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humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

U will cry and Ur tears will be sweet...

Don't use Ur brain ooh, soogbo

3lovelyflowers:
It's nonsensical to spend so much on sex - men please stop it.

I always wanted to write about this but lack of time was a challenge. So in reaction to this thread........, let me hurriedly do this.

I know people would say is it your money? But I think sometimes a person can be stupid without knowing he's stupid. Someone needs to tell him.

I work in a big hotel, a 5-star hotel that big and rich people come to patronize and it's sad to see how men allow sex to control them in such a sad way.

I'm privy to most important information around the hotel and I can tell you men pay girls as much as N1 million to sleep with them for just a night. I don't want to start citing instances but one because of a particular girl.

She was paid N700k for just a night by a politician. In addition, the man paid for extra 3 nights for her to stay in the hotel after which he left. The excitement made her to share the gist with us, brought out 50k and shared with us (some of the hotel staff)

There are so many other instances like that where girls collect another person's annual earning by just opening her legs for a man in one night.

This is money that could be put to good use - community project, scholarship, financial empowerment, helping the needy and so on. These men have poor neighbors surrounding them in their streets. They have young people who do not have something doing and need empowment. Poverty is not from their community and Nigeria at large. Sadly, these men prefer to lavish this money on girls that go round sleeping with different men each night.

As a woman working in such a hotel, the temptation is never easy for me seeing such money but thanks to God I never fell for it for once. I have had guests who came to me with 200k proposal if I can spend the night with them or even to allow them have sex with me just once but I declined, even with my meagre salary. I'm not bragging.

My point here is that, some men have allowed sex to control their minds such that they now "stupidly" spend on sex instead of channeling the money to helping their poor neighbours and the society at large. If I were to be rich (as a man or woman), I would definitely not spend money this way.

To me, I don't see much in sex that someone should be losing his senses over. Men please, you can do better. Don't prioritize sex.

It's pure stupidity spending 50k and above on a hookup/runsgirl/prostitute/sidechick for just a night. Rather, impact the life of those around you positively.

Thank you.

Me that having sex is like work, heinous job for me, na me go con use 20k have sex...for wetin na.


God forbid bad tin in my life

mariahAngel:
You woke up.

Seriously this Ur response deserve some awards

thegroomspa:
Thanks friends for your input....

I have made up my mind to quit, it's hard for me but I have to move on...

Looking for best subtle way to tell her...

It really hurts you may not understand...

How I wished I could quit when I had the chance....

Laslas mother is everything

Which course is mathematical biology again??

Jayden001:
obi no dey give shishi, not LP. There are still some criminals in LP, so we don't care about them. It's Obi we know.

And Ur sense no dey tell u that the criminal in ur base that u don't care about will one day destroy Ur life??

Alezy:
Una too carry rumor.

That was not PO Rally first of all. Plus this proves nothing actually.

Una go just dey add PO for everything just to sell

But u use Ur eye see obi poster abi??


Weyrey wan turn table

Enacto:
Probably my use of English, it wasn't something outrageous even till today I still beat and correct her if she does something wrong.

I now understand....


But the bottom line is u have to resolve the issue between u and Ur father

Enacto:
Is there anything wrong in spanking my 3year old niece? That doesn't mean I hate her a child I cook for, bath her washes her clothes everyday ,take her to school and bring her back and she loves being around me and I love her alot than my life self

Oohh

Sorry

But u didn't say u spanked her, u said u beat her and the word "beat" is relative

Enacto:
Good evening, this is my first time posting here and it because I'm kinda troubled pls I will need you guys to help me on this issue.

Since 2020 I have not been in good terms with my dad, and it all started with a little fight about drinking of the water in the fridge and my dad decided to lock the sitting room where the fridge was kept restricting my mom and myself to the room alone as at this time I was in 400lvl and 24years.

My dad doesn't drop money and home so I had to look for means to feed myself which was really new to me cos he has been the one sending money to me in school even thou he doesn't drop at home.

After then we kept having issues about him not giving me a private room in the house even up till now, then on a day like that an issue happened after I beating my 3years old niece he was so angry that he hits me severally at a conered spot that he almost hit my eyes I had to push him on the bed and ran out of the house, then the second day I packed my stuff's and left for school throughout 2021 I didn't come home till December and he didn't bother calling or sent me money not my school fee and project fee I did everything on my own.

I came home late last year and apologized and later I asked him for my school fee which I had not paid as at that time, he kept giving me excuses which I Know he has and left after much talk he gave me #50,000 out of like #150,000 but sincerely I didn't collect it cos I don't know where to get the remains then I got a job and saved up and paid.

Presently I'm very mad at him because he never cared about me or my mum, all he does with his money is to give it to his concubines. It really painful that I had to work for 7-9hours everyday while standing for 1k per day and my dad is out there spending his money for one LovePeddler.

Do u think he deserves my forgiveness??

Hmmm

That is Ur side of the story tho,

If only we can hear his side of the story.



U that can beat Ur 3yr old niece abi na sibling, hmmmm

CoronaVirusRelo:
Greed!


If that happens, just deliver the champions league trophy to Real Madrid.

Still add Osinehim to that already deadly squad?

lol

U make me laf

Aahh

Yoruba Yoruba yoruba....I too love my tribe abeg..


I can kill for my tribe if need arise..


Yoruba, I am blessed to be born Yoruba..


EMI OMOLUABI

Deborah200299:
I left home last month with my 13 years old sister due to the abuse she had endured in the hands of my mother and 2 younger brothers.

