Cutejay: I am in a confused state right now infact am tired of getting my heart bashed this is the 2nd worst hit.
I need your advice please friends! In one of my post i talked about a guy i was dating who has a kid,after everything i agreed to stay not minding if he has a child or not cuz he pleaded with me not to leave cuz he loves me and wouldnt marry his baby mama cuz he doesnt love her and i truely love him so i agreed.
It started in december last year after the child ish,i checked his facebook account and there was a lady he used in his profile picture,i asked him he said she was just a friend i said ok. Then on the 12th of december he opened a new facebook account without informing me which i later found out, i asked him why he did that and he didnt respond,i let it go. On the 1st of jan this year i logged on to facebook and decided to go through his new account though i am not his friend there i went to his wall,only for me to see the same lady in his profile pic. I got upset and asked him who she was and he said why am i disturbing myself over nothing,untill now he has'nt told me who she is to him. I sent him a text today only for him to call and say i shouldnt worry that nothing is happening but its obvious they have something together and he doesnt want to say i suspect something. My annoyance now is that when we started dating 6months ago i asked him if he had someone and he said no, i asked that cuz i wanted 2 clear my concience and i was single at that time i met him and i just graduated from the uni when i met him he is 34 and i am in my early 20's,i didnt mind the age difference cuz i loved him. I have never cheated on this guy,i trusted him,i was everything but content with him,i never asked him for anything he does it at his will,i was ok with that. Now this is all i get BETRAYAL. Why are men like this? I have decided to let him go though it hurts i will try. I am a good girl but right now i want to be bad cuz my goodness hasn't paid off i dont need anyman around me anymore. Please advice me before i take my final decision.

Is that all? Have you finish your rantings? So because your 6 months relationship had come to an end, you don't want Nigerians in Nigeria and the diaspora to have a goodnight sleep. Well there are sides to a story. Your side, his side and the truth and since you want an advice, my advice to you is wherever you are in Nigeria, please start running naked on the streets and dive into an ocean near you since you feel very hurt.

pele oooo

just move on if you cant cope

everyone has a love story to tell, so that is part of your experience now

Leave him if u want to.
Girls............. It isnt dat hard. Y is it?

@OP, i advise at ur age, you focus more on your academics and career than being obsessed with marriage and relationships, hurting ur fledging heart. Make a right priority for your life and also note you cannot have any peace in any relationship without abstenance. Keep good friends on platonic basis and you ll never see yourself crying out loud.

[quote
author=Les] which other bad are you talking about?? And oh yes, it gat
everything to do wit it. Why not tell me dat you would still be clubbin
at age 99 since age is just a number. Takia urself and guys will takia
of you- heaven helps those dat help themselves. For sure, you'll
continue to meet guys but dont giv in to dem, if i were you, never you
date a 30+ man cos he's married or is a player and never open your legs
to a 30- guy until he takes you to altar. Shun dis advice and still
comeback here to tell us "..... Now you hate men d more"[/quote]

On a serious note my dear don't hate men,I have been on that road years back. I had a broken r/ship in my early twenties I was in my year two in the university,It really really hurt me but that made me more focus on my studies I gave no man my time till my final year when I met the guy am now married to, in essence you have to be strong and pray for God to bring the right man your way, who wil love and appreciate you don't be in a hurry. Trust me some guys are good and when I look back now am glad that r/ship ended because am so loving the guy am married to because he is the best. Best of luck too

Lik...rily? R u kidin me? U re in ur early 20s...and u re wilin 2 put up wit all dat drama? Baby daddy! Dat kips secrets 4rm u? My dear u beta run...u re 2 young 4 all dat.
If he has a diferent fb acct wit a lady's pic on it...it cud only mean 1 of dis 2... He's tryn 2 scam sum1 or homegirl, u re bin playd big time.
Throw up ur deuces...its a new year...u dnt nid all dat drama.
Bless

[quote
author=Les] which other bad are you talking about?? And oh yes, it gat
everything to do wit it. Why not tell me dat you would still be clubbin
at age 99 since age is just a number. Takia urself and guys will takia
of you- heaven helps those dat help themselves. For sure, you'll
continue to meet guys but dont giv in to dem, if i were you, never you
date a 30+ man cos he's married or is a player and never open your legs
to a 30- guy until he takes you to altar. Shun dis advice and still
comeback here to tell us "..... Now you hate men d more"[/quote]
now i'm loving you the more

haha, people are being way too hard on the OP, some dude made a thread exactly like this yesterday. I think thats where this lady got her title from.

https://www.nairaland.com/1149660/ladies-heartless


As for the 2 topics.. both of yall are dumbasses. You got with a dude who was obviously still dealing with another woman... you were his Bleep buddy and you were trying to pretend it was something more. (maybe the sex was good, maybe he had alot of money) But either way what did you expect to happen?

