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Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by Misogynist2014(m): 9:14am On Nov 01, 2014
Dcmg:
I was waiting for the ladies to answer this question,but all of them seems to have gone blind.
Arguing with a woman is never worth it!Rubbish Thread.Just giving me more reason to despise women.
Like seriously,is it just Nigerian girls that are bringing up this characters?
Unfollows!
I don't hate women, I'm only being critical of women. Nija women are the ones with the most strict gender roles principle. They will tell you to your face how unmanly you are if you cannot take care of them, and they cannot stand seeing themselves sponsoring a man. Since they don't have feminists or govt that will help them to divide the property of their man, they prefer to cling to the Bible, quran, men's apetite for women and culture to carry out the money sucking activities.

I once watched on tv, where a group of women organized a seminal on how to make their husbands recognise them when writing his will. People think its wayward attitude that has led to the decline of virgins, no! Its because its through their back and dressing skimpy that they can have money. So why the hell did you think she was going to answer me? Women love men that would 'take care' of them.

I don't care if a lady cooks for her boyfriend in his house, but when the guy has started doing his 'husband duties', by spending on him, you have to deliver your 'wife duties', by cooking and sexing him. smiley
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by zoe123: 9:17am On Nov 01, 2014
Successdude:
your tale is touching . i hope you are strong again.
my dear I am o, my fiancé understands o n it never causes quarell btw us, its like a silent rule.wen am in his house he makes sure there's food, but even when I cook in his house its no longer wit d notion of trying to prove I can make a good wife but simply becos am hungry n he's there so y cook for 1wen I can do it for both.besides if I turn out to be one of those women dat cannot stand any smell in their 1st trimester it will not cause any issue btw us cos we have managed to build our relationship beyond cooking n cleaning.so b4 one over zealous bros go start to quote me remember its my experience n my choice u don't need to agree to it.
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by Nobody: 9:34am On Nov 01, 2014
hayorbaami:


Thank you o my sister. Am sure most of the guys talking here will not advice thier own sister to perform a wife's role to an ordinary boyfriend. If he wants to test your cooking abilities he should come over to your house. Maybe when he graduates from boyfriend to fiance you can start doing all the wifely role.
but you boldly expect that your so called boyfriend that has not graduated to fiancee level to perform husband like duties right? thereby footing your bills and taking care of you as if he's your father or husband ba? hypocrite.
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by ovalrose(f): 9:36am On Nov 01, 2014
I have been following this thread with a little amusement. I think this matter should be personal opinion,and not a rule. however you decide to run your own relationship na your own matter. personally,if i go to bf's house and he asks me to cook and i feel like it,i ll jeje remove my designer clothes and shoes,wear his boxers,tie a singlet over my hair and enter the kitchen. water dey,i can always bathe and reapply makeup and other echetarams echetarams. if i dont feel like cooking,thats different. if i meet him cooking,i ll keep him company but wont take over unless he requests it. to me this matter is personal choice,not a rule.
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by precisionindepth: 9:37am On Nov 01, 2014
rubbish! marriage institution with all these bizzarre thinking.
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by Olaone1: 9:38am On Nov 01, 2014
pickabeau1:



Pics or adonbilivit
Shebi you are a gold member of the Family Fun Room there tongue tongue tongue
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by Vikthor(m): 9:38am On Nov 01, 2014
Yea...I think they shld. As for me, am a good Cook my self don't need any lady to feel like a Don or so special that she is cooking for me.
...bottom line, if she cooks or don't wanna cook, that's her business weda married or just a gf angry
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by Nobody: 9:40am On Nov 01, 2014
Zanxx:
i concur ladies. i did that for 3yrs and got nothing out of it. i would sometimes on saturdays prepare 4 different dishes for him for the week. whenever he brought foodstuffs back from the village i would be the one to suffer. but my weakness for men who i see struggling to cook wont allow me sit back and watch him cook. i just have to takeover.
the same way a guy gets nothing after spending fortune for a girl he's dating, yet his weakness for girls that struggle to provide for themselves could not let him concentrate on himself.

