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missimelda01:
Yea, but what if I'm no longer attracted to him?

This isn't a critarium miss.

Is he well to do?

Will he be able to guarantee a secure and better life for me and my children?

Is he mentally balanced?

How logical is he?

Those and more are the criteria NOT attraction. Attraction should be a bonus or something you give up on if your looking for a long term partner.

missimelda01:
I guess I got tired of the relationship and then the long distance thingy, he was a good guy who truly loved me... He still feels we're soulmates, I really don't know what the future holds for us.

if he is a good guy who communicates and spoil you with attention, keep him.

missimelda01:
Dude you're mean

it isnt my fault, I instantly get "emotional unavailable" to any girl I perceive not intelligent even if she has it all.

As an Atheist, my standard is just too high - I know - i will lower my standards in due time but but for now, I love the trill. I have turned down 4 women so far this year alone.

Early this year, I met Sandra (Fictitious name) on IG , we flowed well, went on a date and every thing seems great - she's so beautiful with curves, big boo bs, curvy big butt just like I love them, well read and adventurous.

She respects me being Atheist even though she's hardcore MFM member- she works and earns, she's quite a fashionista.

On the third day after our date and beginning of a new relationship - I had to call her up to break up because she was a high maintenance chick, insecure and isn't as intelligent to satisfactory personally.

She asked me - "A305, Did I ask you for any money yet for you to say am a high maintenance chick?"

I replied - "Nope! But it will happen in the future"

Her - "So you mean I will make you broke?"

Me - "I don't even have money to start with and not ready for a relationship now" and hung up.

Babe be posting break up lines on WhatsApp status like .....All I want is you but you causing me chestache.

Ayotemide:
Silence can have the same damning effects as misplaced words.

That is why it is called FIDGETTING - To correct the misplaced words if need be in the future.

Ayotemide:
Pretty Cruel and largely immature. Would you smile at being ghosted?

I will take it with fate and move on.

When you get ghosted - There is every possibility of rekindle/amend in the future (to be together again) but when you let out those hurtful words out early indicating you breaking up then any chance of amend in the future would be nearly impossible; it would be seeming as though you taking back your word(s) which is quite hard thing to do.

So why not ghost and leave the door of possible reunion open in the future?

Human processes all information said to them but can't process silence hence keeps fidgeting till you make your intention known - And all am saying is do not hurt that "fidgetting process" with break up lines.

The best way to break up in this day and time is ghosting.

Block them on every social media platform and delete their contact. No reply, Go incognito - they will get the message.

As a Chelsea fan, Permit me to say; we weren't ready for Bayern, we were saving our players and strength for premier league. We winning the league - No jokes.

DennisEche:
Just those in satellite town, fsars in state capital still remains, SARS is a necessary evil that's why can't just scrap them.

Nope, it means, No more annexes but orders of operation will be directed from IGP's office.

Abeg I no too hear English, watin be satellite office?

okorotalkative:
Hi guys, i have a corolla that i bought around June last yr. E never reach September naso i start to dey hear one sound like say metal dey vibrate under the car.

I carry am go give on yeye panel, he said na the resonator damage and na him dey make that sound. He got another resonator pipe and weld it in. Unfortunately the sound no stop. So I took the car to ladipo and they detected the sound was coming from the first port that house the catalytic converter. I'll attach pics!

The ladipo welder say he can replace the converter with tokunbo and that will cost 35k. As money no too dey i opted for a cheaper alternative, he sha manage put something like white block and net inside the port and covered it back. Ever since then the corolla dey chop fuel die.

Now i wan make una advise me, what to do? I'm ready to replace the exhuast completely if possible and not too expensive. Cos if corolla don dey chop fuel na gbese.

I did scan last week and the scan result was saying something about the catalytic converter.

2007 corolla.

First off, You need to realize Catalytic converter don't just die out like that.

Cat hates it when your engine runs poorly (Excessive oil consuption or car running too rich or lean) Those can damage your catalytic converter quickly.

You shouldn't have allowed that welder tampered with your cat since you weren't having money for replacement, The construction he made is actually blocking/clogging your exhaust from breathing effectively hence the reason for your bad gas mileage.

Go scan your car and see if you would get codes relating to defective Oxygen sensors for either or both bank 1 and 2, if you don't, then replace catalytic converter or the complete exhaust system.

This man is a really smart man, So businessly brilliant and financially intelligent. Always on the paper chase.

I would soon patronize you bro.

Rozaytee:
lol...sent a mail

Just replied you miss.

Prepare her mind by discussing funny sex jokes (chat or on call) with her, Get here hooked by triggering and invoking her sexual memories, then, turn those memories to a fantasy of what she wish to be done and how she might likely get it done to her.

