Tats, Dancewith, thanks a bunch!!

Many thanks for your info on this, much appreciated. I am hoping a visa is not truly required.

I plan spending just about 5 nights, basically need to visit the carribeans and Dominica has featured as a place to be.

Thanks

Thanks for your input. However, i understand that Nationalties of Nigeria do now require visas, not sure if this is correct but info was obtained from the web link below:

http://www.dominica.dm/site/entryreqs.cfm

Do you have any relevant authority that states that nationalties of Nigeria do not require entre visa to dominica.

Regards and thanks again

Hi Peeps, i will like to know whether visa is required to visit Dominica and Barbados from Nigeria. If yes, then any info about their consulate in Nigeria would be most appreciated.

Thanks

finekid:


To move quickly, hurriedly
4-letter word containing T and A

Fast

I know a couple of friends, male and female alike, who have been heart broken with words like: " i think we both need to seek God's face and know if really we are meant for each other". , after dating for years and most times they seek God's face forever ( Hey! Stop being unreal, the fruits of your  relationship will tell you if indeed you are meant for each other, u neednt see a vision or approach a prophet/prophetess/soothsayer to know this. Dont get me wrong, i am a christian and fear God but a lot christians hide under this sort of excuse to end a relationship when they r no longer interested for whatever reason )

Scrabble,

Happy new year and how have we all been? The forum has not been running, courtesy of mr admin. Good to be back on the game, missed you all!!


A new year welcome:

Its a 6 letter word, forms part of the title of Will Smith's latest movie, starts with an 'L', Easypeasy innit?

Lagos Preparatory School, bayo kuku road ikoyi.

Answer is pancreatitis,


It is used in the game of Snooker,

3 letter word starts with a 'c',

No pain, no gain!!!

@Almondjoy, JKptretty et al, thanks a bunch for your sweet words and prayers.

I appreciate you loads,

More clue? Okay, it is derived from the word pancrease, More than enough clue i reckon,

Awww, why did i not think about instructor ?? Esay peasy one, yet could not figure it out, i

For frozen with fear, i had petrified in mind,

A disease of the pancrease,

12 letter word, starts with a 'p' and ends with an 's'

professors      ,  i hope its allowed

To be frozen with fear,

9 letter word which includes 'e', 't' , 'p', , ends with 'd'

terrestrial,

Of a person's nature, behaviour - extremely quiet, reserved, cool headed,

9 letter word, containing 2 't's, ends with a t.

almondjoy:

Thanks baby doll.  As for Frankies---lets just say "some things grow stale faster that others---especially small small boys used to climbing grannies"! Just putting my multitalentia into good use for free buffoonery on Narialand--for lack of better things to do with ma spare time, till I escape on vacation.

That comes with a lot of "Xperience"!  My pleasure always! That is why I am on Nairaland--to educate and entertain. Someone like Frankies can never get these kinds of compliments---for that I am grateful that like 7-UP--THE DIFFERENCE IS CLEAR!

Hey, let the music play on! It is the season to be jolly.


Merry Xmas and a Happy New 2008 Y'all!

Merry xmas and a beautiful 2008 dearie, Make a wish for the coming year and i promise you it'd come to pass.

olanajim:

So what about when the wife die first? Men certainly don't find it pleasant to lose their wives. What is the scenerio like?

dablessed,
thanks for sharing that part. Could you educate us on the emotional cost? So far, we have concentrated on the wealth. But l suspect that side is nothing compare to other losts. What do we have to say of losing a partner you love so much at early age with children? How do we find the experience and what do you suggest?

To answer your question on "So what about when the wife dies first? Men certainly don't find it pleasant to lose their wives. What is the scenerio like?", i'd say: read almondjoy's post above surrounding this.

Now, on the emotional cost question, of course you have said it all by saying that the emotional cost  is nothing compared to other costs. Absolutely true!! Being separated from a loved one by death is traumatic. A nightmare it is and better not imagined i promise you, however, if you prefer to exercise your mind and thoughts, then you can begin to imagine what its like to live in hell for only 60 seconds,

Bottom line, its not a palatable experience but with time, it gets better. It is very true that healing comes with time. I can say that i am not where i used to be emotionally, its been 68 months and i get better by the day, i can talk about it nowadays without shedding a tear, i used to find it really hard to talk about him to my 6-year old daughter who was only 10 months old when it happened, but now, we talk about him, see pictures of him, pray for him and answer any questions she asks without any emotional outbursts. I can say that i have moved on in other aspects on my life but would admit that i have been a lill slow relationship wise. Almondjoy did some justice in her previous post and i do agree it is somewhat not easy for women to move on after losing a loved one.

nwando:

This girl you smart o.
when you are not playing around you do make a whole lot of sense

_{I hope this statement doesn't invite your nairaland lover,frankies}

Very, very well said,

Almondjoy did make a huge amount of sense in the post below. In as much as she could  be on fire with her choice of words sometimes ( as in the case with frankies), i must say that she does make very very productive comments, She is multi talented is she not?, Emmm Almondjoy baby, whats up with you and frankies? I believe you have made up,

almondjoy:

It is easier for most men since they re-marry almost immediately--not because they have stopped loving their wives but because it is easier for most men to re-marry than for most women to re-marry. Men rarely feel helpless in the event that they lose their wives--for they have greater support systems in society from families and friends.  Most women are not that fortunate.

