shugga:


There you get it wrong, first off to fingerrr a lady doesn't make her wild, thought you were about preaching to me about no sex before marriage, you got to stimulate her before the do and one of the ways is to fingerrr her

About staying off your mention sorry you can't stop me except you deactivate

preach to ya?hell no would watch u walk through the gates of hell and won't bathe a lid,keep ur sex education to ursef Dafuck r u stimulating?DAT part of a woman's body irritates me before u start telling me tongue action and all dose dirty acts,OK keep quoting then, its a free world they say.

u decided already before u made this topic

But you love him? He actually told you he had sex with another lady. Force yourself; it isn't the worst thing you could do to someone you love but don't overdo .

Sexytemi:
Have been dating this guy for the past five year, we'av never fight or break up within those five years, I believed in his love even after moving to abuja and he was in lag, I could bet on is love with my life, because of him I told other guys off, recently we were to go to his sis wedding which I had prepared for, then a week to the wedding

Hmm the thing there is...he also has the mindset u likely to be cheating on him, and have a full trust in man is zero...he has done nothing for u until he get married to u, if u leave him because of this, how sure are u who is coming next will not b worse... d only option u can call it cheating is if he dis flowered u and u have never had intercourse with anyone else except him, but if u have, u have also cheated one way or the other, be it b4 or during ur relationship. Just take it easy...if u truly love him, he is being real to you that the distance in the relationship isn't helping things at all.

check out any relationship that has never had any hitches, its a disaster going somewhere to happen. its all full of pretence, lies, deceit and hypocrisy.

Cutehector:
People always fail to read the handwriting on the wall.

why don't they(guys) just come out straight than expect us(ladies) to have magic eyes

Sexytemi:
Have been dating this guy for the past five year, we'av never fight or break up within those five years, I believed in his love even after moving to abuja and he was in lag, I could bet on is love with my life, because of him I told other guys off, recently we were to go to his sis wedding which I had prepared for, then a week to the wedding he stopped picking his calls that were from me, till the wedding day, i called his sis and asked her if he was @ the wedding and she said yes, I cried cos of the pains, when I told my friends, they were like I should forget him cos he's cheating on me, I refused to accept that logic and still believe he was not cheating on me, then Thursday this week, he told me on whatsapp how he has been having sex with a lady, and when I got angry, he started blaming and even stopped to reply my massages and am like who's suppose to be angry here, him or I?, that is why am here to ask if I should just let him go?.

You didn't go in details, on whether he complained of something about you or whether you did something to him or gave you reason for not going to the wedding with you. You need to give good details, if you want reliable advice!

Anyway, this is my advice to you: He boldly told you he has been cheating on you. I suspect you did something wrong to him. No matter what you did to him, he shouldn't have cheated on you. It's always better for one to end a relationship than to cheat. So what are you waiting for? Dump his as*s now!

Use your head girl.....don't let any deceive u......forgive him and move but if he there's it again then kick his hard damn ass off

This thread is for ladies

Stop acting like a silly girl! Have some dignity and respect for yourself! Someone is bold enough to tell you he is having sex with another and you are asking yeye questions here.

Don't you know God loves you? He is showing you a glimpse of this man in time to come. 5 years is a long time to invest in a relationship but eternity is a longer time to spend with a cheat. Dude should be thinking of bridging the gap and making sure you guys are together not cheating cos you guys are no longer in the same city.

Listen move onnnnnnnn! Thank God for revelation. Allow yourself heal and watch God surprise you with a man that will make you say "thank God I dodged that bullet!"

HizMissy:
how about sharks?

Now thats cooler .. you smart, you loyal. appreciate that

Begonia:


BULLSHIT!

@Op, if you have any self respect, you'll let go of that fish.
I know it's hard but you've got to.

Whatever pusay

Teespice:


really?

hope you would tell your niggas never to refer to females as having fish brains....

Y"all act that way sometimes tho, no pun intended

MrTeymee:

Y"all act that way sometimes tho, no pun intended

every pun intended in this case.
you are not a man, you are one of the many fishes in the ocean.

By the way, why did you date for 5 solid years? Listen go and read about the girl rolling on floor yesterday after her beau gave her engagement ring (the story was on front page)

That couple dated October to June before dude popped the question. Now I know everybody's own will not be like that but a serious man does not waste time. 5 years is toooooooo long! ARE YOU GUYS STUDENTS OR WHAT? Please don't do everlasting dating with another dude again.

Be realistic. Set goals for your life. Pray and tell God what you want. Don't be in a rush to date cos all your friends are dating. You nor know wetin dem dey carry. Be calm and ask God for THE man not all dem fake a.ss player boys. This will hurt but I'll say it: be stingy with your cookie or better still don't open the jar! Who will wife you go still wife you without sex! God bless

Sexytemi:
Have been dating this guy for the past five year, we'av never fight or break up within those five years, I believed in his love even after moving to abuja and he was in lag, I could bet on is love with my life, because of him I told other guys off, recently we were to go to his sis wedding which I had prepared for, then a week to the wedding he stopped picking his calls that were from me, till the wedding day, i called his sis and asked her if he was @ the wedding and she said yes, I cried cos of the pains, when I told my friends, they were like I should forget him cos he's cheating on me, I refused to accept that logic and still believe he was not cheating on me, then Thursday this week, he told me on whatsapp how he has been having sex with a lady, and when I got angry, he started blaming and even stopped to reply my massages and am like who's suppose to be angry here, him or I?, that is why am here to ask if I should just let him go?.

from personal experience once it's known that you are working and based in abuja as a female, what comes to the mind of most folks is the high probability of the said "female" getting loose and promiscuous in varying degrees within and outside there control. Hence most unmarried females end up heart broken and single for a long while.

