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angelchinny:
Okay will do jst dat. What if I fake calls and make him jealous as well cos I told him recently dat my 1st love re-sufaced n he is realy hrtbroken dat am already married cos he came bk 4 us to rekindle our love. He got realy mad n couldn't sleep dat night

HungerBAD:
Funny man.

There is a reason God created women to be women, you as a man cannot machine your way into feeling the pains of child birth.

Just like a woman cannot machine her way, into getting the discomfort in between the legs of a man in the morning.

Men should stick to manly things.

TV01:
For a long time now – certainly as far back as I can remember – men have been increasingly socialised to make pleasing women a driving achievement..

It’s quite obvious if one cares to look, not even too deeply sef. Most especially in the music and the movies. I’ll give a few examples below, but think about it. Magazines, TV, it’s everywhere.

Everything from Percy Sledge’ song “when a man loves a woman”, to the film “Pretty Woman”, indoctrinating men to make securing the love of women paramount – and even women of dubious nature – is relentlessly sold.

In male/female interaction – most especially of the romantic kind – it is women that can lose themselves in the love of a man, not vice-versa. A man has to see beyond his feelings for a woman – and more importantly her emotions and desires – remain focused and act strategically without being unduly influenced by either.

Failure to do so can have dire consequences. Ironically enough, a woman who feels you are subject to her whims will invariably lose respect for you and/or leave you, or cheat on you.

You job as a man is to present as one, enunciate clearly and even be somewhat chauvinist in your manhood. Revel in it, be proud of it and don’t let it be unduly compromised or coloured by any female influence. Proper manhood comes unwrapped and un-whipped.

One of the things that will engender trust, security and submissiveness in your woman is the fact that she knows you are clear-headed and focused, not subject to her whims or even your own impulses.

That you love, hour and cherish her is fine, just as long as she knows that you will not on account of that be weak, compromise or undermine your own integrity.

As a husband, don’t focus on pleasing your wife, focus on being a good husband. I say “nyet” to the saying “Happy wife, happy home”. “It’s commanding husband, strong family”.

I never ever think of pleasing my wife as the key – or even paramount – to running a successful home. I do all the things demanded of a man and husband, and she is happy or not, as the case may be.

If she feels some things need changing, or could be improved or done differently or has an idea, fine, we are always talking. I may even agree. However, her being happy is not the primary driver or of utmost importance.



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netotse:
@kimoni, bodashee, 5minsmadness et al
the reply left me blank, it was an ad hominem pure and simple, all the dude was doing was showing that he has good command of the english language, he didn't make any points or pass any worthwhile message across.

If his goal was to touch something in Fayose then he missed the goalpost by a mile. For people like that(people with tunnel vision), insults don't work. It's either you defeat him with logic or you ignore him.

The Ekiti governor is a relic of the old order; he represents the old Nigeria of waste, of hollow ritual of noise and nuisance. Fayose is a man suffering from political depression in the aftermath of the defeat of his patriarch Goodluck Jonathan. He is a hallucinating man of the ancient, yet to come to terms with the realities of a new dawn and new Nigeria...

GHoJes:
Did you notice the fullstop thingy, the tone in the history with this moniker. I think she put up how best with this one like the first time she introduced bimbotosi.. But its ok if you see otherwise.

cococandy:
Ok. Fair enough.
How about if you're positive she's cheating on him. Not speculations as to who that might be.
Say you saw them in a very comprising situation.
Would you still mind your business?

Chidoks:
See me see trouble o.
I have these two secondary school mates; one is still single( let's call her Miss B) and the other is married( call her Mrs C)
We three live in the same town though Mrs C moved in like a year ago with her family.we make out to see ourslves.just yesterday evening Miss B called that she saw Mrs C's husband with a babe at a joint
" so ?" i replied
" he's cheating on her"
" how do you know, it could be a business meeting or something.the lady may even be a relative" i almost snapped, i hadn't served dinner.
"babes i know what i'm saying .this isn't the first time,i once saw them coming out of XYZ guest house and...
" hey hold on a second" i cut her short " how did you see them, have you been keeping tabs on another wonan's husband"
" see" her tone had changed." don't you understand, she thinks he's innocent meanwhile.."
" babes abeg abeg count me out .you didn't mention it,i didn't hear infact you didn't..." Na so the babe cut me short o and started vibrating. she said i wasn't a good friend otherwise i would have supported her in her quest of telling Mrs C.i dropped the line and after my night chores i sent an sms advicing her to drop it since it wasn't her home.her reply was worse than her outburst but could i be wrong.is it right to tell a person that their partners are unfaithful.

Chidoks:
Maybe i was wrong in cutting her short but i'm uncomfortable discussing others and she knows it. plus i was trying to fix dinner after a very busy day
maybe i should call my mum and ask her but this thing heavy for mouth abeg

hahn:
The same amount you were paid to read it

hahn:
@bolded,

Summarize for us then. In four lines please

kramfonos:
The Men's Lounge in the Family Section? There's nothing much to miss there. The men there are sexist and there are always back-and-forths with 'intruding' women who double as feminists. Next they discuss football, politics and reoccuring issues from Family Section threads.

The hate there is REAL, trust me. It's one of the reasons I am not regular there.

