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ryloy:If I am Obi I will respond with: “My sincere Apologies. The correction is respectfully noted. Bloggers own and run blogs. If you do not own or run one then you aren’t a blogger. You are an entertainer and perhaps an online influencer. My apologies”. |
Thegamingorca:Which money?! Oh you didn’t notice what I did there?!! Too bad. Listen, this woman who I don’t even know, is using a principle that could lead to success and exposure. I didn’t know her before, now I do. She is doing beneficial exposure. If she can get people to openly support her, WHAT STOPS ME FROM ALSO PROJECTING MYSELF? I believe in the same principle that has made her to take efforts to project herself out there. A good hunter goes out hunting. A foolish one waits for an animal to crawl and die at his door steps. I respect her principle of going after what she wants through legal and legitimate means! It is a good principle of life and success. If she can project herself, why don’t I also use Nairaland to project my own profile! Right? So, I am projecting myself too. Leave whether it works or not. It didn’t take me 5 minutes to type that reply. Neither did it cost me anything. |
Dear President Bola Ahmed Tinubu, I am one of those with full realization and understanding that people ought to go for what they want, and people need not allow fear to make them sell themselves short. This woman is taking bold steps to present herself out there. Whether the motive is for the benefit of the society or to her selfish interest cannot yet be determined. What is important is that she has indicated interest. Sequel to the above, please I kindly and respectfully bring my humble self to your notice as a credible candidate to be appointed into your Cabinet, your Excellency and Commander in Chief Sir. I am a seasoned civil servant with over 15 years of public administration experience and have worked in many Federal Government Committees most recently Nigerian Country Profile in Occupational Safety and Health with the ILO, and Technical Committee on Abatement of Methanol Contaminated PMS; among many other national duties that have led to recognizable national progress. I have a Bachelor’s (B.Sc.) and two/double Masters (MSc.) with two/double PhDs currently in view from both local and overseas tertiary institutions. I believe strongly and convinced that I will effectively and efficiently serve within your cabinet, even if in a Senior Advisory Assistant or Senior Personal, Administrative or Technical Assistant role, especially given my knowledge on humanitarian matters, community development, social security policies and programs management, emergency prevention and response planning and general disaster management and recovery. I am willing at any notice to present my ideas to your government on how to rework and reorganize the Humanitarian and Social Service and Security sector in Nigeria including the standardization, structuring and regulation of ALL Social Service providers for all economically less empowered persons. I believe in merit and in the principle that to properly function, I should be without a god father sponsoring me and then requesting for kickbacks and “homages”. I will begin by working assiduously in ensuring an updated regulatory framework and Act for the sector to implement policy drives and objectives. Then work with other agencies like Identity Management body to ensure a proper database to create the profile of Nigerians and proactive identification of socio-economic and socio-cultural and natural hazards and risks vulnerable persons, amongst many other reforms. I am very available to present my plans and reform programs for the sector and if it does not meet your liking or does not seem as a credible reform based solution, kindly ignore and do not appoint me. But the Executive government must allow me make my presentation and ensure everything I do, which will be strictly on merit will not be interfered with and secondly any attempt at sabotage on this program will be met with full consequences regardless of whether the perpetrator is Hausa, Fulani, Ijaw, Yoruba, Igbo, Christian, Muslim, Animist, Aethist, Male, Female, Single, Married, Upper Class or Lower Class, Educated or Illiterate, Military or Civilian, etc. Mr President Sir, this is humbly and respectfully presented for your excellency’s consideration and final decision, as I and other like minded patriotic Nigerians respectfully hope that you have good intentions for the society, Sir. I await fruitful and positive further directives, please. Please accept the respectful assurances of my highest and esteemed regards, your excellency. Yours faithfully, …………………………………….. |
Perform your duty. That is my advice. A cheating spouse is a possibility in ANY Relationship. If you like let Pastor Adeboye choose for you. It won’t mean shit!!!! I say it with my full chest. DO NOT FREAKING GO INTO MARRIAGE WITH CINDERELLA DREAMS, FANTASIES AND SELF DELUSION. Marriage is Work! Marriage is responsibility! Marriage is Duty. Especially when there are KIDS IN IT! As a human and especially as a man, know this possibility and know peace, that a Cheating Spouse is a possible outcome! Whether you trust your partner or not, people will do whatever they like to do. First rule of human interaction, TRUST NO ONE! Second Rule, you can never know anyone completely. It is impossible. Don’t deceive yourself. There are Foolish people who regurgitate hair saloon and beer parlour talk and spew over repeated trash like “if you trust him or her she won’t cheat”. It makes me laugh at how dense humans can be and how simple they see human relationships and interactions. No Oga/Madam, trust is bullshit! It won’t stop her black, red, white or purple panties from being pulled down or pulled aside. Neither will trust stop his manhood from entering the mouth of the woman he is cheating with who is hell bent on giving the experience of a life time. TRUST IS A MINDSET YOU NECESSARILY HAVE TO DEVELOP FOR YOUR OWN PEACE OF MIND! Trust isn’t to prevent cheating and Trust doesn’t stop cheating!!! Trust is for your own effing peace, so you don’t kill your self with worry and heart ache and suspicion, snooping around and bothering if a guy is not currently bending her over and thrusting wickedly into her or if a lady is not wickedly and intentionally riding on top