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Christianity Etc › Re: Awesome Beauty Atheists Cannot Appreciate by 5minsmadness(op): 1:12pm On Sep 17, 2015

Hehehehe

and the hatred starts pouring in grin

Christianity Etc › Awesome Beauty Atheists Cannot Appreciate by 5minsmadness(op): 12:11pm On Sep 17, 2015

Two Oceans Meet But Do Not Mix

There is a place in the gulf of Alaska where two oceans meet but don’t mix. If you look at the photo below you will notice that indeed two different oceans (as seen by their different colors) are meeting each other but not mixing (hence the foam in the middle of the picture.)

Now a lot of you might find this to be quite shocking and your first conclusion is to call the picture a fake saying that it is Photoshopped. The fact of the matter is that the picture is 100% REAL.

This is just one of the wonders of creation that believers will find awesome and inspiring. Atheists however will overlook the beauty of this phenomenon and choose rather to explain it away via scientific means even though it only occurs in this one particular place in our entire magnificent world.

Horizontal sedimentation is well known e.g oil not mixing with water or salt water lying below freshwater. However vertical sedimentation is virtually non existent except in the gulf of Alaska where this beautiful phenomenon of nature is set in full display. Of course the oceans eventually mix but at an atomic level and this phenomenon doesn't last forever. However it shows the magnificence and power of an awesome creator who infuses beauty in nature in the strangest of places.

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Family › Re: Common Sexual Problems In Marriage. by 5minsmadness(op): 11:38am On Sep 17, 2015

BuddhaPalm:
Not worky worky...

This can only lead to most boring type of sex: obligation sex.

Desire can never be negotiated.

From experience, very worky worky.

As a married couple, most people still think sex should be spontaneous, unplanned, frivolous. They refuse to take into account the feelings of thier partner or the busy schedule of thier partners or the responsibilites that marriage and raising kids places on married couples. A busy couple wont have time for spontaneous sex, they have to make out time, discuss it and yes negotiate it. Sex is always best spontaneous and when both of you are in the mood but in situations when one partner is slowly getting frustrated it is always better to talk out your problems and give the other partner what they want, even create a time table for sex(YES, it has been done and proven to work) so that both parnters can be mutally satisfied instead of one partner suffering in silence and possible later seeking consolation from an outside party.

Thank you.

Family › Re: Common Sexual Problems In Marriage. by 5minsmadness(op): 11:32am On Sep 17, 2015

soonest:
@ Op. What of in situations where men are having chronic headache and low libido? Don't think it's only men that complain of their wife having chronic headache

Sure there are situations when men complain of chronic headaches to get away from having sex with a woman grin

, But even you have to admit those occassions are very very very very very very, very, very, very, very, rare. We are not looking for gender war here, we are dealing with common problems and we all know the sex headache and reluctance for sex is more common among the female gender due to very many legitimate reasons.
Thank you.

Family › Re: Common Sexual Problems In Marriage. by 5minsmadness(op): 11:29am On Sep 17, 2015

Vikky014:
hmmmmmm. spreads mat

Lights scented candles and turns the lights down low****
Make yourself comfortable.

Family › Re: Common Sexual Problems In Marriage. by 5minsmadness(op): 11:27am On Sep 17, 2015

The Pot Bellied Man

Yes, Yes, we know there are pot-bellied women as well. But women can be easily forgiven since their abdomens are prone to stretching for 9months and carrying something the size of a huge watermelon; that will take its toll on any abdomen. Also women are not usually the ones endowed with "thrusting" ability, men are. And this is where the curse of the pot belly takes effect.

We already discussed how easier it is to climb the mountain if you have a long rope. Doesnt mean if you have a short rope you cant please your wife but it does involve more work. Why add to the stress by putting a boulder in front of your equipment. the obstruction that is the man's pot-belly reduces the effectiveness of the thrust thus making sex cumbersome, boring and downright something to be endured instead of enjoyed. The pot-belly functionally reduces the length of the male member thus making it more difficult to satisfy the woman. Also I know some women are turned on by the site of a pot-bellied man, but I want to believe most of them find a six-packed or at least flat-bellied virile male a more sexually appealing prospect.

