tosinendowed:
where did dis one come from.....fu ck kor spoon ni

nieema:
I've been trying to end my 2 year relationship for a few months. There are several reasons but the MAIN reason is that I am NOT happy with myself. I need to make some adjustments to improve my life and I need some space to refocus. I love him but I don't NEED to be in a relationship at this time with anyone. We promised each other that we would always be honest about how we were feeling. I reminded him of this when I tried to break things off six weeks ago. I told him that I would still be there for him if he needed anything. I respect him but I need to take care of some things in my peronal life that require my full attention.
I proposed that we go back to being friends but he rejected my offer. Even though we started as friends he said he isnt willing to have a friendship with me if I end the relationship. I don't think it's fair because I've been genuinely good to him. After much consideration and further frustration, I've decided to break it off tonight face to face. At the moment he is having some financial difficulties and I plan to gift him 40k to help ease the sting. I hope he undersatands that I sincerely care for him as I refocus on my own life.
Would you guys/ladies feel better if your honey left you with a break up gift?..or no??

nieema:
I've been trying to end my 2 year relationship for a few months. There are several reasons but the MAIN reason is that I am NOT happy with myself. I need to make some adjustments to improve my life and I need some space to refocus. I love him but I don't NEED to be in a relationship at this time with anyone. We promised each other that we would always be honest about how we were feeling. I reminded him of this when I tried to break things off six weeks ago. I told him that I would still be there for him if he needed anything. I respect him but I need to take care of some things in my peronal life that require my full attention.
I proposed that we go back to being friends but he rejected my offer. Even though we started as friends he said he isnt willing to have a friendship with me if I end the relationship. I don't think it's fair because I've been genuinely good to him. After much consideration and further frustration, I've decided to break it off tonight face to face. At the moment he is having some financial difficulties and I plan to gift him 40k to help ease the sting. I hope he undersatands that I sincerely care for him as I refocus on my own life.
Would you guys/ladies feel better if your honey left you with a break up gift?..or no??

nieema:


Am just hoping he knows it's nothing about him. I hope he can consider picking up with me in d future is he is still available

hahahaha you need an adventourous relationship, people like you dont think of the future, if u date a player who will break ur heart u will start crying for husband later, God has given u a good man u want to leave him, noproblem, remember me in 10years

Lala247:


Exactly lol never heard of that . Its actually insulting if u ask me.

Dannylux:


The lady seems very confused or probably impugned by her conscience for trying to dump the guy.

nieema:
I've been trying to end my 2 year relationship for a few months. There are several reasons but the MAIN reason is that I am NOT happy with myself. I need to make some adjustments to improve my life and I need some space to refocus. I love him but I don't NEED to be in a relationship at this time with anyone. We promised each other that we would always be honest about how we were feeling. I reminded him of this when I tried to break things off six weeks ago. I told him that I would still be there for him if he needed anything. I respect him but I need to take care of some things in my peronal life that require my full attention.
I proposed that we go back to being friends but he rejected my offer. Even though we started as friends he said he isnt willing to have a friendship with me if I end the relationship. I don't think it's fair because I've been genuinely good to him. After much consideration and further frustration, I've decided to break it off tonight face to face. At the moment he is having some financial difficulties and I plan to gift him 40k to help ease the sting. I hope he undersatands that I sincerely care for him as I refocus on my own life.
Would you guys/ladies feel better if your honey left you with a break up gift?..or no??

nieema:

I love and respect him. I hope to have a future with him one day.
How am I supposed to keep giving him my best when I dont feel good about my life. I know I may lose him. But sometimes I feel like I've already lost myself under the pressure of relationship obligations...my own emotional energy is low. I just ask him for consideration to allow me space and a little time to recharge. I love him no doubt and have told him this much.