of him bouncing up and down like a possessed demon to ensure he keeps coming back. Other people say let God choose for you. Please note also that God doesn’t choose shit!!!!! It even goes against his principle of free will. GOD NEVER CHOSE A WIFE FOR ANY OTHER MAN after he made Eve!!! And there are marriages dying today and couples suffering because one hungry so called Pastor did a match from Hell! What is keeping many marriages in Nigeria today is that: a. the marriage is the meal ticket for most women; b. societal and religious shame and stigma of divorce. AKA what will the world say!; c. personal ideology of seeing divorce as a form of failure or not fighting hard enough for what is yours; d. maintaining the marriage to “pepper” friends and show off fake marital bliss. e. finally the fear that the kids might suffer during separation. NOW TO ALL DIVORCED MEN, especially those who experienced horrible things from their spouses BUT STILL HAVE TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT and take care of the kids with a cheating ungrateful ex, I say: 1. Verify the Kids are Yours. Do 3 DNA Tests if possible at 3 different places. Do secret Peace of Mind (POM) tests if possible. All Men MUST MAKE IT A POINT OF DUTY TO DO POM Tests on ALL THIER KIDS even if you married the Virgin Mary Herself and it took you eternity to disvirgin and penetrate her on your wedding night! Forget story. Do your POM Test on ALL Kids. 2. Man up and Do your duty! Fatherhood and manhood is about DUTY! Do your duty and don’t expect praise. Do your duty. That is what makes you a dad. You have made a bad choice. No wahala. Your bad! No wahala. But for the kids. DO YOUR DUTY. Fatherhood, similar to manhood is about DUTY! Protect, Provide, Comfort, Love, Support, Set Perfect Example, Be a responsible member of the society and Increase the Family’s power, influence and wealth. 3. Ensure she is using the funds for the kids and try to be in their lives. Ensure you have time to be present for the kids. If she does not, allow you to, make secret video recordings (spy pens, spy glasses, spy tie clips, etc) of your attempt at visiting the kids and her attempts to stop you. Keep these as evidence. 4. Keep ALL records of what you give. What you pay. Time you spend and make out to be with the kids. Etc. Keep ALL Records. Keep everything down to receipts of toys you buy. 5. Lastly and finally,once again, DO YOUR DUTY TO THE BEST OF YOUR ABILITIES AS A MAN! Try your best and do your duty as a man and a father. |
He knows PARKOUR/ FREE RUNNING. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oIJ5m1_6E24&t=7s&pp=ygUHcGFya291cg%3D%3D https://m.youtube.com/shorts/mH2U0Kp1B_w |
tonicyril:Bros the story clear o. People no Dey gree go research on their own and plan based on themselves. Dem Dey use TikTok fake videos of “ how I arrived Canada and bough my house in six months” Dey take plan their life. For one, many of those videos are fake and are just seeking validation. Secondly assuming they are real, you do not know the full story. Some of them could have saved down payment in Nigeria up to 200k Dollars and brought this to Canada. They could have been living large in Nigeria and still have means and ways to make money in Nigeria. Husband BEEN dey work for LNG, wife been dey work for Shell and dem even get monetized YouTube Channel, na dem you wan take compare yourself? People wey monthly income Dey go 10000 dollars per month and wey don save up to 200-300k USD? People wey don plan say wife go resign and stay with kids while husband go still maintain him work for Nigeria? I hope 2025 Motto for Nigeria go be “Check Yourself” or “Use your head”. I will always say and argue that many Nigerians travel overseas with a FALSE, ERRONEOUS and UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS. Those who earn this 10k per month and 120k per year you have mentioned are those with specialized skills especially in areas like Tech, Health, Engineering, or some other specialized skill, etc. Please note that in somewhere like Canada, if you are legal, average wage is about 15 dollars per hour as basic. It then starts to vary from province to province and type of job and hiring company. Let us assume minimum wage with 8 hours per day work and 40 hours per week (which is the permissible average work period), you have as follows Sir: -15 Dollars Per Hour -120 Dollars Per Day -600 Dollars Per Week -1200 Dollars every 2 weeks (many companies pay every two weeks, hence this is important) -2400 Dollars Per Month -28,800 Dollars Per Year. Out of this you are paying Tax (this depends as on many minimum wage jobs taxes are waved), Rent, Utilities, Feeding, Transportation, Clothing, other costs for services like repairs, insurance, school supplies for your kid(s) as school is free but the supplies aren’t, etc. The ways to then get by will be: 1. Reduce your longer throat and be economical. No go Dey do pass yourself with other Nigerians who like to flaunt “I have arrived” rubbish on social media. They are the worst in Canada. Many Nigerians in Canada are silently competitive in an almost evil manner and don’t get along that well. They avoid each other, full of evil envy, with poor sense of brotherhood and typically no national countrymen support, like the way Indians and Asians support themselves here to succeed. A typical Nigerian here does not want you to succeed and outpace him/her financially. Here debt is used to get most of those things you see, but they won’t tell you. From your phone, to furnitures, to cars, to houses, these are ALL debt financed. To save cost for instance, please rent a house you can manage to pay rent at month end. Don’t get to Saskatoon for instance and insist on staying at Stonebridge or Willow neighborhoods. 