Pure Insecurity! Marriage is not done because of being too old. With the little evidence you have seen, you will only be a fool to continue the relationship.

Help yourself
Help yourlife
Help your whole future

Shut that door please it will destroy you

Bros Infact u shud be out of dat relationship by nw. That kind of lady will change d plan of God for ur life and kill u early. Pls kindly. Move on wit ur life. Marrying d right person late will later give u unending joy than to marry the wrong person early. The truth is dat ur mums prayer is working for u and God loves u.

Either u leave the relationship or u careful play along as if u don't know anything. all this ow end time girls.
If u would av sex(na sin oooo) use protection.

Lawz20:
Good day my fellow Nairalanders, I have a very serious problem which I so much believe that with your kind and generous advice, I might take the right step. I met this girl around April 2012 at my work place and since then we have been together after I proposed to her last year. The fact is I love her so much and I thought she also loves me.

I went down with her to her village around April 2014 to see her parents formally and they were so happy, her mum, dad, grand parents and even her siblings welcomed me wholeheartedly and I was so happy. I stayed with them for two weeks just to see if I can picture out any bad behavior but seriously, non was found.

The problem am having with her is that she has too much male friends and most of them are always sending her love messages both on 2go and Facebook. I once stumble on her Facebook inbox and I found a chat between her and another guy and he was just thanking her for coming to spend good time with him, bla bla bla and how he enjoyed her. I was so mad because during this period she went to the village alone and promised to return in a week but she didn't until after 3 weeks, this is what she always do, she travels like 4-5 times in a year and never return on time. When she returned, I confronted her and she said she is not the one that did that chat with the guy, I tried asking her who did but she never gave me a good answer.

Later that week, she gave me her phone to help her charge it in a barbing saloon, then a strange number called and I picked, the person hissed and cut the call, he later sent a message saying, "you're picking my wife's call and asking me who it is" I replied him that he should check the number that he might be wrong, he then mentioned her name. I went back home to ask my fiancee who own that number then she said its that guy I saw his chat and I should not worry, she will fix it.

Recently again, she has travelled and up till this moment, she is not back, she promised she won't stay upto 2 weeks but yesterday makes it 5 weeks. That same yesterday, my mum's pastor asked my mum to call me that he has a message for me which I later went, he greeted me and say, while he was praying for me because of my mums request, that he was shown that the lady I am planning of marrying is not mine alone, that if I go ahead to marry her, she will wreck me and leave me, he said she travelled now and I said yes, he said she was seeing someone else in the village, he said if I doubt him, I should go ahead.

It was then my mum now said, my younger sister told her of a dream she had, that I caught my fiancee with another guy and it leads to a fight which the said guy killed me. I myself have had such dreams too. The pastor gave me 3 days fasting and prayer. I am confused, despite all her cunning ways I still love her but what should I do and how do I go about leaving her. I will be 30 by 5th April, am not getting any younger. Please advice.

Weak men everywhere! Are you insane? There are far better,far more loyal women out there and you are here crying like a baby over someone that has absolutely no love for you. You make me sick! Grow balls and throw that rotten LovePeddler out of your house before she kills you.

Guy, RUN!!!!

It is better to marry late and get married rather than marry early and not married. Leave her to the village lover because I see the other guy as her first love and first love is always bind with covenant. Thanks and happy weekend

Inother not tomaRry her nd divoce 2rom I ll advice you tolive her cuz married is once nd 4 all,sothat u ll not ve different children from different blood pls,is d fasting you ve started is reviewing aldis out use ur sense or I blug out cow's own nd give you God ll nv come down to tel you ,you ve started d fasting nd God ve show give you ur answers

1 of u ar suspect. Lol

Sexytemi:
i think i agree with berryscott on this. pls do the 3 days fasting with serious prayers, then i believe God would surely show u d right part.

My bros
U are the key to ur. Life. God av show u things u don't put hand in fire that will not burn u d girl is not urs forget about age u need to asked God to give the right person God time is d best

Lawz20:
Good day my fellow Nairalanders, I have a very serious problem which I so much believe that with your kind and generous advice, I might take the right step. I met this girl around April 2012 at my work place and since then we have been together after I proposed to her last year. The fact is I love her so much and I thought she also loves me.

