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Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:17pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
3cycle:I agree with ur point to be single career lady in nigeria is not easy,many men will run frm u just because u earn money and d career the reason is because many of this single career ladies has spoil their v point before they earn that post,their have been used by this higher profile boss,so I think that is d reason why most men reject single career lady and go after low lifer lady in most cases. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Mbediogu(m): 10:22pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
[quote author=safarigirl] If you're one who has stayed within the female hostel of any Nigerian University, you'll find that most of it's occupants share similar hopes and dreams- and no, it's not to excel in their chosen career paths. One of the lecturers in my school aptly described women as 'a waste of education'...no, it wasn't an insult, it was just stating the obvious. You find a woman who has hustled through primary, secondary and University education. One who looked set to be a force to reckon with in the world of business or law or medicine, I mean a female with straight A's and you think Nigerian women may be getting things right, only to follow her back to her hostel and hear these heart-breaking words: "Omo, after school na to find husband marry remain." In the real sense of the word this is translated to: "After school, I'll fling my degee inside one iron box in my dad's storeroom, find a perfect mugu that will put a ring on my finger, buy me a car, set up a boutique/beauty saloon for me and all I have to do to get this is spread my legs for him and push out little people with his DNA" Nigerian women view marriage the same way hustling Nigerian men view the US Green Card- an avenue to escape life's troubles. So in the same way you find 23 year old Nigerian men marrying 56 year old American women, you find young, promising women relegated to some man's priority list. I don't think most Nigerian women realise that nobody wants to get attached to a leech. If you allow some Nigerian women, they would even want their husbands to carry the babies and birth them as well. And when you ask why they don't want to build wealth with a man, you hear: "I've already suffered in my father's house. I don't want to continue suffering in my husband's house" Now unless you're getting married to a no-good leech like yourself, there is no reason why building wealth with a man should be termed 'suffering' Even on Sun Newspaper's 'Beauty Of The Week' it's the same thing. Future Ambition: Getting Married And Having Kids If you think God put you on this earth to make a liability of yourself, you need to think again. There is more to life than being someone's baby mama. There is a purpose for getting an education that lies beyond being able to speak good english whenever you and your man attend social functions Nigerian women need to sit down and re-evaluate their lives. God sent you to assist a man, not to add to his problems. Men appreciate women who can think for themselves, who want to contribute to the family (and I don't mean churning out kids). There is nothing more endearing than a smart woman who views men as companions rather than money bags. Don't waste the education your parents worked so hard to provide for you. Break the stereotype, Nigerian women should be more than gold-digging leeches. If the likes of Oby Ezekwesili, Joke Silva, NOI can be successful career women as well as wives and mothers, then we all need to dust up our certificates and CVs and have proper future ambitions. What I see is the tension between a time barred natural desire seeking to be consummated within a given time, and a societal desire which may be filled by the husband and in other ways. I am a man though. Only deep sighted men will see the damage done to women (no matter how accomplished, and no matter the cover up) who fail in time to gratify this natural demand. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by GodMode: 10:23pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
xp17: modern families always grow up to regret one thing they should have done "i wish I had more time with the kids" Your opinion. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Sike(m): 10:23pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
This Op make sense die, Olorun! |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:23pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
dancok: I agree with ur point to be single career lady in nigeria is not easy,many men will run frm u just because u earn money and d career the reason is because many of this single career ladies has spoil their v point before they earn that post,their have been used by this higher profile boss,so I think that is d reason why most men reject single career lady and go after low lifer lady in most cases.when you chat up a lady , you will definitely know one who walked up the ladder without having to compromise .... being an ambitious woman isn't a problem in Nigeria.... ambition is different from career. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by jpphilips(m): 10:29pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
safarigirl: If you're one who has stayed within the female hostel of any Nigerian University, you'll find that most of it's occupants share similar hopes and dreams- and no, it's not to excel in their chosen career paths. You are still a student shaa, when you graduate, your eyes go clear!! Men who are not top choices for most women will agree with you, women who have married real men that transformed them from a teacher's daughter to a "chairlady" will laugh at you. men who dont care who the liability is because they have more than enough to throw around, may not even understand you. Boys who are losers that could not or have not made it in life, while patiently waiting for a working lady to contribute to run the home, while their families use family support program to solemnize them in unholy matrimony will give you a standing ovation. If you have not experienced life and its challenges, your opinion count for nothing till you wear the shoes of others. people like you think that School is an automatic ticket to a carreer abi? it is only time will tell and pray you dont get pregnant for a man in desperation for marriage when reality comes knocking. please it is only struggling men that want career ladies, there are many of them here on nairaland, made men are actually looking for liabilities the reason they extend their magnanimity to extended families. Most educated wives sit at home not because they want to lock up their certificate like you alleged, but because they cannot even get a job, you think that getting a job as a young woman in Nigeria is easy? when employers now decide when to marry, where to marry, when to have kids, how many kids to have etc? you are a freaking student who knows next to nothing what lies ahead of you, by the time this phantasmagoria in your head clears, you will beg to become that liability you so despise. NOI you referred to attended Oxford University, which one are you attending? that is where her career started, hope by now you can plot a parabola of where yours is leading to. you think say life in Nigeria na beans!! 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:30pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