2. Work more than one job or get more than one source of income. People work and supplement with Uber, Door Dash, etc. People work 2 jobs on a shift/part time basis. People do drop shipping, etc. 3. Pick a high paying skill. Like Tech, Equipment Operations, Heavy Duty Vehicle Driving/Operation, etc. The Highest paid professional workers in Canada for instance are CEOs, Surgeons, Anesthesiologists, Nurses, Other Medical Professionals,Tech Guys like software engineers, etc. Highest paid trades are truck drivers, heavy duty machine repairers, plumbers and fitters, etc. If you are not in these professions, as brothers and sisters, I will say let us be very realistic about our expectations. Plan well. Ask and research about these questions:! -What will it cost you to land? -What have you saved to start life with? -What is/are your plan/plans to start earning an income? As in what jobs are you planning for ? -What are you likely to earn per hour when you eventually get a job? -Will you like/need a second job. -What will your living expenses like rent and bills be like? -Will you need a second job? - Can you simply integrate into your trade or profession or do you need to write professional exams? These information and data are ALL online. Finally, Let me add that these nuggets: -PLAN JAKPA FOR LONG TERM GAINS AND REWARDS. -HAVE REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS AND DO NOT EXPECT THE PEOPLE AND SYSTEM TO ''DASH'' YOU THEIR WIVES, DAUGHTERS, BUSINESSES AND MONEY BECAUSE YOU ARRIVED FROM NIGERIA AS BANK MANAGER FROM FIRSTBANK. YOU COULD HAVE BEEN A LOCAL “MBGEKE” CHAMPION IN NIGERIA AND TO YOUR FAMILY THE BIGGEST MAN ALIVE. BUT CANADA DOES NOT CARE. COME DOWN FROM YOUR HIGH HORSE! HERE THERE IS DIGNITY IN LABOUR AND NO ONE LAUGHS AT ANOTHER PERSONS LEGIT JOB. ALL PROFESSIONS ARE RESPECTED. -KEEP YOUR MIND OPEN FOR LEGIT MULTIPLE STREAMS OF INCOME. YOUR LIFE IS RUN BY INCOME HERE. THEY HAVE GOOD SOCIAL NETS, BUT YOU DO NOT WANT TO RELY ON THESE. -KNOW THAT EVERYTHING IS ORGANIZED WITH APPOINTMENTS AND SCHEDULES UNLESS MEDICAL EMERGENCIES AND SOME INFORMAL BUSINESSES. -AVOID THE DEBT TRAP AND ONLY GET WHAT YOU NEED, NOT JUST ANYTHING YOU CAN AFFORD. -IF YOU ARE LUCKY TO HAVE FINANCIAL WEALTH AND GAINS IN THE SHORT TERM, THEN ACCEPT IT WITH GRATUDE AND HUMILITY AND ENJOY IT WITH WISDOM AND KINDNESS IN YOUR HEART FOR THE EQUAL EXISTENCE AND SUCCESS OF YOUR FELLOW MAN. -PLAN LONG TERM SUCCESS EITHER THROUGH BUSINESS, INVESTMENTS OR WORK/CAREERS SO YOU CAN DO BIGGER THINGS. |
RETURNOFENDSARS:To japa you must look at these four (4) major things: 1. The motivation to japa. Is it a valid reason and will the result be worth your while and effort? Why do you want to leave? Economic reasons? Insecurity? Future of your kids? Be like other friends and class mates who are out there too? etc. 2. The Pathway you seek to use (Student/Education; Work Permit; Permanent Residency, etc). The requirements vary by country and also vary by cost and these influence the efforts you need to invest into your desire. 3. The Cost vs Benefit at The Country you plan to go to. Like I earlier said, each pathway above costs differently for different countries. And what you stand to gain also varies from one country to another. Job opportunities vary from one county to another in the profession you intend to start life with. Note you won’t just get there and start practicing law! Or immediately land a Million Dollar Job Offer!!! BE REALISTIC!!! I have seen Nigerians who didn’t earn shit in Nigeria, had no skills, falsified proof of funds for settling and then arrive overseas hoping the president of the country will vacate his seat for them and then they start ruling the country and flying private jets. It is a big delusion!!!! Many Nigerians have unrealistic expectations about overseas. Here the system has no pity. The good streets you see is from tax! And YOU MUST PAY! Dem no Dey beg you. In many cases you could pay up to 40 per cent. Your landlord has not pity. You can’t beg him or give him stories. Oyibo no know “Please Sir, pity me sir. God will bless you Sir”. They DO NOT JOKE and in many instances you will face the consequences of your actions. Live and direct. Also cost vs benefits for each country matters again because For instance in Canada you get paid child benefit of about 500 Canadian Dollars Per Month per child. In January (yesterday) the Federal Government Paid about 600 dollars to many families apart from the Child Benefit payment. It isn’t much but that can cover your bills. While you work to cater for rent etc. Now what is the average cost of the BIG 5? That is: i.RENT ii. FEEDING iii. TRANSPORTATION iv. UTILITIES v. CLOTHING Then you consider other things like general cost of simple services, etc. YOU MUST PLAN WELL. YOU MUST PLAN!!!! THE PLAN MUST INVOLVE YOU AND YOUR WIFE WORKING AND EARNING. 4. Your PERSONAL Plan to resettle and make ends meet. What job areas and professions have you researched and like to focus on when you get there? What is your settlement plan? Will you buy a small car and do delivery? You will need to first pass driving test and get a license. You car needs to be registered as well. Will you work freelance online on sites like Upwork, etc ? Will your wife need to work? In short YOUR WIFE MUST WORK to support. She must learn a skill/trade or pick up a new profession like Child Care etc otherwise financial burden will be too much on you Sir. Will you work and learn? What will be your average rent, bills, and what income will you earn (after tax) while there and working a job? Remember in many cases you will have to start small. I will stop here and I will pride additional advice if need be. But take a pen and paper. AND I MEAN IT. Start noting ALL IT WILL COST TO LEAVE. From Passport to IELTS, to Education Consultant (if you need one), to Admission, to Visa Application, to Flight Tickets, to Settling down rent and bills. Now Depending on skills, profession and resourcefulness it takes an average of 3 months to get a proper job in Canada for instance. Why? Well many jobs require some form of certification e.g For Youth and childcare you have to have First Aid and CPR, Non Violent Intervention, Security/Vulnerable Persons Criminal Record Check/Clearance by Country’s Police and so on. |
