₦airaland Forum

raumdeuter:
5minsmadness

What you call love itself is predicated on some factors, If you find those factors gone, then the love is probably gone too. E.g the person you love currently if you found out she used to be a man or is platting to kill you

Also love isn't enough, there are many things like common goals, common background, similar ambition, mutual-respect etc

ItsQuinn:
Not referring to the topic, generally speaking

puresaint12:
Lol as in, I don taya

ItsQuinn:
even though he becomes very irresponsible and refuse to change?

VikingsOO7:
My brother, fear Nairaland women. One just have to be prayerful. Angel Gabriel should pls hurry up and blow that trumpet.

Iamfrank:
lol @op..... ur husband is just an example of me I swear, lemme tel u how my gf reacted cz am alwaz quick to apologize.....unfortunately ur husband is a player just like me.... (na only we know our weak point) try dis n it will work.....

one day my gf came to c me, so I was in d bathroom n I left my phone inside, immediately I came out my gf was holding my phone n was crying seriously, I already know y sh was crying, (lemme tel u sumtin, d tears of any good woman weakens ha man, no matter what) so I quickly wanna apologize saying it is dose women forcing demselves on me (Dats d lies we tel wen we r caught) sh just told me calmly to sit down n sh said sum words dat weakened me all day like "baby I love you so much, u r my king, u r my everything, I will worship d ground u walk on, sh went on n on without stopping n with d tears from ha eyes I almost cried. .... Dats how I stop..... Bt I wanna tel u sumtin, u r not giving ur husband d kind of s*x position he wants I am very sure abt dat, he mit not tell you but it a simple fact, Dats men for u, bcz he knows if he does u wudnt like it considering d type of woman u r (religious n decent)..... if you try dat step n it didn't work just pm me I will tell u of anoda easy step.....

napa:
@5minsmadness, there are no kids yet, sex life is ok and both of us know I'm good looking because he knows i still get constant compliments for my good looks. I sincerely don't know what the issue is. I just feel he wants to explore and satisfy some fantasies but I'm getting emotionally hurt. I pity myself most times. It's only my mom that knows [/b]what is happening and she's been praying with me.[b] I'm a woman of few words, i hardly discuss my affairs with people.
@veave, no he doesn't beat me. There's no reason why he would do that. Our marriage is really somehow (i don't know if that's how other marriages are). I rarely ask him for money because i work in a well paid organisation, i don't disturb him for nothing. All i want is care and love, nothing more.

I'm from an average family of 3 children , he doesn't have any pressure from any members of my family and i definitely know it's not about the children that have not come, we've been on it from the first year of our marriage. This is really getting at me. I just felt like pouring out my mind.

sunvick:
Bravo!! I like your tactics. Creating avenue to be distracting or disturbing him till his home..
Trust he would start seeing her as a nagging wife.

sisisioge:
Baby, I was just about to call you so you could advise her correctly. Thank you!

I actually have no words for her...don't know what to say. However, I remember a story of a family. The story is really real...

The husband was a serial cheat who defiled all reasons and interventions. Guy eventually got aids. He infected the wife and all the kids! That part of the lineage is no more now. I wish he had listened or she had divorced him eventually. Oloshilawonokunrin...them be SOB!

diva90:
How many people even know what love is these days? Even at that, It takes way more than love to sustain a marriage my dear

napa:
Thanks. I am indeed getting really tired. I just feel if I were some wild girls he won't try what he's been doing. Love is getting a bit cold. I hope I will be able to put up with this longer

obowunmi:
People don't love who they marry.

They often marry because of societal pressures and to have kids.

Benita27:
School me.

Benita27:
Neither of the above mentioned.
Their foreign counterparts aren't as mean as our Nigerian mother-inlaws are.
You're referring me to a movie of a mean mother in-law like i haven't seen one.
They're more liberal and understand what space means in a marriage.

oyetpel:
lol. And have been looking forward for the movie, i have downloadedvit though, and will watch it later. Bro, i thought the movie was suppose to fun, just like you said. Its Melissa McCarthy bro, hahahaha.

Dyt:
Ezzz it not good?

Dyt:
She has some fantasies to be fulfilled

Small thing
I saw porn in his phone and I asked what it was for
He said he just downloaded
OK na
We watched together, I hissed and said boring
What's in the video that we haven't done more of it?
I am a porn star with my man ooo

freecocoa:
Einstein with Bill Gates money but as a woman.

