cutelass:


Just like Debiee mentioned below, use ETC pls 265k is too expensive…and use Atlanta consulate too…I think Atlanta and New Jersey are faster than Washington.

Send in all that is stated in the website and mail it to Atlanta. I sent in my application from Los Angeles to Atlanta on Friday afternoon using priority mail $10 not priority express $28. The return envelop addressed to myself that I included was also for priority mail $10.

I tracked and saw that it was received in Atlanta Monday afternoon and it was back in my doorstep in LA on Thursday afternoon. My guess is that it was processed in less than 24 hrs. So use Atlanta pls. You’d spend roughly $170 in total.

If you use FedEx or usps priority mail express, you’d round up everything in 2 days

Hello again. Sorry, but have some questions:

Please who is the money order payable to? The Consular General? That info isn't on the site.

Onegai:
Please can I get any info on Visa on Arrival or ETC for baby? I contacted an NIS officer and he told me N265,000 for visa on arrival for the baby.

How does one apply for it, what documents should be submitted please? My sister needs some help.

Thanks in advance.

Please we need information on Nigerian visa on arrival
or an emergency travel card for baby. We asked an immigration officer and all he replied was to tell us to pay him N265,000 to process visa on arrival and he refused to answer any further questions.

Akinrayo:


Hello Onegal,
I’m also in same situation, Please what’s the method that requires a $700 expedite fee?

Hello

There are expediting companies affiliated to the Passport Agencies. You can Google or go to USPS to get one. It's best to use the one affiliated with the passport agency (which is usually the top result in Google search). They have different prices for different return times.

Please can I get any info on Visa on Arrival or ETC for baby? I contacted an NIS officer and he told me N265,000 for visa on arrival for the baby.

How does one apply for it, what documents should be submitted please? My sister needs some help.

Thanks in advance.

Debbieeeeeee:

She should call +18774872778 tell them the date on her ticket, they will give her an appointment at the closest agency to her and depending on how close her travel date is, she can get her baby’s passport same day or the day after. I got my baby’s passport the next day at the agency.

Thanks, she tried that. Her state doesn't have a Passport Agency and the 2 agencies close to her didn't have appointments available till next year. She tried another method and they told her to either pay an Expediter ($700 for 2 weeks' turnaround, minus passport fees) or wait till 7 days to her flight then contact them.

Good morning everyone.

Please my sister is in the US and she has been waiting for her baby's passport for a while now. They're telling her 7-9 weeks for expedited. Is anyone else experiencing this?

Hey guys, new post up!

We have a Domestic Goddess writing for the blog and she will be doing series for us.
Let's start with laundry (imagine, we got out permanent marker stains out of clothes, ope o!)


https://nefescorner.com/domestic-dangers-stains-on-kids-clothings/

Hey mamas! How are we?

Raise your hand if you have had your opened PCM bottle on your table for 6 months plus.

Oya read this!

https://nefescorner.com/wheres-your-medicine-stored/

Hey mamas! How are we?

Raise your hand if you have had your opened PCM bottle on your table for 6 months plus.

Oya read this!

https://nefescorner.com/wheres-your-medicine-stored/

Because it was shocking to hear how many parents still owe school fees for this term, we sat down together and put this down. A helpful plan for how to sort out school fees payment. Please read and share:

https://nefescorner.com/how-do-you-pay-your-schoolfees

Because it was shocking to hear how many parents still owe school fees for this term, we sat down together and put this down. A helpful plan for how to sort out school fees payment. Please read and share:

https://nefescorner.com/how-do-you-pay-your-schoolfees/

A little midday humour to cheer you up!

http://nefescorner.com/it-happened-to-me-my-4-year-old-got-me-in-trouble/

Good morning. Please does anyone use Island Maternity for immunization? How is the experience, what is the procedure and costs and which days does immunization hold? Thanks in advance.

Goodhairdiary and anyone else interested, on Instagram, @PartysuppliesNG is doing clearance sales on her character themed party supplies. At least you'll save some dough.

babythug:
Welcome kiki4 ..... did you bring anything for the elders?

Enjoy your stay here and feel free to share Any and everything!

Some sad news here again my dears

My daddy passed away yesterday!

I’m just overwhelmed here oh!

My sincere condolences. May he sleep peacefully in the Lord. How are you, siblings and your mother holding up?

babythug:


I kinda agree with the planner as long as affordability isn’t an issue and the intent isn’t to show off to keep up with the joneses that 1.3 isn’t so unheard of or outrageous!


I have since realized even if you have 10 guests at a party the expenses can run into hundreds of thousands . It all boils down to the individual

I used to agree with the mantra "if you can afford it, go for it!" Until I spoke to the event planner and a Financial planner. Both these women can easily afford that lifestyle. They knew people who could afford it. But they realised that half the splashy parties we saw, were also being thrown by parents who were owing schoolfees at pricey schools.