Ask of her her kink and secret fetish. If she tells you and flows with you. Then, In subsequent chat or call, Tell her what you would love to do to her (her fetish and kink.)

You subconsciouly using her own desire and fantasies as bait. Then Ask her for a visit. If she agrees. You have played your card well pass stage 1.

When she visits and you meet and exceed her needs/expectations. Congratulations - you just got yourself a sexual partner as she would always come back and sometimes be the one to ask if you around so she can come get a dose of her medicine.

PS: This technique don't work for all girls, Some girls are smarter, some are just being difficult while some could be shy, however, they would chat/talk dirty but will never agree to come to your house. These set girls, you reel them in with love. Just fake the real love for one month then gaslight them, threaten them with break up, they would be at your door step.

Rozaytee:
deep...God will see women in nigeria tru

who this gorgeous lady here ;100% intelligence black child.

Quite a bummer I still can't figure out a way to do a DM here on Nairaland, I sure would love to hold a conversation with you so I see how deep you are. (wongrass99@gmail.com), Please use the email so you don't get to expose your phone number to the world or you might as well leave me your email so I don't expose my phone number to the world.

The fact of the matter is women has no choice/free will.

Women end up marrying who is ready for marriage NOT who they love but men marry who they love. This is why lots of married women still cheat on who they marry with who they truly love.

My point is no woman has that freedom of choice to reject more than 2 men due to age factor; what if it is finally a douchebag who is willing to settle with them after they 29 into their 30s, will she reject?

So it's safe to say women reject men because they not ready for marriage yet.

XhosaNostra:
Not every man is a right fit. Some of us are very picky. Personally, I take time to warm up to new people or to decide whether I like someone romantically or not, so if someone comes on too strong from the very beginning, that may scare me off. Thus, turning them down. Slow & steady usually wins the race for me because I'm a thinker. I rationalize everything, include my feelings. Usually I have to "think" myself into liking someone, which doesn't happen overnight. In summary, being too much, too early will lead to a rejection.

You the female version of me.

Have come to a point after making findings and realize analytical thinking, hormones and orgasm will always be a determining factor for finding a worthy partner NOT the glamour and superficial standards people seek when wanting to be hooked and them end up breaking up again.

Idi Amin name is missing. Dude ought to be number 1.

Dude, Here is why I don't want to be in your shoes even though I might likely be able.

In one word - STOICISM

Aside Stoicism, Variety is the spice that brings fun to life. Staying home all day everyday would eventually get you depressed and detarched.

Get a side hustle that would enable you go out like say once or twice a week. Get someone to manage it as you should also see it as your relaxation spot to meet people.

Dating women older than him isn't the issue. First of all, we need to commend him for his emotional intelligence for NOT lowering his self esteem to make the relationship work and able to make the decision to tell her off if she thinks of coming back.

He could bare his friend being decieitful but shouldn't stand his girlfriend being disloyal regardless of age difference.

Vyolet:
They were married for 39years? Sad it turned out this way after such a long time.
I can take either excuses such as abuse and disrespect but sex wouldn't be a reason for him to divorce her at their advance age when he can get it outside and everyone remains happy.

and when he gets it outside, that would be another reason for divorce, So the man made the right choice by asking for divorce so she wouldn't have no legal right to his properties after his demise.

Smart man i must say.

They should bring him out and resusitate him ooooo. We are all in this suffering together - He cannot just go like that.

Enemyofdarkness:
I opened a mini shop lately and I employed one fine girl there as a sales girl. Based on my observation, she has every quality a girl should have.

And most importantly, she took my business as hers, running around, doing all sort things. Everytime I visit that shop and its surroundings, I always met it tidied up.

Yesterday I overheard her asking my friend if I have a girlfriend but my friend said no.

My issue is, if I should date her, won't she start disrespecting me and acting shenanigan?

Just keep taking care of her and show care to her just the way she cares for your business. Do not make your intent known.

purples25:
Why are you making women look so wicked again? So you guys don't do all these? And so if a lady has had sex before, she doesn't deserve to settle down. The person that settles with her is a fool. Then men can fvck all they want and marry good women right? His Dyck is not a used product but her pussy is? What's wrong with your sense of judgment sef? If we pick all of you now to see who is virtuous amongst you, no man doing all this shiii will pass the test. Abeg behave jare.

The tragedy here is that you think you are better but you are not, not by a far shot. Only that society decieves you.

I honestly don't have no intention to counter your opinion on this issue, it just happens that I just have to quote you for no reason than to ask -- oh! You a writer too?

The camera you used in taking that photo on your page did a good job gracing your face.