Men are better planners, and more realistic than women and already know what to do if such a thing as death of a spouse occurs. Their needs are easier met by having a companion in old age.  Men will gladly substitute while most women cannot get past the loss of their spouses----always looking for the original, never a duplicate-they take it harder and cannot easily remarry in most cases--and like to live mostly in a world of fantasies---happily ever after stuff.

As long as a man can have his needs met in the kitchen and the bedroom,  they can move on.  Not so easy for most women.

Bottom line it is easier for men because they usually remarry in less than 2 years and move on with their lives in body even if not in spirit.  The society we live in makes it easier for them too.  While you hear things like oooooooooh it is not good for a man to live by himself--women are other other hand praised for mourning their husbands for life.  You hear things like-oooooooooooooh she must have really loved him.  What a lucky man?

Women need to learn to plan better by believing in the power of "subtitution" too!

Wonderful!!

Chei!!!!Almondjoy!!! Wow, you be professional  yabiz oh! Chineke , Please take it easy my dear, na beg i dey beg you o, otherwise some amateurs go learn from you fast, i could not help but open my mouth in awe reading your responses to Frankies,

Frankies! Haba! You be man na, ( hope i'm right o) why exchange words with a woman? Ehn? Silence would have been your best response.

Peace guys!

Thanks for your kind words ladies!

Thankfully, i did not experience any kind of maltreament from my in-laws. Perhaps, because they are quite enlightened and possibly because i had a cordial relationship with them while my hubby was here. I dont think i would have been able to cope well if they had chosen the wicked path, it honestly would have been double trauma, if you know what i mean.

I am glad eveyone has learnt one or two things my my scenario.

Lets keep sharing and praying for one another. It is well,

tease


A racket & shuttle game!

9 letter word, contains n,t,i, b

Muchas Gracias!

Carlosein:

License

answer to head of naija household is Yaradua (not exactly english though )

I had liberty in mind but i guess license fits in as well, well done Carlos!!


A planet,

7-letter word starts with an 'n'

almondjoy:

@dablessed

Dannnnnnnnnnnnnnng!

What a shocker! Sorry about that dablessed. That was too cold--to digest! May God continue to give you strenght.

Thanks almondjoy!! His strength has been sufficient indeed,

redsun:

@dablessed,i hear you my sister,so easy,yet so difficult,i just can't wait to go back there for good and be a part of the struggle for real.

Yes jare, my brother!! Home sweet home!!! Another 6 months and am back as well, cant wait!!!

@D-chair, alafin, - i am at loss for words for you!! Get back to work will you?

@Shinatu,

Shinatu:

@D-Chair

Thank you very much o, I wan run when I see the abuses.
Ki la gbe ki le ju? ( What did we steal that the punishment is this much?)
What dablessed is accusing me of is what he/she is guilty of.

I beg I am sorry, like D-chair said, I am just passionate about
my country and maybe get over sensitive when people try to insinuate that
that we are all bad because of the level of indiscipline in the country.

The only reason many people pay tax and bills abroad is because they cannot get away with it, not
because them better pass us for Naija!(although we get our own problems sha.)

I am equally as passionate about my country and the fact that i am presently out of Nigeria does not make me less passionate.

Sorry about the weight of the abuses!!! Pele, 

@redsun,

redsun:

In the real world taxes and bills are recircled back into the system,but in nigeria,it is like putting a dried fresh fish in the care of a church-rat.No goverment can operate without accountable tax,bills and generated revenues operatives.Life is a vicious circle,what you give, you get in return

Many thanks for your invaluable contribution and comments, keep up the good work!

Shinatu:

@dablessed

Thank you for making your personal experience available for other people to learn from.
I am sure it has made this issue more real to people.
Your suggestion about knowing your to inlaws well before marriage is very critical.

Nice to know it has blessed you!!

alafin:

i'm sure he/she might not even be in employment before leaving for UK. Da blessed is not a crime on nairaland to mention any of your relatives who does not pay his/her tax.

If u can't hit the Nigerian criminals well hard on nairaland where else can you hit them MOOO.