Another thing. Having a pot-belly gives oppurtunity for bacteria to multiply in that skin fold beneath the pouch that never sees sunlight. The effect can be a bad and very off-putting smell when exposed which happens a lot during sexual congress. Another no-no in the realm of coitus.

Solution?

Before? Get rid of the excess fat! Regular exercise is good for everybody, pot-bellied or not and especially good for pot-bellied individuals as it not only reduces the fat but improves your cardiac health as well.

Stop the alcohol. Stop it. Just STOP!

Reduce your carbohydrate and fat intakes. i.e Reduce your fufu, akpu, eba, garrium, starch etc etc. An argument is being made for pounded yam but no conclusions have been drawn yet.

Avoid heavy dinners. Try and eat your last meal of the day before 9pm.

Get rid of that extra weight around the waist and see your sex life improve abundantly as a man!

Family › Re: Common Sexual Problems In Marriage. by 5minsmadness(op): 11:17am On Sep 17, 2015

MMotimo:
A potbelly is a major turn off. If I had a pot belly (not normal pregnancy belly) I don't think sexxxx would interest me at all because I find it very unattractive. If my man had a pot belly, same thing. Zero tolerance for potbellies in this household, it would most definitely mess up our sexxxx lives.

Yes, it's work keeping it at bay as you grow harder, reason why you have to employ control, discipline and commitment. Hard to do for sure but not impossible, just takes more work and it won't kill you.

If there's a medical condition causing the pot belly, understandable but most of the time, it's folks getting comfortable with an expanding girth.

P.S. I am a Mom too, I am not 30 and I am not blessed with high metabolism. I still say it is avoidable even as you grow older and after you've had kids

Thanks very much for your contribution and fisrt hand experience. This leads us to our next topic:

Romance › Re: Wow! This Nigerian Couple Broke All Rules In Lagos Beach Wedding (photos) by 5minsmadness: 9:12pm On Sep 16, 2015

[size=18pt]the attendants dont seem very happy...[/size]

Family › Re: Common Sexual Problems In Marriage. by 5minsmadness(op): 11:05am On Sep 16, 2015

Indomie noodles/ one-minute man

This is a very common problem moreso for the average jack on the street. Jack prepares himself all day in anticipation of climbing the mountain. Jack reaches home and madam is actually in one of those rare receptive moods and Jack us feeling lucky. But no sooner has jack began his ascent up the mountain that he comes tumbling down again. The whole exercise doesn't last 1minute.

If madam is the understanding and loving kind she will comfort him, tell him it's no big deal, better luck next time etc. But if madam is the more common quick-witted and quick - mouthed type she goes into a tirade, calling jack "indomie noodles man", "come and go man" quicksilver and many more creative names ALL of which are devastating to the man's ego. In a bid to admonish him she ruins both his and her chances at getting a better sex life after this incident.

Premature expulsion is a very common sexual ailment. Very common in the sense that ALL MEN want to satisfy thier women, even those that visit oloshos. They want to be called studs, sex machines, beasts in bed etc. A man can last up to 10mins in bed with a woman and if the woman isn't satisfied he feels he is a premature expeller.

The official definition for premature expulsion is ejaculation of semen during sexual intercourse before or immediately after penetration. By immediately after we are talking less than one minute (hence one minute man. Indomie noodles is a misnomer as it takes approximately 3mins to cook indomie.) The average length of time before expulsion is 4-8mins but 2 to 3mins is biologically alright as well. Premature eruption has no debilitating after effect on the woman or man except psychologically being sexually unsatisfied.

Solution?