I went down with her to her village around April 2014 to see her parents formally and they were so happy, her mum, dad, grand parents and even her siblings welcomed me wholeheartedly and I was so happy. I stayed with them for two weeks just to see if I can picture out any bad behavior but seriously, non was found.

The problem am having with her is that she has too much male friends and most of them are always sending her love messages both on 2go and Facebook. I once stumble on her Facebook inbox and I found a chat between her and another guy and he was just thanking her for coming to spend good time with him, bla bla bla and how he enjoyed her. I was so mad because during this period she went to the village alone and promised to return in a week but she didn't until after 3 weeks, this is what she always do, she travels like 4-5 times in a year and never return on time. When she returned, I confronted her and she said she is not the one that did that chat with the guy, I tried asking her who did but she never gave me a good answer.

Later that week, she gave me her phone to help her charge it in a barbing saloon, then a strange number called and I picked, the person hissed and cut the call, he later sent a message saying, "you're picking my wife's call and asking me who it is" I replied him that he should check the number that he might be wrong, he then mentioned her name. I went back home to ask my fiancee who own that number then she said its that guy I saw his chat and I should not worry, she will fix it.

Recently again, she has travelled and up till this moment, she is not back, she promised she won't stay upto 2 weeks but yesterday makes it 5 weeks. That same yesterday, my mum's pastor asked my mum to call me that he has a message for me which I later went, he greeted me and say, while he was praying for me because of my mums request, that he was shown that the lady I am planning of marrying is not mine alone, that if I go ahead to marry her, she will wreck me and leave me, he said she travelled now and I said yes, he said she was seeing someone else in the village, he said if I doubt him, I should go ahead.

It was then my mum now said, my younger sister told her of a dream she had, that I caught my fiancee with another guy and it leads to a fight which the said guy killed me. I myself have had such dreams too. The pastor gave me 3 days fasting and prayer. I am confused, despite all her cunning ways I still love her but what should I do and how do I go about leaving her. I will be 30 by 5th April, am not getting any younger. Please advice.

What kind of advice are you looking for again?

30 yrs by April and so what? Are there not Ladies out there?

So she is jobless to be staying 2,3,5 weeks at a stretch.

You are on your own because the handwriting is there.

Hello my brother, you don't need to be confused, the writing is clear enough for you to understand, she is not yours, she's only using you, forget the number of years, you have been together, I have seen a broken engagement of almost 10years. Both parties had to part ways to avoid future pains. Remember a broken engagement is better than a broken marriage. A word is enough for for the wise.

Lawz20:
Good day my fellow Nairalanders, I have a very serious problem which I so much believe that with your kind and generous advice, I might take the right step. I met this girl around April 2012 at my work place and since then we have been together after I proposed to her last year. The fact is I love her so much and I thought she also loves me.

I went down with her to her village around April 2014 to see her parents formally and they were so happy, her mum, dad, grand parents and even her siblings welcomed me wholeheartedly and I was so happy. I stayed with them for two weeks just to see if I can picture out any bad behavior but seriously, non was found.

The problem am having with her is that she has too much male friends and most of them are always sending her love messages both on 2go and Facebook. I once stumble on her Facebook inbox and I found a chat between her and another guy and he was just thanking her for coming to spend good time with him, bla bla bla and how he enjoyed her. I was so mad because during this period she went to the village alone and promised to return in a week but she didn't until after 3 weeks, this is what she always do, she travels like 4-5 times in a year and never return on time. When she returned, I confronted her and she said she is not the one that did that chat with the guy, I tried asking her who did but she never gave me a good answer.

Later that week, she gave me her phone to help her charge it in a barbing saloon, then a strange number called and I picked, the person hissed and cut the call, he later sent a message saying, "you're picking my wife's call and asking me who it is" I replied him that he should check the number that he might be wrong, he then mentioned her name. I went back home to ask my fiancee who own that number then she said its that guy I saw his chat and I should not worry, she will fix it.

Recently again, she has travelled and up till this moment, she is not back, she promised she won't stay upto 2 weeks but yesterday makes it 5 weeks. That same yesterday, my mum's pastor asked my mum to call me that he has a message for me which I later went, he greeted me and say, while he was praying for me because of my mums request, that he was shown that the lady I am planning of marrying is not mine alone, that if I go ahead to marry her, she will wreck me and leave me, he said she travelled now and I said yes, he said she was seeing someone else in the village, he said if I doubt him, I should go ahead.

