bronzegoddess:
Quite a number of us ladies are in this situation. That guy comes along, is caring, God fearing, hard-working and all, but we don't get that romantic vibe with the person. I'll say keep him close, not necessarily date him, just keep him close



Y'all are allowed to read whatever meaning u want to this ^^

She can keep him close but should define the relationship as friendship. Make she tell am the simple fact; she is not attracted to him and therefore it can't work, make he shift market go somewhere else.

faith551:



Uncle I no be sister, I be brother. One thing that confines us to where we are is because we always believe that something better is not out there, looks can be deceiving, I wonder what it will look like living with a God fearing lady I dnt have any attraction whatsoever for 10years

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Hmmmmmmmmm

dadson2009:
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Hmmmmmmmmm

misspicy:
So i made FP and had nothing to say on this thread Is it that am dumb or am trying to be dumb peeps help me am confused here


Anyway i dedicate this FTC to my homies
1) punkyveer,i know you are at work buh babe come home on time,you missed a lot of drama today

2)My real boo kossyablaze...tribalism will only carry its likes to d grave

3)halfrica,where ever you hide,i miss u on here

I C U bae!

You know when the entire physical attributes of a person does not appeal to you? That's how she explained it. Even before agreeing to anything with him, she is already having doubts of herself which is not a good thing.

Najyin:
Can the op tell us what physical attraction she was actually referring to. Was the guy ugly, short, smelly, rough or everything joined together. Or what precisely ?

LookmanTalk:
You know when the entire physical attributes of a person does not appeal to you? That's how she explained it. Even before agreeing to anything with him, she is already having doubts of herself which is not a good thing.

Hmmmm..... The guy should be close to being a monster then. By the way, is she a Christian or a Muslim cos I can see your monicker carries a Muslim name.

This is serious!
She is not attracted to him and won't be proud to show him off......is the guy physically challenged or is it about his look or command of English. Interestingly, she is comfortable enough to keep him as a friend.
I believe attraction can be developed (maybe) but the fact that she is not comfortable to show him off is what i dont get. Does the guy have any disgusting feature or what? Yet she is still friend with him. What type of friendship....to the extent that the guy is talking about marriage with her. What you can't eat, don't smell. It would have been better to have kept him as an acquaintance and not cross the line of friendship if she is not proud of him.

Women dont know that men are scarce,utilize this opportunity now,when u clock 30 and above,no be person go tell u say man na man,irrespective of not been romantic

Penboy:
hehe! Seriously? Why dont doctors appeal you?

I hope you dont spoil the mind of my gf to be.

just dont be a boring doctor and nobody will spoil the mind of your gf.

samopeyemi:
This is serious!
She is not attracted to him and won't be proud to show him off......is the guy physically challenged or is it about his look or command of English. Interestingly, she is comfortable enough to keep him as a friend.
I believe attraction can be developed (maybe) but the fact that she is not comfortable to show him off is what i dont get. Does the guy have any disgusting feature or what? Yet she is still friend with him. What type of friendship....to the extent that the guy is talking about marriage with her. What you can't eat, don't smell. It would have been better to have kept him as an acquaintance and not cross the line of friendship if she is not proud of him.

may be the guy is a midget, ugly with a bad breath.

LookmanTalk:
They are not dating. They have just been good friends and have been considering and speaking about being in a relationship/settling down for a while.

She should bother to date him then since she's yet to enter into a relationship with him.

And how old is she??

See as 'keep him close' dey vex guys sha

Pray

See as 'keep him close' dey vex guys sha.Everybdy leave topic dey quote person that spoke her mind

Nnemuka:

hmmm ayam ahula ntim
advise coming from someone who also generalized by giving 6 reasons why men shouldnt marry an accountant.
should i take you serious?
You are the stup1d one onukwu

Ok. You went around browsing my profile and timeline.
You really get time.

malele:

Sorry babe u are a fucking disgrace. Women don't talk the way u do

Only id.iots talk the way u do

Disgrace of a tin

Missonas:
See as 'keep him close' dey vex guys sha.Everybdy leave topic dey quote person that spoke her mind

Na nairaland we dey....iz hesperred.

misspicy:
So i made FP and had nothing to say on this thread Is it that am dumb or am trying to be dumb peeps help me am confused here


Anyway i dedicate this FTC to my homies
1) punkyveer,i know you are at work buh babe come home on time,you missed a lot of drama today

2)My real boo kossyablaze...tribalism will only carry its likes to d grave

3)halfrica,where ever you hide,i miss u on here

Big mama
Present ma
Breathing fine ma
On deck ready for action ma

halfrica:
Big mama Present ma Breathing fine ma On deck ready for action ma

hal mama, I like your attitude.

faith551:
She is not going to marry "God fearing" she's going to marry a man, have kids with him and spend her life with him, physical attraction should be a major player in marriage.
If she's matured, she shouldn't be having problems with such issues

I had to painfully quit a relatuonship lately bkos of this issue of physical attraction, I was nice to the babe, caring and all, but i felt since i was not physically attractive to her, no point in staying with her. Though she later started begging and saying sorts, but i have moved on

shiinihost:


hal mama, I like your attitude.

i like u too cos u like my attitude

Wats good na

how is dis weather romancing u

halfrica:


i like u too cos u like my attitude

Wats good na

how is dis weather romancing u

omoh dey weather hot for my area....my G dey hia dey fast for 'weather for two'....me, i don really give a bleep.