I swear even if God were to send down his angels specifically for Nigerian men, they will still not be satisfied. You complain that your jobs are being taken by women, and when they stop taking your jobs and they start their little hair saloons and boutiques that still feed the family you will still complain! Leech, lazy woman! That lazy leech is still working flexible hours that will allow her to make time for her family and make sure you come back home to properly cooked meal everyday! They have left the office jobs for you because of the scarcity of jobs in Nigeria! Still u want to open your smelly mouths and talk rubbish again. Shebi you want a doctor or lawyer that works 10-14hrs monday to saturday and hardly makes time for you and the children, so you can go out there looking for same sken sken girls you mock up and down the place so they can open their legs for u for sharwama? Shebi you want her to put on your ring and show more commitment to her office? Good grief pick one! You cannot eat your cake and have it! 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by GodMode: 10:30pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
rickkid: Yes, her making her own money cos if u die before your time hard times will hit the family. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by 1one: 10:31pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
Just enjoying all the different mix of comments and counter comments flying around on this thread... By the way, Safari girl, if you've not finished the other Carton of fayrouz I gave you in the last thread for that nicely written piece... Oya take 5 more cartons for this very nicely written one yet again You all should just continue posting comments let me be reading, I'm too tired to quote anybody even though there are many people I would have wanted to quote and reply. Carry on folks |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:33pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
majekdom2: the fake life style ..... but I have met some great naija chics really who have got stuffs to offer.... its about majority of the youths of these days really. Not saying the ones with a lot to offer don't exist, but I think they are in the minority. Majority vs. minority, and no matter how they try to mask their deficiencies, you should be able to see through them. Honestly, that is why I laugh when these women cry everywhere that naija men don't respect them, and they treat them like shiit. Like who is going to rate a liability that is more or less an appendage? Also, I think that is why a lot of them are promiscuous because they move with the wind and wherever the highest bidder who will help maintain that fake lifestyle is. If you are a driven career woman, you will attract great men who know/understand your worth. Men who will appreciate what you have to offer. Bums with loose cash won't even come near you because they will feel intimidated - that is the truth. I have got four high flying sisters who are also my own source of inspiration, cos I compete with them all the time - friendly competition. And the guys they are with know their worth and they treat them like Queens. 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by sirjohnson(m): 10:33pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
alaladakosta: But Seriously yoruba men are are lazy, low life , losers. They don't have no future plans, am not saying all of them, cus am Yoruba. But many of them give up easily. You are a marafuka |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:36pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
sirjohnson:lols , na their type boys dey rape. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by jpphilips(m): 10:39pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
dancok: I agree with ur point to be single career lady in nigeria is not easy,many men will run frm u just because u earn money and d career the reason is because many of this single career ladies has spoil their v point before they earn that post,their have been used by this higher profile boss,so I think that is d reason why most men reject single career lady and go after low lifer lady in most cases. Nigerian men are no sissies so I dont buy the clap trap that nigerian men will run, never, it doesnt happen except for Nitwits anyways! what do you need mofos for? Nigerian men in Europe can marry anything for something so why will they run from successful women at home? it doesnt add up. The truth is this; we know how they got to the top, the day i reviewed the employment criteria of some organization i got to understand, the young girls are mere girl friends to the bigger boss, they still expect Nigerian men to marry them in such condition? oh! please. They lie to their friends that men are running from their success but the truth is; we know how they got there. Come to legal departments in big corporations where contracts are signed and see how the so called ''successful'' women become 'successful'. 5 Likes |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:40pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
I dont understand people who go up and down the place screaming golddigger all over the place when your own mother has never worked a day in her life, but for some odd reason she is a role model |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:42pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
jpphilips:bros ,forget that talk .... the fact that you had it hard doesnt mean it not easy for others.the men looking for liabilities are usually the ones these ladies complain cheat on them ....and thats why they cant have a say because they were neveer part of his life. your husband cant make you a chairlady from a tailor or farmer life if he hasnt seen that you got a potential or have you not heard of people that frustrate efforts..... the bottom line is what are you bringing to the table ... No one is saying you should become a lawyer or doctor by all means. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by GodMode: 10:42pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
rickkid: The parents u described are parents with ambitions and plans it has nothing to do with motherhood... 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by zubis05: 10:45pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