As a woman don't nag your man about it. He honestly feels 100x worse about it than you do and nagging creates a vicious cycle in which the next time he climbs he remembers what you told him the last time and becomes anxious. Anxiety will make him expel quicker than before on even make him not to have an attention at all. For a faithful woman that's pouring more sand in your garri.

Treat it as a non issue. The truth is it happens to All men at least more than once in thier sexual lives. It becomes a problem when it becomes a continuous matter and nagging can do just that. Laugh it off or ignore it all together. Chances are he'll do better next round.

For the man if it has happened once or twice it's not enough to go into panic mode. Things will most probably return to normal.

But what if they don't?

You have to rule out infectious causes. Also rule out diabetes and any STI. If present, treat. If absent then send me a mail. There are many ways of treating premature expulsion that would be too graphic to discourse here. Or stay tuned for a thread in the sexuality section.

(Note that the above post applies also for impotence. )

Christianity Etc › Re: Adeboye Inscribes Redeem Logo On New $65m Private Jet!!! by 5minsmadness: 9:36am On Sep 16, 2015

[size=28pt]LIES[/size]
That is not the logo for RCCG

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Family › Re: 40 Things Husbands Should Stop Doing. by 5minsmadness: 6:04pm On Sep 15, 2015

12. When your wife irritates you, don’t answer right away. Instead count to 10 and remember that she is a gift from God

In other words ignore her even though deep down you feel like

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Family › Re: 40 Things Husbands Should Stop Doing. by 5minsmadness: 5:59pm On Sep 15, 2015

4. Stop working so much. Find a healthy balance between work and family. Your wife would rather have you than a big house, nice car, etc .

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Family › Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by 5minsmadness: 5:45pm On Sep 15, 2015

babythug:
3. The s.ex doesn't have to be immediately you both get into the room. Give her an hour or more to sleep, then you can warm your way in... you can also try early hours of the morning. She may be better rested and more receptive.

4. Buy her nice gifts to show how valuable she is to you. Doesnt have to be expensive. Even recharge card will do

Chai. Men have suffered-ed.

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Family › Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by 5minsmadness: 5:38pm On Sep 15, 2015

Adrielbradshaw:
Lemme add a tin 2 d@, Most men rush der women 4 sex, it shldnt b d@ way. play wit her, gist , joke... probably d lady always gets tired of doin it, mayb its hw d man penetrates her, n goes bout d process, am talkin 4rm experience. He shld always reassure her d@ he loves her n also get her gifts, it makes her feel special. Dnt make d sex look lyk hardwork, 1nce its lyk d@, she wld loose interest.

Hmmm. Finally a woman's perspective. Very interesting.

So u want us to still be giving u gifts? The wedding ceremony never do you? undecided

And what's with the perpetual reassurance? Na wa oooooooo

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Family › Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by 5minsmadness: 5:32pm On Sep 15, 2015

So, what else is new?

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Family › Re: Are You The Forgiving Type Or Do You Hold Grudges For A While? by 5minsmadness: 4:51pm On Sep 13, 2015

Mindfulness:
So your telling the person "straight up" is your coping mechanism when people wrong and hurt you.
Could it be then that the people who hold grudges, hold them because they are for some reason bottling up their feelings of hurt instead of communicating them effectively?

This is very true.
It's possible that people who hold grudges are far more sensitive than those who don't. They feel the person that hurt them ought to know better. Funny enough such people can also be very kind. It is in others taking advantage of thier kindness that they feel really hurt.

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Family › Re: Are You The Forgiving Type Or Do You Hold Grudges For A While? by 5minsmadness: 4:46pm On Sep 13, 2015

Mindfulness:
Does it not affect you to bear a grudge? I mean, at the end of the day, it is YOUR anger, it is inside of you.
If the person apologizes, are you able to forgive?

Apologising is like a trigger action. As soon as the person does so I forgive immediately and forget completely.

Yes it hurts to hold a grudge. It's not healthy. It's something I'm working on as a matter of fact.