adesegun121:For Men, The general unspoken rule and code is that wives, fiancé and sisters are out of bounds to be spoken about like that! Even we know men think it, we don’t speak it and we don’t follow up on our actions and what our dirty minds imagine. As per sisters to our friends, general rule is you must be serious to want to marry her and that is if we trust that friend to be a good husband or wife to our sisters. But then when it comes to your wife/partner we are forced to ask: 1. Is that not a form of lack of confidence in the woman/man? And 2. Is that not a reflection of the fact that you HAVE A USELESS FRIEND THAT DOES NOT KNOW BOUNDARIES IS EMOTIONALLY UNINTELLIGENT AND FEARS NO REPERCUSSIONS FROM YOU? And 3. Do fighting, fretting, being angry and such conscious actions really help in any way to protect your spouse from such an ogling friend that knows no boundaries? Especially today when shit happens and you can trust only fewer people whether the spouse or friends. Because Isn’t attraction and attention from/by others not a normal thing? This is what comes with having the opposite sex as a partner. Others of the opposite sex (and even today if the same sex) might be attracted to the person as well. There is a high chance that there is someone out there trying to get their attention. SO NO I WONT MIND IF THERE IS ATTENTION and I should have some iota of confidence in the woman to comport herself properly regardless of who it is. You will be a damned fool if you worry that the friend will eventually sleep with such a woman or man . Because it simply means you have choosen very very very poorly whom to be with. It is a reflection of your poor choice of a mate/partner and poor choice of friends. The underlying fear and idea is you think you friend will go after your mate/spouse/partner to get them to bed and mess them, isn’t it? While I will not willingly play the game of “try to sleep with her let me test her loyalty” thing, but I will not fight anyone who says such a thing either. Why? Because Sir/Ma, Do I know what my spouse/wife/mate does when I am not around? I don’t know what such a spouse does when she travels. Goes to the market. Goes to visit friends. Goes to Work. I do not know. And, Can I monitor such a friend 24/7 to ensure he/she doesn’t go after my partner/wife? No I cannot. So, Biko Why should I die of high BP? Is that friend the only person seeing my partner as hot, beautiful, etc? Now when it comes to the friend speaking his mind openly without fear of a reaction from me, then it is time to also watch and monitor the character of such a friend. You might have a friend that has no boundaries and might need to set those boundaries and insist on them being kept. If not, consider changing friends. What would I do? 1. I will immediately, sternly and assertively tell the friend that it is indicative of a lack of boundaries and remind the friend about the rule when it comes to friends’ wives, daughters, mothers, etc. 2. I will also tell my wife that my friend is talking nonsense about her and that I warned him not to tell me such a thing again because it shows a lack of respect and lack of boundaries. 3. I will tell her to be conscious of his antics because for him to be able to say that it means in his mind he might have been having bad sexual thoughts about her and if he does anything uncomfortable towards her she should let me know. 4. If it continues, I would tell my wife that that I have decided and will reduce his interaction with my Family. My wife and kids need to stay away from him a bit. Because if you are thinking about my wife what are you also thinking about my daughters who look like my wife? 5. After warning the friend and arming my wife with the information to be careful with her self and our female kids (if we have any), and thereafter keeping the friend at arms length, I leave the rest and will not loose sleep again. Unless the useless friend tries to force her (rape, assault, etc) then he will end up dead, as I protect my wife and kids with my life. His murder will be premeditated. I will quietly carefully plan it to 100 per cent certainty of a Fatality! |
Itiskdg121:I have said it again and again that most times it is PURE WICKED JEALOUSY AND ENVY THAT FUELS THESE TYPE OF TOPICS. Like you hinted, many of the persons who celebrate when fellow Nigerian’s abroad experience policies that might affect their wellbeing are those who tried to leave but could not do so. Many of them: -Couldn’t pass IELTS -Have failed in attempts at seeking admission -Could not get WES done and/or are not graduates with capacity or with skills to offer. -Have been banned and blacklisted from Applying for Visas because they forged documents and committed other malicious malpractices. -Cannot raise funds for fees, sponsorship or proof of funds. - Have generally not been able to meet with the point requirements of these countries they wish to immigrate to. It will surprise you that because they are stuck in Nigeria, they are always looking for bad news against Nigerians overseas and praying for bad policies that will affect Nigeria. Nigerians are not the only Migrants in Canada and UK and Europe and Australia and USA. The Indians and Chinese are even more than Nigerians. I have never come across where India based country men wish their overseas/diaspora fellow citizens, brothers, sisters, relatives and counterparts ill will and bad luck. I would rather see topics on “How are you guys going to manage now that this policy has come or that policy has been introduced”. LET ME TELL YOU HERE AND NOW. ANY NIGERIAN THAT LEGALLY LEAVES NIGERIA OF TODAY HAS A BETTER POTENTIAL AND PROPENSITY TO SUCCEED THAN MANY OF THOSE AT HOME. A NIGERIAN THAT DOES NOT SUCCEED IS THE ONE THAT HAS ALLOWED UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS TO BECLOUD THEIR SENSE OF REASONING AND HAS FAILED TO PLAN PROPERLY. If you think that you are coming to make it here to do regular 9-5 and within 6 months, you buy a car and a house and live large and be a millionaire without some specialized skills, then you are joking. Plan properly. Have real expectations about the various phases in the life and process of settling as an immigrant. Know your pathway and what it will take you in your profession and pathway to succeed. Honest Hard work, consistency and self improvement pays here. There is almost a 100 per cent guarantee. In Nigeria, the guarantee that hard honest work pays is almost zero. THOSE WHO ARE IN DIASPORA NEVER JUBILATE WHEN BADS THINGS CONTINUE TO HAPPEN IN NIGERIA. I did not read where any Nigerian in diaspora jubilated and celebrated the recent killings in Plateau or the Scarcity of naira and increasing value of Forex. Rather we majorly empathize. A few might thank God that they have left the country where things barely work, b that is the height of it. THE HATRED AND ENVY AGAINST AND ON THOSE WHO HAVE DECIDED TO BE IN DIASPORA IS BECOMING TOO MUCH. THE ANGER. THE HATRED. THE ENVY. THE ILL WILL. THE ANIMOSITY. THE BITTERNESS AGAINST NIGERIANS IN DIASPORA IS TOO MUCH. Stop praying for their downfall and celebrating any things that is seemingly a misfortune. People have made their decisions to go abroad as adults and it is well within their rights. It is their decision. It is their desire. Do not be jubilant when it seems they will soon experience misfortune of any kind. Wish them well and pray they succeed. Their remittances also helps in National Growth. |