Yesterday when I was going to drop my GF at home I asked her this question, "where do you see your self in five years?"...her reply "married with atleast two kids and working"..something in me died yesterday. This is a girl I actually started liking because of the intelligent convo we had first time we met. A girl who can hold a conversation with you on any topic and intelligently do so too. Maybe I was expecting to hear her talk about a business or a specific career path she would like to follow,sounded to me like she can accept a local govt job(no disrespect to those working there) and move on with her life. I'm still young but I won't lie to you guys,most girls I see now irritate me! Not that they are not beautiful o! They are very beautiful,but you sit down with a girl and she has nothing upstairs to offer? Kai! My recent prayer has been that God will give me a woman that will challenge me to be a better man everyday of my life. I'm talking spiritually,emotionally,financially.physically etc etc. Our girls really need to start aiming higher and stop settling for less!!! 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Justeenaleo(f): 10:45pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
kalufelix: Men!You not alone |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by xp17(m): 10:46pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
jpphilips:hats off for you sire. I had an uncle, till death he never ate any stale food. he doesn't do either microwaved or cooler foods. when he gets home, his wife knows what to do, she goes straight to the kitchen to serve him food directly from the pot "as it dey hot so". wealthy men want liability, that is so true. only an average Joe talks about gender equality. 3 Likes |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:49pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
GodMode:the guy contradicts himself ... he didnt even mention where his mum stayed at home to take care of them. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:50pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
majekdom2: ain't rubbish .... YOU SHOULD COMPREHEND PROPERLY. SHE NEVER SAID WOMEN SHOULDN'T MARRY WEALTHY MEN. SHE IS ONLY OF THE OPINION OF WOMEN BRINGING SOMETHING TO THE TABLE. OFFERING SOMETHING TO MAKE THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE NOT JUST UR BODY AND KIDS.wtf!!! Are those boutiques and saloons not bringing back more than what the husband invested in the first place? I pray Nigerian women keep taking more jobs and see if they will even consider you lot for marriage ever again!!! |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:51pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
xp17: hats off for you sire.do you want liability ? what class do majority of Nigerians belong ? .... below average I guess. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by jpphilips(m): 10:52pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
GodMode: Imagine your line of thought, so how many kids will you have? lemme guess, 15, because boko haram is now killing in tens? why dont you have 25 in case 18 dies? why do you want to enter a vehicle? dont you know it crashes and people will die? It is only in finance that you need a contingency plan in case the man dies, do you want to kill your husband? the guy you quoted just told you the mind of most real men, all those ''I want working class ladies'' are husslers looking for who will split their responsibilities with them. guys who their wives contribute NEPA bill. 4 Likes |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:52pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
Mondisweets: wtf!!! Are those boutiques and saloons not bringing back more than what the husband invested in the first place? I pray Nigerian women keep taking more jobs and see if they will even consider you lot for marriage ever again!!!I never said they don't and I never agreed with her that they don't. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:54pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
jpphilips:she is offering something to make her world a better place . |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by blasterman(m): 10:56pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
safarigirl: If you're one who has stayed within the female hostel of any Nigerian University, you'll find that most of it's occupants share similar hopes and dreams- and no, it's not to excel in their chosen career paths. Ur head is over correct ur 2 gbaski . But is not all just 80% of women that think like that |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:56pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
tochilastborn: Naija women have a genetic mentality WOMENS EDUCATION ENDS IN THE KITCHENaren't you the same men who keep treating them like they belong in the kitchen only |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by GodMode: 10:57pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
jpphilips: Your job is to improve your income that's not the job of your bank. My point is: Anything can happen... |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:58pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
Thank you so much dear op and God bless. If you check my posts on nairaland, i've kept saying it repeatedly that most Nigerian young women are absolute flops and ambitionless. All they want is how to get married to a rich dude, then open legs and begins to churn out children. That's the reality and i've come across them many. Am saying it from experience. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:59pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
Onegai: Try telling this to even men of nowadays.most sensible post on this thread. 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by dokunbam(m): 11:00pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
Onegai: This will be the best solution Thump up 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by jpphilips(m): 11:00pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
majekdom2: bros ,forget that talk .... the fact that you had it hard doesnt mean it not easy for others.the men looking for liabilities are usually the ones these ladies complain cheat on them ....and thats why they cant have a say because they were neveer part of his life. your husband cant make you a chairlady from a tailor or farmer life if he hasnt seen that you got a potential or have you not heard of people that frustrate efforts..... the bottom line is what are you bringing to the table ... No one is saying you should become a lawyer or doctor by all means. Who told you a woman is a liability simply because she is not working? when did African women start working? was your grand mother working for which company while your grandfather was working for UAC, Leventis or Enugu coal camp? the whole working class women craze started when young men could no longer meet up due to the economic situation of Nigeria, that is a fact!! Fine, if you have not arrived, you are better off with a ''partner in marriage'' else get yourself a woman to take care of your home!! |
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