Family › Re: Are You The Forgiving Type Or Do You Hold Grudges For A While? by 5minsmadness: 4:22pm On Sep 13, 2015

I hold grudges. Usually if someone does me bad and doesn't apologize I hold the grudge for as long as possible. By holding a grudge I mean I ignore the person completely. No calls no text. If the person approaches me I interact minimally. I don't go all out to exact revenge. I just wipe the person from my existence.

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Family › Re: Common Sexual Problems In Marriage. by 5minsmadness(op): 3:29pm On Sep 13, 2015

more updates to come up soon.

Family › Re: Common Sexual Problems In Marriage. by 5minsmadness(op): 3:27pm On Sep 13, 2015*

First encounter: earthworm or python!
Ok so you insisted on not having sexual relations with your man until the night of the wedding. Chances are, mama has told you many a thing about the weapon that hangs between a man's legs. you have been a very good religious girl so much so that you even decided to forfiet 10marks in biology class rather than draw the male member.

So the night has finally come and you are remembering all of mAma's words. Your heart skips a beat as your man swaggers into the room, a wide grin on his face and a knowing look in his eyes. He unleashes fury...

And you cant see his penis.

Wait, there it is, hiding somwhere between his thighs like a shy earthworm. its not at all the huge tuber of yam that you expected and your heart skips another beat, this time in apprehension. What have you gotten yourself into? Is this the cross you are meant to carry all your life? will he satisfy you like the men your girlfriends in hostel gisted about when you pretended you were sleeping and not secretly listening in on their conversation?

Does size matter?

Well it depends. Matter in what actually? If it is for the sake of procreation, NO, size doesnt matter, what matters is sperm count. Your man could have the obologo of a horse and still be unable to impregnate you. Another man who uses a kia picanto will impregnate all the women in his neighborhood. So in this instance size doest matter.

What about sexual satisfaction?

Well in this case size does matter but that matter can be easily changed. for a man with an elephant penis all he has to do is fill his woman and she can gain satisfaction from the act. A man with a smaller penis however has to have more skill. And by smaller penis we mean miniscule, like 1 inch. Those of you now measuring your dicks should note that once its past 4inches you are good to go , ignore the 12inches you read about everyday in the romance section, if those boys were made to swear at amadioha's shrine 90% of them would run mad. As long as your dick is more than 4inches you are definitely going to hit her center of gravity and thats all you need to make your woman happy. We shall talk more on the center of gravity later.

iStatistcs have shown that men with smaller joysticks make better and more skilled lovers. the explanation is simple, they do thier best to want to please thier ladies as against those men who are so wrapped up in thier yam tubers that they cant think of any other person apart from themselves.

So madam, give the earthworm a chance. If it grows more than 4inches, chances are you'll be smiling like a cheshire cat at the end of the wedding nite.

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Family › Re: Common Sexual Problems In Marriage. by 5minsmadness(op): 3:07pm On Sep 13, 2015

First Year: The disappearing act!
Congratulations, you just got married! but now suddenly your wife is cold! This is a woman that used to be a sexual prowler in bed, a hungry vixen, ready to accept any style you introduce. Suddenly on the wedding night she starts by telling you the wedding was very stressful and you both have the years ahead of you, why not sleep this night.

This night you have been dreaming of for a very long time? This night that you wanted to mark your first legitimate sex with your wife? She's tired huh

Does she think you didnt go through stress too? What rubbish! Your mind swirls in the first of many sexual frustrations to come.

But its your first night and you want to show you are a good husband so you smie and say no problem you can just cuddle. Tommorow you'll show her what you are made of.

But that is the beginning of sexual lack in the marriage. She might oblige you the next day but from then on its one complaint or the other. The woman you married 40% for her sexuality has suddenly turned to a perpetually tired sack of potatoes.

What happened?