People's definition of "I can afford it" usually means "I can pay for it now and soak garri afterwards". The true definition of "I can afford this" should be "I can pay for this and still be comfortable afterwards".

Someone I know once hit me up for cash, she sounded desperate. I turned her down (regretfully), only for me to see her pictures used as an advertisement for a popular (and expensive) photography studio. I knew the photographer and asked: She paid for a shoot to commemorate Birthday (complete with outfits from a fashion designer). Then started hitting up her friends, her co-workers, even randoms like me (who she had not spoken to in 10 years) for money because she was broke after it all. When I asked her, she said "are you jealous?? I could afford it, so what!"

No sweetie, you couldn't.

The biggest mistake we see parents doing (apart from spending N1.3million on a 1st Birthday Party!! Which did happen, several times) is not setting a budget when planning. The minute you say "I'm looking for an AFFORDABLE vendor for party packs/children's Party", half the good vendors will avoid you. They don't want to waste time on customers demanding a N5000 quality but want to pay N250. But once you set a BUDGET, the good vendors immediately know what to show you, within your budget.

Check out more tips (we spoke to a very big children's party planner and she even said that N1.3m was not that bad for a Birthday Party, she had clients who had spent more )

https://nefescorner.com/the-ultimate-guide-to-a-childrens-party/

Potty tips for the modern toddler (No different from what your mum did). The good thing is, potty training is a 2-parent job (I can't aim whilst standing up, can you??)

https://nefescorner.com/pee-pee-potty/

Shallypop:
Gm ma. Maybe insecticide which we occasionally spray but I stopped using perfume since she was 3 months. I want to believe she's gonna outgrow it. I don't want it to result to Asthma. That's d reason 4 my worries. Thanks

Insecticide is a big irritant. We have the same issue. Bronchitis and what you're describing means you should be quite careful, you may have a child that is prone to some upper respiratory illnesses. Nothing to be worried about, they usually outgrow it, you also have to watch out for Sinusitis. Doctors don't diagnose Asthma before the age of 2, but they will treat it. I advise you get a hospital with a Paediatrician who comes in daily. And ask the Paediatrician what his/her specialty is in. It helps if they know a pulmonologist or Thoracic physician. They're rare.

Potty training tips!

https://nefescorner.com/pee-pee-potty/

chii8:
This group is very ideal,my daughter wants to write federal entrance exam to college next year but i am confused on what exactly we are to read,on how to prepare her for the exam as a parent....

Please,any parent here who will give us a clue?i will be grateful.

Firstly, are you targeting particular schools? Because if you are, then locate a parent whose child got in and find out everything they did. Loyola and Catholic schools have their own separate prep, for example.

For Federal exam, ask her teachers if they are willing to organise after-school exam prep for the subjects she'll be taking. Including list of textbooks and past questions. Her teachers should tell you where her weak points are, so she can pinpoint and use her time effectively (if she needs Current Affairs help, it's to study that in a group format. I would help my nephews and nieces ace their History and General Knowledge exams, because I knew how to cover it better than their teacher. But I couldn't help their Maths). Nothing will improve her English, Spelling and Grammar like reading well-written books. So she should get a book list, 1 a week.

Try and target 3 schools. Approach it like you're getting a job. Also, ask your bank manager, your office and your husbands office if they offer scholarships for Best Student or something outstanding. Someone's daughter got N200,000 from a bank for developing an app. A few kids get scholarships for Best exam score. The companies won't advertise it, so you have to make the enquiries. HTH


www.nefescorner.com

https://nefescorner.com/you-cant-have-it-all/

This post is for anyone who has ever been triggered by someone else's perfect life, with its perfect balance. Hint: not true

Claseek, dodo/fried plantain is very suitable. Just remove the hard bits at the edges.

My children don't like fried plantain. Like, they actually dislike it, with extreme prejudice.

So we're getting them DNA-tested because no child of mine hates dodo. These must be some white kids that got switched at birth for my babies. That's the only explanation for this calamity.

Supernaturalone:
Hello mums. My 9 month old baby suddenly does not like taking her formula. She struggles to finish 120 or 150 mls. We started on Nan, then changed to SMA but she still will just play with it. She's not a particularly good eater with cereals and other meals. Any ideas on getting her to drink milk will be appreciated. Many thanks!

Break out the amala!! Seriously. My child had this issue and we were struggling with cereals. Some kids hate the taste of cereals and formula after a while. My nieces was delighted with Ogbono soup at 8 months



https://nefescorner.com/6-food-hacks-for-your-baby-and-toddler/

bigmummy16:
Hello Onegai, are you referring to the immunization(N28,500) given to a 2year olds?

