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Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 9:54pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
sheniqua:so why call the post rubbish , when you work and make money .... you dont wish for other women too ? well who can tell if this is true cause I read a post by you on how to cheat on husband! 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by GodMode: 9:56pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
xp17: @safarigirl, in as much I don't have problems with women being ambitious, but a little bit would be okay. unlike men, women have more caring and organized nature, they pay more attention to details when it comes down to domestic issues, hence they should be closer to the home, irrespective of their ambitions. Your mentality is degrading. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 9:56pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
sexyseun: what has being a virgin get to do with taking care of your wife? Are u a learner?lols , am not a learner , we are not in those days simple .... we have developed and found better ways of dealing with situations! 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by sheniqua: 9:58pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
majekdom2: so why call the post rubbish , when you work and make money .... you dont wish for other women too ? well who can tell if this is true cause I read a post by you on how to cheat on husband! Most women work so the topic is rubbish Those who don't go to a location daily,are working from home to make ends meet How many graduates do you know that are sitting at home churning out babies with millionaire husbands? Most Nigerian men marry in their late twenties to mid thirties How many nigerian men that age are millionaires? |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 9:59pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
The OP is absolutely right by saying some Nigerian women are leeches and are looking for men whom they could depend 100% on. This has always been very alien to the African woman our fore-fathers grew up with. People call our grandmothers based on their handiwork ( Iya Ologi makes Pap and sells, Iya Alasho makes dresses and sells)... It is disappearing in our generation and it's very unfortunate... The reason it has disappeared is because we think a university degree should be a substitute for entrepreneurial activities.... An accounting graduate ( whether male or female) is reluctant to go into farming because he/she thinks society owes him/her an office job, hence why the dependence, especially if the office job isn't forthcoming. The OP is wrong by singling out Nigerian women because I think this culture of dependence affects both sexes... Loads of young men depend on their parents too or a political godfather for allowances. It's highly likely that we will never have good governance in Nigeria till God comes so it's imperative Nigerian youths should be looking at being self-employed.... Capital for start-ups is very easy to find if most of us get our priorities well... If you be 9ja dude with tonnes of gadget, cars, etc that Popsy has bought for you, just go sell them to raise capital for a yogurt company... If you be 9ja girl that has tonnes of Brazilian hair, jand/yankee dresses, jewelry, etc, go sell them to start a poultry business.. Why you different from our fore-fathers and fore-mothers who never went to school is because you can expand it on a large scale and be exporting your product to arid countries like Saudi Arabia , etc.... |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 9:59pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
sheniqua:dora got married while in school but she had goals and focus.... attended classes , made good grades .she didnt let marriage stop her. arent her kids trained. they are doing fine ... so what are we saying? 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 9:59pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
GodMode: Who is this one? |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 9:59pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
Lmao @ thread. Where is @50calibre? I need to read your opinions before I nuke this thread. A lot of these naija chics are liabilities. Even the ones with "ambitions" also lack the drive to be successful apart from just aiming to get a good job and retire there. They're mostly redundant and lack the drive to inspire men to greatness. Hence most of them are materialistic, promiscuous, and have absolutely nothing to offer - because they always need men to attain/maintain a certain lifestyle. 2 Likes |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by GodMode: 10:00pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
sauer: Safarigirl didn't say or write against marriage. 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:00pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
sexyseun: Stop it right there!!!! Career ogini?I look at some of the comments here sometimes and I get disturbed about what my generation is going to look like. I mean I complain that our parents' generation was useless, self-obsessed and indolent but at least they never tried to destroy the natural family! I'm seeing a man on this thread saying that he wants to divorce his wife, the mother of his children for being "lazy" and I shiver. The woman who carried your babies for 9 months, takes care of them and takes care of you and your home is "lazy"? Jesu Kristi. I don't even believe in Jesus but I can't think of anything else to say. Very soon we'll start having incestuous homosexual open marriage. After all na everything oyibo dey do, we gats copy. If oyibo start to chop sheet for mouth, we too we go follow am pack sheet for mouth. I don tire jor abeg. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by maxtamazin: 10:01pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
