we r flesh,tins happen,but u shld ve told her dat u were married,then u state d terms.den if she is dwn with it u tag along,then even if u want to part,it wnt be so difficult.

Why end it now?

Hey!!! y is everyone condermin d guy?Fine he haz done wat is bad as an adage goes"cuttin off ones head isnt a remedy for an headache",
My candid advice is 4u is to call d gal n tell her its best u guys call it quit cos u av a family and u want a gud life for ha.Good luck

You must really take us for fools Mr. Bob James. You put up this thread in November 2007.

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=92465.msg1667637#msg1667637

A month later this . . .

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=98442.msg1741515#msg1741515

Bloody attention freak!!!

Bob James you are an ingrate. And i hope your wife gets a clue and leave you. You must think we are stupid. Look at what you posted back in 2007, you said the same thing last time about being born again. And you said it again on this thread. You really are something else. Now, Mr. changed man, you have another thread saying you almost did it again, after you got back from working out at the gym. I really pity your wife. Honestly, I don't believe that you have changed, and you deserve everything you get hence forth. Don't be supprised if things don't turn out well for you.



This guy is a fake, the story is fake why are u guys still posting on this thread.

@poster!!! why run for something good like screwing please continue, after all, who is going to tell your wife and the lady will not want to burst the bubble. cause she too is enjoying every bit of the action more than you My brother keep screwing ooohhh!!!! but use protection shay. person wey de soup wey e cook no swet, e go soon taste sour soup wey somebody bring come give am wen e purge wan die, e go remember em soup wey say e no sweet

The guy has said he made it up why are some people still posting here

Y are all these ladies acting as if what Bob James did is strange. Who amongs u is not guilty of this,let her cast the first stone.

Laides even lure MM into this unholly act,i heard even whn some MM told them they are married they replied them afterall whats the big deal.

I m not trying to say what Bob James did is right but let not take it too harsly on him afterall Richard in BBA 3 was involved in an affair in the house and he still won.

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I have read very interesting comments on this thread. Some very shallow, others very deep with wisdom that is profitable to direct. Those who chose to condemn did the wrong thing. For them, they need to realise that God is and they should quit applying for His position- The Judge.
Whether made-up or true, hey, lets put up a healthy summit such that those who are passing thru this situation can learn from it and have a way for be free from it. You cannot run away from the truth that things like this do happen and some never got the chance to save their marriage. Am sure the moderator knew why he edited the original heading and placed it on the front page.
There are challenges of different shapes in marriages but none i guess put up a storm like infidelity. Thats the whole basis of this thread. I am still catching fun. i read some comments with burstful laughter and it helps to take away stress to a certain degree. Just like somebody said, REDISCOVER YOUR MARRIAGE if you find yourself going thru something like this. And for the unmarried ladis like my dear  starstruck , dating a married man isnt worth the stress it brings. What is not yours Can never be yours.
Keep the healthy discussion going.

Am enjoying every bit of it. In life there is always THE GOOD, THE BAD AND THE UGLY. We co-habit so, we aint gat no choice. So my brethren, keep it going!!!!

Next time you want to create a healthy summit you should do so without giving us a cock-and-bull story

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@ poster: you disappointed manhood in 2 ways
1. you did not tell her your true status when you first meet her.
2. you got an apartment for her in Lagos.

Did it not occur to you that she might still play along even after telling her the truth ? you did not even tell us how long you have known her before she started jetting down to lagos for easy assessment by us.
If you had considered all these you will not be blaming yourself totally.
statistics shows that 90% of married couples still plays outside ,
Tell her you are no longer interested in the relationship with reasons and pray for forgiveness.

All the best.

I really like Nigerians. They have a unique way of solving problems. For instance anything good about a neighbor is theirs, anything bad about themselves is blamed on somebody. I am about to enter the same situation and when I read this thread, I thought the guy was spying on me. I am about to sleep with a very beautiful, wealthy and intelligent girl who knows I'm married but doesn't care. I have intentionally being putting this thing off but she keeps seducing me.

If I tell u what I go through to beat the temptation, you will be shocked. Ask all the ladies here how easy it is to 'FLOOR' a man. My fellow guys also knows what it mean to be tempted by a beautiful rich girl.

I said I am about to enter into the same situation because I have finally given her a date. 22nd MAY, that we are going to 'DO THE DO'.