I have rented out a room in a different town, I have changed my number and deleted my Facebook account so nobody could locate me.

Yesterday, I opened a new Facebook account with a different name. I have searched for my elder brother Facebook account he posted about me being missing he has pleaded with anyone who has seen me to contact him because my mum is not in a good state.

Funny enough he has posted me alone when it is me and my younger sister who are missing so they only care about me a 23 years old woman but not a single pity about a 13 years old girl.

I am her only daughter among 4 boys she loves me more than my siblings but I have lost respect for her the day she has started abusing my innocent sister. I want my absence to teach her a lesson so she can feel the pain but I am also worrying about her what if she died, will I be able to forgive myself.

I don't know if I should contact them with a private number and tell them we are fine where we are they shouldn't bother about us. I will not disclose my current addresse to them.

Should I do it or not?


Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/6944608/want-report-mum-human-rights#109469994

All I know is that God bless u for Ur kind hrt

Deborah200299:
Good morning everyone, I want to report my mum for abusing my 12 years old step sister both physical, verbal and emotional and I don't like it because she didn't ask to be born from a married man. My dad caused it and she should abuse him not her.

I don't even know why she is treating the dog who cheated on her nicely while the innocent girl is suffering for his mistakes. My younger brothers 13 and 15 are also copying her and they have started to abuse her too.

Tears has become her foods and I am tired of my mum abusing the innocent girl. Yesterday, she strangled her just because she didn't wash my younger brother white jeans properly and I lost respect for her. I have insulted her for the first time in my life even though she hit me but I don't care I have to save my sister. She is my birth mother but I will not support her. I don't care if she rots in jail because she doesn't deserve the title mum.

If you know any human rights in Uyo please let me know.

U have mouth to call Ur father a dog but can't call Ur mother a bitch..

If father can be likened to a puppy while Ur mother can be said to be a giant human devouring bitch who want to kill an innocent child.

HardMirror:
osogbo idile abija

hmmm



It is well brother

HardMirror:
Osun

Osun ke??



Are u from which town pls

OldNairalander:
Hmm interesting thread
I had access to the corridors of power as a LG deputy speaker between 2007 and 2010.
I have shook hands with the governor, met many people that matters in politics.
My greatest mistake is not taking advantage of the privilege then.
I contested house of assembly primary election under PDP and lost. I was promised a slot in the incoming govt. if I remain in the party but I refused.
I spent millions and bought ACN ticket (the candidate stepped down for me).
Spent the little savings I made from my tenure and borrowed heavily to finance the election in 2011 with assurance from my god father backing me up (who died before the election)
Unfortunately, I lost the election and sold all my landed Properties to pay off my debts.
My political god father's death cut short my political journey seriously
Those days as an incumbent in a major oil producing local government, the money was flowing. To cut the long story short, I ended up with 7 official baby Mama's now but no wife. I didn't toast any of them for one day, they simply made themselves available.
The story too long abeg

Honourable I hail you

HardMirror:
i have no party. But right now i am suppirting atiku not pdp. I am yoruba by the way before u think i am a northerner.

from which state sir?

HardMirror:
there is no magic. I can even bet my life on it. He cannot win. No be nigeria you dey? It is between apc and pdp.

Hmm

U must be pdp member

ScamHunter:
Tinubu is consolidating...

In a few years, all Yoruba states will be governed ONLY by his children and grandchildren. Don't take my word for it. The next governor after Sanwo Olu will not surprise you if you're smart.


The question is, how could a tribe that boast of playing suffersticated politics allow one man to keep suffering them?

You will just die ontop Yoruba issue

On a second note, tinubu is Ur incoming president


And I will be happy if u feel oppressed I would love to taste Ur tears


Remain oppressed bro

HardMirror:
true sha.

but wait ooh, why did u say u know Peter Obi can't win??


Tho I am not rooting for him but never say never

Perfectbeing:
I'm not Yoruba. I'm just a BATified Edo dude

Hmm

Batified Edo dude??

Abeg find another lamba talk

HardMirror:
you guys are not being objective. It has nothing to do with number of likes. We all know Peter Obi is not going to win. But the likes for pro tinumbu supporters are too similar. It shows the campaign is using bots. Does not mean obi supporters are not using too. If you find any report to seun he would take action. It has nothing to do with tinumbu specifically

Lol, u be skanran

The reason I raged it that seun didn't play the game well, he didn't need to be particular about the candidate, he can just do his tin and find the solution behind closed door without mentioning or dragging a particular sect of people..

It make him sound childish.

Poten111:
I am Yoruba. Don't get it twisted.

And so??

Seni uhajagbare

Perfectbeing:
It happened like that because under Nigeria they are all Yorubas. But under Oduduwa, they will be different. They will become Ekiti, Osun etc

seems u re not yoruba

We don't even think this way

CSTRR:
Unilag is very small.

Where in the world do you build a car assembling factory inside a university?

It's not the flex they think it is.

There are lands in the free trade zone for that.

But if na mercedes build an assembly plant for duseldolf university, u would say that is the way to go as it would help the students to gain first hand experience...



Ur bitterness amount to nothing bro, nobody even care if u re bitter or not

Aiel123:
They?
Who are this 'they'?

If u don't gerrit then forgerebaourit

Crying would soon start..

But they would not be able to skin d banny alive cus she's chinwo..

They will be undecided

Animegirl:
I pray they don't oh! Except he has money

Even if he has money he will never locate u..


Awon weyreys

Romanoff:
If you know, you know.

this will actually be Ur verse for the next 8yrs

twilliamx:
Faboro

Ooh, I am from the other divide