3cycle: Good point. The attitude of men in our society must change. Until the society started treating women with respect rather than a piece of sex and a maid, the women will continue to see men as an object of extortion. I wish u the best ,young lady and I hope u follow ur dreams. 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Ezeanna: 10:02pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
OP, some of your points are on point and they are a much needed wake up call to some of our women. But, I'd like to caution you against generalizing. Majority of Nigerian women aren't lazy. I have come to respect them for that. Many families have survived for a reasonable number of years on the income of the mother of the house. Just listen to a few families' stories and you'd know. On the issue of your friends who express their wish to marry rich men; I don't see anything wrong with that. Who among us didn't dream of becoming a princess with a prince who'd love you with all his might? Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. Who dictates for life? Why it seems women place a lot of emphasis on marriage in their 20's and 30's is because of the biological clock. So, women in that age bracket try to re-prioritize, putting children and husband first. Do not for one minute think that taking time off to marry and have children is an abandonment of their career paths. Nah.... Not for Nigerian women of today. They may be on break for a while, to achieve another goal (a family) but they'll be back and still reach their full potentials. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by safarigirl(f): 10:03pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
sheniqua:if my thread isn't speaking to you, fine and good. You and your friends don't even make up to 1% of the Nigerian female population, so you need to stop with your ITK and allow those it's speaking to DIGEST THE MESSAGE. It's women like you that delude themselves into thinking that there are no women who suffer marital abuse simply cuz you and your friends aren't experiencing it. You have made no point whatsoever, there is a world far beyond the happy paradise you find yourself and I will make whatever threads I want to as long as I see things in my society I have issues with and even Seun Osewa won't stop me. Goodnight 3 Likes |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by sheniqua: 10:05pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
rickkid: I was wondering which Nigeria the OP was on about Certainly not this Nigeria I know where everybody is hustling to achieve their dream. Where I work, about 65% of the staff are women and many of them are single, some are married, some even have kids - it doesn't stop them from working. Even from my mother's generation women have not been slacking I mean for heavens sake my mum was making more money than my dad when they got married and this was in 1976! What on earth is the OP talking about?? That wouldn't make for an interesting thread I guess .it sounds sweeter to say they are all waiting for millionaires to marry them while wasting the education their parents gave them. 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by GodMode: 10:06pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
rickkid: Its the creator that creates offspring... Its the job of the husband and wife to build a HOME. 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:06pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
sexyseun: Stop it right there!!!! Career ogini? Ladies with such liabilty-mentality, our greatest turn-off in the 21st century. Wow! |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by thandii1: 10:06pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
sauer: Okay, since I read your very first post on this issue, I knew you were more concerned about the bearer of the message than the message. And I tell you, in as much as you are entitled to your opinion, you are still making too many assumptions about the Op, probably because you know the bearer of the message (what she looks like or what she has always sounded like online). You may be right, but there's a possibility that you might be wrong too. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:07pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
shymexx: Lmao @ thread.the fake life style ..... but I have met some great naija chics really who have got stuffs to offer.... its about majority of the youths of these days really. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by sheniqua: 10:09pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
safarigirl: if my thread isn't speaking to you, fine and good. You and your friends don't even make up to 1% of the Nigerian female population, so you need to stop with your ITK and allow those it's speaking to DIGEST THE MESSAGE. It's women like you that delude themselves into thinking that there are no women who suffer marital abuse simply cuz you and your friends aren't experiencing it. You have made no point whatsoever, there is a world far beyond the happy paradise you find yourself and I will make whatever threads I want to as long as I see things in my society I have issues with and even Seun Osewa won't stop me. Goodnight At my end it is a sunny afternoon This is not about marital abuse so stick to the topic you created I doubt if you were seeking answers from women who are being kept You don't expect that your ignorant write up won't be challenged How many women do you know that are sitting at home with millionaire husbands after marriage? The average Nigerian man is struggling financially and wondering where his rent and meals will come from so where do these people live? |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Sparklesebony: 10:10pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
Logicalmindy: How would they aspire to be great in life?, when their female Nigerian counterparts who are breaking records is being bashed of being loose, husbandless and prostitute e.g Chimamanda, Genevieve, Linda Ikeji, Rita Dominic etc You re so right. Most Nigerians are idealists and not realist. Try to be well educated and be career minded it will still be these #teamidealists# that will criticise you. It's a wonder the bishes are married wt powerful rides from their hobbies why d career woman is workring her butt 4 her boss who is spending on one lazy butt. 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by tonididdy(m): 10:11pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