So back to your case, I suspect 2 things:
first is some peeps must have abused and fed your boyfriend's mind with different stories and information about your loyalty to him in far away abuja and how some bigwigs may be pestering you here and there for sexual gratification etc hence giving him grounds and reasons why he should cheat etc
Secondly you said he started blaming you and even got annoyed. That means there's something out there that you may have been doing wrongly and he just put up with you for the meantime. I suggest you take a sincere look at yourself and find out if you have given him any reasons to behave the way he did and as well as his emotional needs.

Tho its normal for you to get angry. But like they say "whatever happens to you in life, you have 80% of the blame and other party (ies) that the remaining 20%". Cheers!

Tashaamania:
This is what happens when people make sex a priority in relationships.

Anyways, that wasn't too good of him. So if eventually you two get married and for some reasons, you are not home, he'd start sleeping around?
The choice here to make is entirely yours.. You know if he has been showing some signs of unseriousness in the relationship before now and dont disregard the friend's advice. Weigh all of them, if need be dont call him for a while, take your time off and see how sorry he gets when he tries calling. People deserve second chances sometimes.

I really do not know how to tell people to leave their relationships or stay. You are the one dating him, you should know better.

Tashamania! I really loved that lady for her mature responses. I admire your reasoning capability.
Now I have to have to join the queue of wonder too. Hey! Why did you people deactivated and then resurrected with a little re-coat of their previous username?

please quit the relationship and move on and don't listen to any excuse from him cos he doesn't love you anymore only if he used to love you before.please note that my submission is based on the assumption that everything you told us here is the whole truth.God help you!

laykhorn:

Tashamania! I really loved that lady for her mature responses. I admire your reasoning capability.
Now I have to have to join the queue of wonder too. Hey! Why did you people deactivated and then resurrected with a little re-coat of their previous username?

Lol thanks.
Someone was trying something to do something funny with my old account, that was why I deactivated.

He slept with another girl and still he was blaming you? For what exactly?



And now he has ignored you? Hmmmmmmm




Sorry to say,buh your guy is a class a Muppet. Ignore him too

VickyRotex:


How would I know what?

If the person you cherish is playing with you

Sexytemi, just behave as if nothing happen and move on, and i must warn you, dont let that situation make you to be in a haste for men, he wil come begging soon, just be a good girl and dont forget he wil always and must regret it

Don't mean to insult anyone... but you guys should also hear from the Guy before judging any of them...

Sowie how old are you?

OMG its so terrible how people cheapen themselves to the point of not knowing their worth!! @Op it ladies like you that make men treat women like trash! Your guy threw all cares to the wind and had the guts to tell you point blank that he has been sle**eping with another lady, not asking your forgiveness o, but just informing you, and ur here asking this stupid question "should i leave him"? How old are you? 35? Even at 35 what nonsense is this.

No dont live him, force him to marry you and share him with hundreds of other women, while he also keeps you and ur unborn children miserable!!! nonse**nse bt afta d marriage make I no c u 4 church de do all night say u dey pray for ur husbant to change oo

Ladies pls have alittle dignity, and for God's sake stop tying urself to one guy!!! Keep as many male friends as u like, bt dont slip with any of them, i mean not even fore**play, the serious one will seek you out for marriage eventually, especially wen he knows u havnt been messing around.

Its sex that complicates things, women in the olden days were free to have as many suitors as posible com asking for their hands in marriage, infact my mum used to say that one suitor would even brus d other suitor's shoulders on his way out, yet there were no grieviances because the girl wasnt slipin wit any, they wia all competing for her hand.. Chai nawaooo hings are just getting worse ...

Teespice:


every pun intended in this case.

you are not a man, you are one of the many fishes in the ocean.

Whatever floats ur boat ma'm

ginawest:
abeg leave d guy jawe!!he told u he was having sex wit anoda lady,u did d normal tin n he started blaming u..was he not supposed to apologize first?bae,dre r many fishes in d river.

I suspect you the guy's sex partner. ...Besides, how many fishes have you caught or more appropriately, how many hook have you swallowed?

ginawest:
abeg leave d guy jawe!!he told u he was having sex wit anoda lady,u did d normal tin n he started blaming u..was he not supposed to apologize first?bae,dre r many fishes in d river.

Lol who told u males fishes are many? Or u talking of the fish u wanna collect from another fish,abi the fish you wanna share with other fishes?

VickyRotex:
"Never make someone your Priority, when all you are to them is an option"

nice one.pls permit me to copy you.

Tashaamania:
Lol thanks.
Someone was trying something to do something funny with my old account, that was why I deactivated.

Absolutely my pleasure! You mind to tell what that 'something funny' is?

mimiejacobz:


wow bro,were u hrt broken wen u wroye this stuff,it speaks n touches d heart, the op should follow this n set ur hrt free

Lol
I've bn tru many patches,I have had bad relationships In da past