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Rejection is a painful confidence deflating experience. No one who encounters rejection ever comes out smiling, wishing it could happen again. Truth is we are deeply pained when we are rejected not necessarily because we didn’t have our way but rather because it implies we were not good enough for that someone or something we wanted badly.

It can be a strong de-motivator even leading to loss of self confidence. Rejection however, is only painful to those who choose to let it become a bigger obstacle than it needs to be. Many very successful and happy people have overcome rejection to become better than they were before. In reality rejection is only an experience and an opportunity to become better.

Here are a few tips to help out in handling rejection;

Take stock of the situation

When you’re rejected, first relax and reflect on what just happened. Why were you rejected? Asking this question could offer you insights into what really happened. Perhaps that lady or gentleman you asked out isn’t prepared for a relationship or doesn’t feel attracted to you romantically, their decision to say no to you does not mean the world is coming to an end. It only means that when the universe closes one door another more more suitable door will be opened for you in the right place and time in your life. Rejection does not mean you are not good enough. It only means that this person or thing that gave you a negative is not right for you.

Drop the ill feelings

Don’t get angry or feel sorry for yourself – sure this isn’t easy but it is very necessary. Feeling sorry for yourself or getting angry with the object or source of rejection is a complete waste of your time and will only hurt you eventually. While the person who rejected you has moved on and isn’t aware of your ill feelings, you’re busy getting your blood pressure up ultimately making your pain even greater. Do things that make you happy and try to let go of your rejection experience.

Learn your lesson

Once you’re done with the ill feelings, it’s now time to learn your lesson. If the reason you were rejected is due to your own fault, take heart and remember to err is human. What did you fail to do or actually did that messed things up for you? Once you know the reason you may have contributed to this rejection, it is now your job to make sure you don’t repeat the same mistake again.

Move on

The good news about being rejected is that you might actually find something or someone far better than what you thought you lost. Think of the happily married husband whose first love left him or turned him down and is so happy to have found someone he cherishes so much. He’ll always inwardly thank his ex for rejecting him. Likewise many successful entrepreneurs who were turned down or failed to secure lucrative jobs have gone on to become very successful individuals. We have to admit to ourselves that there's a certain motivating magic in rejection. Be inspired and take advantage of it!

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