classicB:

I do,. Like I said in a previous thread am currently working with guys and the way they talk about girls is insane. It's like they believe a female frnd coming for visitation is coming for sex, that's insane! How dare you rape your innocent female visitor
I so have male frnds, but when it.comes to visiting you alone?? Abeg count me out.

Brugo:


Madam. Discuss within my context. Thanks.

Cutehector:
has any guy raped u?

classicB:

That isn't an excuse. I can deem it fit to dress scantily, that doesn't give u the right to rape me. Do u think we girls don't get moved with some male features?? Shud we now rape u people cos of that

Brugo:


Really? Did you read what I wrote? Why would you pick one half of my argument and piece it to this hasty conclusion of yours?

classicB:

My sister na only God fit save us. These guys are so wicked that they will eventually turn the whole matter against the girl. What more of a bad thing can happen to a raped girl than turning against her? Telling her she initiated the act
If he had raped u that day, he will surely tell his frnds u.came with condom in handy

classicB:

I.do have a boyfriend and we've been together for a long time now. He's the only guy I trust with myself

classicB:

Read my write up and u will see 3attempt. God really helped me

classicB:

No is no my brother

wordbank:
Ur conclusion makes no sense in any way. U met d wrong dude so what? So others should be slaves to their own selves?
U r just amusing!

classicB:
Where.do I.even start from Is it.from.numerous cases of rape that.get turned against the woman??
I remembered back.then as a.novice in 100L visiting male frnds didn't.occur to me as a big deal. I can vividly recall 3 cases of 'escaped' rape.
The first guy was touching me awkwardly and I did resist him, tho he later.told.me he.could have had.his way . The.second case looks like it too but the third guy already held me tight against his bed thank God he heeded to my pleading and allowed me go. What if one of these 3guys turned out to rape me? I'd have been a victim of rape, and worse of it would be that nobody will believe it to be true, especially the guys, they'd probably say things like "she seduced.him" "she initiated the sex" "she.brought condom along" "no evidence since nobody was there "
I put it to you guys that an average Nigerian girl have been a victim of rape/escaped being raped simply because she went.out innocently to pay a.visit to her supposed 'trusted' guy friend. This doesn't make sense no more, if we can't trust our Nigerian brothers then who can we trust?
This same guys come here to complain about girls coming to visit them with loads of frnds, why won't we come with loads of frnds when we know there's a condom waiting to be used on.us
I have personally stopped visiting guys since 3/4 years back, it's either you agree to meet me in my parents house when everyone is home or you meet me in an eatery
I read it here sometimes back when some guys were making gest of a.girl that claimed her male frnd tried to have his way during a.visit I dint believe my eyes.when I was seeing comments like "did u expect prayer session with him?" "you think he wants to preach abi?" "you think you went there to play games?" so these guys niw see it as norm to rape an innocent female visitors?? One way or the other they just look for excuse for raping a girl only to turn it against her.
I don't know what it feels.like to be raped but I do know what it feels like to be 'near rape' it's nothing good, it drains you emotionally and psychologicaly. Most of these raped victim get scared of telling close relations cos they are using all their energy to get back what is lost, i told nobody about what I experienced either.
Idk what else to say, but i know prevention is better than cure. I pray God deliver us from these.animals disguised in human clothing

donholy28:
There u go...painting all guys black

Brugo:


Madam. Discuss within my context. Thanks.

misspicy:

See ur life outside,weda the raping happened inside house or outside na still rape...n why will a guy romance a girl wen they af nt defined der relationship,guy no fvcking reason justifies rape,rape is draining,it is hurtful,imagine sumone pulling and pulling ur d1ck coz dey are attracted to you.gosh,how do u guys reason,i tink I will begin to say dat a family member of guys dat justify rape be raped so yu know wat it feels like.

Sex is supposed to be enjoyable not violent

misspicy:

I support her 100% because I af an experience too n so do most ladies [s]even ur sisters and female family members[/s],buh most ladies are afraid to talk abt it,rape affects ladies psychologically,prevention is better than cure,its better not to visit a guy alone in a private place unless u r willing to accept his advances,n dis applies to all guys,until the tag RAPIST is pasted on the guilty ones faces.

opeaceo:
Wisdom is key here, but giving a blank statement ( the title of the thread), I don't agree. "good" guys still exist.

wordbank:

U dunno if I've a sister or not.
Well, trust is to be earned n I work to earn mine. If one chooses not to visit the opposite sex in a private place, that's their kettle of lime but saying all shouldn't in order to avoid rape? C'mon!! Rape cases that happens in other places where d victim did not visit nko?
And for the bolded, any geh wey think to try am, HOLY GHOST FIRE!!!

Brugo:


You should work on your comprehension and logic. If you could read and understand you wouldn't attack me so.

misspicy:

No one is denying they still exist buh how do we identify dem,no rapist will tell u am a rapist,until u find out,babe pray u dnt fall victim,beta not to trust any guy at all,dan to trust d 'good' ones and be raped.

Cutehector:
I dnt like meetin girls in an eatery... We could meet in a church...

misspicy:

If u cnt see sense in my writeup,then I leave it to u to continue raping all d girls u have intimate contact with because u cannot control ursef,just know.dat one day ur cup wilk be full.like dat trending lecturer.

opeaceo:


Emm, the important thing is to set your standards, any guy that fall short of this is not worth visiting at all and some girls give the flimsiest excuses on why they go visiting a guy, I've heard many rape cases and I shudder at the reasons some give - not that I blame them.
I am very paranoid when it comes to guys, but, "rape" issues haven't stopped me from visiting.

misspicy:

See ur life?why reject it,u cnt take it,no one can....buh its safer to meet in an open place dan a cinfined space.

And I still mantain my stand,all guys are not to be visited privately until u guys tell us how to identify rapists.

Brugo:


I expected a simplistic remark from you and you didn't disappoint. To seek to debunk fake stories of rape is to support the very act? Your logic is amusing.

opeaceo:


Emm, the important thing is to set your standards, any guy that fall short of this is not worth visiting at all and some girls give the flimsiest excuses on why they go visiting a guy, I've heard many rape cases and I shudder at the reasons some give - not that I blame them.
I am very paranoid when it comes to guys, but, "rape" issues haven't stopped me from visiting.

misspicy:

Your choice bae because not everybody will.get raped buh I still maintain my stand,prevention.is better than had I known,for me o and for other girls out there,its better not to go at all,than.go n.get raped no matter the trust unless,am will to participate in d act.

knostbrown01:

And he preach 2u everytime you go his place? #although, dts not of my business#

wordbank:

Ah!? Identify ke?
I hope you won't go begging just to know where he lives after numerous outing at random places, because I no wan hear say he's a player or he is homeless at all at all

wordbank:

You said it! It's ridiculously annoying reading or listening to victims side of the story. 'hin say make I come collect akara but when I reach dia naim I c say no b beans dem take fry am' RUBBISH!
God go bless and protect you my dear for wetin u talk

hamilton62:
.
dear, you are right.. it pains me that an average girl can't visit a male without being molested.
. the shouts and others from the girl makes me go mad when i was in school and they still come out and discuss it like fun with their friends...
I remember telling my to-be by God's grace that she took a risk to visit me while we met on 2go years back that 90% of guys will take advantage of her and she should please never again let her shield down in cases like this..
rape is at the increase now and i wish the penalty will be a castration to they who are found wanting in this