No dear, this is MMR and Chicken Pox vaccines. Before 2 years. Private hospitals tend to jack up prices on vaccines they know Govt isn't giving out (this includes Rotavirus and MengC). They have to make money somehow so I can't really blame them.

happybrother:

Next time please let the publicity come in time and also as a thread.

Sorry, just heard about it myself. Quickly came to share here.

kinah:
morning everyone, am a first time expecting mum. four months gone.. am in another state with hubby,abk to b precise, no family around to help or seek advice from around. I need help on baby things to buy been that we are on a budget. I need to b extra careful.
any experienced mothers or fathers in the house? if it is where to get things that quality and cheap. or anyone who can put me through. will really appreciate the help.
Pls expecting a quick response. my email is adetitigold@gmail.com.
Cc. onegai
MOD.

I thought this was a very good list, I cut out the extras. Please don't go crazy buying clothes, ask yourself this "yes my baby can look super cute in all those cute baffs like the Instagram kids or my baby can be able to one day afford to go on excursion to see a Astronomy centre or graduate and be able to buy her own car and I planned and saved for it sensibly by investing extra funds for her/him from childbirth, rather than telling myself I will make money by then and not planning". Then cut out all the excess like cute baffs, baby hangars, special baby bucket in pink or blue etc.

If you're buying in bulk, try and go now to Balogun market in Lagos. Buy cartons on diapers and wipes, even our bath soap is in bulk (16 bars at a time is what I get). Because it's cheaper to buy in bulk. If you're just buying a few things, find it around you in Abeokuta. No need buying from afar and paying for delivery fees.


https://nefescorner.com/new-baby-lets-go-shopping/

Hello guys! Briefly popping in and out

Wow, crazy immunization bills, we just got one for N28,500. Since Nigeria is no-longer-in-a-recession-but-we're-poorer, I have decided to find my way to cheaper alternatives. Until I rig, errr I mean, WIN my primaries and join House of Reps in my state.

Babythug, Oriaburefarms and everyone.

This is happening this weekend. I know it's short notice but do you wanna attend?

Towerofgrace:
Please o mamas, this is totally unrelated but just bear with me.

You advise and help is urgently needed

There is this lady that got married earlier this year, she is around 40yrs, just today she said she was looking for something in her house and found a bottle inside a bag and the bottle contains a cut off piece of her clothing tied together with her hair inside the bottle, she lives alone with her hubby so nobody else could have done that except him.

She is presently confused and doesn't know what to do. I told her to inform her Pastor not the husband or any family member yet, but I am just as confused as she is, wonderful mamas

Holy sugar.

Ummm, I think she should speak to her parent(s) and pray over with her pastor. This is hard, but after she's done that, she needs to bring it up with her husband. Like "honey I saw this, I don't know where it came from, I'm really scared, I know you love me and you swore before God to protect me, do you know anything about this?". No accusations, non-confrontational but definitely demanding answers. Watch his behaviour and his answers, his body language may tell you the truth.

Because throwing it away and putting the issue out of her mind is playing Ostrich (burying her head in the sand). You've found fetish-y stuff in your home, you need to have both eyes open, there is no "ayam too married I don't wanna rock the boat, my enemies want to destroy me" level of ignoring this situation. I know Nigerian women can unlook anything in the name of Keeping Their Home^tm but this is major (her hair, her clothes, if she was my daughter she'd be on extended stay at my house until I get to the bottom of this).

I wish her all the best. I hope she knew this guy reasonably well before getting married. And if someone came into their home and had access to her stuff, he needs to step up and protect her. Because that person must have come through him.

Unless she has untrustworthy relatives who visit her.

Posts on Discipline, I picked some stuff from them, hope you enjoy them.

https://nefescorner.com/the-discipline-game/

https://nefescorner.com/their-inner-voice/

https://nefescorner.com/to-lay-down-the-law-tips-on-discipline/

Hello guys!

We have so many posts up on www.nefescorner.com, we discussed Feeding your baby, Discipline, Sex, Fashion, Health and Safety and so much more.

The blog is a curation of several voices a collective. So if you're getting tips on Discipline, you're getting it from a Mum whose children are in their 20s. If you're getting Health tips, you're getting them from a Dad or Mum who's a Doctor. Our Sexx tips were from a Sex therapist who is also a Mum and a former exotic dancer who had twins some years back! This way, we try and give you experienced voices, people who have walked in your shoes and know what you're dealing with.

We have different sections, our "It Happened to Me section are real-life stories (yes, even the first story there was true ).

So please check it out and enjoy. I won't always be able to drop links here (I may be leaving Nairaland) but you can always subscribe. Thanks for letting me speak