AfricanApple:
lmagine you are the only child of your parent, your father died while you were young. Now you got married and knowing that your mum has nobody to take care of her, you brought her in, after some months, you realized your mum is pregnant for your husband, you took her to the hospital to abort the child, the doctor says if the abortion is done she would die.

if you were in this shoe what will you do knowing if that child lives, he/she will continue to remind you of the pain you went through at this point in time.
your opinion is highly needed

Kimoni:


I just had this feeling I don't hear half of it and nobody would tell, [size=18pt] I had to install a CCTV in the house[/size] so I can see every damn thing that goes on in the house. And the app is right there on my phone so I get to see it all from anywhere on this planet

It's just that I rarely have the chance to playback everything I miss Of course, my husband thinks I am paranoid but I remind him of my 9 month journey

ayogun22:
No real undisputed proof but i have a number of circumstancial evidence.

She made friends with a ceritifed runs girl during nysc, she clubs (drinks n smokes), she once told me she could me a side chick (yes and i still continued liking her na real mumu button or because she neva open leg), i once told her a friend of mine got divorced cos she cheated on her husband and she replied by saying that is not enough reason. I could tell from her explanation that she was getting scared cos i told her i will never take that. She is bleaching and the way she went to church with her side boobs showing once (she came to see me after). All this just drew my suspicion. Add that to the fact that she was stringing me along - the good guy she wont let smash who spends on her regardless. Am i wrong to jump into conclusion?

ayogun22:
The whole point of this text is for me to let her know how i feel. i.e. cheapstake gold digger, runs girl e.tc. that it is her loss cos i gave her an opportunity whe she blew. I wanna cut her out completely buy because say i never even shag am he dey pain me die

realdee44:
I just got to find out that there is also an uncommon genotype known as AC outside AA, AS & SS. Pls can someone tell us about this AC, can AC marry AS or SS or AA.

freecocoa:
See your life, of what use is that?

Shey you can't condemn what this wicked man is doing abi?

Durinsday:
People missed asking Ted how a double-visioned, slow-moving, led-by-the-hand giant came to represent a tribe of warriors with their kingdom and lives at stake! How did that slowpoke Goliath even make it through war school and actual wars, to represent philistine? Nice try Ted. David may have been a great slinger and that showed that God uses the seemingly small to baffle the profound. God's hand is there

"All David has is this sling," because that's the first mistake that we make. In ancient warfare, there are three kinds of warriors. There's cavalry, men on horseback and with chariots. There's heavy infantry, which are foot soldiers, armed foot soldiers with swords and shields and some kind of armor. And there's artillery, and artillery are archers, but, more importantly, slingers.

So what's Goliath? He's heavy infantry, and his expectation when he challenges the Israelites to a duel is that he's going to be fighting another heavy infantryman. When he says, "Come to me that I might feed your flesh to the birds of the heavens and the beasts of the field," the key phrase is "Come to me." Come up to me because we're going to fight, hand to hand, like this. Saul has the same expectation. David says, "I want to fight Goliath," and Saul tries to give him his armor, because Saul is thinking, "Oh, when you say 'fight Goliath,' you mean 'fight him in hand-to-hand combat,' infantry on infantry

There's a second piece of this that's important. It's not just that we misunderstand David and his choice of weaponry. It's also that we profoundly misunderstand Goliath. Goliath is not what he seems to be. There's all kinds of hints of this in the Biblical text, things that are in retrospect quite puzzling and don't square with his image as this mighty warrior. So to begin with, the Bible says that Goliath is led onto the valley floor by an attendant. Now that is weird, right? Here is this mighty warrior challenging the Israelites to one-on-one combat. Why is he being led by the hand by some young boy, presumably, to the point of combat? Secondly, the Bible story makes special note of how slowly Goliath moves, another odd thing to say when you're describing the mightiest warrior known to man at that point. And then there's this whole weird thing about how long it takes Goliath to react to the sight of David. So David's coming down the mountain, and he's clearly not preparing for hand-to-hand combat. There is nothing about him that says, "I am about to fight you like this." He's not even carrying a sword. Why does Goliath not react to that? It's as if he's oblivious to what's going on that day. And then there's that strange comment he makes to David: "Am I a dog that you should come to me with sticks?" Sticks? David only has one stick.

Icecomrade:
[b]I have never visited a Spa and Massage Parlour my life. What's the difference between professional massage and what anyone can get at home. How does it benefit ones health. 

 I have never shown any interest in what transpired there until one of my friend started his convincing sermons after I told him of Body aches.  ‎He couldn't stop talking about how it will benefit my health. 

Today, I decided to visit a Massage ‎Palour in Maitama he reffered me to. The place looked cool, with lots of cute guys and ladies serving as Moussetour. 

After registration and payment, I had the choice to choose between a guy and a lady. I can't stand a guy touching me, so I opted for a lady.  She acted professionally which put me in a comfort zone.

During my session, I embarrassingly ‎got a hard on, as her fingers caressed my back while I laid face down. [size=20pt]When it was time  for me to face up, I couldn't. I simply told her "Am okay, I don't want to proceed any further" She thanked me and walked out.[/size]
[size=5pt]I still have more 3weeks s‎ession. I still can't get my head around what happened today.

Is it right for a married man to visit spa and massage parlour?

Does it truely have any benefit to our health?

Is it abnormal for a man to get hard on during a massage session?

How does women feel about there husbans visiting massage parlours?

Let's have reasonable feedback from those who attend massage session. 
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