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innervoice:
This man knows exactly what he wants.

Adaobi12:
At least you know what you want. So easy for you to know when you see it.

Hope you will fit into her specs too.

r231:
It's only a number!!

guccidriver93k:
Please read again. Screenshots added.

MarvellousGod:
Nothing wrong with buying something for your guy voluntarily. .
Op's case is different;
1) she's been compelled to do it...
2) She doesn't have excess cash to spend as she stated she will be buying the shoe with a savings she kept for something important. ..
So, it's totally unwise op...

If you must buy it, then he should send the money first. .. since he has the money at hand, why can't he send it already?

guccidriver93k:
Pls read again and advice. Thanks

AtheistD:
Why is it so? Do you reckon that they believe in applying pressure to ensure that the man is always on his toes? I have always wondered why they brag, hype and praise the man to their family and friends but rarely do the same to the man directly.

Toks2008:
Hmmm,my lady i must confess that im indeed touched by your story and i can relate with every bit of it having been part of that institution called marriage.

Now i would like you to calm down and read my advice deeply

Woman first and foremost you must realize that there is nothing like a good ore bad choice of spouse but what we have is your choice and when you make that choice you must be prepared for any form of eventualities such as this.

A million years of courtship does not guaranty that the caring guy while dating will turn cold and just as you wrote up there,he was caring at a time asides from the nagging aspect which is a defect and trust me everyone has a defect including you and i.

I will not use the word unfortunately rather i will say fortunately for you the case is not the one that has to do with him sleeping around or beating you up which is a good ground for divorce so in this case please throw the taught of divorce outside the window.

Yes their are some businesses that are degrading fore a graduate no matter how profitable they may seem and there are some businesses that can totally divert the aspiration of a man so the fact that he knows the type of business or job he wants is not a bad thing but the bad side of it is not doing enough to actualize the business or job he desires.

Dear sis,you made no mistake in choosing a spouse,not at all, you simply followed your heart and you must know that every marriage is like a black market and no matter how sweet the courtship may look and no matter how caring sweet,romantic the man or woman can be,people do change and i know what i am talking about.

Your husband is not really lazy as you think,not every one of us has the hustling spirit and some of us would rather do a 40k monthly job and grow old with it while some of us will rather look for a poo business that makes huge monthly take home.

In conclusion dear,this is a cross you have to bear.Pray to GOD to provide him a job,be good to him, encourage him and trust me his heart will melt towards you.

With prayers i believe GOD will provide a way out and he will get back to his feet. Better still,sit him down and ask him what he would like to do because every man out there have a plan but the problem is not having enough financial power to actualize it.

If you can help him invest once again into a good business of his choice and i believe that most men usually become a shadow of themselves when they are in financial lack so relax, you have no issue at all. Just tune your mind to be happy and i must congratulate you for the wonderful gift GOD gave to you through this same man.

The best way to be happy in any marriage especially when you have children is to focus on the children and yourself and ignore the man if he is a philanderer but in this case,he only seem to appear to you as lazy but trust me, you just might be wrong,every man has his dream career,business or job. So help him actualize it by encouraging and praying for him and with GOD all things are possible.

GOD BLESS YOUR MARRIAGE.

freecocoa:
Okay then, good luck in your quest.

Horlubunmmy:
you contact him few days ago and now you're pregnant.
That means is not up to a week.can pregnancy be detected early,i mean within some few days

Doctor in the house biko make ina help me out.

freecocoa:
Lol, lucky you, good thing you realised it ain't all about looks, but who's to say you now know what it takes?

LordReed:
Hmmm, these stats will make her look short and fat. If we assume age 23-25 she'd be rated as high risk for health problems.

freecocoa:
What?

toougly:
I love you sweetheart

freecocoa:
I'm still marrying a handsome man though.

Seriously though, who marries a person simply because of looks? Looks can be the attracting factor but c'mon, he/she has to have something upstairs.

queenfav:
Kpele @op..Well I thank God I am already pretty,so I am not so big on landing a handsome man...Over the years,I have learnt to look skin deep into a man to know if he can be in my life.Who e fine face help?lol.The main focus is his attitude generally and compatibility.But sha, @op the feeding him thing before marriage is a bit too far o.That was a big red flag![size=18pt]A real man would not allow his girl feed him.[/size]He would take on menial jobs,meet friends sef to help.He would only ask his lady for help when his cards are all burned out.And even then he doesn't turn her into a paymaster.I drew a lot of lessons from the story sha.I can relate to the nagging part.That's a very big God forbid!That means we would be two women in the relationship na.Well, being prayerful cannot be overemphasized before getting married.Because we can't have a person all figured out,until you marry him/her.

Onegai:
A few years ago, a colleague was going to do it to her daughter. She's Igbo, now she would be mid-30s. When she was discussing it, she said it would make the daughter "decent and able to control herself" and a lot of women on that conversation agreed with her, one citing one uncut girl she knew who couldn't control her urges. My cousin had a daughter this year and her mum said "oh she won't be cut but use hot water to press it so it looks neat and that is less painful than cutting." Even i recall a while back on NL this year, someone complained that his grandma took his 7 year old sister to cut her and his mum couldnt stop her. it's a mental cultural thing.

vizkiz:
nah... Just wanted to clear my doubts

richommie:
they changed the topic.



#YolO

lilmax:
5minsmadness, mine would be a feminist


Fighting till the end of time

MegMich:
read the article well sir!

NashvilleTN:
Lol,

That makes sense, cos I was genuinely surprised and even felt embarrased, that see wahala o. But he doesn't look like that kind of person. I just thought things like that should be shared freely between man and wife. But who knows what is really going on?



May be the next thing she'll ask for is vacation abroad. But for me,[size=18pt] I will rather refuse my wife her demands than not tell her at all. [/size] She cannot remove the money from my pocket na. Worst case, I will just explain that there are several other projects I am working on that we need the money to complete. But I think things like this should be celebrated not hidden.

MegMich:
I've seen and heard a lot actually.