Its a shame at the sort of response from a 33 year old man! Please grow up alafin and read my response to shinatu's post above as you flock together! Lastly, deal with whatever issues you may have presently and stop being a nuisance at contributing here!!

Shinatu:

@DABLESEED

Sorry to disappoint you but I pay my bills and taxes and many people that are around me do the same.
The fact that you were probably not doing so before you left this country does not mean everybody is in the same category.

Nigeria is more than what you and your family do, like it has been mentioned several times on this thread, there are still people of integrity in this country, I know it may be difficult for you to understand considering what you might have been exposed and involved in.

Shinatu!! When i posted the below:

dablessed:

As long as you do not pay your taxes and utility bills, you are a thief!!!

, it was not specificaly addressed to anyone in particular and really can't understand why you are sweating up, Besides, the post says "As long as you you DO NOT, " and so if you pay your taxes and bills, why respond to it? You need not respond to every post ok? If you are bored or jobless, then start up a sensible topic rather than talking rubbish here.  You don't know me, neither do you know what my family does so why mention my family? This is absolutely out of context and you are not talking from a position of knowledge at all. If this was to be an english test, i am afraid to say that you would have failed very woefully, you have responded absolutely out of context, All i said was " as long as you do not pay your taxes and bills, then you are a thief", i never mentioned anyones' name, it was a general comment, everyone knows that taxes are compulsory levies and must be paid, i have not said anything out of place, and if at all you don't agree with the post then criticise the post not the poster , afterall @ redsun

redsun:

The essence of paying tax and bills is useless if the ball game from the top is corruption.I know of one internal revenue officer from my place that became a multi-millionaire overnight,just because he got a position of handling people's money.

[quote][/quote]  even though he did not particularly agree with my post, he was able to back up his point without making reference to the poster personally, so why mention " me, my family and whatever i may have been exposed to , " You are a disgrace to english language and to those that tutored you in school i  must say, Please keep quiet next time if you don't have anything tangible to say okay?

A very interesting and educatiing thread this is.

Death is inevitable.It is most certain that a partner will either die first or worse case scenario, both of them at the same time. No one enters a union with the hope of losing their spouse. However, it is something we should prepare for either consciously or otherwise. This preparation starts from the courtship period. What sort of man or woman are you dating right now? Chances are that the person you date or court, you will eventually get married to (unless you wanna opt in for "an imported wife/husband" when you only date or court after the wedding)

Court wisely and make a good choice. Know the family you are entering into very well before you tie the knot.

Plan! Plan! Plan!, Its all about planning, This is what you should be doing, especially during courtship and not engaging in premarital sex that does nothing but blindfold you. Discuss this topic together as a couple and never shy away from the truth, How are you going to handle it should the inevitable come calling now? What would be the way forward when it happens? These are important issues to talk about.

Your spouse should be your next of kin under normal circumstances and if for one reason or the other, someone else is filling that gap, what are the implications at death? Talk about it,

Every woman should have a source of income, apart from the husband, being the main/partial source. In the same vein, every husband must not utterly depend on his wife financially. ( Although this is not very common where i come from ). Abi?

There are various insurance policies one can take advantage of and you may both need to seek professional counselling to opt in for the best package to meet your family and income level, age, etc

Understand your in-laws very well, do your best to be at peace with them as much as you can, love them dearly and put them into consideration when planning with your spouse.

If there are children in the union, what plans are you embarking on today to ensure they are not impaired in any respect, should the 'D' word knocks on your door? There are various long term investment packages parents sign up for the children to fall back on after they are gone, are you looking into this? Talk about it now, How about taking a trust? Speak to a solicitor,

Losing a spouse is enough trauma for anyone. However, lack of planning could aggravate such trauma. Some pple have actually lost their mind, esteem, dignity, charisma, everything u can imagine after losing a spouse.

When i got married at the age of 23, we never talked about this sort of topic at all, like most pple. Afterall, it is meant to be an everlasting union, why discuss death anyway? But then, 3 years down the line, he died!!! Yes, the inevitable, never discussed topic, unpalatable word is now here! I was only 26.

Although, i would not say we consciously planned, perhaps in our subconciousness, we both did. I was not utterly dependent on him as i was working, had a good relationship with his siblings such that there was no issue whatsoever afterwards. Its been five years and i can say that i have not been rendered completely handicapped as a result of losing him. I will most definitely remarry but how lovely would it be if we both talked about this while he was here?

The bottom line really is: "TALK ABOUT IT and plan now" and if it means seeking professional advise them do so!!

As long as you do not pay your taxes and utility bills, you are a thief!!!

Nice to see more professionals on board, Welcome y'all,

Where are the auto experts, pilots, et al?