dkidd:😆😆 Nonsense boy…. 🤣 |
UYEMDO35:You say why does she hate you and make life miserable? Because she is your STEPMOM. You and your siblings aren’t hers. She wants her kids to be in the good side of your dad and inherit whatever he has left. She wants her kids to be pampered which she feels will increase their chances of success and succeeding more than you and your siblings. In fact she doesn’t wish you well. You aren’t her kids. She wants her blood and her DNA bearing kids to survive and thrive and succeed much more than you can. You are a bloody competitor in that house. In fact if you are the first son, she will continue painting you black to see if your father will hand over his property to her own kids. Her own blood. So just know what you are already into now and forever have sense. Another reason could be that you aren’t a stepson that respects and assists her. You aren't a useful stepson. Some of your actions she may also perceive as disrespectful, insolent and divisive. Do you respect and assist her or do you claim to be first son or big boy and treat her like “which time dem marry you come wey you come Dey get mouth for my papa house”? How well have you tried to get close to your step-siblings? How well have you tried to get close to her? Get close is not to develop feelings to sleep with her o, as some hilariously recommend here. Biko. In fact I am praying she is old and has zero sex appeal. How much have you tried being her friend and being responsible around the house. At this age why do you feel entitled to be fed by her? Anyway, the solution? Leave that house and Get Successful. You are old enough to do so. Especially as a man. Get enlightened and get very self-reliant! That Army wey you join as you enter use your head well and see small small business wey you fit do. Shay na to buy yam from your posting to the closest city to sell? Do it! Shay na to learn some tech skills to supplement military posting money? Do it! Shey na to pick up artisanal skills? Look around your daily life and activities, pick up a skill and offer a service then scale the business? Do it. Avoid Gambling, Alcohol and Women. Avoid the temptation to impress people and splashing money because you made small sales in business. Pick up multiple income streams. And prepare to assist and encourage your younger siblings. BE SELF SUSTAINING AND SELF RELIANT. You aren’t supposed to rely on that woman for feeding. Find some menial jobs to do so that you feed yourself. Note that, that woman doesn’t owe you a fucking thing. No one does. And that is the harsh realities of life. The earlier you understand this and realize that you were not created a cripple/physically challenged or mentally challenged, then at this age, think properly, start small BUT TAKE ACTION! Finally, people say try to sleep with her. 😄😄😄 Please don’t mind them. Your father will forever hate you and place a curse on you. I don’t believe in curses. But it isn’t a good thing to try to sleep with your father’s wife. As a man, Stepmoms, Aunties, Cousins, Sister In-laws, Nieces, Granddaughters, God daughters, Mother-in-laws and ANY Minor ARE AND MUST BE OFF LIMITS!! Besides, sex is the least of your problems. |
saasala:This Man! ![]() Anyway some of the facts you have mentioned are hard to swallow. Remember I said Facts. Not Truth. Facts. Other opinions you shared like you cheat and beg and she accepts but she cheats and she goes home to her father’s house is also a major fact of the modus operandi in a home where the man is the Main Bread Winner. Simple rule he can cheat and get caught. She dares NOT!!! But the way you come put the thing, e go shock and annoy women. ![]() A woman is typically not used to being powerful. By training. Culture. Tradition. She is typically raised, develop and trained to be led by a man. Many societies are this way. Even societies where the men are lazy and the women go to the farm, they are still raised to be led by a Man! However it is now being known that many women were not contented and married these men to survive or avoid socio-cultural pressures. It is now clear that if such women had money in the first place MANY WOULD NOT HAVE EVEN ALLOWED THEIR NOW SO CALLED HUSBANDS COURT THEM NOT TO TALK OF TOUCHING THEM or Opening their legs for such men. It is the same phenomenon that has led to marital issues in the Japa Situation as well. Many of those women were suffering in silence in Nigeria and the men were meal tickets. Getting overseas and seeing the freedoms and working to earn their own money, they realize they won’t take such “bullshit”. Even when the bullshi t no plenty o. 😃 So the moment the woman finds herself in such a financially strong role, her true nature and how much regards, loyalty, submissiveness that she truly has for the man comes out. It takes a woman who is humble, understands that life has its ups and downs and also a Man who isn’t lazy but also tries his best for this equation to work. Because a woman can earn more, and she may not leave her husband, but she will belittle him, sleep around outside, treat him like trash, etc. Talking about cheating and marital challenges. Now the funny thing is a woman will be accepting of these things in her household, but when she sees a friend, relative or any other close woman around her experiencing the same thing she is going through she will brag about how “I cannot accept that nonsense”. How she will never be such a woman to accept such nonsense. How she would have packed out immediately. WOMEN can be hypocritically almost “evil” to themselves. For me sha, I usually say if it will hurt you when she does it, why don’t you think it hurts her when you do it. Thinking too I equally ask myself, Are women designed to accept that their Men can mate multiple women? I am not talking of these so called Modern Women on Social Media. I mean the original women who survived and evolved. Were these women designed to be more accepting of it? Religion like Christianity popularized monogamy. A few cultures and animals are monogamous, but it became popular through the Church. And the debate as to why it became popular exists with various theories and paradigms including the “Betta Male” and “Simp” theories. Did Societies with human kind evolve with the men having the authority, energy, resources and BRUTE STRENGTH to have multiple mates? By implication perhaps only women whose brain allowed polygamy could procreate with men. Such mindset then was a survival tactics.If you couldn’t allow a man do what he wants with other women you starve with your child and get eaten by a Sabre Tooth Tiger. Additionally, women evolved such that once pregnant, they were “locked down” for nine to ten months while the man was biologically free to do whatever the hell he wants. Anyway this is me being a philosopher and an uncertified evolutionary psychologist in my parlour with groundnuts, suyaa, desperado and red wine set on a side stool and trying to select a movie on Netflix. |
