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Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Benilily(f): 8:02am On Feb 26, 2015 |
pwerrymansion:that post wasn't silly, i think u lack the ability to understand the point the guy was trying to make... If she quits now, how sure are you that her next won't be worst?? Men are polygamous in nature so i still think she should talk things over with her guy in matured manner and not running away like a fustrated coward! 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by 100Cents: 8:03am On Feb 26, 2015 |
pwerrymansion: Keep quiet. Destroyer.. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Eberex(m): 8:04am On Feb 26, 2015 |
oya o! where is the OP. atleast by now she should tell us what she has done about it, or shey she don pack her things comot for house? |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Epimetheus(m): 8:04am On Feb 26, 2015 |
Jonathan: You failed to understand her. She wasn't saying every guy out there are like the guys she's been dating. She was only saying most guys out there are like that. Sometimes it helps to think like a gambler. Life's a gamble. And before sentimentalists start crying heresy, the bible agrees with something like "time and chance happens to them all". Now, if your chance of finding the perfect guy was 1 in 10, and that of getting a 'good guy' is 5 in 10, what would you put your wager on? |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by UjSizzle(f): 8:05am On Feb 26, 2015 |
Some of the comments here make me shudder Anyway, it's pretty close to your marriage so I think this guy's either testing you to gauge the level of trust you have in him, or pretty much trying to get out of marrying you. If it's the former then damn he's good. Play it out well. It's nice you're coming here for help and not just mouthing off at him. Ask if a friend came over when you were away. Then calmly ask about the used condoms in your kitchen. If it's the latter, then I suggest you pack up and leave. Dude isn't interested in marrying you or is just plain stupid. And all these men telling us men are 99% unfaithful, God is watching all of you. The things you say to excuse infidelity makes marriage seem like hell. Thank God there are honest men still existing. 6 Likes |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Meringe(m): 8:06am On Feb 26, 2015 |
seseannie:My dear, don't listen to all those telling you to walk away. Confront him in a matured way, see how he reacts to it. Find out if he has respect for a woman, not just you. If he does, you are secured. But if he doesn't, you can consider the next option. |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Nobody: 8:07am On Feb 26, 2015 |
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Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Olutola88(m): 8:08am On Feb 26, 2015 |
That's the problem I have with human beings, most of us are never realistic. Just see people forming, pretending, fronting, acting and posting all sorts of fake comments. 98% of the ladies saying they will quit the relationship will actually NOT. And you are here forming one relationship expert. As for the Ladies claiming they can never marry a man that cheats; Shebi na the person wey u catch u catch! I laugh in Japanese each time I meet ladies that Chant: “ I trust my boyfriend, he dares not look @ another lady” “I'm 100% sure my husband has never had extramarital affair”. YES, it's possible, but don't be too sure. And for those men on this thread claiming Saint of life, I know some of you are real while some are hypocrites. For the ones that are real, I'll advise you don't give that guy outright judgment cos you don't know where he's coming from. OP, if you truly love your Fiancé, I'm sure you wouldn't just walk away cos of what you saw. What if you met them in the act? My Advice: Confront him! I don't mean u should act like you aren't sure he used it. As in, confront him like you caught him in the act. In fact, tell him you cannot put up with a cheat, tell him it's over (But you and I know it's not over cos na just shakara). Wait and see his reaction after your own action. Let's see how remorseful he will be, let's see if he won't even do everytn 2 keep you. Let ur shakara last for about 2 weeks 5 Likes |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by dannewlife(m): 8:09am On Feb 26, 2015 |
Have you considered if he deliberately put the condoms there to test your temper. Men like to know the mood of the woman they are taking to the alter. Be wise.! 1 Like |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Melahou(m): 8:09am On Feb 26, 2015 |
brito: then you must be a grandma for been silly... |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by rman: 8:10am On Feb 26, 2015 |
fairygeh: At last, one lady that gets it! This post right there is from a matured and realistic lady. Others are just living in denial or fools paradise. All of them have BFs and men that have never cheated. I laugh. Reality is different from nairaland hypocritical world. God bless you. 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by eleko1: 8:11am On Feb 26, 2015 |