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Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by Nobody: 9:47am On Nov 01, 2014
All these so called feminist are only here to rant. In real life I bet you they do otherwise. I've experienced one. After all her rants o. Nairalnder, she is still begging.
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by sunnedee2: 9:51am On Nov 01, 2014
Adaeze003:


I'm sorry, who is a black woman? Go back even to the stone age, you will never see it as acceptable to treat a bf as a husband... ehm r we even meant to date or be in relationships? Ehn? R those not white concepts?

A black woman btw is who ever she says she is! We are much more than the list in your head...

Which kain thing be this for this morning?
Dating is a white concept? Our fore fathers didn't date? They don't have relationships?

I give up mhen...
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by sunnedee2: 9:56am On Nov 01, 2014
Idowuogbo:

A guest indeed! Make u no cook oo...i am begging you sef don't cook. I trust my take over babes, when dem finish with your bofy hen,I mean the ones that'll overfeed him and knack am wella, na "it's over!!! We are not compatible anymore" he go ping you.

I trust Idowu jare..
Mi o raye shi*t mhen...
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by rotimilax(m): 9:57am On Nov 01, 2014
grin
mascot87:


See her mouth undecided yanyanyan
Na people like u go cook 3 times a day for ur bf when u visit him.You go even dey kneel down dey give him d food self, you come dey make mouth for here.Abegi go sleep it's getting late undecided
Hahahahahahaahaha. Baba u don talk am finish grin
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by rotimilax(m): 10:00am On Nov 01, 2014
TahariX:


Lmao. Eyah I guess your tiny brain cannot process the fact that a girlfriend isn't the same as a housemaid.
But u can have sex with ur bf while u r not married. What hypocrisy. U go mfm tire.
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by Nobody: 10:00am On Nov 01, 2014
Princecalm:
did i just read and understood what you wrote or you mistakenly wrote it.

Nothing mistaken. Most white families eat outside at the Cafe.
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by pudique(f): 10:03am On Nov 01, 2014
I'm indiffernt about it though. Buh I don't see it as big deal cooking for some1 u dating, except he is stingy.
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by BEN1986: 10:08am On Nov 01, 2014
No wonder many are not married at 30. Ara said she can marry younger man. lol
Your attitude speaks for you. No man want a woman that will always quote law. Play the fool and let life go on.
When you come, you want Tp
you want upkeep money.
you want house rent money.
you want cream.
you want pocket money.
you want this and that.

But you are not married to him.
So please the 11th commandment is

Thou shall not disturb, put your burden or go to his house until you are married. gbam
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by rotimilax(m): 10:09am On Nov 01, 2014
ovalrose:
I have been following this thread with a little amusement. I think this matter should be personal opinion,and not a rule. however you decide to run your own relationship na your own matter. personally,if i go to bf's house and he asks me to cook and i feel like it,i ll jeje remove my designer clothes and shoes,wear his boxers,tie a singlet over my hair and enter the kitchen. water dey,i can always bathe and reapply makeup and other echetarams echetarams. if i dont feel like cooking,thats different. if i meet him cooking,i ll keep him company but wont take over unless he requests it. to me this matter is personal choice,not a rule.
God bless u. The best comment I've seen all day
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by Bode2: 10:10am On Nov 01, 2014
Princecalm:
Look at what girls of this days are turning into.Imaging you went to your BF house and you met him cooking and instead of taking over the cooking from him you sit and watch him do the cooking and still serve you.Even the whites which you guys are emulating have not started doing this.
speaking on behalf of most reasonable ladies, I think ladies don't demand their dating partner to cook for them, I think the guy in question can still make use of soft drinks and snacks since it's just a visit, for crying out loud, his house is not a restaurant. Although the guy can SELDOM in fact RARELY cook and it is more honourable for ladies to dissuade their dating partner from cooking just in the name of entertainment. A lady must never cook in house of dating partner else she might start losing her worth or value and this goes along with the biblical words which compare a woman without discretion to a gold tied to a pig snout (cant really remember the exact words but we can at best form the imagery) and as someone said, you can cook that's if the guy come over to your place.
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by sunnedee2: 10:14am On Nov 01, 2014
NeoTesla:
Just a thought. What if all these online posts by some women on what other women should and should not do is just the posters' crafty way of gaining competitive advantage in the relationship space by subtly modifying the psyche of the female audience with a view to making the other females less desirable. Or the posters may even be victims, that is, simple tools in the hands of smarter women who want to achieve the aforementioned objective. If this is the case, then I can say it has been an excellent strategy so far.

