9:31pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
Onegai: Try telling this to even men of nowadays. Don't worry.. I'll always be there for you. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 9:32pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
xp17: modern families always grow up to regret one thing they should have done "i wish I had more time with the kids"daughters are usually closer to their fathers. the niger delta militants or the boko boys got parents. am sure infact their mothers took care of them as some of us are saying. why are they what they are. what is training really ? the truth is you child gets training from the school they go and their peer groups. you only do little at home. when the bible said train up ur child ,it meant u should check all this. it never asked the mother alone to do so. the truth remains a woman should see beyond being a liability. some wives cannot buy stuffs for the kids if the father isnt around. This shouldnt be. 3 Likes |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by llade(m): 9:32pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
Honestly if not for children I wud not av gotten married and av told my wife if she continues to b lazy when dey are grown al divorce her cos she wud b of no use cos she has never tot it wise to support even d children with dia studies or engage in anything economically viable to support d family's upkeep. Some women like my wife just think cos I work in an oil coy, her work is to sit @ ome drive her car around and watch dstv. Sent her to skool she was never serious. Spent N3million in d last 2 yrs in opening a salon (rent plus equipment in abuja) when she insisted she wanted to do biznesss she can't manage unless to fight workers and landlady n insist she is d madam and c in c. Some women don't tink dia husbands cud get sick, die or even b involved in strike @ d workplace. And am just 3 yrs older dan her (32 vs 29). D painful thing is if guys were unserious like some of dem, wud dey av dated or befriended or even married us? 8 Likes |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 9:32pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
shoefreak: i have always wanted to own a school, right from my primary school days. i graduated with a 2:1 in education management.Nice one girl, i love ambitious chicks like you. God ll c us through. 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by LaurelP(m): 9:35pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
tonididdy: my broda its straight frm one of the horses mouth I opened a thread and asked a simple question o "Can ladies attend events without makeup?" One Mizmycoli girl said my posts are always ladycentric. Tell me, shud it be mencentric b4? I be homo? She also opened a thread saying dat men are running away from wedding responsibities. Pot calling kettle black! |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by philantoxx(m): 9:35pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
tpia1:lolz..catastrophically weird.with some E-bola to taste. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by LaurelP(m): 9:35pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
tonididdy: my broda its straight frm one of the horses mouth I opened a thread and asked a simple question o "Can ladies attend events without makeup?" One Mzmycoli girl said my posts are always ladycentric. Tell me, shud it be mencentric b4? I be homo? She also opened a thread saying dat men are running away from wedding responsibities. Pot calling kettle black! 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by GodMode: 9:36pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
sauer: Only a person suffering from inferiority complex is explained in this comment. 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by tonididdy(m): 9:36pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
dhammyg: THIS IS THE BEST THREAD HAVE SEEN IN DECADES.RECENTLY I WAS CHATTING WITH A FRIEND AND SHE TOLD ME HER AMBITION IN LIFE IS TO MARRY A RICH MANsorry to burst your bubble, I do not think you and many girls out there (safarigirl included) have ”concrete ambitions” that differs from that of your friend. Concrete ambitions that'll stand the test of divorce, singleness for life, marriage or age or family pressure. If u had a wealthy hubby who insists you are more home and the kids than any ambition of yours cos he makes sure you don't lack, would choose your ambition over his comfortable roof? With the tots that one day ud be wealthy like him or even wealthier? Would u? |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by CoCoLav(f): 9:36pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
Well...no matter how career oriented I am, I know that raising a family will always come first. A career can come after my family. My father has always told me that a time will come when you have all you want and money will mean nothing to you. Only your family will remain and you will be blessed to have them. I know women who chased their careers and are now very rich but still sow seeds for marriage in church on Sundays. There's no time limit to making money but there's a time limit for having kids. There's no joy in coming home to an empty house. You can be successful even after marriage and let's face it, at the end of the day who are you working for? its your kids. You work to provide for them and make them have a better life not really for yourself. Right now all i keep thinking of is an effective way to balance the both. Everything comes with a price and at the end of the day you choose that which is more pleasing to you so don't go castigating those who have made raising kids their ambition. If everyone thought the same way or had the same ambition, the world will be a boring place indeed. 38 Likes 23 Shares |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 9:36pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