majekdom2: no , some people don't face the reality until threatened with tough conditions. the wife has failed to understand anything can happen. a friend lost his dad in the sosoliso aircrash then , his dad used to work in NNPC. he couldnt complete his universty education abroad.... things never got better because the wife was a liablity also. am sure he is just threatening tho .... he wouldnt divorce.u know you are 101% right...if u'll be great in life or suffer its partly in the hands of the choice of your woman. I have an uncle who workd with an oil coy for years,his wife was very wasteful because he claimd to love her and her words and needs more than the needs of their future...he retired in his early 50s for no reason and today they are still struggling to complete a 5bdroom duplex he started about 12yrs ago in his hometown...till today the crib is still far from finish.they are broke now,he even says so himself. So I advice that dude to tame his wife properly or ...”had I known would be the story 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:11pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
safarigirl: if my thread isn't speaking to you, fine and good. You and your friends don't even make up to 1% of the Nigerian female population, so you need to stop with your ITK and allow those it's speaking to DIGEST THE MESSAGE. It's women like you that delude themselves into thinking that there are no women who suffer marital abuse simply cuz you and your friends aren't experiencing it. You have made no point whatsoever, there is a world far beyond the happy paradise you find yourself and I will make whatever threads I want to as long as I see things in my society I have issues with and even Seun Osewa won't stop me. Goodnight Madam, for d upteenth time, ya brain day work wella. Ya mama born beta pikin. Wish I cd meet u in person sha...ur so |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by clem305D(m): 10:12pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
Its a Nigerian phenomenon...during my stay in the UK, I observed the opposite about the young girls or ladies.Even my girl there was so independent, she cared less about what I put on the table; as she demanded equal rights which I understood. Girls in Nigeria need to step up their game for real 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by GodMode: 10:12pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
EbolaParasite: Foolish comment Since u feel this way Go to a motherless home and drop 70% of your monthly salary with them. Raising a child is easy when u have money but what isn't without money 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:14pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
maxtamazin:who treats ladies this way these days .... I guess the guy that smokes skunk with his sagging trousers under the bridge... respect starts from the way you talk to your next neighbour. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:14pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
rickkid:that was some threat... it is obvious he loves his wife and wants the best for the family. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:16pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
sexyseun: Stop it right there!!!! Career ogini?I look at some of the comments here sometimes and I get disturbed about what my generation is going to look like. I mean I complain that our parents' generation was useless, self-obsessed and indolent but at least they never tried to destroy the natural family! I'm seeing a man on this thread saying that he wants to divorce his wife, the mother of his children for being "lazy" and I shiver. The woman who carried your babies for 9 months, takes care of them and takes care of you and your home is "lazy"? Jesu Kristi. I don't even believe in Jesus but I can't think of anything else to say. Very soon we'll start having incestuous homosexual open marriage. After all na everything oyibo dey do, we gats copy. If oyibo start to use tongue lick sh1t, our people sef go follow am pack sh1t for mouth. I don tire jor abeg. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:16pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
As always, the men have trooped in here to bash Nigerian women. Sometimes I wonder if I live in a different Nigeria. Or it depends on who we know and surround ourselves with. #sipping smirnoff and chewing popcorn. 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by GodMode: 10:16pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
ochon: God bless you real good, Safarigirl. Truer words have never been spoken. Do u want the daughters of low income parents to become runs girls or prostitutes |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by xp17(m): 10:17pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
EbolaParasite:respect sir. there is this retired doctor friend of my (far older than me), he's married to a professor of one of the ivy league colleges .the guy called me one day and asked if was married, I said "no". then he said "please never in your life get married. that guy must have passed through the eye of a needle from his ambitious wife. LOL @safarigirl, please marry me, let me stay at home to take care of the kids , while you do the hustling . I hate work |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:17pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
obongproff:it all boils down to the fact that you are a broke-asss who can't fully fend for your family. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 10:17pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
thandii1: If that's all you can see, then there is not much to say to it. |
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