correctguy101:Haha.. Yes o. I have totally spoken my own for myself. Freely. No one can arrest, kill, insult, sue or jail me. Let every other person speak the doom and gloom and restrictions they want for themselves if they so desire. It is also free too. If I am made to choose between wishing positive or negative things for myself, I choose the gift of free wish and such TO WISH AND EXPECT ONLY THE BEST OF POSITIVE THINGS. We have the freedom to wish, think, speak, imagine either positive or negative things. I choose such gift to wish the best of positive things for myself. Just as the OP did. Shay you get? I don’t want to wish for limited “anyhow” things. I have spoken what I want my reality to be. The Universe did not charge me for it. So why limit what I want? Sorry I do not have that mindset. For those that have the mindset, help us think about others and limit yourselves. I will speak the biggest and best things for myself. I prefer and enjoy and find peace in wishing for the best of things for myself. It isn’t a crime and hence let people wish for themselves what they desire for themselves. Whether restricted or unrestricted. Shay you get?! |
correctguy101:Lol…. if I am given free will to speak and think freely about what I want and wish and desire (without paying a dime) why should I not speak for the best of things to happen to me? Ah..In fact I speak that I will be the world’s richest man. There whether true or not, it is just free to speak positive and beneficial things. I have the freedom to think, speak and imagine the things that will happen to me. Why limit the possibilities? In fact I will the first multi Trillionaire in Pounds, Gold and Crypto in the World. I will create a global solution that will make the richest man to have ever lived. It is not in my place to worry about legal possibilities. I know I will not steal. But How it will legally happen is not for me to worry about. That one is God’s matter to handle and the problem of infinite spirit and divine intelligence to sort out. |
I will be the one announced. Not because I want to struggle for the accolade or status. But it will just turn out so. It will simply just turn out that I shall exponentially grow my wealth legally and will be recognized independently. And I shall in all humility and gratitude receive these accolades. Mark it today 1:55 pm, Monday 1st January 2024. Me too I have the mouth, brains and spiritual knowledge to make my own affirmation. |
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Kk4:Interesting. Reliability? Availability? Maintainability? Safety? Economy? It will be nice to review. Saw this video of it on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g7xXZdBIj90&pp=ygUSWGlhb21pYmVsZWN0aXIgY2Fy |
fadilaMaikiriki:Based on Plating/ Presentation: 2/10 Based on Aroma: I wouldn’t know if it even smells like chicken and chips. Let me say 5/10. Based on Appearance/Visual Appeal: 2/10. Not even ketchup, or side coleslaw or anything. Based on Value: 6/10 (assuming you did this on a budget) Based on Service/Setting: 2/10. You just dump the thing in top table take jaga jaga photo. Based on Taste: I won’t be able to score you here. It could taste much better than the photo looks. Based on Legitimacy/Creativity: 2/10. You didn’t do anything unique or special. You didn’t create anything like a unique sauce or dip or drink to go with. Based on Memorability: 2/10. Based on Texture/Consistency: 2/10 as everything seems to be hard and cold. Would need to taste, feel with a fork for final verdict.But it looks like it would make me poop a hard poop after eating this. Based on Plating/ Presentation: 2/10 Based on Visual Appeal: 2/10 Based on General Effort: 3/10. You simply fried chicken and the chips are cut in a very unconventional way for Chicken and Chips. This one na “make I quick finish abeg, I Dey hungry”. |
cococandy:Yes Madam. You are definitely right. No doubts at all. It is typical with “dem say”, “him say” and “she say” gists. You are absolutely correct. We usually never know the entire story. |
PDJT:Absolutely. I didn’t and can’t hint that it is wrong. Absolutely not o. I am simply saying it should be factored. To me, as long as you can see the kids, it is worth the cost. I am just saying those deductions are enough for any reasonable Man to factor into his decision making process. It is an additional factor to be considered. |
seborrhic:The man works in the oil and gas industry in Nigeria. He is not fully resident in the “Obodo Abroad”. It is said that when she eventually picked and he told her the situation she did not hurry. She said she is in Walmart. When he called her back she was still there he scolded her and asked if she is mad to not have immediately gone home to open the door for the kids. The woman is there and minding the kids. But that day she just was not available from around 8:00 am when the kids went to school, till around 6:00 pm when she eventually picked and had to be scolded by the man to go home. I think schools close around 3:00pm. |