Abeg free that guy biko Jonathan:nor finish am 1 Like |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by donodion(m): 8:11am On Feb 26, 2015 |
seseannie:Some ppl have guilty conscience to confess and prolly repent.some do not.You are hurt and its ur right to demand why.il suggest this.... Take a break if you can.If hes sincere he will be back,if not let him be.Its even ok you guys are yet to be married.So you too could keep your options open.Nothing wrong in having option B ( most ladies often does anyway). If he wants and deserves you,he would buckle up and might put a ring on it. And if not,move on sis. |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Nobody: 8:12am On Feb 26, 2015 |
Melahou: You are the silly one here, if you don't have anything meaningful to say play with your toys. |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by todayguest(m): 8:13am On Feb 26, 2015 |
pwerrymansion:are you going to provide her with an angel? What Is wrong with talking with him about it? |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Sunshinelady(f): 8:14am On Feb 26, 2015 |
BlackPeni5:. Am truly sorry 4u & sorry 4d woman u ll end up with. Your comment even wreaks of low self esteem. U need to sleep around to validate urself. Not all are psycologically sound in dis world, really. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Etruth: 8:15am On Feb 26, 2015 |
pwerrymansion:SECONDED 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by DonaldGenes(m): 8:15am On Feb 26, 2015 |
pwerrymansion: Cough |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Etruth: 8:16am On Feb 26, 2015 |
Meringe:PLS EXPLAIN |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by elohorayodele: 8:17am On Feb 26, 2015 |
Meringe: If he's the one who used it, you won't find them there. Ask if any of his friends came around. Give him benefit of doubt, if he says no Pls confront him, his response should show if you will enjoy or endure your marriage |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Praktikals(m): 8:17am On Feb 26, 2015 |
[quote author=BlackPeni5 I can confidently tell you that about 90% of men have affairs outside their main relationship..[/quote] Bitter truth. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Olaone1: 8:18am On Feb 26, 2015 |
UjSizzle:Abi ooo. Like your husbie? |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Melahou(m): 8:19am On Feb 26, 2015 |
brito: please don't derail this topic...tell them you didn't see me...i don't have time for your nagging today |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Etruth: 8:19am On Feb 26, 2015 |
Jackeeh:YOU ARE BLESSED 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Smith35(m): 8:19am On Feb 26, 2015 |
Confront him. Whatever the issue is, talk about it till finish. Since u've had 2yrs on this journey, it can only get better UNLESS he shows respect. No new bf u wanna have doesn't have a skeleton in d closet. |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by bosunjohns(m): 8:20am On Feb 26, 2015 |
Jackeeh: |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Meringe(m): 8:21am On Feb 26, 2015 |
Etruth:Some use it to masturbate. Don't be surprised, it's real. |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Nobody: 8:21am On Feb 26, 2015 |
seseannie: OK I guess you have had the discussion with him by now Your gut feeling is usually right, so even if he is lying deep in you, you will know The truth is that as you lay your bed from the start of the relationship whilst courting, you will lie on it when married My concerns are; one that you dont know how to approach your fiance in times of "trouble" and secondly even if it happens that he brought a friend/relative home who used the condoms, the fact that you didnt know about the people staying over in your fiances house kind of shows that you dont talk much and are not very close to one another. So regardless of who owns the condoms, there is some disconnect somewhere and you need get that sorted before you even dream of getting married to this man. You may need to court and understand each other more before you decide to get married. marriage is not a day, month or year affair . .. You are looking at 50 years if God blesses you both with long life. Be very sure of the one you want to give that liberty of taking over your whole life to. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by parrot123: 8:21am On Feb 26, 2015 |
If you have never done that before, be the first person to cast stone on this man. Woman, don't mind them. Don't allow them to spoil your relationship, call your man and resolve the matter. I am sure he will apologise latter. |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by haulagehandlers(m): 8:21am On Feb 26, 2015 |
pwerrymansion:No wonder |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by kayzat: 8:22am On Feb 26, 2015 |
seseannie: Its better you ask your man atleast to ascertain who used the rubber. I am talking from the experience and don't be surprised if at the end of the he's not the one that used the condoms. But let your senses guide you. |
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Melahou(m): 8:24am On Feb 26, 2015 |
pbs4real: yeah you are right...someone is playing with my account |
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