Ranchhoddas:
Clark Kent!

louken:
The truth is that the woman is not ever going to change. A lot of ladies see men as meal ticket and it's unfortunate your girlfriend's mother has not outgrown hers. Since you said your girlfriend has shown tendencies of being a good wife, I won't advise you to leave her. Assuming you marry her and her mother continues and intensifies her demands, what will you do? Whatever it is you are going to do, start doing it now. Let everybody start getting used to the reality. With the turn-out of things, it will be easier to decide whether to continue with the relationship or not

adviseseeker:
Sex should be consensual truly but there comes a time you have to make a sacrifice. It doesn't have to be when you are in the mood at all time. And to be fair even GOD EXPECTS something from us for all he has done for us. And our parents when feeding us, they expect us to feed them when they can no longer do it.

If I don't expect sex from my wife, a wife that I have not abandoned, that I have not turned to my punching bag then from who should I expect it? It is not a reward but it is a reward as well. People underestimate the importance of sex in a marriage. It is not the be it all but it is important too. Or why do some of you women complain of the inability of men to satisfy you?

thorpido:
Very irresponsible.That are 'jokes' you don't make in a hospital.

Being a Nigerian just further damages Nigeria's reputation.Nigerian doctors are hard working though.
Proud that Hillary Clinton's personal physician is a Nigerian.

Labrador doctor who asked woman if she likes 'big ones or small ones' suspended

www.nairaland.com/attachments/4286436_20160927122622_jpegb65612e7c736c35504290bf7f973a315Dr. Adekunle Williams Owolabi is shown in court in St. John's on Monday Sept. 26, 2016. A disciplinary hearing was held Monday for a Labrador medical doctor accused of inappropriate kissing and making sexual comments. THE CANADIAN PRESS/Sue Bailey
Published on Sep 26 2016

ST. JOHN'S, N.L. — A Labrador West physician who asked a woman during a Pap test if she "liked big ones or small ones" has lost his medical licence for six months and must be chaperoned when seeing female patients for two years once he goes back to work.

A three-person tribunal established by the provincial College of Physicians and Surgeons found Dr. Adekunle Owolabi guilty Monday of four counts of professional misconduct after a six-day hearing earlier this year.

Four female patients had accused the Nigeria-trained doctor of making sexual comments, and of inappropriate hugging and kissing.

To resume his general practice, Adekunle must take a course on appropriate doctor-patient boundaries. He was also ordered to pay $75,000 in costs related to the investigation and disciplinary process.


In each of the four separate complaints, Owolabi was found to have shown a lack of respect for the dignity and privacy of his patients, constituting professional misconduct.

He has 30 days to appeal the penalties to the trial division of the Supreme Court of Newfoundland and Labrador.

"He's very disappointed," his lawyer Paul Stokes said after Owolabi left without comment Monday. "But he understands the reasoning of the panel."
Stokes said his client has not yet decided on whether to appeal but looks forward "to following up with their penalties and getting back to work as soon as he possibly can."

Owolabi had continued to practise in Labrador West, voluntarily using a chaperone for female patients, as the disciplinary process played out.

Dr. Elizabeth Mate led the tribunal. Reading from its decision, she said comments Owolabi made to one complainant during a 2014 Pap test, asking if she "liked big ones or small ones," were "cavalier" and "unprofessional."

Mate found that Owolabi's steadfast denials of wrongdoing were "self-serving." Moreover, she described as "baseless" his counter-accusations against another patient whom he called "mischievous" and "a pathological liar."
Lawyer Ruth Trask, representing the college, had argued Monday for an eight-month suspension with a formal reprimand from the tribunal.

"This is taken very seriously," she said of the accusations, suggesting Owolabi had "a pattern of behaviour."

Stokes responded in Owolabi's defence that eight months would be "excessive." He proposed a suspension of three to six months, and stressed that his client's technical skills as a doctor were not in question.

Stokes asked the tribunal to put inappropriate comments, hugging and kissing in the context of far more serious possible sexual offences.
"This is a good physician," he told the panel at Monday's sanctioning hearing.

Owolabi turned his face away from media cameras as he arrived, and showed little emotion as the findings were read. At one point, he sat with his forehead in his hand before Stokes spoke a few words to him.
Owolabi's suspension won't be good news for patients who rely on him. A shortage of physicians in Labrador West has already been blamed for many residents waiting for emergency room care at the Labrador West Health Centre.