Lala247:


Thats true, its a guilty person that would do that, she doesn't need any space she just want out of the relationship n is trying to do it nicely but its insulting giving him a gift on top of break up lol

Nmeri17:
op PA MEAT me to say you arr genuinely wicked

1. you asked yo boyfriend to free you because you wanno FOCUS on other things ostensibly more important than him

2. he agreed. and you requested to friendzone him

3. you wanno rub his financial INADEQUACIES into his face by offering him money and

4. hoarding the punny even for one last time

I suggest the FG execute you in place of the 52 soldiers on death row

Dannylux:


No sane guy would accept such gift. See her funny reason, she wanna focus on something more important.. Cliche.

nieema:

I have considered this and that is why I agreed to continue with him as til now. Before we began dating, we were good friends. It was a supportive relationship without any romance, we were there for each other without any dating relationship. I thought that friendship was d foundation of our relationship. I wonder how he can throw all of it away?? just because I am trying to figure out some personal issues...how is that love?

fuckshit:
I do fücking appluad your courage; it's not that fücking easy to tell someone you've been in a relationship with that your fücking breaking up ‘face to face’.

but as for the ‘breakup gift’ being cash that's a whole new different shït; you know him best & what his fücking going through @ the monent; but i can fücking say this most guys would love a fücking whole day of ‘breakup sex’

qtx:

Although it sounds like your heart has already been fixed on what you believe if you dont do, nothing else will work, however, have you raised these issues point-blank with him and he is unable to discuses and advise with better alternatives or options? sometimes my dear one head cannot carry all alone neither can one heart envelope all things at ones part of the reasons you are lovers/friends. In my opinion, lay the issue bare and naked to him and wait to see his suggestions. Because at times in the issues of life, you may just be seeing a solution that in your mind is a thousand times correct and perfect,until just a single word from another person you now begin to see alot of lapses in that your presumed prefect solution. You may be surprise that that young man will just say one single word that will act like a password to that mighty looking challenges you are facing. why not try this first? Give him the details no matter how nasty they may seem and allow him suggest ways out. Good luck.

nieema:
I've been trying to end my 2 year relationship for a few months. There are several reasons but the MAIN reason is that I am NOT happy with myself. I need to make some adjustments to improve my life and I need some space to refocus. I love him but I don't NEED to be in a relationship at this time with anyone. We promised each other that we would always be honest about how we were feeling. I reminded him of this when I tried to break things off six weeks ago. I told him that I would still be there for him if he needed anything. I respect him but I need to take care of some things in my peronal life that require my full attention.
I proposed that we go back to being friends but he rejected my offer. Even though we started as friends he said he isnt willing to have a friendship with me if I end the relationship. I don't think it's fair because I've been genuinely good to him. After much consideration and further frustration, I've decided to break it off tonight face to face. At the moment he is having some financial difficulties and I plan to gift him 40k to help ease the sting. I hope he understands
that I sincerely care for him as I refocus on my own life.
Would you guys/ladies feel better if your honey left you with a break up gift?..or no??

Abraham2013:

Well d problem is dat d money is too small. Watever is worth doing, is worth doing well. Make dat money 4million and d guy will not disturb u again, make it 40 million and d guy will even agree to be d best man to whoever u chose to marry in future.

prince3009:
OP, it is one thing to break up with a guy primarily because he has financial problems (i know that is probably why you are breaking up with him) and it is a bigger insult to try to offer him money as a parting gift! Move on to the next guy you have found and leave the guy to nurse his wounds. I ain't buying that your story of needing space cos i know another man is involved and he was the one who gave you the 40k to pay the guy off. WOMEN!!

nieema:
I've been trying to end my 2 year relationship for a few months. There are several reasons but the MAIN reason is that I am NOT happy with myself. I need to make some adjustments to improve my life and I need some space to refocus. I love him but I don't NEED to be in a relationship at this time with anyone. We promised each other that we would always be honest about how we were feeling. I reminded him of this when I tried to break things off six weeks ago. I told him that I would still be there for him if he needed anything. I respect him but I need to take care of some things in my peronal life that require my full attention.
I proposed that we go back to being friends but he rejected my offer. Even though we started as friends he said he isnt willing to have a friendship with me if I end the relationship. I don't think it's fair because I've been genuinely good to him. After much consideration and further frustration, I've decided to break it off tonight face to face. At the moment he is having some financial difficulties and I plan to gift him 40k to help ease the sting. I hope he undersatands that I sincerely care for him as I refocus on my own life.
Would you guys/ladies feel better if your honey left you with a break up gift?..or no??

TDstarr:
av seen these cases a hundred times over she always end up regretting and the guy picks up himself and becomes a better person

ireneony:
ok you are welcome too. There was a thread I created yesterday, without hitting FrontPage it got to 0-5 page and nairaland peeps really contributed to it, but it did not smell front page...but the one that is struggling to get comment or contribution will automatically hit FrontPage within 1hour which is not fair