CuteJAY I'm on my knees begging you not to turn bad. Don't let one man create another bad girl in you... Be true to yourself. The man wasn't there when you were growing up and being shaped to what you are now.
You say you hate men for the now because you ran into this wrong man while i myself can confidently say that i have not a single cheating bone in my body only for me to realise that women are now more prone to cheating than guys, but that won't change who i am, because with the right woman i'll be the right man

@ op Why quarreling over nothing. I thought you wanted to say you caught him cheating on you. You have no evidence against him. I sometimes use my sister, niece, cousin pictures as my profile pix on facebook. If you no get proof, Abeg free my guy jare.

Dear Poster, How do you know your boyfriend is not a yahoo boy who is using her pictures to get magas? He might not even be cheating, only hustling for your enjoyment.

WackyJ1: CuteJAY I'm on my knees begging you not to turn bad. Don't let one man create another bad girl in you... Be true to yourself. The man wasn't there when you were growing up and being shaped to what you are now.
You say you hate men for the now because you ran into this wrong man while i myself can confidently say that i have not a single cheating bone in my body only for me to realise that women are now more prone to cheating than guys, but that won't change who i am, because with the right woman i'll be the right man

^^^Story story, stooooory; Once upon a time, time, time. @ op, Ruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuun.

I patiently waiting for part 2 of this movie. I can't wait.........

Insecurity of the highest order ....*SINGING* small girl you don't know the thing, I am teaching you thing , now ur playing with thing....this na your first album the second album would be titled UNAM HEARTBREAK STYLE....Run for your dear life that guy dey use you pass time and the grand finale na sledge hammer him go use break that ur small heart wey the bobi be like pimple

You never see anything you dey vibrate....

you know, there is one problem with most women
We clearly see the cheating sign HAND WRITTEN on the wall but decide to ignore hoping and trying to get our mind to accept what we want ourselves to believe

with the short story up there I could tell you knew deep down something was wrong with your relationship but chose to go with the lies from him over your female intuition

Now the ball is in your court, you play along knowing fully well you are his side chick or you bounce out

@op, am seriously trying to give a phuck but i just can't.
Op you've got absolutely nothing on guy, he's got a new fb, so d fuc what? He ain't cheat till you catch him cheating.

Please take out your frustration on the entire male specie since your looking for an excuse to bring out your inner lesbo.
LAWD HAVE MERCY!!!
NB:Op please try and make an effort to grow-up

I haven't read through the thread as it's my bedtime. Why don't you message the girl on facebook and ask who da hell she is

Abeg Meshonu, only Men are bad!What about those guys that she might probably had jilted in the past. Some ladies will even store guys name as mugun and they will have Mugun1, Mugun2, Mugun3, Mugun4. At that time they will be believing thay were smart only to face the repercussion of their action when they are about to get settle down :DAbeg Meshonu, only Men are bad!What about those guys that she might probably had jilted in the past. Some ladies will even store guys name as mugun and they will have Mugun1, Mugun2, Mugun3, Mugun4. At that time they will be believing thay were smart only to face the repercussion of their action when they are about to get settle down

Les: Young woman which other advice do you want If you wanna be bad, be bad, if you wanna be good, be good. When will you "good gals" grow up? With regards to your signature, ah dont think you can ever grow up when you tink dat age is just a number. When ppl learn not to let other ppl's attitude determine their life style for them? If you tink dis relationship has failed you, go into another one till you meet ur mr perfect, dont ask me how many relationship you've to be into, after ol, dat electric bulb you are seeing, d inventor failed 999 times b4 he succeeded. Keep trying, you know where you failed d last time and make it up in d next one till you're perfect in d game. Being single is not d solution here but abstinence till marriage.
Ppl say one need extra knowledge to understand me. If you dont get my gist and wanna be a "bad gal", do you mind if i give you my hotel room and number?

may ur brain never goes dormant God bliss u I luv ur advice thanks u speak like a matured mind thanks

dopeJemi:

"Why r some Men this HeartLess? NOW I HATE MEN"

Op,

U don't av to hate men jst because sum of dem re hearetless.

D guy may nt really b into u so u'vE to shine ur eyes nd find a better option.

Les: Young woman which other advice do you want If you wanna be bad, be bad, if you wanna be good, be good. When will you "good gals" grow up? With regards to your signature, ah dont think you can ever grow up when you tink dat age is just a number. When ppl learn not to let other ppl's attitude determine their life style for them? If you tink dis relationship has failed you, go into another one till you meet ur mr perfect, dont ask me how many relationship you've to be into, after ol, dat electric bulb you are seeing, d inventor failed 999 times b4 he succeeded. Keep trying, you know where you failed d last time and make it up in d next one till you're perfect in d game. Being single is not d solution here but abstinence till marriage.
Ppl say one need extra knowledge to understand me. If you dont get my gist and wanna be a "bad gal", do you mind if i give you my hotel room and number?

may ur brain never goes dormant God bliss u I luv ur advice thanks u speak like a matured mind thanks

If e dey pain u, take 'Alabukun' and if symptoms persists after two days...become a nun! Simple!
Like say u expect me to sympatize (abi weitn dem dey call am self) with u. If u know wetin all these yeye girls wey we think say be better person do me, walahi, u go remov this your post...
BTW, how come all these emergency, childish, orishirishi topics dey make front page self? Abi una don dey settle the MODs? Na wah o...