I love your line of reasoning bruh.
You mean some women are giving others the idea not to cook so as to create avenue for their bf to leave thereby making the guys available for those who are ready to cook?

Nice concept.
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by Bode2: 10:16am On Nov 01, 2014
slimmy05:
All these so called feminist are only here to rant. In real life I bet you they do otherwise. I've experienced one. After all her rants o. Nairalnder, she is still begging.
Guy, you funny die
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by TahariX(f): 10:16am On Nov 01, 2014
rotimilax:

But u can have sex with ur bf while u r not married. What hypocrisy. U go mfm tire.

When did I say I was having sex?! Lmao grin
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by Bode2: 10:18am On Nov 01, 2014
sunnedee2:


I love your line of reasoning bruh.
You mean some women are giving others the idea not to cook so as to create avenue for their bf to leave thereby making the guys available for those who are ready to cook?

Nice concept.
In other word, you are making decision out of fear or insecurity.
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by Sapphire86(f): 10:19am On Nov 01, 2014
Nashoji:
girl, you can lie for Africa. chai, some girls the lie pass devil, even devil dey surprise for una lie. lion.

undecided
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by rotimilax(m): 10:21am On Nov 01, 2014
TahariX:


Is my age relevant to the discussion?
Yes,it is. because u r talking like a kid.
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by nekkyontop(f): 10:22am On Nov 01, 2014
Gloria3389:

thought I was the only lady who had that policy... my male friends Don abuse me tire...if u come to my place I'll cook for you but coming over to cook in your Place is a NO for me.....
I totally agree with you my dear and that is what I do also. Act as a girlfriend that you are presently. It's not your obligation as a girlfriend to always cook and clean for him. Men should get that straight.
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by ucheheart(m): 10:22am On Nov 01, 2014
This is why some ladies will remain single for the rest of their lives. Ladies If you want to become a wife, you better start acting like one. And mind you, the way to a man's heart is your food. If you can't cook for me when you are with me then be ready to shift for another woman who is ready.
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by sunnedee2: 10:25am On Nov 01, 2014
Bode2:
In other word, you are making decision out of fear or insecurity.

Can you pls explain?
What decision my brother?
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by hollas2jnr(m): 10:26am On Nov 01, 2014
NellyGhenghen:
Its not obligatory, but it happens naturally mosttimes. When she in the mood to do it, enjoy & when she z not, allow it. Its not her duty.
Exactly bro!
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by Nobody: 10:26am On Nov 01, 2014
Masheew some babes making mountain out of molehill.personally i dont c it as anytin cooking for ur man how on earth wil i jus relax and watch him cook and serve me..moreover we are both gona eat the food shikena
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by ucheheart(m): 10:28am On Nov 01, 2014
Bode2:
speaking on behalf of most reasonable ladies, I think ladies don't demand their dating partner to cook for them, I think the guy in question can still make use of soft drinks and snacks since it's just a visit, for crying out loud, his house is not a restaurant. Although the guy can SELDOM in fact RARELY cook and it is more honourable for ladies to dissuade their dating partner from cooking just in the name of entertainment. A lady must never cook in house of dating partner else she might start losing her worth or value and this goes along with the biblical words which compare a woman without discretion to a gold tied to a pig snout (cant really remember the exact words but we can at best form the imagery) and as someone said, you can cook that's if the guy come over to your place.
a guy that doesn't want to marry you will not marry you whether you cook for him or not
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by Zanxx(f): 10:32am On Nov 01, 2014
Nashoji:
the same way a guy gets nothing after spending fortune for a girl he's dating, yet his weakness for girls that struggle to provide for themselves could not let him concentrate on himself.

very true bro. guess we have to continue and pray that God gives us partners who will appreciate these traits. even if i say i wont do it my mum will tell not to disgrace her because i know how to cook.lol mothers!
Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She's Dating? by Nobody: 10:35am On Nov 01, 2014
Sapphire86:


undecided
Lol. sweery, why the long face na? no be true I talk?

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