touchmeder: I know ur type n I say dis wit d greatest respect. Its ur type that would eventually wish they had a woman that was contributing something (no matter how small) towards d home. It is ur type that will love to be completely in charge, but will grumble about a woman who sits @home, cleaning, cooking and asking for everything up to salt n maggi money.With all due respect, you don't know me at all. I come from a family where my mum actually used to make nearly 3 times my dad's income. We live in a very lovely place in an exclusive part of town and I can tell you that 2/3 of the money that built this place came from my mum's business back in the day. But as soon as she had her 4th child and the other 3 were approaching that difficult age, and my dad started having health challenges, she voluntarily shut her business and came home to raise her kids and look after her husband's health. Today he is doing far better than she ever did and all her kids are grown up so some people look at her and assume she is just some lucky trophy wife who married the lotto jackpot and is a leech on a wealthy man, they don't know the background. Having seen this with my two eyes, I can never look down on a woman who chooses to look after her family full time. My fiancee and I have even discussed this and we have agreed that 3 years after marriage, we will have our first child and she will stop full time work. I know what I gained from always having a parent around when I was little. Before I turned 3, I was already reading fluently and by 12 I was winning nationwide contests ahead of people 4 years my senior. That's what having a full time parent gives you and it's a pity so many of you just don't seem to understand the value of exclusive motherhood. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 9:37pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
Stop it right there!!!! Career ogini? What is the sole duty of a man? A man is meant to be a provider. Lets cut this westernized culture of women building a career bla bla bla. In those days our fathers go to work while our mums stayed at home to look after us. Though the Society has already made things hard such that the man's salary/income isn't enough for the family. This same men ranting about women working bla bla bla will be the first to crucify you when you start working and getting home late, or when you start earning more than them. A man is meant to take care of the family and the wife, don't get it twisted 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by 190: 9:39pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
Goodluck Jonanthan must hear this |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Youpele52: 9:39pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
[quote author=safarigirl] So truthfully true. The sweetest part of this write up is that it's a female that wrote it. You must have learned, unlearned and relearn what the society teaches. It's wisdom on your part to question the status quo and decide to do otherwise. God bless you. And I pray other females snatch a leaf. 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by xp17(m): 9:40pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
Onegai:thanks for the heads-up , maybe it's high I gave away my polygamy ideology and turn a new leaf from the stone age into the 21st century. I couldn't agree less with you, safarigirl and the other guy, but still have some reservations though. I have made a little research on the leading course of high divorce rate of today, one of the key course is the pursuit of gender equality from the ladies. in modern marriages everyone fights on whom is greater and in better position to lead the family and this is been making it difficult for some man to cope with. because some ladies, instead of playing it with style, they make it obvious that the man is nothing or has nothing to offer and men hate to be belittled. my dear, no matter your ambition, 'Abeg' don't forget to cook for your husband and also ensure the house is clean and cool enough to accommodate him after a long day work. Nigeria men hate fast food! |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 9:41pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
tonididdy: sorry to burst your bubble, I do not think you and many girls out there (safarigirl included) have ”concrete ambitions” that differs from that of your friend.I CAN NEVER BE AN HOUSEWIFEI HAVE MY OWN AMBITIÖNS IN LIFE AND ANY ONE THAT WANTS TO DESTROY THEM CAN GO TO HELL.FUCCK HIS MONEY IN CASE U ARE WONDERING WHAT MY AMBITION IS,CHECK MY SIGGY 3 Likes |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by GodMode: 9:42pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
EbolaParasite: School is different from education and knowledge. An educated woman is different from a schooled woman. 2 Likes |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by sheniqua: 9:42pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
CoCoLav: Well...no matter how career oriented I am, I know that raising a family will always come first. A career can come after my family. My father has always told me that a time will come when you have all you want and money will mean nothing to you. Only your family will remain and you will be blessed to have them. Thank you! The very examples of Dora Akunyili,NOI and Diezani she gave are all married women with children ( RIP Dora) Name almost every successful nigerian woman we hear of,most are married with children Omotola that has graced nairaland pages countless times is an entrepreneur,an actress and a married woman with children NOI is in her 50s and a grandmother which tell me she married in her early 20s The Richest Nigerian woman folorunso Alakija is married with children and she didn't get married as a millionaire When threads of Rita Dominic and Genny come out,it is these same boys hailing this poster that will will tell them to go and marry. Looks like some people just wake up and start typing without thinking 3 Likes |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by tonididdy(m): 9:42pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