Let me try my luck whether my topic self fit reach front page. Oya,
MY EX GIRLFRIEND IS NOW DATING A POORER GUY IN THE SLUM OF IDUMOTA, ABEG WHAT I AM SUPPOSED TO DO? I NEED YOUR CONTRIBUTIONS PLS...NO AMOUNT IS TOO SMALL OR TOO BIG...(My bank account is available for your contributions pls). Thanks

HIV1: Abeg Meshonu, only Men are bad!What about those guys that she might probably had jilted in the past. Some ladies will even store guys name as mugun and they will have Mugun1, Mugun2, Mugun3, Mugun4. At that time they will be believing thay were smart only to face the repercussion of their action when they are about to get settle down :DAbeg Meshonu, only Men are bad!What about those guys that she might probably had jilted in the past. Some ladies will even store guys name as mugun and they will have Mugun1, Mugun2, Mugun3, Mugun4. At that time they will be believing thay were smart only to face the repercussion of their action when they are about to get settle down

hmm!..sickness, you dey here?

Les: Young woman which other advice do you want If you wanna be bad, be bad, if you wanna be good, be good. When will you "good gals" grow up? With regards to your signature, ah dont think you can ever grow up when you tink dat age is just a number. When ppl learn not to let other ppl's attitude determine their life style for them? If you tink dis relationship has failed you, go into another one till you meet ur mr perfect, dont ask me how many relationship you've to be into, after ol, dat electric bulb you are seeing, d inventor failed 999 times b4 he succeeded. Keep trying, you know where you failed d last time and make it up in d next one till you're perfect in d game. Being single is not d solution here but abstinence till marriage.
Ppl say one need extra knowledge to understand me. If you dont get my gist and wanna be a "bad gal", do you mind if i give you my hotel room and number?

may ur brain never goes dormant God bliss u I luv ur advice thanks u speak like a matured mind thanks

Grow up and get a life. You are in your early 20s and dating some1 in his mid 30s, what do ​​U̶̲̥̅̊ expect? Life is bigger than one man.

Les: Young woman which other advice do you want If you wanna be bad, be bad, if you wanna be good, be good. When will you "good gals" grow up? With regards to your signature, ah dont think you can ever grow up when you tink dat age is just a number. When ppl learn not to let other ppl's attitude determine their life style for them? If you tink dis relationship has failed you, go into another one till you meet ur mr perfect, dont ask me how many relationship you've to be into, after ol, dat electric bulb you are seeing, d inventor failed 999 times b4 he succeeded. Keep trying, you know where you failed d last time and make it up in d next one till you're perfect in d game. Being single is not d solution here but abstinence till marriage.
Ppl say one need extra knowledge to understand me. If you dont get my gist and wanna be a "bad gal", do you mind if i give you my hotel room and number?

may ur brain never goes dormant God bliss u I luv ur advice thanks u speak like a matured mind thanks

y me: you know, there is one problem with most women
We clearly see the cheating sign HAND WRITTEN on the wall but decide to ignore hoping and trying to get our mind to accept what we want ourselves to believe

with the short story up there I could tell you knew deep down something was wrong with your relationship but chose to go with the lies from him over your female intuition

Now the ball is in your court, you play along knowing fully well you are his side chick or you bounce out

superwoman! Abeg go siddon , you never jam smooth talking deceitful guys wey be alpha male you go dey dance etighi and azonto until your eye clear.
.forget it some guys are so smart that they will make the most difficult girl look like a potty and you'll see the girl crying after him like a nanny that just got fired.

There is a popular saying that...NO MAN DARES TO LEAVE A GOOD... OBEDIENT, RESPECTFUL AND LOYAL WOMAN. Men value these three qualities so much. If you give these 3 qualities to your man, women listen carefully, trust me, he will never leave you. He might get tempted to cheat on you, but he will come back home and wrap himself around you like a little baby.

To the young lady, I think you are not giving him one of the three qualities aforementioned. If he is not getting it from you, and the other woman is giving it to him, trust me, that's why he is with her. Yes, men like beautiful women and sex, but after tasting you and sees that you don't have either of the 3 above; trust me, that sex means nothing to him anymore.

The bible says it not me: Woman respect your man for him to love you. This is the bible not me. Men and women love differently: To a woman, a man loves her when he cares about her. To man, a woman love him when she respects him.