Britishpea:You have said it all in very Simple Terms. Most married the men to be able to eat and survive and will accept the men they detest because of this in Nigeria. The moment they arrive overseas, start working get paid, within 1 year they have 20 to 30k saved and, they can now access credit cards and buy cars and other things on credit etc. They will question WHY ON EARTH THEY PUT UP WITH YOU IN THE FIRST PLACE. Most women marry to get the visa of survival and surviving Nigeria through the men they marry. MOST NIGERIAN WOMEN WOULD NOT HAVE ACCEPTED TO MARRY THE MEN THEY GOT MARRIED TO IF THEY AS WOMEN THEY WERE WORKING, EARNING BIG AND HAD THEIR OWN MONEY. That is the thing. The women wouldn’t have married these men in the first place if they had the choice. Na poverty and confusion about not knowing how to be fully productive, na him make most of the women manage the men dem marry. |
IbrahimSola:The thing is most men do not know. And when I say so, I am not exaggerating. Many of us do not know what our women will do once they have financial power and autonomy. A place where they are far away from societal and cultural demands, controls and expectations. A place where divorce isn’t frowned at and in fact the woman stands to gain from the separation. No MAN CAN COME HERE OR SHOULD COME HERE TO VOUCH FOR HIS WIFE OR SPOUSE OR GIRLFRIEND. E GO SHOCK YOU!!! That women you think you know in Nigeria IS NOT THE SAME PERSON Abroad. Na two different people. It has nothing to do with Church, religion, denomination, tribe or ethnic group. We don see separation within all forms from Catholic, Deeper Life, Jehovah’s Witnesses, Hausa, Yoruba, Ijaw, Igbo etc. IT IS A RISK THAT ALL MEN MUST PLAN FOR, ACCEPT AND KNOW PROPER MITIGATION MEASURES TO TAKE. My advice. Factor this possibility of your spouse (husband or wife) misbehaving when you sponsor them or both of you support yourselves to go abroad. The one wey I hear recently, Husband ask wife “Are you Mad” for not answering her calls for almost 6 hours and the kids were stranded outside the house in winter because the daughter forgot the key at home. Wife was no where to be reached. Call GMS no answer. Call WhatsApp, No picking. The man was afraid that neighbors might see the kids outside and call child protective service people which will lead to questions and issues. He works in Nigeria and spends his time-off with his family overseas. When she eventually picked and he told her the situation. What he says annoyed him is that she did not bother to hurry. She said she is in Walmart. He informed her that Walmart has free Wi-Fi and he has been calling her on WhatsApp for over 6 hours and she didn’t pick. He informed her that the kids are stranded and neighbors are seeing them outside. When he called her back like 30 minutes latter she was still claiming she is at Walmart and had not made any efforts to go home to the kids. He scolded her and asked if she is mad to not have immediately gone home to open the door for the kids. The “Are you Mad” question don cause quarrel wey people Dey pray Dey watch and hope say the woman get her sense back. |
WilsonBright935:Also he should remember that as long as he remains and works in the UK You will have to pay child support to her. He also needs to Factor that too into his equation. Also you don’t want to abandon the UK either. Japa is not something to easily abandon and return to Nigeria. So the child support thing is a necessary evil that must follow any separation. |
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vybzkartel:DO NOT ENCOURAGE IT OR GIVE HER A LISTENING EAR. Tell her that if your wife did the same to you as a man you wouldn’t be happy at all. Advice her to confide in her girl friends or female relatives. If she has no one she should handle her problem herself. I DONT CARE IF SHE IS AN ORPHAN WITH NO ONE TO TALK TO. I DONT CARE IF ALL HER FAMILY MEMBERS ARE DEAD! She should go look for someone else to talk to. Tell her if you were her husband you will see it as unbecoming for her to confide in another man. You are a man. You have MALE EGO Too. You know what I am talking about!!!! Don’t deceive yourself that you don’t ! Think about it. Imagine you get married and your wife runs to another man to complain about you. You leadership skills. You sexual prowess. Your widsom. Generally all your short comings. How would you feel? Wouldn’t you feel judged, scrutinized and unjustly exposed? Unless you have no problem being led on and eventually sleeping with another man’s wife !!! Or getting embarrassed when you try and she refuses. Any way It doesn’t end well. Assuming you even manage and you don’t do anything, WOMEN ARE EMOTIONAL VAMPIRES AND THEY SEEK mainly these from men: -PROVISION /RESOURCES -PROTECTION -VALIDATION /AFFIRMATION -TIME -EMOTIONAL SUPPORT, and -SEXUAL PLEASURE/CONNECTION (which many ladies use the prospects of this one to get the others listed above). Yes, any man who is a simp will suffer and die in the friend Zone. Don’t waste your valuable time with a woman you aren’t involved with and isn’t your relative. A woman who wouldn’t contribute anything meaningful into your life, but with entitlement want you to support her in every way. Don’t give this woman attention. If you will then get payment for it. She has a Husband and she has relatives. Unless you are planning on sleeping with her. Because for one let us assume she doesn’t want to sleep with you, so why waste your energy? Two, let us assume you don’t want her either, why waste your energy and be battling seduction everyday? Yet you are providing the above (especially psychologically draining emotional support) that I just listed to her, free of charge! Don’t! Don’t be a Fool. Unless you wan Chop clean mouth. Any woman foolish enough to tell her husband’s business to another man is not worthy to be called a Wife! |