Well, lets face it, when a woman is being courted she puts on her best appearance. Tis the advertising stage wether they want to admit it or not. Immediately the wedding is over they let out a huge emotional sigh of relief and forget about pleasing you being thier top priority. They want to rest. Those who genuinely like sex of course will not exhibit this behaviour but those who are conservative will, and if you are not careful as a man the first year of marriage is where the missionary position will be firmly established for ever and ever.

What to do?

Talk to her. Relate how you feel about her actions. Most men in trying to be gentlemen to these women keep quiet and the woman feels no biggie has been commited and they cant believe it years later when the man tells them it was that first insignifiacnt year that turned things for him. They feel it is insignificant because you made them think so. From the get go let her know sex is very important to you, that you would like to continue with the same appetite as before . Even if she cant match your speed this discussion will let her know the weight of her decsions when she denys you sex the next time.

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Family › Common Sexual Problems In Marriage. by 5minsmadness(op): 1:13pm On Sep 13, 2015

This is a mature thread pls. Immature people should keep out. Also no Vulgar language will be condoned here.

No doubt we have heard so much about sexual incompatibility in marriage, unfaithfulness, distrust, etc etc lambasting the marriage institution. Inasmuch as we condemn these practices, we have to admit that they arise from somewhere. A problem just doesn't spontaneously appear, something must have triggered it off.

One of the most Common problems among couples is sexual dissatisfaction. In this thread we are going to be discussing some of the more prevalent sexual problems like premature ejaculation, the wife's chronic headaches, potbelly and its effect in sex just to name a few. Stay tuned.

Family › Re: Marriage Vacancy by 5minsmadness: 12:41pm On Sep 13, 2015

kahara:
I certainly like the issues you raised here. These are not issues to be discussed here. Besides, your sex is not known and i cant discuss with you like that.

Ah sir, these are small issues o. This is just a preamble to know whether I qualify for the position or whether I shouldn't bother applying. Inasmuch as you are seeking quality I am seeking quality as well. If you can answer at least some of the questions it would be very helpful.

Thanks sir.

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Family › Re: I Am New At Nairaland Forum!!! by 5minsmadness: 12:13pm On Sep 13, 2015

zeeshan50:
just want to have fun and good time with good people at nairaland !!!

And u came to family section.
Good luck.
You are going to need it.

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Family › Re: Marriage Vacancy by 5minsmadness: 12:03pm On Sep 13, 2015

Op would u consider an urhobo woman?

Also what are your views in helping the wife in the home and in use of finances, also your views on her visiting home at least twice a year.

How many times a week do you drink?

Do you smoke?

Do you have any prior health issues?

What is your genotype?

Would also like to know how soon you intend children to come into the picture and how many of the little buggers you intend on having.

Thank you in anticipation of a favourable reply.

Family › Re: Can This Happen In Our Country Nigeria Mother And Son (PHOTO) by 5minsmadness: 12:00am On Sep 11, 2015

hahn:
Wow!

Na them start am sha

Do you have a link to the video?

Think this is it.
http://m.liveleak.com/view?i=060_1371075821

Nairaland General › Re: Checkout This Ananconda Like Snake Killed Today (photos) by 5minsmadness: 10:59pm On Sep 10, 2015

[size=28pt]and nobody has realised yet that all the snakes being killed are of the python species and that there is a python epidemic going on in Nigeria right now.[/size]

In sane climates authorities would have looked into this to see if there is a sort of migration going on and why the migration is taking place. But no, not in this society where everyone is looking for thier daily bread and simply struggling to survive.

Family › Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by 5minsmadness: 5:41pm On Sep 10, 2015

Sigh.

Family › Re: Can This Happen In Our Country Nigeria Mother And Son (PHOTO) by 5minsmadness: 5:31pm On Sep 10, 2015

hahn:
They have advanced from such practices but there was once a time when they were worse though.

Hmmm not really o.
There was a recent video I watched of a rapist that was lynched, tied to a tree and set on fire. For America o.

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