It was then my mum now said, my younger sister told her of a dream she had, that I caught my fiancee with another guy and it leads to a fight which the said guy killed me. I myself have had such dreams too. The pastor gave me 3 days fasting and prayer. I am confused, despite all her cunning ways I still love her but what should I do and how do I go about leaving her. I will be 30 by 5th April, am not getting any younger. Please advice.

dump her she's a loser and move on

STFUareyouGod:
Bros do you even need a pastor or prophet to tell you what exactly is happening? You've seen it all, you've heard it all; it's obvious she's got another man (maybe even engaged to him) somewhere else. You are just her city runz.

I personally don't think I have anything to advise you cuz what you should do is just too obvious for the blind to see and the deaf to hear. The solution/answer is right in your front.
Do what you gotta do and don't be a pvssy

Cheers

Lalasticlala coman see o

These days when I see such post, I just ignore it than commenting because the OP isn't 5yrs and secondly he didn't pay for MB to deserve such an advise.

Next time, read it and ignore cos you will see such a post again in less than a Week. You come dey ask yourself, if a man fit dey this dumb, how bright is our future?!

Mofos!

OP: Don't mind them. Fight for your woman. Love conquers.

The signs are there, the wonder is why you are confused. Your sis and pastor's dreams are really not needed in the fact collation... be gone.

@op, please move on and remember is not how far but how well. age is not barrier in marriage so far you are married to somebody that will treat you the way your mum treats you.
thank God you have seen it already the warning signs.
dont allow love love to blindfold you. You are still a man that girls are willing to marry.
Mind you no matter how u fight and eventually marry her humn dont forget a pig will always be a pig no matter how u clean and bath it. one day it will go back to cover itself with mud

thats why u see some marriages collapsing after some months of being married.

Lawz20:
Good day my fellow Nairalanders, I have a very serious problem which I so much believe that with your kind and generous advice, I might take the right step. I met this girl around April 2012 at my work place and since then we have been together after I proposed to her last year. The fact is I love her so much and I thought she also loves me.

I went down with her to her village around April 2014 to see her parents formally and they were so happy, her mum, dad, grand parents and even her siblings welcomed me wholeheartedly and I was so happy. I stayed with them for two weeks just to see if I can picture out any bad behavior but seriously, non was found.

The problem am having with her is that she has too much male friends and most of them are always sending her love messages both on 2go and Facebook. I once stumble on her Facebook inbox and I found a chat between her and another guy and he was just thanking her for coming to spend good time with him, bla bla bla and how he enjoyed her. I was so mad because during this period she went to the village alone and promised to return in a week but she didn't until after 3 weeks, this is what she always do, she travels like 4-5 times in a year and never return on time. When she returned, I confronted her and she said she is not the one that did that chat with the guy, I tried asking her who did but she never gave me a good answer.

Later that week, she gave me her phone to help her charge it in a barbing saloon, then a strange number called and I picked, the person hissed and cut the call, he later sent a message saying, "you're picking my wife's call and asking me who it is" I replied him that he should check the number that he might be wrong, he then mentioned her name. I went back home to ask my fiancee who own that number then she said its that guy I saw his chat and I should not worry, she will fix it.

Recently again, she has travelled and up till this moment, she is not back, she promised she won't stay upto 2 weeks but yesterday makes it 5 weeks. That same yesterday, my mum's pastor asked my mum to call me that he has a message for me which I later went, he greeted me and say, while he was praying for me because of my mums request, that he was shown that the lady I am planning of marrying is not mine alone, that if I go ahead to marry her, she will wreck me and leave me, he said she travelled now and I said yes, he said she was seeing someone else in the village, he said if I doubt him, I should go ahead.

It was then my mum now said, my younger sister told her of a dream she had, that I caught my fiancee with another guy and it leads to a fight which the said guy killed me. I myself have had such dreams too. The pastor gave me 3 days fasting and prayer. I am confused, despite all her cunning ways I still love her but what should I do and how do I go about leaving her. I will be 30 by 5th April, am not getting any younger. Please advice.

Lol!!! After this warning you are here asking Ppl...how u shuld leave...