About time I toss my phone on my bed, promise me, you NEVER letting no apha male toss you the same way ever again.

victorian:
Bros! With what uv said that u are playing with your boss mind.

Mehn that's like adding fuel to a burning fire already.

If I were the boss, u are fired! I hate mind games.

It's better for him to be quiet and don't say anything anymore at this level and pray for God to touch her heart not to get more pissed.


Very annoying tactics.

You seem not to understand Vic.

He isn't necessarily playing with his bosses mind. He is also cover up his track if ever back fires.

The human mind is never neutral. It wells ups with leads and pattern before you make your decision as human. For example; Nobody ever wakes up to fall out of love with their partner, their partner must have been doing wrong for the other person to be having another notion about them.

Now how does this concern the op?

His boss has been friendly enough to often chit chat with him hence, the reason for the intent to push forward ask his boss out. (There is a pattern here already which is the short chit chat and friendly talk with his boss.)

Now, if he is gonna pull this off (shooting his shot) he should just build on that pattern which he already has with his boss. Send the val message and then get funny about it with a funny message afterwards. It's now left for his boss brain to filter the message to reply to the one which she feels she wants -- Is it the val(relationship) or funny message indicating let's just keep it at that chit chat level.

iphi:
the thing is I have already sent the message, she has not read it oooo... My mind is doing me gbim! gbim!! gbim!!!

Don't be scared son!

Back up that initial message with any funny relationship short story you can find on google so if she get pissed, you would tell her you just joking and that she shouldn't mind you hence, the reason for the funny story after the message.

You actually playing her mind in two ways Which ever way it bounces back wouldn't hurt.

JasonScoolari:
Well, what I noticed about her is that she's always happy when I am around herand she doesn't mind what other people think or say when she cracks some naughty jokes with me.... Sometimes, I feel uncomfortable and most times she feel relaxed sharing some personal stuff with me.

I remember settling some issues she had with her boyfriend last year and advise her to get naughty with him, but instead, she got all naughty with me indirectly...

This same lady gift me a phone as a birthday present and have been so helpful when I was broke... She's two years older but she sees me as her senior.

Dude, If you ready for a relationship. Give it a shot with her but otherwise, let her be -- You can never date her and break up with her unless of course you ready to lose your job.

No games around her, Either you will be commited with her or you back to the drawing board preparing your CV after breaking up with her. But think of the reply you will give when you are asked "why did you leave your previous job?"

I dated and broke up with my boss lol.

iphi:
My boss posted on her WhatsApp story "Who will be my Val" and other series of messages concerning taking her out for Val.

I'm older than her and she respects me, deep down I really like her, I don't know if I should ask her playfully, we chat a lot. I tease her a little bit when she posts a picture that is not fine and we laugh over it.

I want to tell her if she is unsuccessful in her search for a date I can be her back up plan. I don't know if it's a good idea to tell her that. I need honest and matured opinions please.

Just do it buddy.

Here is the thing. You would have prep her mind up for it if had been subtly flirting with her before now but it isn't too late.

Bring her surprise gift(Flower, card and chocolate) to start with (Don't bring it yourself, get a dispatch rider to bring it to her at her home) then ask her to be your val before night fall tomorrow or take her out for dinner on Saturday.

Keep in mind; For every shot NOT taken is a wasted chance of the possibility of something great in existence.

victoryBoss:
Good morning house,

Please I need your help and guidance. I live abroad and thinking of a side hustle in Nigeria. Is uber business still lucrative? Is there a way I can get into the business without having any communication with the driver? In general, how is this business please.

You can only try it out for passive income if ONLY; you are around to manage it yourself.

Trust me, it's even difficult for people down here who manage their car(s) themselves to breakeven not to mention you trying your hands on it with no experience when you not Dru23.

Conclusion; If you not Dru23, Do not entrust your car to anyone to manage for you. Not even your brother. It never end good.

ascendo:
2003 Honda Accord of 159k mileage? You can use normal 20W50 for it but drain between 3000 and 4000kms

This is wrong!

Regardless of the mileage put on op's engine, it is still good to go using synthetic (provided the engine hasn't been previously abused with 20W50 oil weight) The 5w(20)(30) flows better as well as getting good gas mileage. In the long run protecting your engine. You would only need to worry about only changing valve cover gasket maybe once every year.

Op, please disregard the opinion of this guy and yes! -- 5W30 can still serve the same purpose as 5w20. Ensure you get good full synthetic oil even if you can't afford mobile 1.

This is my engine after 190k Miles on the Odometer.

Na the two I do oooo

Op you should have specificed what kind of insurance policy people should get to enable them get these benefits you listed.

It's the Comprehensive policy.

I have both and currently in the process of getting a claim at present.