Don't underestimate it. Beware and those who criticize, I pray it happens to you.

Good Day

I really like Nigerians. They have a unique way of solving problems. For instance anything good about a neighbor is theirs, anything bad about themselves is blamed on somebody. I am about to enter the same situation and when I read this thread, I thought the guy was spying on me. I am about to sleep with a very beautiful, wealthy and intelligent girl who knows I'm married but doesn't care. I have intentionally being putting this thing off but she keeps seducing me.

If I tell u what I go through to beat the temptation, you will be shocked. Ask all the ladies here how easy it is to 'FLOOR' a man. My fellow guys also knows what it mean to be tempted by a beautiful rich girl.

I said I am about to enter into the same situation because I have finally given her a date. 22nd MAY, that we are going to 'DO THE DO'.

Don't underestimate it. Beware and those who criticize, I pray it happens to you.

Good Day

Obviously someone has not profited from all the good counsel given on this thread

@ poster,

i wonder y men like you will prefer to go outside and have
a rubber sex than the trusted skin dive @ home

wait a minute!!

or you skin dived the stranger too?

in that case you should be pricing coffins not asking questions

guy u harsh o, if the Toto sweat pass your wife own then u tell her Wat's up and then she lavas u, and then Ur prostitute can come in as your wife or u better still tell Ur wife and ask her to forgive u

The deed has been done, no aportioning blames

Where i won't hold my briefs for you is for not letting the lady know on time u are married, the intentions and reasons would have been clear, rather u went misleading her by your sweet txt msgs and words of encouragement, bull, shit

Well, i would advice the girl to move on with her life now that it is glaring and everything thrown to limelight.

She can't keep holding on to where she doesn't belong to

I may also blame the girl here for falling with her head, jumping to bed almost immediately without understanding well who you are

@POSTER

You owe her apologies, after that is done, move on regardless

She got herself into the shit, so let her deal with it

I can't really be carried away, it takes time to understand someone, and a longer time to jump to bed, only when you have known the person well

She wnated a fling at that, now she is asking for more, not done anywhere

Finally men learn to be more open and truthful, let pple accept you for who u are and not by words u speak

people read the previous posts before replying. The poster said he made the story up !!

u must end the relationship to save urself from an upcoming diaster

I DISLIK U WITH PASSION 4 DOIN DAT.




HA OGA O , NOTIN IS FAST IN KILLING DAN U GUYS.



LET HER NO D TRUTH N SEE ARE REACTION.

e be like say i come late to the party.
bros, carry on jare,
nobody holy pass.
All this cunts wey de run their mouths.
Now wey u don learn ur lesson, go and sin no more.
No long thing.

By the way, this na true story.
No mind the yeye poster. U no get
balls to withstand the heat wey ur
illicit affair generate for NL. I wonder
how u go de when ur wife catch u.

Carry ur cross jare.

Tell the bitch to go to hell and move on with your life that's ofcures she didn't have your affair on tape. You are a man not a kid. No need to sweat.

Bros!
Forget all these hypochrits wey dey open mouth dey talk wetin dem no know. I don't know how many of them understand what it means for a man to be young- in his 30s, to have astonishing looks, to be a likeable character, to be successful on his job and to 'hold it' as in have good money.
Do you know the number of gals that come to toast you everyday. Some of these brothers talking, it is becos they not exposed to these things



You are not alone my bros, i feel you, i experience it evry now and then. Some of these gals talking are the one that would come after you even when they know your wife.You know, money and success changes people. Only people who have not experienced either of these can talk the way these pals are talking.
The solution to this is to avoid exchanging undue plesantries with ladies becos when it gets into their head and they turn to come for you, you can hardly resist them- married or not. The fact that one is married does not make him super-human. The things you liked about your wife before you married her, some 'eve pikins' get x 10, so it takes the grace of God to resist such. I am not talking about one who goes out to chase after woman, no, (understand my point), i am talking about the innocent guy who finds himself doing it.

Another thing that causes this is the nature of one's job. If your job exposes you to alot of ladies and bearing in mind that you are a sexy guy, you can only run away from them (gals).

Also,If ur job entails travelling away from your family for long durations and being lodged in big hotels with the tempting serenity, you only need prayers to stay away from cheating on ur spouse.

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To God you be OLE jagudapali youare only intrested in her cash nothing more there lot of you out there

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