llade: Honestly if not for children I wud not av gotten married and av told my wife if she continues to b lazy when dey are grown al divorce her cos she wud b of no use cos she has never tot it wise to support even d children with dia studies or engage in anything economically viable to support d family's upkeep. Some women like my wife just think cos I work in an oil coy, her work is to sit @ ome drive her car around and watch dstv. Sent her to skool she was never serious. Spent N3million in d last 2 yrs in opening a salon (rent plus equipment in abuja) when she insisted she wanted to do biznesss she can't manage unless to fight workers and landlady n insist she is d madam and c in c. Some women don't tink dia husbands cud get sick, die or even b involved in strike @ d workplace. And am just 3 yrs older dan her (32 vs 29).I love your approach to life...u are a goodman but pls don't divorce her under any circumstance. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by GodMode: 9:43pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
livinbygrace: After all ur degree,u ll end up in a man's house.just imagine patience without Jonathan,Sade okoya without Okoya,remi Tinubu without Jagaban,Stella without obasanjo Contradictory. 2 Likes |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by GodMode: 9:45pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
rickkid: I was wondering which Nigeria the OP was on about Certainly not this Nigeria I know where everybody is hustling to achieve their dream. Where I work, about 65% of the staff are women and many of them are single, some are married, some even have kids - it doesn't stop them from working. Even from my mother's generation women have not been slacking I mean for heavens sake my mum was making more money than my dad when they got married and this was in 1976! What on earth is the OP talking about?? Working in a company from 8 - 5 is different from been ambitious and having goals. 6 Likes |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 9:46pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
sexyseun: Stop it right there!!!! Career ogini?are u still a virgin ? if yes you are free to compare now to the olden days , if NO... please don't ok.... because I do not think men settle with non virgins then. 3 Likes |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 9:48pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
majekdom2: are u still a virgin ? if yes you are free to compare now to the olden days , if NO... please don't ok.... because I do not think men settle with non virgins then.what has being a virgin get to do with taking care of your wife? Are u a learner? |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by kalufelix(m): 9:51pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
Men! Watch out for these same men pushing the ladies... The basic of life is lost #sitting in one corner to see where humanity ends up as long as my breathe permits... |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by sheniqua: 9:52pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
safarigirl: it's about women like you that go on the defensive simply cos they feel they've been called out. I make half my husband's income but my half can comfortably take care of me and 6 children if I chose to have 6 And no I don't have to work my butt off,I have children to take care of and proud of it I don't have a single friend that is a housewife None I can readily think of Infact some of them earn more than their husbands So you alone know the people you are referring to since we don't see them If your topic is directed to a friend of yours,call her and speak to her,that's what friends do Not everything should be a thread especially when it is not the general reality |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 9:52pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
tonididdy: I love your approach to life...u are a goodman but pls don't divorce her under any circumstance.no , some people don't face the reality until threatened with tough conditions. the wife has failed to understand anything can happen. a friend lost his dad in the sosoliso aircrash then , his dad used to work in NNPC. he couldnt complete his universty education abroad.... things never got better because the wife was a liablity also. am sure he is just threatening tho .... he wouldnt divorce. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by GodMode: 9:54pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
alaladakosta: But Seriously yoruba men are are lazy, low life , losers. They don't have no future plans, am not saying all of them, cus am Yoruba. But many of them give up easily. The person that created this website is yoruba. Don't ever generalise cos you're not yoruba. 2 Likes |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by safarigirl(f): 9:54pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
sexyseun: what has being a virgin get to do with taking care of your wife? Are u a learner?lol...you cited that men of old take care of their wives and he cited that women of old kept their chastity for their hsbands. Now, if we're all going to cite the old days we have to cite them in their entirity, so if you're not chaste like the women of old were then you need to get your lazy butt off the couch and get a job rather than waiting for a compact mugu that will cater to all your needs 4 Likes |
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