Afterall u Hv seen and heard u are here asking Ppl Hw u shuld Leav a devil....


Since u Neva get sense yet...go and marry ha....I Dnt knw Wat mst guys think...you Hv seen it all u still want to go ahead...mst Ppl Dnt Hv dis ur lucky revelation....

Leave d dam

Life is a risk you have invested time,emotion and energy in this babe.Guy your sister confirmed it,your pastor confirmed it,you too confirmed it . hands off jare not everything that glitters is gold.Some women would come to your life and things would blossom other would come and your entire business would crash.Speaking from experience, if you not believe pray to God again yourself,except you son chop ego riro.

Quit

MeloGist:


Which ring?? and he should move on with what?

Which ring? Engagement ring of course and move on? Yes, move on with his life. That is ehh, forget her NOW and shine your eyes hencforth.

You don't need help bro. You need balls!. Walk away and walk away fast.

McCarlito:
I don't have a problem with my lady's inbox messages....The only place I have a problem with her is about her outbox (sent messages that's where the truth is found).

Picking her calls without her consent and spying on her with intent to catch her cheating is wrong... She gave u her fone to charge and u switched it on waiting for who to call her and u gladly picked her calls expecting to be respected by the caller that's childish bro...

She travels for weeks without u querying someone in her family about her frequent visits to her village and wait their replies.. As she's not her village town crier..

Concerning ur pastors revelations and tastings and prayers..... don't forget many homes have been ruined and relationships ended because of "My Pastor said this syndrome"

Bro.... don't rush to get married because of age as that is not a great reason to marry... Since u still love this lady as u said above; u have to call her to a quiet place and have a heart-to-heart convo with her to identify what is it that u are not doing or u are doing that is making her live a nomadic and promiscuous lifestyle...
Don't be surprised Bro.... the problems might be u.. or some other factors u are overlooking.....



My sincere advise would be for u To move on with ur life SIMPLE
Cheers...

I am sorry you just spoke trash

Sorry

Going thru her fone and inbox is wrong and personally I find it despicable, with dat said, but now dat u kw on she might be cheating on u it's going to be even foolish and reckless to go ahead with the marriage, Dude it's for the rest of ur life and trust me dat love u think u hv right now is gonna fade fast once ur eye clear and u can't take that behaviour again, finally it's tym to stop holding on to people who don't give a shit* about you, it's OK to be alone for now eventually u'll find someone else, that current gf of urs it den gonna be a fun tym dinner story

Pheals:
Leave her now or which advice again u need?

I wonder ooo or is d op as full as dull as dulladinho, I wonder d kinda advice he still need. My gal did d same in our 2years friendship despite I love her so much yet, on November last year I called her Nd ask her do u really love me Nd she said No. Nd dat was d end of our relationship I promise not to hv anything to do with her anymore.

if you were one of my friends and you came over to narrate this kinda story to me......The kind bitchhh slap wey I go give you na grade 1. Better find your wife go front before village boy stone you pepper. Nonsense and concobility.....

Bros run for your life, she does not worth your love. Do the right thing today so that tomorrow you will not have to regret marrying her. Your future is far important than her.

why do u tnk posting your problem on nairaland is the appropriate stp to take...u will probably end up been insulted!!!

Move on nd forget d girl or get ready for divorce later

My broda op, it's either something is wrong with you or you are wrong with something.it only takes months sometimes to see the handwriting on the wall. Why delay yourself till this time? My candid advice, if you really wanna know where her loyalty lies,test her. If not, gather your loins,tighten your snickers, sharpen your mouth and enter
























Street find better woman!

The content of the Facebook, Whatsapp, 2go, BBM etc of a woman whether single or married is like the bottom of the deep blue sea! So many surprises and things you never imagined in life! Just check out the times of our parents and grand-parents....No email or Social Media. That was the reason why relationships were monogamous especially on the part of women. But look what is happening now...a lady will have a man who truly loves and adore her and she will have like 5 boyfriends on Whatsapp, 15 on facebook, 28 on 2go and even create group for the ones on BBM!

The reason why my fiancee is loyal to me is that she is not on social media.

2BB4CB3E:
when I said that ure inside a guys house I didn't mean that you're there literally

. That's ok guys , at list you guys handle it maturedly. Thnks