No sensible married woman who knows the principles of marriage WILL EVER EVER EVER want to confide in another man. When ever a married woman does this, she cannot claim she is not attracted to the man. Madam you are a bloody lair Ma! Shut up! You may fool stupid people, not me. ANY WOMAN WITH AN IOTA OF SENSE AND BRAINS SHOULD KNOW THAT SUCH IS ONLY DONE BASED ON ATTRACTION. Many times the problem is even fabricated, especially when WOMEN WANT TO SEDUCE WITHOUT WANTING TO BE JUDGED or called a CHEAP MARRIED SLUT!! Seeking solace, and validation, and support, and solutions, and comfort, and understanding , etc from another man IS BASED ON ATTRACTION. You may lie to yourself as a woman that it isn’t. You may self delude. You may claim that you are just looking for who to confide in. Yes keep deceiving yourself. You are a bloody lair and you think your lies will cover your shame or calm your conscience. But you are a big liar Ma/Madam! Shut up. You are a lair and every lair is a thief! You as a woman know what it means to “LEAD MEN ON”. Fuc k you! Every grown woman is a naturally born and groomed seducer and you ALL know what MEN WANT FROM YOU. Men want to f uc k you! Stop lying madam, like your mind is so innocent and you don’t know this fact! Shut up! You are a lying bastard! Stop the intentional and very conscious self deceit! You are a thief and a self deceiving slut! Stop the cheap excuse that you were only looking for whom to confide in! You are a bloody lair who is trying to avoid accountability for your actions!!! Typical of many foolish women! Keep your rubbish Vagina at a place. You are a fu c king married woman. Respect your f uck ing self!!! Because even if you comfortably lie and deceive yourself, what of the MAN THAT READS THE WRONG SIGNALS? Are you saying you don’t know how men read these things? WHAT OF THE SO CALLED MAN THAT IS YOUR NEWLY FOUND CONFIDANT WHO AS YOU ARE TABLING YOUR PROBLEMS HE IS SECRETLY GETTING AN ERECTION AND IMAGINING HOW HE IS GOING TO RAIL AND PLOUGH AND FUC K YOU SO HARD FROM BEHIND? You married men and women can be so foolish! Especially these ladies can be so so so foolish. Don’t trust any man. Even your own father, brother, cousin, uncle, father in law, Pastor, Priest, Elder, etc., WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR VAGINA!!!!!!! How is this a a difficult thing to do and rule to follow ? How!? DONT EVER TRUST ANY MAN! Always avoid anything that is remotely tempting or what men see as “Green Light”. THAT BUNKUM YOU ARE CONFIDING IN IS SECRETLY PRAYING THAT THE PROBLEM CONTINUES, YOU LET YOUR GUARD DOWN AND ONE DAY HE PUMPS HOT CUM INTO YOUR ASHAWO WOMB. Yes, the man you are confiding in is secretly praying you let your guard down one day and he sleeps with you?! Foolish women who will never ever want to be accountable for their actions. WOMEN, YOU CANNOT SOW CORN AND REAP ROSES. You draw close to a man, table all marital problems and assume you don’t expect you, the man or both of you to develop feelings? Really? Are women this dumb about men’s intentions or are they just terrible lairs totally enveloped in self deceit!? Listen to me and listen good! Whenever a man confides in a woman about his wife and marital issues, more often than not he is trying to get into her pants! He is trying to justify why he wants to bed her badly. And most times such issues are solvable. Many times the issues are 1000 per cent fabricated. You may all claim it is not true. The question is how many of you even understand human psychology well enough to know why you do what you do and act the way you act?! Most of you don’t know shit about your own motivations. ANY WISE WOMAN WILL NOT. I REPEAT WILL NOT CONFIDE IN A MAN WHO IS NOT HER RELATIVE, UNLESS SHE ONE WAY OR ANOTHER IS ATTRACTED TO THAT MAN/HIM. WOMEN NATURALLY SEEK MEN WHO ARE SOLUTION PROVIDERS. THEY ARE ATTRACTED TO MEN WHO CAN SOLVE THEIR PROBLEMS. A WOMAN IS NATURALLY SECRETIVE ABOUT SUCH RELATIONSHIP ISSUES AND MARITAL TROUBLES THING. NOW FOR HER TO PERSONALLY /PHYSICALLY (AND ONE-ON- ONE) COMFORTABLY OPEN UP TO A MAN WHO ISN'T HER HUSBAND OR RELATIVE, THEN SHE STILL LIES TO HERSELF OR FOOLISHLY ASSUMES SHE ISN'T ATTRACTED TO SUCH A MAN OR CLAIMS SUCH A MAN SHOULDN'T ALSO DEVELOP FEELINGS FOR HER WITH THE RISK OF ADULTERY, THEN SHE IS THE MOST FOOLISH WIFE EVER. SHE IS A BIG FOOL! One of the things married men hate is their wives telling their business. Especially telling about their marital problems to others. Men don’t even like it when you tell your parents. But at least If it is to relatives, well he might be angry but not mind much. If it is to her girlfriends, then he might just say ok, it is just girl talk. But telling a man’s business to Another Man? Another contender? An opposition? Another devourer and another conqueror and hunter? Then such a woman is a big fat stupid fool. You must be mad to do that. And such a foolish woman does not understand men/husbands and their Egos at all or she is just a lying Bastard who is looking for a guilt free way to draw close and sleep with a man she is secretly attracted to. You women are just lying and deceit-filled BASTARDS. Now let me tell you “FISH BRAINS” this straight up! As a woman, if you come to me and confide in me about your husband,and tell me his secrets and all your marital problem, I will attempt to sleep with you. Yes! I must get into your pants. And I also will totally support and encourage ANY man you expose yourself like that to, to sleep with you as payment. Foolish women! You are a big fool. Go and fu cking solve your marital problems. Or divorce the man if it is irreconcilable. Respect your marriage, value it’s secrets, respect your image as married women, respect yourselves and keep those your yeye rubbish vaginas at a place. “Rest one place” as we say in freaking pidgin! |
seunmsg:Na so. Even your Mumsie was perhaps someone’s knack and the person was not even as relevant as FFK. We can be very sure she didn’t marry popsie as a virgin. Many women don’t marry as virgins. So are one’s Sisters too and aunts and female members of one’s household. Such is life. Your sisters , your female cousins, etc all someone’s knack that year o. The wife you would get married to as well. You know? Such is life jare. Such is life. Na so. No be big deal again. Men and women knack. The last thing you want to do is worry about the past. You learn your lessons and move on. Never let your past and mistakes and bad decisions made stop you from progressing. Such is life. Men and women knack. |
MICVOCT:Ancestors of our land. Forgive them all as they know not what they miss in this delicious creation of yours. |
ecolime:Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do. Mother Africa, please forgive them too. Have mercy upon them and look not upon their transgressions against thine delicious creation. Amen! |

Please don’t mind them. Your father will forever hate you and place a curse on you. I don’t believe in curses. But it isn’t a good thing to try to sleep with your father’s wife. As a man, Stepmoms, Aunties, Cousins, Sister In-laws, Nieces, Granddaughters, God daughters, Mother-in-laws and ANY Minor ARE AND MUST BE OFF LIMITS!! Besides, sex is the least of your problems.
? How!? DONT EVER TRUST ANY MAN! Always avoid anything that is remotely tempting or what men see as “Green Light”.