Youngpo413:
uyai iban,abadie,afo aya ndo mien?

Lmao, monster ke! No oo, not like that! she's christian

Najyin:


Hmmmm..... The guy should be close to being a monster then. By the way, is she a Christian or a Muslim cos I can see your monicker carries a Muslim name.

As a matter of fact, the guy is not in anyway disabled and he has a splendid command of English. Yes, the thought of developing physical attraction for the guy has been the motivating factor for her not being severely blunt with him. Well, they were kind of paired and no he does not have any disgusting feature.. Long and short of it, her main concern is that she is not physically attracted to him at all. she even says she cannot imagine him kissing her in public that she will be soo shy! I too, I am lost for words but this is the situation she has found herself.

samopeyemi:
This is serious!
She is not attracted to him and won't be proud to show him off......is the guy physically challenged or is it about his look or command of English. Interestingly, she is comfortable enough to keep him as a friend.
I believe attraction can be developed (maybe) but the fact that she is not comfortable to show him off is what i dont get. Does the guy have any disgusting feature or what? Yet she is still friend with him. What type of friendship....to the extent that the guy is talking about marriage with her. What you can't eat, don't smell. It would have been better to have kept him as an acquaintance and not cross the line of friendship if she is not proud of him.

And if she takes anyone to marry and the marriage does not even last say 4years due to something she suspected would happen? would that be wise?

kechywillz:
Women dont know that men are scarce,utilize this opportunity now,when u clock 30 and above,no be person go tell u say man na man,irrespective of not been romantic

Non of such

Nnemuka:

may be the guy is a midget, ugly with a bad breath.

30 but looks younger than her age

ogaprime:


She should bother to date him then since she's yet to enter into a relationship with him.

And how old is she??

Flip the scenario, would you like that?

Missonas:
See as 'keep him close' dey vex guys sha

shiinihost:


omoh dey weather hot for my area....my G dey hia dey fast for 'weather for two'....me, i don really give a bleep.

baddest

for?

RapLawd:
Pray

LookmanTalk:
Lmao, monster ke! No oo, not like that! she's christian

If she is Christian then she should stop talking about being attracted to the guy as a criteria. What does the bible talk about marriage? Did God consult Adam before giving him eve? He just came out of deep sleep and saw the woman.

No, I don't think she is being a true christian to think that way. And I don't think it's rational to think that way either.

It would have two implications:

1) No homely people, no plain people, would get married.
2) Those who get married when they are pretty, and then change when they get old—lose their hair, get wrinkles, and get flabby—would fall out of love and would have no good marriages anymore.

I mean, that's just ridiculous. And yet I suppose the question is asked because there is such an emphasis, I guess, in our culture that if you don't look really attractive you're probably not going to get married. If you don't look really attractive, you're probably going to cause your wife or husband to go looking for somebody else. And there's a lot of books out there, I suppose, that say to a wife or husband that you're going to lose this guy or girl if you don't stay really pretty or handsome.

Well, he or she should try to stay as attractive as they can. But you can't put that on any of them. You can't make his faithfulness the outcome of her looks or vice versa. That's just not the way it works.

We are called as men to be faithful the way Jesus is faithful to his bride. And his bride, frankly, stinks! We are not that attractive! He died to make us attractive, according to Ephesians.

I think when Jesus looks at us, if he doesn't look at us in himself, he's not going to be excited about this marriage feast at the end of the age.

The word "biblical" in this question is perhaps intended to take me to a text. And of course the text that comes to mind is, when it speaks to beauty, 1 Peter 3:3: "Don't let your beauty be the outward beauty of the wearing of gold, and the braiding of hair, and the wearing of clothes."

It doesn't say "fine clothes." It's just "clothes," so you know it's not an absolute, as though not wearing clothes is good thing. It means the jewelry, the hair, and the clothes are not the focus. And our culture needs to hear that unbelievably. Marriages need to hear it, men and women need to hear it. That's not the main focus of beauty. The focus should be the inner spirit.

So women should ask, "What kind of spirit should I cultivate for my man and vice versa?" as well as, "How should I eat and dress and exercise for my man?" And the man should do the same: "What kind of inner spirit makes her flourish?" because there is a kind of spirit in a man that kills a woman or frightens or bores her.

And a man shouldn't mainly be pumping iron. Because, frankly, most women could care very little about what their husbands look like, unless they're just making fools of themselves. They want a spirit, a strength, a humility, a nobility. They want someone to pick them up and sweep them away.

In their worst moments women Mostly read novels about exciting romances, because their husbands are so boring!

And so it cuts both ways. I think we husbands should labor not so much with the outward man, and the women shouldn't labor so much with the outward woman. Rather, we should all cultivate the kind of beauty that we all deeply long for in relationships.

A marriage is a relationship. When you're old, gray, wrinkled, overweight (or underweight), squinty, bent over, and hobbling along, maybe you'll be holding hands at 85 because of the inner beauty.